I consider semen retention to be the foundation of my marriage, but the foundation of semen retention is the consequences that await an unauthorized ejaculation. The only authorized ejaculation in our relationship follows the words coming from my lips: “You may release now.” He lives to hear these words, and ejaculation always follows on the last syllable of that sentence. He will do anything to hear them. But those words won’t mean anything if the schedule you set for his ejaculation isn’t enforced. There’s no getting around this. Males have such a strong evolutionary built in desire to plant their seed.
To successfully counter his natural tendency you will need an averse stimulus. An averse stimulus is an unpleasant event that is intended to decrease the probability of a behavior when it is presented as a consequence (i.e., punishment).

Applying an averse stimulus means that you lay down the law on unauthorized ejaculation to your husband. In life, we all live with unpleasant consequences to deter certain behaviors. We’re merely talking about creating an environment that is undesirable for a man to ejaculate in without your permission.

When my husband’s passion has led him to the brink, the only thing I’ve found that works to keep him from teetering over the edge is something that’s so horrible that awaits on the other side of his ejaculation that he wouldn’t even consider violating my command. Violating my ejaculation schedule is almost as serious to me as him sleeping with another woman. My husband needs to accept that he doesn’t own his genitals. Just because they’re attached to him doesn’t mean he has a right to them. They are the property of the marriage and to be used to help us both transcend. I’m there to help support him in their proper use.

Really, the consequences you choose should be between you and your husband. Every woman will vary by what they’re willing to do, and what their man will respond to. You need to have an open discussion about what exactly would be an averse stimulus to him that would deter unwanted behavior.

Your man must not be aroused by whatever consequence you choose for it to be averse. It’s likely that he’ll be aroused by being punished by you. Great, so he’s aroused by being punished, now what do we do!? No worries. The averse stimulus must overwhelm the “punishment at a women’s hands reward” that he just earned by violating your schedule. My husband wants no part of it, and it’s why he hasn’t touched himself in close to a year.

The averse stimulus we have is in the background of our relationship not in the foreground. This application of an averse stimulus is done only to support the foundation of the marriage which is semen retention which is the fuel that will ignite the most passionate love making that you’ll experience as well as his obedience if you desire that. So in about a year, I’ve had to put maybe 10-20 minutes into maintaining the new level of bliss my marriage has attained. That’s time well spent I’d say. It’s not a daily or weekly thing, but maybe something that crops up every two to three months. If you find yourself having to apply this averse stimulus (whatever you’ve chosen) weekly or anything close to that, you’re doing it wrong as far as it being averse.

Once you have your averse stimulus, what do you do? Simple. If he has a moment of weakness, he confesses. You have a time and place set aside, have him on his knees explain to you why it’s happening, and apply the averse stimulus. After it’s over, he should be on his knees and explain to you why you had to apply the averse stimulus. At least this works for us. No anger is involved, just loving support and acceptance during application. And best of all, it rarely needs application.Once the schedule is enforced, there really is no conflict in the marriage. Things get done. There’s no nagging, just a simple statement: “There’s no ejaculation until such and such is done.” and it gets done pretty quickly. I haven’t used a stop watch to time it so I can’t say for sure how fast it gets done. Conflict dissipates. I think we had a little tension once, and I simply said “what an odd response to have toward the person that decides whether your going to ejaculate of not.” The issue was resolved, and there was silence.