Locked since 08/30/15. Released 5-6 times for no more then 10 minutes each time. Allowed orgasm 3 times. Twice with penetrative intercourse, once by forced masturbation. The other 2-3 times were penetrative intercourse with no orgasm allowed. Intergrated locking system with no access to keys. I don’t even know where she keeps them. Hygiene is not an issue. Open cage design allows for easy shower cleaning daily.

I’m locked and haven’t had a release for 5 weeks. My Mistress says she’s wants me to go at least 6 months for my next O of any kind, ruined or full. I’m let out maybe once a week for shaving and a good cleaning.

I could write a long story about this one as I can’t find my old blog post about it but I’ll just summarise it as I’m a bit busy at the moment and just taking a break from something.

I was chaste for eight months before our wedding, wore it on the day under my suit and wasn’t unlocked until we got to our hotel on honeymoon.

My wife hadn’t done anything with me for several months, no teasing beforehand, of any kind. when we got to the hotel she ran a bubble bath and got in, I was instructed to put in a butt plug, which I did, then bring the nipple clamps and cuffs into the bathroom. she cuffed my hands behind my back then put the nipple clamps on me.

i had to kneel on the bathroom floor for two hours while she bathed. I got to lick her ass and pussy for a while when she stood up to shower off but she didn’t cum then.

when she got out of the bathroom, she lay on the bed, undid the cuffs and the nipple clamps but left the butt plug in. I was allowed to fuck her. If you can call it that. I was sensitive anyway from having been in the cage about a fortnight without being left out to wash or anything and I was now ridiculously horny from previously mentioned. I don’t think I managed even three full (shallow) pumps before I blew my load. I got to lick up my mess and finish her off with my tongue. Told I was a disappointment. didn’t get to fuck her again. anyway, some stuff happened at the hotel that ended up making us leave the next evening, early, when we got home I was told to put the cage back on, I did. In the three and a bit years we’ve been married we’ve had sex less than half a dozen times since, only one of them was a decent fuck.

8. No, we’d discussed normally having 1 or 2 months locked and then a release for health reasons of just enough time to cum and lock back up, but MDsh decided it wasn’t necessary.
9. It’s permanent, but I’ve been having issues with sore spots. When I’m fully healed and able to keep it on, it won’t come off except for my 2 final cums.
10. No, I love the feel of my cage, but pain has forced me out a few times.
11. Pain from sores is very difficult, otherwise, I want it on.
12. I love the feel of the cage on the tiny dick. It’s like having an extremely mild form of sex all the time, so I’m always aware of my keyholder.

Did you know you were going into that long a lock up when you started? – Not at all. It was a shocking move by my wife
Do you know how long you are going to be locked up? – My wife no intentions whatsoever to release me
have you ever, even for a moment, wish you could get out of your device? – After my wife sealed my cage, initially I wished. But was of no use. Now I don’t
What is the most difficult aspect of long term/permanent lock up? – Nothing. In fact it is more comfortable than unlocking frequently, which allows penis to erect

It makes me wonder how I would react should my Wife demand the same of me, that I would never get a release from my cage again. You are a strong man to make such a commitment to your own Wife.

My wife considers my constant pre-cum releases a form of release and so does not see the need for me to fomrally orgasm, so I guess no.

“I want my husband to feel my sexuality in his body and mind. When he is playing with me I want him to feel my pleasure. When I cum, I want him to feel the energy of my orgasm in his body and soul. I want him to clear his sexuality from his mind so mine can flow in and fill his body and soul.

“When my husband sits between my legs and licks me, he is worshiping at the temple of this power and I teach him to let my female sexuality flow through him. When I cum, I want him to feel my ecstasy in his body. I want him to feel as one with my sexuality for that moment.”

caged 24/7 most of the year, her pleasure is now paramount and not only does she have her multiple orgasms before falling asleep, i, like iLovemy Choice, have virtually no orgasms now but get the most sublime pleasure from seeing her shake, moan and roll her eyes in complete ecstasy when i serve her. I can concentrate on each stage of her journey to satisfaction, reading her signs, finding those erogenous zones and concentrating wholeheartedly on a successful outcome I.e. Her pleasure. My body feels her waves of excitement and when she finally explodes in ecstasy all this is shared by me – she has even commented on how i moan myself at the point of her climax and shake in rhythm with her…she loves it.
i no longer expect an orgasm and love the feeling of warmth and sheer horniness that persist long after she has fallen asleep! On the few occasions that I am allowed an orgasm with sex, i almost feel guilty soon after, for detracting from her pleasure. This often last for a few days and I yearn to make amends to show my gratitude…

My wife obviously is of the same opinion as you Ms Amanda as today, after several noisy orgasms, she told me I’d had my fun (enjoying her orgasms) and business was concluded. She’s also become very adept at restricting caresses to parts of my body where there is no chance of setting off an orgasm in my cage. She even likes going to sleep with her hand over my cage.

The after glow of D’s orgasm is the most intense feel of love I have ever experienced, I am addicted to the entire process, it far exceeds anything that I experienced prior to be in long term chastity and would never return, in fact I want her to have orgasms constantly and beg her to allow me to give them to her. The best is when D allows me to give her rolling orgasms lifting the intensity slowly until she reaches her climax and then caressing softly until I am allowed to bring her to the next one over and over again.

What do I feel like? Hmmm. A broad spectrum of emotions wash through my mind having only had 2 orgasms of my own in 4 months shy of a 3 year span. First and foremost, I LOVE the feeling of holding my Wife/Mistress/Keyholder close and telling her how much I love her and how sexy she is as she bucks, quakes and shudders through an orgasm from our lesbianesque grinding or the use of her highly efficient (far more than my tongue or erect penis ever were she says) vibrator. I also find it very sexy to find her blissfully asleep and her vibrator placed neatly upon my pillow if she retires before me. Knowing she had an orgasm makes me happy. She is such an amazing woman and deserves so much more than I am able to provide for her or give her. I feel I am a lucky man to have her in my life.

It took Mistress awhile to fully embrace her FemDom role but now she enjoys it immensely. I have been locked and denied now for 156 days, previous long was 234 days and Mistress says she sees no reason to change that. Mistress says that me unloading her balls does nothing for her and just makes a mess.

Mistresses daily routine is to have slave clean her upon waking … she will facesit me and since she is a squirter she loves to give me my “breakfast drink” before getting ready for the day. If we are around the house she usually makes slave clean her around noon then again before dinner and always before bed for the evening.

Mistress will sometimes tease slave through his cage and try to get slave hard. Then it’s always required that she is satisfied and thoroughly cleaned before bed.

What a fun thread! I LOVE nothing more than giving my Queen climaxes while being denied pleasure myself. Sexual pleasure that is because I receive the greatest pleasure serving my Queen! Doing so.. giving her pleasure … climaxes while I receive none makes me feel valuable like a tool in her toy chest of items she chooses to use for her pleasure

My Wife has used that description to decide I no longer need to cum. Whether She means that in a permanent sense I do not know. When I asked her if she had thought about how long I was going to be denied this time she simply said I don’t need an orgasm any more.

Just 2 nights ago, she let me in her for the first time in a few weeks. She had one small orgasm compared to her moaning and screaming when I use the big black dildo on her. Now I’m sitting here locked up, wishing I could be licking her clit and fucking her with the huge toy.

Oral Sex

Offering a loving session of cunnilingus is the number one way to worship the woman you love. When you kneel before her treasure and your focus is only on pleasing her, you are showing her that you honor her in the most fundamental and pleasurable way…

Paint Her Nails

If you want to worship a woman with love show her that you appreciate the details of her body by spending an evening painting her nails for her. This simple act allows her to feel like a princess and it allows you the pleasure of her undivided attention so that you can offer her verbal worship and words of appreciation…

Shop For Her

When you go out specifically to buy a gift for the woman you love you are worshiping her because you are focused on creating happiness for her. If you always shop for lingerie for her this is often seen as a selfish gift since it is for your viewing pleasure. Instead, buy a nice dress or work outfit that you know she will love. Be sure to get the size right! When she walks out of the door wearing the outfit you chose for her she will feel empowered beyond anything you can imagine…

Exceed Her Expectations

You can’t worship a woman unless you know her desires. Get to know the hidden desires of the woman you love and work feverishly to deliver them. Take it one step further and imagine how her desires can be expanded and made even more grand, then work to exceed her expectations. Watching her squeal with delight after you have surprised her with her dream come true is your constant goal…

Cook For Her

When you take the time to personally prepare a nourishing meal for the woman you love, you are worshiping her. There is nothing fucking sexier than when a man is standing in the kitchen in front of the stove and the scents from the meal he is preparing is wafting through the air. When you walk your sexy ass over to place the hot meal in front of the woman you love, it melts her heart. She will fall in love with you all over again…

Listen to How She Feels

You can worship a woman without saying a word when you take the time to listen to how she feels each day. Listen to her. Really hear her out. This means to never disregard the things she takes the time to share with you. If her opinion or issue is important enough for her to discuss it with you, it should be respected and regarded as valuable. Listen to how she feels. Open your heart and listen. She wants you to hear her, to make her feel safe, to really know that her private thoughts are being received with a captive and caring ear. Be silent and listen to her…

Massage Her Body

Another excellent method of worshiping the woman you love is body worship. When you decide to devote an evening to body worship you are offering attention and praise to a woman’s entire being. You bathe her, oil her and touch massage every inch of her skin. While you are offering her this deluxe massage you are reminding her of how perfect she is for you and how lucky you are to be awarded the gift of being allowed to touch her body…

OWWWWWW

My chastity device was removed for sex and replaced with a spiked ball crusher.

It is quite a predicament of wanting to thrust while not wanting the heavy device to bounce with the spikes pushing into my aching balls.

A relationship that puts you on a pedestal, with him serving you as you wish. Imagine a relationship, where chores are the mans job, (unless you want to help), orgasms are an obligation for the men to give, and a privilege for him to be granted rarely for exceptional servitude.

This is your world now. You are dominant, and your man is your submissive. He asked for this, but he didn’t realize what it meant. Too bad.

Make your man your bitch. That is the secret to life for all womankind.

You are now the dominant goddess of the house. What you say goes, is what goes. There are no exceptions. What you want is what you get…

Dominant women get a buzz off of dominating their men. This is a high for you. You are now addicted to dominating your man. You control him in every facet of your life and are free to explore boundaries limited only by consent, in which you can bend and manipulate to your favor…

He should have a buttplug in as often as possible. In fact, the only time he should have it out is when you are fucking his ass. Somewhere in between always plugged and huge-butt-plug-for-femdom-slavesometimes plugged is likely the right place to be. I am just a more dominant woman, and believe that my man should be plugged virtually 24/7. It serves as a reminder to him that I am his boss. If you try this, have 0 compassion when he begs you to take it out.  Say no. Eventually, he will get used to it. Use a metal one. They are better for longterm use.

He will soon adore and cherish you as his Sexual Goddess, Queen and Master!

Feel and enjoy your developing supremacy; Your total feminine control over him sexually and his bursting hard, aching HELPLESS dominated erection. Treasure the glazed over, out of it, desperate look on his face when you take breaks, IT WILL BE PRICELESS. Be assured Ladies as you read this, It is very hot and sadistically delightful to have this kind of “TOTAL” control over your male. Rest assured that his penis will never lie to you.

You’ll get extremely excited watching him struggle not to cum as you tease him. Make sure that he fully recognizes his surrender to you, as you periodically take breaks to look deeply into his eyes and soul and take pictures of course! Sitting on his face or chest at this point and “Queening” him as he licks and nurses on your womanhood works even greater magic on his mind; as he usually will stay rock hard due to your intoxicating aroma and flavor.

You must completely change your way of thinking, (it’s not that hard after a few weeks in denial) to put all of her needs before yours.

Reality is the big football game you were excited about is coming on, she tells you to wash the dishes before you watch TV.
You were going out with co workers for some drinks, she asks you if the lawn has been mowed yet.

If you are serious about chastity and FLR, you won’t even bat an eye when she makes these requests. They will no longer be requests, just the way it is.

It’s not her being lazy, or controlling, or “bitchy”. It will be her taking control, and you following behind. It takes strength and trust and love for a true FLR relationship to work. It’s not for the weak.

Over time, doing all the chores becomes a normal (though dull) part of his life and there is an acceptance in him that that is the way it is. The same phenomenon applies to waiting on you hand-and-foot and to his restricted sex life. Get a chastity device. One involving a piercing is best. You will soon begin to experience the rush of having true power over another human being. Power is a huge rush and an aphrodisiac.

REWARDS…

Being sensitively woken and given tea or coffee in bed every morning. Being waited on hand and foot. Being utterly worshipped in mind and body. As many orgasms on demand as one could want. No household chores. No tedious paperwork or junk mail to deal with. A social life wholly of your choices. A 100% trustworthy partner who will never be unfaithful. Other sexual partners (in my case always female). The intense pleasures of power and sadism…

It’s been almost 10 years now since my husband and I have been active in an FLR. When we started, it was a bit rough at first. He was fine and then after a while, he would start challenging me for authority. This was creating a lot of issues for both of us. I started to prevent him from orgasm. On top of this I used punishment. Punishment was fairly extreme at first. Basically what I had to do is break him down to where he was in tears after the punishment. I would do this a couple times a week, even if he was a model husband. Afterward, I was loving and understanding. Every couple weeks, if he was a model husband, I would allow him release through a prostrate milking. This would give him the much needed release without allowing him orgasm, which was the main issue. My husband is now very happy with our FLR. He maintains a clean home for us. He caters to me, always buying me flowers. He pleasures me whenever I need. I have several lovers I maintain for my entertainment. He completely is supportive of my lifestyle and even helps me get ready for my date nights. It’s been over 5 years now since I’ve allowed him any penetration and he is perfectly happy fulfilling MY needs. We have never been as happy in our marriage as we are now!

• Before coming to bed he will kneel at the foot of the bed and rub your feet until you say stop. If you are already asleep he must kneel at your feet for 5 minutes and meditate on your feet before entering bed.
• He will always sit while peeing everywhere he is
• When you teach/correct him he must be positional lower than you
• Stand in front of him in your bath robe while he is naked and kneeling in front of you, and command him to kiss your feet, kiss your ankles, kiss your thighs, you get the idea, work him up to oral sex. Don’t take off your robe and he needs to be kneeling for the duration – no reposition.
• When you punish him he must now be naked
• If working on romance and or sex — for at least one 24 hour period he will serve you hand in foot romantically and sexually remaining naked and attending you are all times. (have him sit or kneel quietly if you don`t want attention, such as using the bathroom)
• If you physically punish him he must now get on all fours at your feet or over your knee (OTK)
• Being naked is not practical in public

This is designed to be a role reversal from traditional dominant male stereotypes where the man must be pleased by a woman who dresses for show, attempts to be sexy and alluring, satisfies her man to keep him happy, and does what he is asking for.

• If you want, make him prove he is obeying and working hard to please you by asking him to do something you command him to in front of your girlfriends or sisters. Start small by asking him to fetch everyone drinks and work up to him kneeling at your side or rubbing your feet. In public.

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My wife begged me to orgasm like the old days back in January. We were both miserable for about a two months after that until about mid March of this year she told me she was putting the cage on and it wasn’t coming off for a year if ever. Well things have never ever been better between us no matter what type of relationship we have had. So while the cage is the facilitator of that, it isn’t something I am attached to or anything. What I am attached to is being married to a nasty selfish sadistic bitch that has a soft touch.

My wife also doesn’t mind me checking out other women, she doesn’t think it’s disrespectful to them or her, but she does think getting erections for and masturbating to those women is disrespectful to them and her and now that it’s impossible for me to do so, she is actually even more comfortable with me admiring them, knowing full well that it’s all I’m allowed to do.

She has definitely taken notice and is very happy with my behavior now. The fact is, I was the one with the problem, I had trouble answering to a younger woman that turned me on, but male chastity changed all that. Before, I would masturbate to her images, but how in the world was I supposed to respect a woman in the office and take orders from her if I spent every night sexually fantasizing and masturbating to her images? Now that I can’t so much as achieve an erection for her, all that sexual desire I have for her has turned into admiration of her and demonstrated through my subordination and obedience. The combination of my locked up state, long periods of denial, and inability to experience a painless erection, have all forced me to view and admire and other women in the office and in society in general in ways I never thought imaginable.

My wife (42) of 3 years is amazing. I’m completely in love with her. But she’s insanely jealous and demanding of my time. I work 7-6 m-f and 8-12 sat. If I’m not at work I am to be with her. Doing what she wants. When she wants. I’m allowed Wednesday nights only to play video games or do what I want to do. Every other night if I don’t do what she wants and decide to watch a tv show that I want to watch or movie or game. She gets mad and I have to deal with 3 days of cold shoulder and attitude. I’m not allowed to go over friends houses unless she is with me. The other day I texted her and asked if SHE wanted to go over to a friends house WITH me. She replied “no. You go. Just don’t be late. ” So I went. And came home to her pissed off and that her telling me I could go was a test and I should have just came home to her because she’s more important than my friends.

She also Threatens that other guys will treat her better and I’m lucky to be with her. I pay every bill in the house. I make a great living. She has a brand new Navigator. I pamper her. Love her and take care of her. As long as I’m catering to her every wish it’s fine. If I’m doing something I want to do and she doesn’t. Heaven help me!

I came home and told her my feelings. She blew up and is leaving me. Period. She’s going to find a guy that treats her right because I clearly don’t love her or treat her like she deserves. I groveled at her feet and begged her for another chance, but she just kicked me in the balls and slammed the door as she left.

Yep, this is almost exactly like one of my best friends. His wife is very similar to this and we basically never see him anymore. She is a controlling manipulative nutjob and he lets it happen. Its sad really, you can tell he hates a lot about his life, but doesn’t have the courage to do anything about it.

As soon as they got married, he basically stopped doing anything that wasn’t related to her in some way. He changed his entire appearance. He started working 80-100 hour weeks to support her lifestyle. If he wasn’t working, he was with her. He used to come over our house and visit all the time, now we never see him unless she is out of the country (she is from Russia and goes home once a year to visit family). He basically shut down every facet of his life that he enjoyed.

The threat of bumping my husband’s ejaculation day has a huge impact on his behavior.

-Also, for an infraction of the schedule (if you stimulated your self without her permission for instance), she could implement an 8:30 bedtime for a week or whatever time and length she chooses that would be averse. The threat of a bedtime terrifies my husband so it works. An 8:00 bedtime is averse in that it removes all stimulus, and gives you time to reflect what you’ve done and how committed you are to following her wishes. Before she goes to bed, she should check in with you and ask you to explain why you now have a bedtime.

-Corner time can also be effective. Turn a chair facing the corner and sit there for an hour. She should check with you periodically during this time out and have you explain why you have a time out.

– Nose against the wall. She can have you stand with your nose against the wall with a quarter between your nose and the wall for fifteen minutes. If the quarter falls, the time is increased. It’s pretty averse.

-Putting a man on a allowance for spending money for a period of time is also averse. If his behavior is compliant, spending limits go up. If he’s not, spending limits get tighter.

-If he’s a sports fan, there is no game watching. I personally feel that sports should be eliminated anyway, but the wife should determine what games are to be viewed.

-Whether he has permission to go out with friends should be determined by compliance with the ejaculation schedule.

My husband, and I have been doing this for a close to a year, and we still kinda consider it a trial. At some point though, I expect to have a special moment where he commits to this for life. It’s already pretty cemented into the relationship, but a formal ceremony would be nice.

After we have discussed of the consequences, my wife finally choose an early bedtime for a whole week and have me bought a baby cam. During this time we will have separate bedrooms. We have a discussion about the difference between an accident during intercourse or ejaculation through masturbation. She thinks that in the second case it should be two weeks…

I think she’s right. Intentional masturbation should be dealt with more harshly. Pick the bedtime and amount of days that is right for both of you. My husband finds one day with an early bedtime akin to Chinese water torture and is very aversive. It keeps him very alert during intercourse about warning me about any spill that may arise. He actually would prefer a whipping with a leather strap than an early bedtime. Accidents happen, but I really don’t like them as it wrecks all the work we’ve done in retaining. I can probably count on one hand the number of accidents he’s had in the past year.

I think you’ll find the possibility that your wife may be watching for any unwanted touching very controlling and serve your desire to be under her thumb. The best thing about this aversive stimuli, is that you’ll actually get the rest you need which is so important in addition to helping with retention.

I just adore your confidence and the way you rule your household and the way your husband does the housework and cedes to you all the privileges the old patriarchal male used to have–and all this simply through following his sexual urges as shaped by semen retention. This is the best meaning of dominant-submissive, leader-follower as the template for female-male relationships. To me, your world is perfect world.

Or you can live on my planet where I can turn his brain to mush with a touch, and he profoundly thanks me for the opportunity to enter me, and begs for a chance to just give me 9 more orgasms to make his intercourse session last a little longer.  And if the kitchen is spotless, I might reward him by letting him give me 9 more before we put his penis away until tomorrow.  But really, 27 orgasms is usually my limit no matter how clean the kitchen is.

I don’t have any philosophy other than promoting semen retention. Everything we do flows from that. Our FLR flows from that. I observe that when he retains, it seems to produce a change in his biology where this once dominate male requires a severe female controlling authority. I’m happy to provide it and quite enjoy it. His submissiveness elicits my dominance.

I’ve asked my husband if he would like to be cut off entirely from intercourse to help him with retention for his health and forego the intercourse because of the frustration of not finishing, and that suggestion was met with a resounding, NO.  He would rather have daily intercourse without ejaculation than no intercourse at all.  Apparently, he’s still getting a positive experience from it.  Indeed, he says it’s the best sex he’s ever had and thanks me for my resolve.

Men crave sex. That is one of the most reliable truisms of wife led marriage. The more you wield erotic power in your marriage, the more obsessed your husband becomes with sex, the more devoted he becomes to you.

A wife wants her husband to be sexually frustrated, yes. The more frustrated he is, the more romantic and obedient he becomes. That requires managing his sexual release.

When you are first establishing your authority in the marriage simply finding excuses to not have sex is a powerful way to create the crisis that opens the doors to your ascendancy in the marriage.

But once he has surrendered to you, once he has accepted you as Queen of the household, what then? You don’t want to live your marriage in a perpetual state of crisis. You simply want maintain a constant state of sexual tension.

The answer is quite simple: deny release, not sex. We call this intimate denial and it has several benefits.

First, you want to be sexual towards your husband, to tease him, to keep him on the edge as much of the time as possible. This is especially the case when he is doing the household chores. You want to eroticize your marriage in general and his homemaking experience in particular.

And just because he is going without sexual release doesn’t mean you should be giving up sex. As I wrote in Asymmetric Sex, you can indulge in many more orgasms than you allow your husband.

But most importantly, sexual intimacy is emotionally reassuring for your husband. Withdrawing sex leads him to feel abandoned. Even if you are reassuring him verbally he will subconsciously feel neglected. But if you engage in regular sex with him that happens not to end with his release his emotional experience is altogether different. He is sexually frustrated, yes, but emotionally satisfied

He experiences intimate denial as a happy frustration. He learns to enjoy his frustration, his deep desire for you, his willingness to move heaven and earth for you. You answer his desire for sex with incomplete sex that is playful and teasing but also a demonstration of both your affection and your firm authority in the marriage. He is reminded, again, that you are in command and that he is in submission to your will.

Ideally you will have some long-term schedule of release planned, say once or twice a year, but you will keep him always guessing as to when any particular sexual encounter will end with his release. In this way he is always guessing and hoping but never expecting or demanding.

I have (greatly) restricted my husbands orgasms since I shifted my position in our marriage. He works very hard for them (very) and is allowed no masturbation (whatsoever). It keeps him very, very, focused on what I need and want and keeps him under control. The vast majority of our sexual interaction is based on him gratifying me (with his tongue). It is mostly what sex is for him with a periodic but infrequent orgasm on his end – planned and doled out by me. Accidents have happened (in his pants) just from getting over excited – those are a sort of discipline moment because they are supposed to be avoided.

Yes, basically I feel in general divorce is caused by frequent ejaculation. Men should pledge to only ejaculate with the wife’s permission in the marriage ceremony. If only that one change was made in the marriage vows, many marriages would be saved. I really want to have a moment with my husband where he formally does that at some point.

An early bedtime or a restricted allowance might be just as effective in dissuading behaviors like masturbation or spilling during intercourse. The threat of a bedtime is very effective with my husband. With early bedtimes, I would suggest a video baby monitor so the wife can easily see that hands are above the covers if the husband has a separate bedroom as mine does. We have trust, but it’s helpful for him to know someone could be watching.

Semen retention is particularly good for long period of denial, longer than a single month.

I didn’t always used to orgasm like this. I would say my yoni has awakened a lot over the past year. As my husband practices retaining his semen, his passion is very intense when he services me. He has also increased his stamina so he is able to continue thrusting to get me to 9 or 18. I usually end it at 9. I draw a lot of energy from him and his intensity. When he’s on the brink, there’s no question it speeds me to a climax knowing that he wants me badly. I’m always able to just move from one orgasm to another by just starting again. It’s not like I achieve climax and it just triggers 9 orgasms. It takes a male with stamina to be able to thrust in a sustained rhythm, finish me, and resume thrusting. I have achieved up to 50 orgasms in a session, but that is not common at all. we were just pushing the envelope. I’d say that’s about the limit for me. 9 is regular.

It sounds like your doing well retaining. I assume you have eliminated masturbating from your life as well and only release with your wife. I think that’s also essential.

I always obtain all my orgasms from intercourse. He has never just serviced me orally. He gets me to the brink with thrusting, and I will jump on his face to let him finish me. I always finish with clitoral stimulation, thrusting with his lingam always carries me there.

The holy trinity of my model is semen retention, the ejaculation schedule and consequences for violation of the schedule. The specific consequences for violation of the schedule should be discussed by both parties. But yes, there is an averse stimulus that will be applied for violation of the schedule.

We have sex daily but he does not ejaculate. I require submission. Submission is the natural result of semen retention with daily stimulation. His true giving nature is revealed to him. I honor that nature by taking and receiving from him whether it’s receiving 18 orgasms like today, or it’s hand washing my clothes and keeping the kitchen in order. I just follow his new biology and try to keep up with it. Retaining, he has far more stamina in bed than I have. He will ejaculate next Sunday if all goes well.

In my philosophy a boy has to obey Women *regardless* of orgasm, so it’s not a need to deny them.

Question: Can we please talk more about corporal punishment? What are your takes on over the knee spanking vs. whipping, the dreaded cane or hot wax?

I have already been doing this with my husband for almost a year, though I have set an ejaculation schedule, and he knows when he’s due for ejaculation contingent on his attitude and behavior. Semen retention is so important for the male not only for his attitude in the relationship, but for his health too. I think he gets too depleted when he cums to much, and it certainly effects almost every aspect of our relationship if he’s masturbating in private.

He says he wants to go back to the way it was before, but frankly, I can’t really imagine being in a relationship with a man that doesn’t practice semen retention. I tell him I would lose respect for him if he decided not to continue which is true. I came across this from the eastern traditions of spiritual practice where semen retention is common. We tried it, and the experience brought intensity into our marriage that hadn’t been there for years. I took control of his ejaculation schedule because frankly he would opt for ejaculation every time in the heat of the moment if I didn’t. I did need to institute consequences for unauthorized ejaculation which may seem unpalatable to some women but if it’s done right, it only needs to be done rarely. It’s really for his own good, and he understands that. Women really need to take control if we’re going to reap the intense rewards of male semen retention. And the rewards are intense!! If you want emotional bonding , and a man that craves you, you need to learn learn these few simple concepts. You’d be surprised with how much respect a man treats a woman who controls his ejaculation schedule.

I used to think it’s none of my business what he does with himself in private. I couldn’t have been more wrong because he was stealing the passion from our relationship every time he jerked off. I really can’t stress for all women enough that they need to find out how much their man is masturbating and make it clear to him how important it is to you that he stop, and also get him to admit how much he views porn, and take control of that as well. Of course this all depend on truth and honesty. Luckily we have that as a foundation in our relationship. I realize men are men, and I’m not opposed to giving him 15 minutes of free computer time once in a great while if his chores are done and his attitude has been great.

Men are not women.  They are not built for pleasure the same way.  A woman can have one orgasm after another and she will be energized and ready for a full yoga and Qigong routine.  A man has one orgasm and he is exhausted and ready for a nap.

I consider semen retention to be the foundation of my marriage, but the foundation of semen retention is the consequences that await an unauthorized ejaculation. The only authorized ejaculation in our relationship follows the words coming from my lips: “You may release now.” He lives to hear these words, and ejaculation always follows on the last syllable of that sentence. He will do anything to hear them. But those words won’t mean anything if the schedule you set for his ejaculation isn’t enforced. There’s no getting around this. Males have such a strong evolutionary built in desire to plant their seed.
To successfully counter his natural tendency you will need an averse stimulus. An averse stimulus is an unpleasant event that is intended to decrease the probability of a behavior when it is presented as a consequence (i.e., punishment).

Applying an averse stimulus means that you lay down the law on unauthorized ejaculation to your husband. In life, we all live with unpleasant consequences to deter certain behaviors. We’re merely talking about creating an environment that is undesirable for a man to ejaculate in without your permission.

When my husband’s passion has led him to the brink, the only thing I’ve found that works to keep him from teetering over the edge is something that’s so horrible that awaits on the other side of his ejaculation that he wouldn’t even consider violating my command. Violating my ejaculation schedule is almost as serious to me as him sleeping with another woman. My husband needs to accept that he doesn’t own his genitals. Just because they’re attached to him doesn’t mean he has a right to them. They are the property of the marriage and to be used to help us both transcend. I’m there to help support him in their proper use.

Really, the consequences you choose should be between you and your husband. Every woman will vary by what they’re willing to do, and what their man will respond to. You need to have an open discussion about what exactly would be an averse stimulus to him that would deter unwanted behavior.

Your man must not be aroused by whatever consequence you choose for it to be averse. It’s likely that he’ll be aroused by being punished by you. Great, so he’s aroused by being punished, now what do we do!? No worries. The averse stimulus must overwhelm the “punishment at a women’s hands reward” that he just earned by violating your schedule. My husband wants no part of it, and it’s why he hasn’t touched himself in close to a year.

The averse stimulus we have is in the background of our relationship not in the foreground. This application of an averse stimulus is done only to support the foundation of the marriage which is semen retention which is the fuel that will ignite the most passionate love making that you’ll experience as well as his obedience if you desire that. So in about a year, I’ve had to put maybe 10-20 minutes into maintaining the new level of bliss my marriage has attained. That’s time well spent I’d say. It’s not a daily or weekly thing, but maybe something that crops up every two to three months. If you find yourself having to apply this averse stimulus (whatever you’ve chosen) weekly or anything close to that, you’re doing it wrong as far as it being averse.

Once you have your averse stimulus, what do you do? Simple. If he has a moment of weakness, he confesses. You have a time and place set aside, have him on his knees explain to you why it’s happening, and apply the averse stimulus. After it’s over, he should be on his knees and explain to you why you had to apply the averse stimulus. At least this works for us. No anger is involved, just loving support and acceptance during application. And best of all, it rarely needs application.Once the schedule is enforced, there really is no conflict in the marriage. Things get done. There’s no nagging, just a simple statement: “There’s no ejaculation until such and such is done.” and it gets done pretty quickly. I haven’t used a stop watch to time it so I can’t say for sure how fast it gets done. Conflict dissipates. I think we had a little tension once, and I simply said “what an odd response to have toward the person that decides whether your going to ejaculate of not.” The issue was resolved, and there was silence.