The key holding side of chastity was fun for a few years, but like many this becomes a chore that D was loosing interest in. The decision to go permanent evolved to where the penis was no longer required in our relationship and the benefits to D of keeping it that way far outweighed her need for PIV. The key is kept in a safe that only D has the combination for and it doesn’t get opened for any other reason than if we have to swap devices for a plastic airport friendly device. The penis is only touched by D when the swap occurs to ensure that no orgasm or pleasure from any touching is experienced, effectively keeping the penis out of the relationship.
We have found that after a few months the desire levels out (at an acceptably high level) to keep me totally fixated on her needs and wishes. In the past this level would reach a point where I became quite needy and painful always expecting that at some point I would be unlocked for penile pleasure and an orgasm. Without this expectation our relationship is calmer and exactly where we want it.
I am locked indefinitely, and my experience is similar to mina’s bitch. I have been locked 24/7 with time out only for exceptional conditions for over 3 years now. My desire remains high, although I am denied orgasm or even erection by the device. The desire does reach a plateau over time, and stays at that level continuously.
I’m sort of in this boat. I’m locked 24/7 indefinitely. Yes, Mrs could unlock me at any time, but in practice, it just doesn’t happen. As she has said: the way we have sex doesn’t have anything to do with my penis anymore. We’re both ok with that.
My wife used to finding hiding/losing the key, locking/unlocking all a bit tiresome. She doesn’t want penetration any more and she loves long-drawn-out pussy worship. Virtually permanent chastity using a Ksafe suits her perfectly. It’s lovely to please her and be submissive to her desires. As for the sensuality of being locked, yes nice most of the time, but while PIV and orgasms are virtually “another life”, my penis likes to erect strongly, and sometimes the feel of the cage around it is a bit too much too handle. Keeping calm, the feeling passes in a few minutes and I’m back on track in the lifestyle.
There is only a point in making it ‘permanent’ if the Keyholder has decided she is not going to want him to have sex with her, or indeed at all, again. And she’ll surely have plenty of other handles to ensure he does as he’s told.
I am the key holder in our relationship, my husband is my submissive. We have found that chastity has actually enhanced our sexual relationship. We both work, we have a child and the busy demands of maintaining a household, but find time for teasing and playing more than we did before he was locked constantly. We send each other messages throughout the day to turn each other on and have used toys and games to tease at night.
As a mistress, I find it highly rewarding to unlock my submissive and tease him until he is begging cum and then stop all touching and tell him to lock himself back up. It leaves him feeling very horny and I feel pleased.
We started out with short time lockups but over the years my wife has become to like my fantasy more than me lol so she is now wanting more I am allowed out once a year but now she wants to stop that she says she enjoys it so much
I know of a couple she keeps him locked 24/7 all year and he may more likely will not get an orgasm in that time.
When they go away on for two weeks every year he is unlocked and their holiday is like 1/2 a honeymoon.
Last year we had a holiday in Greece and travelled with a friend and her teenage children. My Wife decided that I would not take my device with me but I did remain on the honour method for the week. I did enjoy touching my erections but never went as far as masturbating.
Anyway, Elle noticed a change in my behavior and attitude. It was very subtle and not outwardly too bad, but she didn’t like it. Neither of us really understand it but wearing the device does help me be the sub that she has come to love.
The result is I will no longer go on holiday uncaged. If we travel with other people then I will put my device in my suitcase, but otherwise I will also travel caged if we are in a place which is accepting of such things. This year we had a week in Italy on our own. I flew to Rome caged, spent the entire week locked up and flew home caged.
After bedtime routines the kids went to sleep and my wife and I watched a TV show while I rubbed her feet and legs. I was out of my mind horny. Historically some of the best sex we have had has always been post trip reunion sex. After the show we went upstairs and got into bed and started fooling around. After about 5 minutes of foreplay she said “go get my toy”. After retrieving the magic wand and bringing it to her she told me “you don’t get to f**k me and you don’t get to cum, now get to work pleasing me”. It was a wild multi-orgasmic experience for her and a highly frustrating and arousing one for me. She left me unlocked and told me to go to sleep. I kept hoping she was going to roll over and get on top of me, but that never happened. This morning after I brought her coffee in bed she began stroking me and teasing me and then said, “time to lock up”.
Once the woman has her man in chastity; she has the deer in the cross-eyes; she simply has to start pulling the trigger. The process of getting the man to accept his new role. It is important for this power exchange in the relationship. The domestication of the man to take on chores important for you both: so you feel “in charge” to unleash the hidden dominant side and for him to feel submissive and that giving even without reward is it’s own pleasure. This can easily be achieved in many ways from daily tasks to a full body massage or foot-spa, pedicures or any number of tasks.