My wife is bi, no longer has her long time girlfriend with her and prefers sex with women. She has not allowed intercourse for longer than we can remember but my guess is about 20 years. Her normal method of having an orgasm is using a vibrator but she will allow me to perform oral sex on her as a special treat. I know she is thinking of her girlfriend as I do it but I still enjoy it. Problem is that my wife reaches her orgasms in under 3 minutes and sometimes, like two days ago, in under a minute so I do not really get much time to perform oral on her.
My wife is not shy about letting me know that if I die before her she is done with men. She has tried other men and hated it so I was chosen to be her only male and until her girlfriend came along we had great sex all the time. She just prefers women but does have very intense orgasm with me too. She is post menopausal, low libido and rather I was a woman so she has stated that she would love if I never had an orgasm anymore but knows that I need them. She tried to get me to agree to an orgasm every 6 months and is aware that if she removes all my orgasms, I have no incentive to be as obedient as she would like me to be and I would be miserable with no hope at all. I got her down to a 3 month maximum but she usually keeps an eye on me and if she thinks that I am in mental or physical distress, she will let me orgasm. I like that. I used to feel a lot of anxiety about longer term orgasm denial but I know that she loves me and will not let me suffer too much.
If I use my safeword to let her know that I need an orgasm for real, she will give me the key, leave the bedroom and tell me to lock up after I am done. Then she leaves me alone. I used my safe word once in year 2 when I was approaching the 3rd month of denial. However once she gave me the key and left I realized that I did not want to masturbate, I wanted her to make me cum so I locked up and told her that I did not masturbate and we continued as before with no orgasms for me. She reminded me that sex is about her and only her.
She insists that I do all of the housework, cleaning, cooking, mopping and laundry. She feels that it is my job as her submissive and husband to serve her and expect nothing in return. I am just glad to have an orgasm every three months, but I know she will eventually demand permanent chastity, which I will have no choice but to accept. She always gets her way.
ME: “I really wanted to cum tonight, maybe you can let me masturbate this week.”
HER: No, that’s not happening, those days are behind you honey.
ME: Sigh
HER: “I know you love it, the closeness, all the extra attention, the teasing, all the sex and everything else.” (Her getting more tired)
ME: “Except for cumming”
HER: (Smiles and looks me right in the eyes)…NO honey, that part’s only for me now.
I am in complete control of our finances. I am fair and reasonable in providing for my husband’s needs but he is completely dependent on me and has to justify every expense, no matter how small. Total financial control is essential for a proper FLR, in my experience.
Surprisingly (to me) at first my husband struggled with giving up financial control even more than giving up sexual control. Not having money of his own, having to ask me for money and for permission to spend it was really hard for him although he has gotten used to it now.
Have been in a complete FLR for several years but just started pegging my husband recently. I should have started pegging him long ago. It is an incredible feeling to strap it on and penetrate a man, it’s hard to describe the power and fulfillment that I feel. Taking my husband’s ass is the ultimate assertion of my dominance and is tremendously satisfying. It also really drives home (pun intended) who is in charge and that this FLR is for real.
Speaking for my husband he resisted and begged me not to peg him, but now that I have penetrated him a number of times I would describe his feelings as mixed. He can’t deny the physical stimulation even though he is somewhat embarrassed at being aroused at being drilled in the ass by his wife. But since his sexuality is limited to occasional masturbation and constant oral service of me, being pegged is the most stimulation that he is going to get, and he appreciates that.
But I think the most important thing is that it gives us both a strong feeling of intimacy and connection. It bothers his ego that he has to accept the traditional woman’s role of submission and being penetrated, but it is intimate and bonding. So for me the experience is both loving and a gigantic ego boost. The act of screwing a man in the ass is undeniably gratifying. But surprisingly the emotional connection I feel with my husband is even more satisfying.
It has worked perfectly for me, my husband is released weekly but he has to lose 1 lb per week. He has almost always reached the goal that I set and he feels better and looks better. The belt is the best motivator there is.
My husband hates being locked in his belt, so keeping him in line is easy for me – if he disobeys me in any way I postpone his release and he has to endure at least another week of chastity.
Generally I like him touching me and servicing me with his tongue although at times it only increases his frustration. As far as touching himself, the belt doesn’t really allow it, again it just seems that is increases his frustration to arouse himself in any way, but that’s his problem.
It’s good to be the boss!
My Wife/Dom keeps a wooden spoon in her purse at all times. Many times she has removed it and smacked me in the nuckles while i attempt to grope her. It is very effective for her. This coupled with the threat of additional time locked up should do the trick. Good luck. My Wife asks that you give him a good wack and 30 days for her.
His mind will be occupied on his ass being full
Every movement with his hands will tug on his cage, probably making him fill the cage and cause pressure ( not conducive to sleeping, or thinking about anything else but the pressure and pain in the cage)
When it is time, he can roll out of bed, quietly so he doesn’t wake you
Go to the closet, and unlock himself
Get ready, and go to work
And you are left peacefully still sleep
The key will remain secure in the closet
He will have a couple of sleepless nights while he learns to focus his mind on sleeping instead of groping at you, the plug in his ass, or moving his hands too much.
After awhile try it with out the plug.
If that goes well, try it without the restraints.
If it works, you have trained your Slave.
If he regresses, lock them back on.
Ps if you buy the right size and shape of plug for his anatomy; the pressure alone paired with the natural constrictions of the sphincter during sleep, will cause him to milk himself. And this too will make him more ” docile”.
This same rig with longer wrist chains, is a great way to punish him while he does chores.
For me, too much sex talk, subtle hints I thought were clever, or touching would sometimes result in me having to do one of the following or a combination of two or more:
1) Kneeling on a hard surface and/or on grits for 30 minutes or so. One time, I was bound in a kneel for 4 hours with only one 15 minute checkup break. It took 5 minutes just to be able to stand up right again by the end of it.
2) Having to write a few hundred sentences. Nothing sexier than a hurting hand, right??
I have a problem with my sub that I didn’t think about when I started locking him up. As he spends more time in chastity, he seems to get hornier and hornier and wants to touch and grope me all the time. This is especially a problem in bed and I find myself whacking him in the night to keep his hands to himself.
My goddess keeps me dressed in female attire at all times and securely lock in chastity. At bed time, I am required to make her happy and then go to my bed for the night, it is always her choice as what I am required to do. She has complete control of me, my chastity device is always fully electrically charged for her use, and she can administer pleasure or pain. I must keep her happy at all times; I would never do anything that would encourage her displeasure. Better living through technology