Penis spanking should be part of your husband’s chastity discipline, where he is very rarely permitted to ejaculate and almost never permitted to have pussy.  Complete pussy denial is actually best for him for various reasons, but I’ll discuss that another day.  If you’re either done having kids, or aren’t ready yet, well that’s too bad for him 🙂  He’s there to satisfy your needs, not the other way around.  Unless you have embraced a complete femdom life, you may need to keep that carrot of pussy-possibility (“pussibility”) dangling out there to motivate him, even if you don’t ever plan to actually let him have any.

A few reasons to consider spanking your husband’s horny little peepee include:

• putting him in his place
• enhancing his submission
• displaying dominance
• showing that you can, and will, do anything with his body that you want to
• punishment in general (we’ll discuss this)
• the physical pain/pleasure
• training and enhancing his acceptance of other bdsm activities
• subjugation of his manhood, both literal and figurative
• the conversion of his main source of pleasure into nothing more than a target for your riding crop with complete disdain for its horny throbbing need to ejaculate which you subvert in such a way that he actually looks forward to having his penis spanked simply for the stimulation of it.
• his orgasm.  yes, you can learn to spank his penis in such a way that will make him cum!  once you learn this art, i recommend you tell him that’s how he’ll be having all his orgasms from now on.  that will cause him to immediately associate your riding crop on his penis with his sexual pleasure.

Now, mentally preparing him for such a spanking is essential.  The key to it all is to make a big spectacle out of his erection and emphasize his inability to control himself, as follows:

1. Keep him in chastity with no orgasm for at least 1 week prior to the penis spanking;
2. Tell him that you are going to “inspect his penis.”
3. Bind him appropriately – not only his hands, but consider binding his cock and balls to a fixed object so you know they won’t be moving around.  Needless to say, please do be careful about this.
4. Tease him to full erection.  You may wish to use your hands a bit at first, but use the crop itself to make soft caresses on his peepee.  This will create a direct pleasure association with your crop and his wiener.
5. As he’s getting hard, verbally talk in explicit language about how his horny little peepee can’t help itself, how it loves to get hard for the crop, how his peepee likes the idea of a spanking, how horny he must be, how full his balls must feel right now, how his penis must be aching for some relief, how it really seems to enjoy the crop, and most important of all, how he just can’t help himself but to get hard for his penis spanking.  Tell him he can’t help himself.  Tell him he has no control over his penis.  Tell him that you bet he can’t stop himself from getting hard.  Challenge his very idea that his penis is under his own control, because of course, you already know it isn’t.  Then, when his penis gets hard despite his own wishes, you will have shown that you are in control of his body – not him 🙂

How you spank his penis depends entirely on why you are spanking it.  I have discussed penis spanking elsewhere, but the main thing to consider is that if you want to build him up to near orgasm, or actually let him have one, part of the key is to create a steady rhythm along a particular part of his penis.

• Start soft and slow, and very gradually work your way harder and faster.
• You have to gauge his reactions to tell how hard he can enjoy, but as his arousal increases, his pain tolerance does too, and the pain of your strokes will actually become a powerful source of genital stimulation that will give him an orgasm if you just keep a steady rhythm.
• Build up to a nice firm quick rhythm.
• When he nears orgasm, keep your focus on one side of his penis, going up and down its length, top to bottom and then back up and down again, back and forth, steady and consistent, and you’ll be rewarded with his squirt.
• Tell him this is the only way he’s going to be allowed to squirt from now on.

Once you have spanked his penis to orgasm the first time, you will own him in a very new kind of way.  He’ll marvel at this power you have over him.!

Spanking your husband’s penis can be so therapeutic for both of you.  If you’ve upset with him, you can make it clear to him in no uncertain terms.  And, if he’s wronged you, it’s a terrific way for him to feel as if he’s paid his dues.  It can be a terrific source of stress relief for both of you.  It’s a wonderful bonding experience, wherein he learns that you have more control over his own body than he does.

There’s no need to touch his cock – I might go the whole ride without touching it once.  I know, with 100% certainty, that simply coming close, teasing his belly and waist while my own hips quake, is more than enough pleasure for him in this position.  How do I know?  The proof is obvious!  His every grunt and moan sends divine, unmistakable tremors directly into my clit.  I can see the continuous stream of precum running down his dick.  His body tells the truth his pride might never admit.  His body tells me he’s happy, right here, exactly like this, nothing less and nothing more.  So I keep him happy.  I relish the view.  And I grind myself to bliss…

Again this is one of those facts that amazes me. I never thought I’d do this, let alone enjoy it. But I do it all the time now!

Most regularly it’ll be after I’ve been edging him, and I’ll say ‘that’s enough now’ and just let go, and he’ll let out the hottest little whimper of need. And I’ll either say ‘cage back on’ or ‘you can stay out tonight’, either way, he almost always HAS to push himself up against me, he can’t physically stop himself. Either his still hard cock or his even harder cage, pushing into my bottom, desperate, wanting me so much.

Isn’t this the irony… the snuggles I want after sex I get most easily, when I DON’T let him cum! He wraps himself around me, wanting me, needing me, it’s so wonderful! If I’m not that sleepy, especially if I’ve left him uncaged, I’ll whisper, ‘What would you like to do to me right now?’ and I lie there as he tells me how much he wants to make love to me with his mouth, or he’ll get more aggressive, he’ll push his cock into me and tell me he wants to fill me with his seed, gently fucking me, obsessed with me.

This is the greatest kink ever… lol And if I’ve had enough just a ‘that’s enough now darling, if you want to be allowed out tomorrow’ and I’m left in peace, knowing he’s fantasising about me, and I love it!

I am allowed squirty but only about twice a year.  Mistress removed my cage today and asked how I feel uncaged do I still get the urge to masturbate? Funnily enough I don’t and I was limp most of the day too. Just managing a slight increase in length every now and then. She says its working isn’t it your becoming impotent of sorts. Lets see if you can be allowed out all day without trying to erect.

Its 9pm and mistress says come on back in your cage and inserted it into me and click its back on again until she decides to let me out.
What was so strange is that once allowed out I did not want to masturbate its as though not being able to erect or masturbate for so long that my body no longer thinks it is allowed too.

Mistress gave me reassurance that I would be wearing a tube inside my penis from now on. Makes me so happy to be kept so small and wearing the tube inside my penis for her pleasure and my chastity submission. She said I look such a sissy now and there’s no point in allowing me to erect anymore its just wrong even attempting to erect in a skirt and heels she says. I agree.

My mistress wants an end to male stimulation from the penis and enforcing anal only stimulation. I am allowed to prostrate milk myself as a form of sexual release or use anything anally but my penis is to remain dysfunctional. Also I am now usually dressed in skirts and dresses so I am now beginning to view myself no longer as a male so don’t miss my penis anymore as I have had no access to it for pleasure for over a year while alone. I now get my stimulation by wearing women’s clothes and shoes and anally as allowed as part of my male submission to mistress.

On the way home mistress ask me to stop at one her friends houses also a mistress and an influence. I had no sooner walked in when she lifted my skirt grabbed my cage and said Sara isn’t it nice when they cannot erect anymore and btw you are doing a great job of her feminization. When you arrived I had to look twice as I thought you were two girls. Her heels and dress do the job nicely and the breasts just finish her off. Now go get us both a drink from the kitchen bitch. Off I hobbled in my heels bringing the two mistresses a glass of red wine from an opened bottle on the kitchen top.

Oh look she even crosses her legs too well done Sara yes very nice. Would you like to leave her here for the afternoon while you go shopping I think I could have fun with her as she got a dog collar and lead from a drawer. To my relief my mistress declined letting her friend abuse me as I know she really likes taking her subs like a girl while collared and on a lead. However I was still collared and placed on a lead on all fours and fastened to the table leg while the two ladies had afternoon drinks.

Sara liked the idea of the collar and lead and kept it on me when we left with me being pulled along by my lead. Now Sara her friend said remember what I told you inside about her next stage of development.

As you are aware I have a new cage fitted with the urethral insert and I have been allowed to accustomize myself into the wearing of an internal tube inside my penis by only being required to wear my cage during my waking hours. However mistress has read that wearing a urethral insert and a smaller cage significantly reduces the ability to erect which she has confirmed while I have been getting used to the new device. I have fewer attempted erections in this tiny cage and they also subside much faster.

As such my time locked key was this morning locked for 24 hours, mistress says its time to gradually start wearing my cage over night too with the ultimate aim of her just locking the keys in the time-safe for days at a time to a maximum of 10 days between removal for cleaning.

I must admit I am not as fearful of sleeping caged in this device as I have been with my other larger cages which really hurt my sac. So I am hoping that I will not erect as strongly during the night allowing me to be locked for longer and longer. Ultimately mistress says that I will be required to wear a cage all the time and maybe allowed out every month for cleaning then put back into my cage for undetermined periods. She says the total removal of my ability to erect and orgasm will be a strong influence on my new femininity and she would like to observe how I cope with total denial. For extremely good behavior I may be allowed to erect after being milked but orgasm the male way she says will be maybe twice a year once by penetration and the other a possible forced masturbation in front of her and friend.

So life is going to get quite interesting and frustrating I can see and I do wonder what total denial for undetermined periods will be like at first.

At present I am allowed to orgasm maybe once a month by observed masturbation while being mocked for not erecting fully or being as large as I was prior to my chastity confinement. Mistress says a sissy should not have a big willy anymore and if I can now only erect like a shemale I should welcome my new condition as it is fitting to my new feminine life.

Now I have succeeded in locking a device onto her that she cannot defeat the true chastity can begin where ultimately she will be wearing a cage now for the rest of her marriage and most likely 24/7 with periods of release for very good behavior. Standard behavior will not result in any release bad behavior she will be punished by various methods including chaining.

The last time I allowed her release from her cage for a few days she got quite depressed and longed for the confinement and denial so her cage is now really part of her life and without it attached she is less happy. Also she has now developed over the years of chastity a very submissive and feminized demure so the time is now just right to fully lock and skirt her.

If it was possible which I know it is not I would have her welded into the cage but that is not practical so that is just a fantasy of mine to have my male fully neutered however some day she may request gender reassignment surgery which I will not object to if that’s what it comes to.

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This was Sunday, and he was scheduled for ejaculation.  I told him that ejaculation will be postponed maybe until Tuesday.  This really got his attention.  This is one thing us wives need to realize.   When we control the ejaculation schedule, we wield great influence over our husbands.  I explained why his special day would be delayed, and that before sex happens today, there will be a punishment delivered.  He insisted that it wasn’t necessary, and he would be good in the future, but that doesn’t take care of the inappropriate behavior that had occurred.  I explained that whenever he feels like he wants sex today, he needs to let me know, and we’ll take care of it.  This is what’s good about this method.  He will always submit to discipline, because he will always be driven eventually to a strong desire to enter me.  As women we need to realize we set the terms of entry to our vaginas and not to give that up lightly.  Eventually, he came to me and said he’d like to have sex.  I said that’s fine, but there’s business to take care of first.

I told him to strip and get on his knees.  I think it’s important for him to be naked so his penis is displayed just to assess his arousal.  I notice when he’s on his knees, his penis is standing straight up.  This will not be a successful punishment if that penis is still standing when I’m done.  Again, it’s not punishment if it arouses him.  I restrain his hands as he can’t seem to keep them away from his rear while I deliver his strapping.  I use leather cuffs with metal carabiners that clip into the headboard and put pillows under his pelvis to get his rear in the air.  This not only makes the target easier to strike, but it also displays the penis so I can assess the progress of his arousal, as well as his testicles that adds some extra fear as he needs to hold very still during his strapping so that the three tailed strap doesn’t catch a ball or two because of moving.  It may be arousing at the start but quickly escalates with sincere tears and cries for me to “Please Stop!!!”.  But of course it’s only just the beginning.  It’s important for him to have genuine remorse, and a desire to change. As far as I’m concerned the strapping hasn’t started until his penis is completely soft after stripping the arousal out of the experience with 10 or 15 strokes with the leather strap, and then the punishment can begin.  After examining his soft penis, I can see he’s definitely not having fun anymore, and then we’ll start counting the strokes.  This is why this is rare, but I am really starting to appreciate this activity.  As we count, we’ll stop periodically so his rear can rest, and he can explain to me why this is happening which is of course because he doesn’t think before he opens his mouth, and he can also explain to me what his future strategy will be to make sure it doesn’t happen again.  Then we resume.  My goal was 50, but he really could only make it to 41.  I could see that he just wasn’t going to make it through that last nine.  My fault for not pacing the intensity right, and I might have been enjoying it too much.  Plus the 20 inch wooden drilled paddle is brutal.  In any case, I could see he was filled with remorse, and sincerely wanted to change.

I’ve gained deeper insight into this activity since we started a year ago.  Men are taught early on that boys don’t cry.  Men conceal their feelings and aren’t prone to displays of vulnerability.  I can see how this would bring a couple closer together as the wife has the power to bring the husband to a state of tears.  As he discovers his place, it brings us closer together.  It’s a very intimate experience between husband and wife.  It also appears to be a very bonding experience that a man won’t experience in any other way.  His heart is genuinely turned toward the wife seeking forgiveness.

When it’s over, he resumes his place on his knees, and I notice his penis is completely flaccid. Success.  I have him explain why I had to do that and what his place in this relationship is, which is of course to be my loving supportive husband and to talk to me in a way that reflects that.  While on his knees his steel rod begins to appear anticipating sex.  We have sex, and I maintain him mostly in his pre-climax state throughout.  It ends without ejaculation, if not a lot of crying, whimpering and screaming as he tries to avoid emission.  It would be a shame to have to repeat that punishment all over again.  I tell him maybe later ejaculation might happen, but that I’m proud of him that he took his discipline so well and that went a long way to securing ejaculation later in the day …possibly.

I don’t know for sure, but I’m thinking of following my new found joy in this activity.  I’ve told my husband this might be an important weekly activity as I explore my nature as a woman, and also as a powerful reminder to him as to his place in the relationship as a supportive loving husband although the severity may certainly be less depending on his behavior through the week.

I’m poised at another fork in the road where semen retention has lead us.  My husband’s natural state practicing semen retention craves a dominant merciless female authority, and I find that I genuinely enjoy breaking him more than I have in the past which is something new for me.  I’m actually considering a weekly beating for my husband just for my pleasure as well as to keep our roles aligned so he doesn’t drift to that assertive aggressive male state that we just experienced.  My husband’s state of mind is that he’s here to serve me.   He craves to demonstrate before me his willingness to endure anything even if it’s just to serve a whim of my own amusement.

At the end of the week, he decided /wanted/craved to come back and submit to semen retention, the ejaculation schedule and consequences for unauthorized ejaculation.  The pleasure he now derives from our method of intercourse is a state of hyper pleasure where everything else pales in comparison.  He’s been so well trained in this method, I really wonder if he would be able to perform standard sex if I found him a normal pretty girl or even get a good erection for her.  He now requires a particular set of circumstances to perform.  If a normal woman tried to have intercourse with him, she would need to read my instruction manual to even get him started.  His erection during our standard sex session was only adequate for penetration, hardly adequate to reach my A-Spot in the cervix area and provided little pleasure for me.

I’ve never been concerned about my husband cheating on me, but after what I experienced with him during his week off, I really don’t see him performing without the appropriate circumstances.  I’m not saying it’s impossible for him to have sex in a normal fashion with a pretty girl that just wants to get laid, but it would be highly unlikely and difficult for him.  Once you have your husband trained and broken in with this method, I think standard sex will be very disappointing for him no matter how much he says he wants to just ejaculate whenever he pleases.

I think he’s effectively been castrated except for when I need his penis for my purposes.   He’s no longer compelled to masturbate, and his ejaculation is conditioned to the sound of my voice issuing the release command.  His erections are unbelievable when submitting to a female authority.  Many men can have difficulty sustaining an erection during standard intercourse, but once my husband is at full mast, his penis stays locked in that 100% erect state for the duration of our lengthy session and for some time even after our session is over.

He’s trading his one orgasm to have me orgasm 18 times on his face. If your husband chooses this road, your orgasm will be his orgasm.  He will be in service which is the higher calling than his self indulgent ejaculation.  It’s my husband’s excruciating pleasure, screaming, whining, crying, begging that drives me to an intense whole body orgasm as I’m flooded with his energy that passes to me that I then share with him as I ride his face in ecstasy 8 -18 more times and finally drown out his cries as he receives me at the end of our session.  In the end, he’s traded 1-2 minutes of substandard thrusting with 10 seconds of pleasure for 20-30 minutes of excruciating pleasure almost daily.

Despite his experience with his week off, I’m still holding off on having him hand over complete control over his ejaculation to me in an official ceremony of lifetime commitment.  I still consider this a trial period.  It’s a very huge decision for him, and once it’s done, it’s done.  He will be effectively castrated except when I require it for my service, and it will be drained per the schedule I set for it accepting it without question, and unauthorized spills will be punished severely as they are now, but there will be no turning back.  This commitment won’t be taken lightly.  He’s made that pledge for our trial period, but I think it gives him peace of mind that there might be a way out.  I can see obviously that there is no way but this way.  His penis doesn’t function without the three pillars of semen retention, ejaculation schedule, and consequences for unauthorized ejaculation, but he needs to come to that conclusion as well.  After the ceremony this way of life will be a condition to be in a relationship with me.

Before initiating the two week period, I had a male that, even though he practiced semen retention with daily stimulation, still requested free computer time to view nude novel human females.  When I gave permission, fifteen minutes of viewing time was allowed.  During that time he was allowed to view various nude novel human females which he found pleasure in viewing.

I continue to practice intercourse this way, and our sessions remain at about 30 minutes in length.  This is why it’s essential to have consequences for unauthorized ejaculation.  As he is being stimulated for 20-30 minutes in his pre-emission state, he desperately wants to ejaculate, and all I have to do is remind him of the severe averse stimulus that waits on the other side of that unauthorized ejaculation to help him retain.  He’s not getting that release, but the pleasure he experiences is the most intense he’s ever experienced.  So, despite his begging to release, it’s important for the female to remain firm and know she is doing the best thing for him and the relationship. This is why I believe it’s important for the woman to secure a commitment from her husband that he will abide by her ejaculation schedule, giving her absolute control over his release.  If I would have known this before we got married, I would have included it in his vows in a private ceremony after the public ceremony.  I think this would be ideal to have a ceremony like this on the wedding night or after a trial period after the marriage.

Sex is very intense for me as well as him when intercourse is practiced in this manner.  It does produce a male that absolutely worships and submits to the female.

I very seldom even touch my husbands penis except to hold it to lube it for vaginal entry and it is very brief. My husband is solely stimulated by my vagina. I believe strongly in the union between the lingam and yoni and all the benefits it yields. I’m on top mostly. He stimulates himself as well as me of course by thrusting very near or close to semen emission. He backs off if he gets to close, and resumes staying close to that state without emission. He also gets short breaks (9-18 of them) as I orgasm, jump on his face for additional clitoral stimulation, and get back on his penis and ride to the next one. I hope that’s clear. He is almost always close to emission (pre-climax stimulation). I don’t let him drop out of pre-climax for long. Just long enough for him to maintain control. I’m always spurring him to thrust if he can. He’s desperate for release and almost delirious by the time I’m finished (about 20-30 minutes).

My experience is that my husband is wholly inadequate to reach this area unless he’s completely 100% engorged to his full 6″ circumference 6 1/2″ length.  If he decreases in size even a little, I notice it as it slips out of that zone, and I firmly issue the “bigger” command. If he does not comply, he knows that he is in for some severe punishment. Reminding him of this consequence usually helps harden his erection.

To reinforce correct behavior, Mistress may, from time to time and at Her total discretion, reward submissive male for good behavior by allowing him a certain number of minutes to masturbate under her supervision. submissive male must instantly strip completely when ordered to and Mistress must keep all her clothes on. Mistress will give submissive male the key to unlock his chastity belt and start the clock. The submissive male is never allowed to ejaculate during reward sessions, but may get as close as he likes. As soon as the time is up, the chastity belt must be replaced. The submissive male is never told how many minutes he has.

If keys are not already in the Mistress’s possession, upon signing of contract submissive male is to immediately secure said device and hand over all keys to Mistress. Terms of this contract commence upon transfer of keys.

The Mistress is expected to use any and all means at her disposal to motivate submissive male to willingly and eagerly serve her for her pleasure and submit to her will. Failing that approach, she may use whatever force is necessary to deepen his worshipful submission to her, which is the goal of this Contract and the sworn duty of the Mistress.

To insure a successful marriage and to assure the submissive male is properly trained to meet the requirements of the Mistress, the submissive male will agree to the following regarding the penis, which will now be called the “marital penis”:

The Mistress will have complete ownership and control of the marital penis.

The Mistress will decide if and when the marital penis will be allowed to ejaculate. She may deny giving permission for any period at her sole discretion.

The Mistress may hint at or even promise relief, but in most all cases change her mind later and refuse.

The Mistress will decide the method used to cause the marital penis to ejaculate. She may, for example, have the submissive male masturbate in her presence, or She may choose Her preferred method applied by Her or Her designee.

The submissive male is not permitted to ask for any sexual favors, such as rubbing of the marital penis, insertion into any animate or inanimate objects (except as described below), licking or sucking unless directed or initiated by the Mistress.

The submissive male is not permitted to touch the marital penis without permission, except to shave his penis and balls under the Mistress’s supervision. The submissive male must keep his genitals free of hair at all times.

The submissive male will wear a chastity belt when ordered by Mistress. Wearing the chastity belt symbolizes the Mistress’s absolute domination and control of the marital penis.

As training progresses, the Mistress shall raise her standards of performance, adjust rewards, and make any changes she feels necessary to achieve A+ behavior in submissive male.

To insure a successful marriage, the Mistress has the following rights:

The Mistress has complete ownership and control of the marital penis and She and only She will decide when it will be touched, rubbed, sucked or placed into or on any object whether animate or inanimate and when or even if it may ejaculate.

The Mistress requires the submissive male to wear a chastity device on the marital penis that may eliminate engorgement of the marital penis, touching of the marital penis, and has absolute control of ejaculation.

The Mistress has the right to deny ejaculation for the entire term of this Contract or to deny ejaculation until submissive male’s training is completed.

Should the Mistress instruct that the marital penis be allowed to ejaculate, in order to reaffirm and strengthen the submission of the submissive male to the Mistress, the Mistress has the right to dictate the method of recycling of the ejaculate. The submissive male must always ask for permission before any ejaculation and agrees to follow Mistress’s instructions. Wife will intentionally deny permission in most cases.

The Mistress has the right to dictate any method of recycling of the ejaculate in any way She sees fit to further the submissive male’s submissive training and obedience through the use of humiliation.

The Mistress has the right to demand sexual pleasure from the submissive male at any time without any reciprocal duties, which may include but not be limited to cunnilingus, fornication and body worship.

Since the Mistress no longer needs the marital penis for satisfaction, She may seek other means of satisfaction.

Upon demand, the Mistress has the right to have Her pussy licked clean by the submissive male.

Mistress may instruct submissive male to be the dominant one and act accordingly, at her whim. submissive male must comply. Mistress must provide specific instruction or training in her desired rendition of this role.

At any time indicated by the Mistress, but without the suggestion of the submissive male, the submissive male shall immediately strip and kneel before the Mistress, or take any position demanded by the Mistress, either restrained or not.

The Mistress has the right to administer punishment spankings at anytime, for any reason, including no reason at all.

To maintain discipline, the Mistress will spank the submissive male at least once a week during the scheduled discipline session.

To insure a successful marriage, and to train the submissive male to meet the Mistress’s high standards, the Mistress will punish the submissive male for any of the following infractions. This is a minimal guide only and does not limit the Mistress to decide to punish for other infractions or for her entertainment:

• Not following instructions or not completing job assignments to Mistress’s satisfaction.
• Making any reference to sex, submission, or being a slave on Tuesday, Wednesday, or Thursday, except that he will present himself on demand to his Mistress for punishment and job assignments at her command.
• Not satisfying his Mistress when directed to do so.
• Not following the dress code.
• Complaining or forbidding the Mistress to have sex outside the marriage as is Her right. 50
• Touching his penis.
• Ejaculating without permission. 50
• Asking for sexual favors from any Female, including the Mistress.
• Failure to anticipate the Mistress’s needs for comfort and affection.
• Failure to read his Mistress’s mind in regard to any matter.

To insure a successful chastity marriage, the Mistress may punish the submissive male as follows:

• Spanking
• Whipping
• Binding him to the bed or other object for extended periods of time. During this time she may spank or whip the submissive male’s body. The penis or balls may be bound and/or stretched with any device the Mistress chooses. This will possibly increase the size of the substandard puny marital penis.
• Restraining him with ropes, belts, chains or handcuffs
• Prolonging the submissive male’s chastity period
• Applying pressure to the submissive male’s balls to create discomfort. Since the submissive male does not own the marital penis and balls, the level of pressure exerted on the balls is entirely up to the Mistress’s discretion.

To insure a successful chastity marriage, the submissive male acknowledges that the following are privileges, not punishments:

• Satisfying his Mistress, whenever and however She demands.
• Allowing the Mistress to withhold her permission for his ejaculation to improve the marriage by making him more attentive and responsive.
• Cleaning his Mistress’s pussy with his mouth on Her demand and after intercourse.
• Dress code including chastity devices.
• Punishment administered by his Mistress or Her designee.

Once you are fully sure that FLR is what you want, the only way to live it properly is to fully control your sub. Not partially, but fully. You are becoming a ruler, he is becoming an obedient pet servant. So, just as with the ownership, control starts best by controlling his sexual urges. Apparently my husband was much kinkier then me, it is he who introduced the idea of chastity. He introduced it, I embraced it after a while. Simple…it turns him on to be locked up, it turns me on to have him locked up and under control. After he became my submissive, he started to admit all kinds of thing I never knew before. For example, he admitted that he loves to masturbate, regardless of the fact that we always had great sex. It did surprise me for a moment but I realized and understood why…he never before had a chance to explore and fulfill his kinky desires, so he did that by fantasizing about it and masturbating, while we were not together. That had to stop so now, my hubby is locked in his CB 6000 chastity device, unlocked only when I see fit…CONTROL.

I keep all the keys but still, when we are not together, he has to oblige whenever I ask and send me a photo of his locked penis. This is control, even from a distance. Feels good and, after his chastity life began, I introduced slowly more and more control over all aspects of our life. His chastity didn’t begin with full-time wearing of his device. I slowly increased the time I kept his penis locked up to the point where now it is rare for him to be unlocked for more than a few minutes a month. Likewise, his day is very structured with chores and serving my needs, with very little free time available to him. It is what I think works best for our relationship and we couldn’t be happier.

It is esential to control subs orgasms for a simple reason…a horny and frustrated male is a better servant. Men tend to lose interest in their partners needs, once they are allowed to orgasm. Once you establish this, path to full ownership becomes very short. Control a penis, control a man. In all aspects of FLR, verbal part is very important. Constat verbal repeating of Dom’s and subs’s status in a relationship, definately makes a sub more submissive. This also can easily be tested, the same way I described testing of fetishes, previously. “Yes” is a word you want to hear all the time, so make sure you repeat whatever you see fit, until sub’s replies are only yeses.

Cunnilingus is the best example to decribe devotional sex, but of course do not limit yourself to only cunnilingus.

What is devotional sex? So your sub claims that he will do anything to please yout. This of course is not limited to sex, but lets start with it. From the point at which both of you agree to have a FLR, it practiclly means that your subs attention and focus will be you, your desires, your pleasure, your needs. Yes it is selfish, but in order for FLR to function the way it should, selfish is a must.

So devotional sex in short, would be your sexual pleasure first, your subs second,,,if any at all, but we will come to that later.

Back to cunnilingus, you will be in position to have it any place, any time, any way you want it. If your partner is submissive, then by default he loves going down on you. If you love cunnilingus, now is your oportunity to really enjoy it sensless. And remember, repetition is a tool for obedience and quality training.

I love being able to do the chores so that she can relax and appreciate my efforts. Down on my hands and knees cleaning the kitchen floor, cleaning the bathroom. I do 90% of the shopping always being careful to have the items she likes around the house. i have become a very good cook adapting my meals to the things that she enjoys most. My favorite gifts are when she buys me something for my work in the kitchen. These include cooking lessons with a local chef, a high quality knife set, a fresh pasta maker, a set of mixing bowls, feminine aprons, and others.

Progressively, once locked up, a sub will get more comfortable wearing the cage, more relaxed being unable to orgasm, he will begin to enjoy his frustration more and more and eventually, just as my husband did, he will come to offer You total denial, permanent chastity, and will forfeit his orgasms completely. Eventually he will come to accept not to cum at all.

Now, I do not practice that as I just love seeing a perfectly performed ruined orgasm. I love the expression on his face the moment he realises his orgasm will be ruined, once again.

So I implemented some new things within my husbands daily training. Being chaste, teased and denied, is our routine for quite a long time now and it functions neatly. So for the Lockotober of 2016 I made few changes to his chaste state.

First of all, the cage is not coming off for the whole month, no matter what.

Second, he has to earn his tease time and I left it to his imagination on how he’ll earn it. I might be satisfied with his action or not, up to him.

So basically, he is now trained not to beg for release and satisfaction, instead he begs for frustration and sweet pain.

Recently I received an email from a woman stating that her life got so much better and beautiful, since she got in charge of the relationship and her husband. She esatblished a “true” FLR with her hubby and now, he is to do chores all day and night long.

Yes my husband does most of the chores but, where is the rest of fun if your sub is constantly doing something around the house?

Yes it is fun to watch him naked on his knees, cleaning between floor tiles.

Yes it is fun to have him wash my car.

Yes it is so hot seeing him naked and caged, in only his apron, preparing me a great dinner.

Yes it is hot to make him a waiter for the evening and just allow him to serve at the table.

The main thing I wanted to share was my use of feminization and emasculation

I let him know that if his male ego starts to surface in an inappropriate way that I don’t like I will have to reinforce and further emasculate him. I explain to him very clearly that due to his behavior his masculinity will be jeopardized. This always strikes fear into his eyes as I know he does not enjoy the humiliation that follows. During our next session I will remind him about his mistake so he can appropriately link his egotistical outburst to his pending humility. I always try to associate arousal and edging with all humility to help deepen the control and conditioning of the acts. As with all conditioning, they need constant reinforcement.

The contract itself has to be a general agreement of lifetime of servitude and chastity, not too elaborated when ti comes to kinks and daily actions. This will be added as an appendix to the contract later on, if I see fit.

Since the hubby is not working this week and I am, I’ll make sure he has enough daily chores to not be able to complete them all. Simply to have grounds to punish him!

I want to drive my husband’s submission deeper. Like you, I’ve already incorporated allowing him only ruined orgasms (he hasn’t had a real orgasm in almost 2 years). Also similar to you, I spank, cane him frequently (and, I find beating his butt very arousing to me). However, I don’t spank every day like you. I spank quite hard and he would be very sore if I did this daily. How hard are the daily spankings and do you increase the intensity when you deliver a punishment spanking?

ATTITUDE is a major part of daily and constant maintenance of your relationship. Sub men tend to lose their place quickly, if not regularly put there. By ATTITUDE, I do not say a woman has to be or act as a bitch all the time but, there is this fine line defining this constant attitude of power. It need to be visible all the time; your sub has to feel it all the time. If a woman is capable of training herself for this kind of appearance, in time, it just begins to radiate from you and so, presence is constant. Sounds a bit difficult but it actually is not. Since I did not know all this, somehow I came to realize it, gradually, just by looking at my husband’s behaviour in times I would act bitchy.

In between chores, my pet gets 10 min off as a pause during which, I always request some kind of attendance to my needs. This time, some minutes of foot worship did just well for both. He is chaste, he is horny all the time but I still like to increase it whenever I can. Cage on, balls full, no orgasms…you’d be surprised how easily a man get on his knees ready to do whatever it takes to please you and earn one orgasm, ruined one.

Then comes the lunch time. I let my pet choose what to prepare from time to time. In most cases I choose the menu. So I sit back, relax, read something and watch my pet in the kitchen, naked with only his apron, chastity cage and panties on. So hot.

Except for eventual cuddling, I am rarely in mood for anything else but piece and quiet. But, before any meal, I love being fully relaxed so…once the meal was over and ready, I asked for an aperitif for myself, and an appetizer for my pet.. Aperitif usually consist of an alcoholic beverage, strong one, like Jack Daniels with coke before lunch on Saturday. The appetizer for the pet was of course, taste of my pussy. His efforts are priceless; and he is aware that lack of an orgasm for me, might end up in not so nice consequences, for him. But he performs so well and I cum so easily 🙂

Being generous and selfless as I am, I often reward my pet hubby. So in the afternoon, I gave him 90 minutes to rest with no obligations whatsoever or, have some time for himself the way he wanted. 88 minutes later, my pet is at my disposal again, wondering if there is something I needed. When he is like that, sometimes I almost feel sorry a bit. Sometimes I wonder if this FLR we are having is equally satisfying and fair. These moments last around 2 minutes and appear twice or perhaps 3 times a month 🙂 In such moments, sometimes I ask him if there is anything he wants me to do for him. Lately and mostly, he kindly asks for pegging 😀 So I oblige…every time.

This one should not be that difficult, simply do not help him with anything for a week and see how it feels. To spice it up, complain a little and give him some additional chores. See how it goes then, if he is a real submissive, he’ll do it all with a smile on his face. Pick a day or two at which you will request him to give you oral orgasms once he has completed all chores for the day. Do not forget to mention that your orgasm is his reward for a job done well.

Ruined orgasms keep him horny and healthy. I cannot remember last time my husband had a real orgasm, and since he is so willing, I am seriously thinking of not letting him have one, ever again. From now on, probably only ruined ones.

Your sub needs to cum and he will do anything to cum. You will allow him to cum on occasion but you will also slowly take away his right to have that pleasure. Ruin his orgasms often and make him thank you. In time you could easily have him pleasure-less and without actual orgasms, up to you. Remember, an orgasm is not a right, it is a health necessity. It is not a reward either. Yours are important and only orgasms that should be cherished.

My FLR is kind of reaching the top of its meaning. My husband is practically my slave now, he is well trained, chaste, devotional and truly obedient. So now, my mind has lately been occupied with the idea of cuckolding. I am still very hesitant about it but I must admit it intrigues me. It is hot actually. We both travel quite a bit and spend considerable amount of time, separated. And it is hot. And it gives opportunities. And he is to remain faithful. And I just love sex. And whenever we talk about it, he gets hornier by it then any other kink.

I am kind of worried I am becoming the ultimate bitch 😉

Has he voluntarily gave up on his manhood? Is every bit of him now your property? Is he relaxed with being chaste, no matter for how long?

If the answers are all YES, you might be on a true path to true sustainable Female Led Relationship. If some of the answers are NO, then do something about it 🙂

It is good to have your submissive repeat chores on same days, but such scheduling should not limit you of course. Example given, my husband is required to perform full toilet cleanup twice a week, on Mondays and Thursdays. Of course, he does it also whenever I tell him to regardless if the toilet actually requires cleaning or not…and no questions asked. In the beginning he used to ask why. But with proper training, he got much obedient and now he knows not to ask anymore.

Under 4, my subby agreed to waive all his classic orgasms and, from now on, have only ruined ones. I see this as quite of an offering and renunciation, and must say how very proud I am of my sub. But then, I caught myself thinking of how maybe it would be sooo nice, if I could get him to renounce the ruined orgasms, too 🙂 Plus, I so much love to tease, edge and deny…hmmmmm….am I becoming a devious, vicious, sadistic bitch?

Until now we played with chastity on and off, on and off. We agreed that from now on, it will be permanent and the cage will come off only when I am in need of his tools and 3 times a week for proper hygiene of his genitals. These 3 times a week will be supervised by me and will not last more then 20 minutes, after that, back in the cage.

One huge and perhaps most important part of training is spanking. Spanking, caning, whipping, flogging, any of these terms. For a sub getting used to be spanked every day, just as getting used to have less and less pleasure, is a bottom line from which everything else is built up and on.

Some years ago, at the very beginning, I made my husband promise me he won’t have an uncontrolled orgasm, ever again. That was before I introduced chastity.

Chastity is a beautiful thing but, chastity with a dose of tease and denial is spectacular. I do that a lot, both tease and denial.

Keeping him horny and frustrated makes my day…and makes him a better and more usable servant. Lately I have been practicing a lot of ruined orgasms. Why? Well, ruined orgasms are much less pleasurable then classic orgasms, and give you an additional sense of power. In order to achieve high level of devotional sex, it is not enough just to make it unequal between partners. A sub has to be trained to feel less and less pleasure, to practically give up on orgasms as an ultimate pleasure, and transfer all of his attention to you. Ruined orgasm does the health thing for him, his testicles get some relief and that is mainly it. He remains horny and semi-frustrated. Next thing to come will be a way of milking, the way he won’t feel any pleasure…but that’s still to be learned by me 🙂 Anyway we are so close to the point at which he will give up on all orgasmic ways…can’t wait :

I live the FLR lifestyle 24/7/365, with my husband subservient to me and securely locked in a Neosteel Arch belt. It has been a long and winding journey which I would like to share with anyone who is interested.

Deciding to convert our marriage to FLR was a major step, but locking my husband in chastity was in many ways even more important and has made my life exactly what I always wanted and deserved.

It has been a 40 year road to get to this point. I want to share day to day issues that come up and hear from all of you in this forum but I have to explain how I reached this stage of my life, I hope it is helpful so that you can understand a mean bitch’s point of view.

In my relationship with my husband I am 100% dominant, but he doesn’t greet me on his knees, dress up like a sissy or play any sort of fantasy games. The fact that I am in complete control of his life is enough.

My word is law. My husband is in 24/7 chastity and he is released only if I decide to grant him release. I make all the household decisions. I keep him busy with domestic tasks all day long. It’s not an easy life for him and I’m not interested in making it harder for him by humiliating him further or playing games with him.

He doesn’t need any reminders that I have his balls under my heel. I want this relationship to work and to enjoy his servitude long term, so I am not going to make things harder for him than they need to be. I understand that some men may fantasize and enjoy getting down on their knees or being feminized, but thats not the case with my husband, so I’m not going to rub the loss of his manhood in his face any more than necessary.

#1 You can’t change how a person is wired. I am naturally assertive, selfish and decisive. My husband is naturally a weak, submissive beta. So I took command of our relationship and made him subservient to me, and there wasn’t too much resistance from him because of how he is wired. A real alpha man would not have allowed his wife to lock him up and basically take his manhood away. And I admit that I am selfish and hard on my husband.

#2 It is vital to be firm but fair. To be consistent at all times. To have a transparent system of rewards and punishments. My husband knows exactly what the rules are and what is expected from him. If he falls short or disobeys me he knows what the punishment will be, and if he pleases me and completes all his chores he knows that he can count on being rewarded, which includes a release from his belt. Sometimes I am in a bad mood and feel like taking it out on him. And sometimes I sympathize with him but I stick to the rules. Example: he has to lose one pound per week because he is overweight and I want him skinny. A few weeks ago I weighed him on our digital scale and he was 0.1 pounds short of his goal, which meant that he would stay locked up for another week. He was almost in tears and I actually felt sorry for him but it was important to maintain discipline so the belt stayed on. One of my rules is no whining or complaining so he just had to take it, he knew that if he begged me to release him I would add another week to his chastity. Tough, but fair.

#3 Belt >>> Cage. Switching my husband from a cage to a full belt was necessary for security, but it goes way deeper than that. Men have a sense of pride and arrogance simply based on having a cock. A good belt removes any access to his cock and pulls it back leaving a feminine flat front with no bulge at all, and it also forces the man to squat in order to pee. It has a huge psychological effect in taming the man and eliminating the masculine traits that interfere with FLR. In my husband’s case it had an immediate effect on his personality and resulted in a healthy attitude adjustment.

It’s funny that you brought up that example. My husband had really let him self go, being at home he would just eat junk food and be very sedentary. He had gained 45 lb since we got married and not looking or feeling good. So I set a target for him of losing one pound per week (a very safe and reasonable goal) and I weigh him on his release day. So far he has reached his goal every week except one and lost almost 20 lb. He feels proud, he has a sense of accomplishment and he has more energy so he is happier. There is no chance that he would have made the changes to his diet and exercise unless he had the incentive of getting his weekly release from the belt, and he acknowledges that. The other thing is that when we go out he has to wear a shaper under his clothes because I refuse to be seen with a slovenly man. He hates it because it’s uncomfortable but as soon he reaches his goal he won’t have to wear it any more, which has motivated him to lose even more than a pound some weeks, so again the goal of a reward is motivating him to do what is good for him.

I unlock the belt and he is free to do whatever he wants. I have no desire to watch him or supervise, and I hope he enjoys himself. Then the belt goes back on the new week begins. I leave him alone so that he enjoys himself, I want him motivated until the next release.

Excellent you are training him well. I stopped my husband masturbating by also locking him in chastity and its taken a while to find the right device that is secure and neat. He is now locked each day in his steel cage which also penetrates his urethra which stops him escaping.

I also decided that since he was no use as a male any more he can be my girl friend so I dress him up too as part of his submission training.
Works for me and keeps him so stimulated he does anything I want and is now only allowed to wear skirts and heels while at home.

Dependence and Denial are the foundations of a successful FLR, at least in my experience.

Denial is what keeps my husband motivated. Being well behaved gets him a brief release from the belt so it’s a simple reward system that keeps him working hard to please me.

Dependence keeps him in line. As the breadwinner, from the start I took full control of the finances so that he had to ask me for every dollar and then account for it. This was very hard for him to get used to. But it’s important because it means he doesn’t have the option to go out to a bar or stray or to do anything that I don’t think is good for him. He still struggles with it. It’s not easy for a man to give up all control, but it’s necessary to keep him in his place.

My wife is bi, no longer has her long time girlfriend with her and prefers sex with women. She has not allowed intercourse for longer than we can remember but my guess is about 20 years. Her normal method of having an orgasm is using a vibrator but she will allow me to perform oral sex on her as a special treat. I know she is thinking of her girlfriend as I do it but I still enjoy it. Problem is that my wife reaches her orgasms in under 3 minutes and sometimes, like two days ago, in under a minute so I do not really get much time to perform oral on her.

My wife is not shy about letting me know that if I die before her she is done with men. She has tried other men and hated it so I was chosen to be her only male and until her girlfriend came along we had great sex all the time. She just prefers women but does have very intense orgasm with me too. She is post menopausal, low libido and rather I was a woman so she has stated that she would love if I never had an orgasm anymore but knows that I need them. She tried to get me to agree to an orgasm every 6 months and is aware that if she removes all my orgasms, I have no incentive to be as obedient as she would like me to be and I would be miserable with no hope at all. I got her down to a 3 month maximum but she usually keeps an eye on me and if she thinks that I am in mental or physical distress, she will let me orgasm. I like that. I used to feel a lot of anxiety about longer term orgasm denial but I know that she loves me and will not let me suffer too much.

If I use my safeword to let her know that I need an orgasm for real, she will give me the key, leave the bedroom and tell me to lock up after I am done. Then she leaves me alone. I used my safe word once in year 2 when I was approaching the 3rd month of denial. However once she gave me the key and left I realized that I did not want to masturbate, I wanted her to make me cum so I locked up and told her that I did not masturbate and we continued as before with no orgasms for me. She reminded me that sex is about her and only her.

She insists that I do all of the housework, cleaning, cooking, mopping and laundry. She feels that it is my job as her submissive and husband to serve her and expect nothing in return. I am just glad to have an orgasm every three months, but I know she will eventually demand permanent chastity, which I will have no choice but to accept. She always gets her way.

ME: “I really wanted to cum tonight, maybe you can let me masturbate this week.”

HER: No, that’s not happening, those days are behind you honey.

ME: Sigh

HER: “I know you love it, the closeness, all the extra attention, the teasing, all the sex and everything else.” (Her getting more tired)

ME: “Except for cumming”

HER: (Smiles and looks me right in the eyes)…NO honey, that part’s only for me now.

I am in complete control of our finances. I am fair and reasonable in providing for my husband’s needs but he is completely dependent on me and has to justify every expense, no matter how small. Total financial control is essential for a proper FLR, in my experience.

Surprisingly (to me) at first my husband struggled with giving up financial control even more than giving up sexual control. Not having money of his own, having to ask me for money and for permission to spend it was really hard for him although he has gotten used to it now.

Have been in a complete FLR for several years but just started pegging my husband recently. I should have started pegging him long ago. It is an incredible feeling to strap it on and penetrate a man, it’s hard to describe the power and fulfillment that I feel. Taking my husband’s ass is the ultimate assertion of my dominance and is tremendously satisfying. It also really drives home (pun intended) who is in charge and that this FLR is for real.

Speaking for my husband he resisted and begged me not to peg him, but now that I have penetrated him a number of times I would describe his feelings as mixed. He can’t deny the physical stimulation even though he is somewhat embarrassed at being aroused at being drilled in the ass by his wife. But since his sexuality is limited to occasional masturbation and constant oral service of me, being pegged is the most stimulation that he is going to get, and he appreciates that.

But I think the most important thing is that it gives us both a strong feeling of intimacy and connection. It bothers his ego that he has to accept the traditional woman’s role of submission and being penetrated, but it is intimate and bonding. So for me the experience is both loving and a gigantic ego boost. The act of screwing a man in the ass is undeniably gratifying. But surprisingly the emotional connection I feel with my husband is even more satisfying.

It has worked perfectly for me, my husband is released weekly but he has to lose 1 lb per week. He has almost always reached the goal that I set and he feels better and looks better. The belt is the best motivator there is.

My husband hates being locked in his belt, so keeping him in line is easy for me – if he disobeys me in any way I postpone his release and he has to endure at least another week of chastity.

Generally I like him touching me and servicing me with his tongue although at times it only increases his frustration. As far as touching himself, the belt doesn’t really allow it, again it just seems that is increases his frustration to arouse himself in any way, but that’s his problem.

It’s good to be the boss!

My Wife/Dom keeps a wooden spoon in her purse at all times. Many times she has removed it and smacked me in the nuckles while i attempt to grope her. It is very effective for her. This coupled with the threat of additional time locked up should do the trick. Good luck. My Wife asks that you give him a good wack and 30 days for her.

His mind will be occupied on his ass being full
Every movement with his hands will tug on his cage, probably making him fill the cage and cause pressure ( not conducive to sleeping, or thinking about anything else but the pressure and pain in the cage)
When it is time, he can roll out of bed, quietly so he doesn’t wake you
Go to the closet, and unlock himself
Get ready, and go to work
And you are left peacefully still sleep

The key will remain secure in the closet
He will have a couple of sleepless nights while he learns to focus his mind on sleeping instead of groping at you, the plug in his ass, or moving his hands too much.

After awhile try it with out the plug.

If that goes well, try it without the restraints.

If it works, you have trained your Slave.

If he regresses, lock them back on.

Ps if you buy the right size and shape of plug for his anatomy; the pressure alone paired with the natural constrictions of the sphincter during sleep, will cause him to milk himself. And this too will make him more ” docile”.

This same rig with longer wrist chains, is a great way to punish him while he does chores.

For me, too much sex talk, subtle hints I thought were clever, or touching would sometimes result in me having to do one of the following or a combination of two or more:

1) Kneeling on a hard surface and/or on grits for 30 minutes or so. One time, I was bound in a kneel for 4 hours with only one 15 minute checkup break. It took 5 minutes just to be able to stand up right again by the end of it.

2) Having to write a few hundred sentences. Nothing sexier than a hurting hand, right??

I have a problem with my sub that I didn’t think about when I started locking him up. As he spends more time in chastity, he seems to get hornier and hornier and wants to touch and grope me all the time. This is especially a problem in bed and I find myself whacking him in the night to keep his hands to himself.

My goddess keeps me dressed in female attire at all times and securely lock in chastity. At bed time, I am required to make her happy and then go to my bed for the night, it is always her choice as what I am required to do. She has complete control of me, my chastity device is always fully electrically charged for her use, and she can administer pleasure or pain. I must keep her happy at all times; I would never do anything that would encourage her displeasure. Better living through technology

My biggest turn-on is tease and denial.  I am a huge tease.  For me teasing is like breathing.  It’s my second nature. In high school I used to tease boys mercilessly and had them eating out of the palm of My hand.  Chastity feeds right into that.  Having a boy’s cock and balls under My control is one of the most exciting and fulfilling things I get to experience.  There is nothing like the thrill of forcing a boy to beg.  It is a huge turn-on for Me to know I have phil’s cock and balls locked up now for as long I want — and that there’s not a single fucking thing he can do about it!  It will probably be years.  I’m certainly never going to have any use for phil’s pathetic cock.  And neither is he!
Having phil locked up this way is something I’m really proud of too.  When he found My website he thought he was going to use Me to amuse himself until he found a ‘real’ Mistress.  But now I dominate and control every aspect of his life.  The only thing that gives his little life any meaning now is his love for Me and his service to Me.  He knows I’m going to keep him in chastity for years. He knows I’m going to torment him.  I am so proud to have trained him and molded him to such an intense level of submission that he would obediently make such an incredible commitment to Me.

I put it on in the morning and earn points to have it removed before bed. During this period, her idea of chastity is forced during the day and into the evening, and then no participation after she falls asleep, again, always with a foot massage, head scratch or back and neck rub. She holds the key in her hand and will not release it until she falls asleep. Some nights (ugh) she doesn’t open it until I’ve fallen asleep, and then the next morning, “it’s back in the cage for you, mister!!” This works well. it keeps me in constant arousal, she gets what she wants (and isn’t that the reason, guys – and gals-for male chastity??) so everyone wins. in fact, I have not ejaculated in front of her for over 2 months now. But, she expects me to provide her with orgasms when she wants them.

As I mentioned in another thread, my wife uses chastity and/or feminine under-things to keep me in a constant state of arousal, making me constantly think of her all day and coming up with new ways to make her happy. Her co-workers keep asking her if she could clone me, since I always send her flowers, deliver her lunch, press her clothes each morning, and treat her and her friends to happy hour on a regular basis. The fact that I know she controls me, and could publicly humiliate me at a moments notice, is a huge adrenaline rush, which makes me try even harder to impress her and her friends. (and the fact that I might be wearing a garter belt and stockings and/or a CB 6000, makes it even more exciting) I’m whipped and I love it.

But, most of all, she does too. And that what a wife led marriage (femdom/chastity/, etc.) is all about: not you, but her. Serve your wife, make her happy, and she will continue to reciprocate as long as she is getting positive feedback from her chaste husband. Don’t nag her, don’t sub from the bottom- just be a good boy and do the things that make her happy. That is your role as a subordinate husband; accept it and serve your goddess 24/7 !!

The piece is in praise of my Owner, in defence of financial domination done well by a genuine dominant, and in celebration of my permanent locking up in a made-to-measure steel chastity.

I’d discovered the delights of chastity; the ache of desire focussing all thoughts on the dominant.  Goddess soon discovered this and locked me up.  For much of the eight+ years I’ve served Her She’s kept me in chastity.  These have always been plastic devices and not always reliable.  Because of that I never entirely believed in them and the commitment I was making to Goddess by being locked in chastity always felt somehow incomplete.  It had become a dream of mine, and an ambition of Hers, that my chastity should be permanent; I wanted to be Hers completely, unequivocally and demonstrably Her property.  After two plastic devices had failed in the space of a few months, I searched online for a made to measure steel device suitable for permanent wear although without much hope.  To my delight I found a perfect match.  To my further delight Goddess agreed that I could spend the money.  I’ve been locked up in my new inescapable steel chastity for over 100 days now.  The device locks without a padlock and Goddess has the only two keys.  Oh, and for extra safe keeping Goddess is on the opposite side of the Atlantic.  I am Hers.

Like Becky, my Wife is the Head of the household and expects me to follow her lead. I am proud to be her servant and want her to be proud of me. I am a very lucky man because my Wife enjoys being a mistress. It is the little things like kneeling, a curtsey, panty wearing and my chastity that help her to establish authority in everyday situations.