My Mistress, quite some time ago, decided that she wasn’t enjoying our PIV sex. As the head of our relationship that was her choice. I never felt less valued or appreciated. There was no less intimacy. I was not caged back then. We didn’t even know of chastity, but I was put in panties as our roles were gradually reversed. She wanted to be in charge in the bedroom.

Once we discovered chastity, now it can’t happen, and I’m very reminded of that. I know Mistress misses being able to freely play with her toys, but she does help herself to the parts available. Of course if she wants to play or allow me an infrequent squirt (her word) she simply unlocks it.

Of course it doesn’t mean that she doesn’t get what she wants and needs. I have a long and useful tongue.

My wife doesn’t get much, if any, satisfaction from my smaller than average penis. So she doesn’t miss it much when it’s locked up. She is naturally sexually dominant and a sadist, so she loves that aspect, and she very much enjoys my submission and servitude and total compliance. And it infuriates her at times just how much I masturbate (hint: A LOT) when I’m left to my own devices, so she insists that I am always locked. She has forbidden any more masturbation in our marriage.

So the devious reasons for keeping me locked up?
1. It’s not needed, or the preferred way of pleasing her. Since she started to actually believe in and actively live as her role, she no longer felt obligated to include me in her pleasure. I’m quite small, and she enjoys something bigger. We have toys and a powerful wand, and my penis doesn’t need to be unlocked for either. So her pleasure is the focus, and mine is a reward, since my pleasure has little to nothing to do with hers.

2. She has threatened about extended lock ups as a punishment, caught jerking would be a year etc, but for the most part, locked is just a means to an end. A tool to keep me submissive and keep me or anyone else away from her stuff.

Mistress Tina prefers my attitue much better when I am locked. I am very seldom every unlocked. She prefers that I orally worship her ass and pussy before she masturbates to orgasm in front of me. Often times she just tells me to sit across the bedroom and watch. When we do have sex she prefers that I wear a thick strap on over my cage.

On very special occasion when she allows PIV sex I am required to apply a generous amount of numbing cream followed by two condoms so I have no feeling and do not get to have an orgasm.

Since she locked me over 3 years ago are closer and more intimate then we were the previous 22 years were married. Mistress Tina says that having me locked is very romantic and is the best thing she has ever done for us.

I’ve read a lot of Dommes who practice chastity and not very many of them seem to like sex, especially PIV, with their submissive. This seems very typical for D/slave relationships.

Let me describe our typical sexual encounter… I lay down on the bed, and she positions herself above me in a 69 position — although her face above my meager penis is at most for teasing with a strand of her hair or her hot breath, never any measurable sexual gratification for me. She is naked and I’m usually wearing panties to catch my (pre-)cum, and I think maybe because she doesn’t want to look at my tiny penis while she’s ‘having sex.’ We start with me licking her to at least one orgasm. As she writhes on my face and shudders and moans into her orgasm my little penis hardens in its cage and/or panties. I don’t have control over my ejaculations, and I’ve been known to cum at this early stage…

When she is ready she says “I need a cock in me NOW!” Sometimes I’ll ask if she wants mine, and she will ignore the question, or laugh, or say “Don’t be stupid. I need a real cock!” With her still on top of me I reach into the night stand and find her favorite dildo, take it out of its bag, and then I suck and lick it for a bit to get it wet. As I slide it into her I lick her clit and work my tongue alongside the shaft. She mashes down onto my face, and I work the dildo in and out of her while frantically trying to work my tongue as much as I can. She will scold me if my tongue isn’t pleasing her enough or if the dildo isn’t in the right place with the right motion. This continues until she is satisfied — usually by another spectacular orgasm, sometimes by more smaller orgasms. And then she gets up, puts on her clothes, and orders me to clean up.

Occasionally, if I’m not locked up and if I haven’t already cum in my panties she lets me masturbate in her presence or even very rarely onto her backside. If she is so inclined she just lays there bored and uninvolved. But most of the time she leaves me with no sexual satisfaction.

I was talking to her recently about her decision to stop allowing PIV sex. I thought it was mainly because of my small, inadequate penis. But when the topic turned to my lack of orgasm control, she indicated that was a big factor too. She definitely considers me a premature ejaculator.

I think she likes chastity mostly because of the control over me and the resulting submission and servitude. And I think she is somewhat sadistic and loves denying me the masturbation I so very much love and desire. She couldn’t possibly use it to help me store a big load for her, as you said, because if I’ve been locked a while I will most certainly cum within seconds, or even before I’m inside her.

– didn’t complain when i do chores wrong
– comfortable with chastity but doesnt like the cage
– doesn’t care if im locked for 3-4 days
– says no if she really feels strongly
– says “you could do this chore differently”
– happier with my housework
– no longer worried about *her* penis
– keeps me locked until she has a use for her penis
– tells me no easily
– tells me what to do and how to do it
– limits the focus to just her sexual pleasure

I was very lucky to get a very good key holder,and she not only stopped me from jerking off, she was able to train me not to have erections and/or cums. Now, I’ve managed to be pussy-free for about 22 1/2 months.

However, when you agree to be kept by your Key Holder, her wishes for your fate override your fantasies of chastity. Mine wanted me to be erection-free, cum-free, and pussy-free, for life. I agreed with her, and it’s been one of the best things that’s ever happened to me.

I have only been allowed PIV sex once in the last couple years, on our anniversary, which was over 5 months ago. I was not allowed to be inside my wife for quite some time before that, as I had pledged to her and to more than one online mistress that I would no longer look at, touch, or be inside a women’s vagina again, except as allowed by my wife, for instance, to lick her to orgasm. But I think my wife wanted to do it just to remind me what I can never have again and make me long for it more… which absolutely worked. Or maybe she needed to confirm that she wasn’t missing out on anything… I remember that event like it was just moments ago. She told me to put on one of my small condoms and then climbed on top of me. She couldn’t move much at all because I would fall out, but I thrust my hips the tiny amount I could. She told me she couldn’t feel a thing and wasn’t even sure it was in. I had to assure her it was, as the feeling was quite intense for me. She laughed and said she hoped I enjoyed it because it would be the last time she ever wasted her time with my inferior penis. And then I came. And that 20-30 seconds will stay engraved in my mind for possibly the rest of my life.

So one day about two years ago I sat him down and told him that we were finished and I wasn’t happy. As I expected he cried like a girl and begged me, and said he needed me and would do anything to stay together. And I do enjoy his companionship, so I told him we could stay together but that he needed to make my life easier and take on a whole different role in our relationship. The truth is that with him not working and not being a strong decision maker my old bossy instincts had been coming out more and more, so it was just a matter of formalizing things into a full FLR. He fell into his new role pretty easily although some things were hard, such as having to ask me permission for everything and having no money of his own. But the first few months worked well for both of us.

But gradually he started slacking off, he would still badger me for sex sometimes even though I had made it clear that it was not going to happen, and to make things worse I realized that he was spending most of the day at home masturbating, which explained a lot. So having read extensively about successful FLRs I laid down the law again and he had to very reluctantly accept being locked in a small chastity cage.

The first chastity that I introduced to our relationship was a simple cage, and he adapted pretty well to it. He wasn’t enthusiastic but he was somewhat curious. It was frustrating for him but he seemed to like playing with the cage. Unfortunately it did not provide the level of security or control that I required, which resulted in an upgrade to a full belt.

When I unpacked the belt he actually gasped, it is an intimidating device. The penis goes down a tube so that he can’t touch it, and is pulled back so that he has to sit to pee. The belt also produces a completely flat front so that there is no bulge whatsoever. The belt has a strong psychological effect, because the man is effectively neutered and his manhood made invisible and untouchable. The move from cage to belt was a major change and for several months he did cry silent tears of frustration and anger. The belt is tight and unforgiving, it’s impossible for a man to forget that he is locked and under his wife’s control.

After his releases it is unpleasant for him to be locked up again. I don’t tolerate any whining or begging from him but of course I can tell from his body language and facial expression that he is sad at being belted again, which is understandable.

For the first few days I had him wear the belt for a few hours at a time to break it in, but shortly thereafter I just kept it locked on for days at a time so that he would adjust to it. He learned to endure it. I chose the Arch because it seemed the most practical but I have recently upgraded to a different Neosteel model which provides more control and allows for an anal dildo attachment.

Every relationship is different, but in our FLR the incentive of regular release works perfectly in terms of keeping him in line and motivated, he has developed into the ideal husband for me.

If my husband “grabbed” my ass or boobs he would regret it, since he would be punished in addition to not being released from his belt for a long time.

I do love my husband and enjoy cuddling and kissing. But in our relationship I call the shots. So we are intimate but he knows better than to initiate, and certainly knows never to disrespectfully grab my body or touch me.

My husband does not enjoy being pegged but he has gotten used to it. He does not orgasm from being pegged but he does get hard.

I do not orgasm directly from pegging but it serves as very effective foreplay. It is a great power trip for me. It is amazing to snap on my phallus and look down at my belted husband on his knees with his head bobbing up and down as he lubricates it before I turn him around and thrust hard in his ass. It’s a fantastic experience and the ultimate power trip in some ways, I highly recommend it.

He is not going to ever penetrate me or any other woman but the idea is that he pleasure himself and obtain some release when I allow it, and to look forward to that stimulation while he is locked up and well behaved. However I have not interest in watching him, frankly it disgusts me.

My husband has learned not to make requests, sexual or otherwise. One key to a successful FLR is for the woman to always be in absolute control, once the subordinate begins making requests it´s a slippery slope to a “topping from the bottom scenario”. My husband has been trained to follow my lead, period.

Sometimes we invite friends over and my husband cooks and serves a nice meal. None of our friends know that he is in chastity or the degree that I control him, but we are open about the fact that I am in charge and that he is subservient to me. Sometimes we go out and again I don’t hide the dynamics of our relationship, which is sometimes jarring to strangers. It’s still embarrassing to him and the last vestiges of male pride surface at times but he has gotten used to it when I make it obvious to the outside world that we are in a FLR. Sometimes I go out clubbing or bar hopping with girlfriends and my husband stays home, knowing that I will be checking on him during the evening. Sometimes I go on dates with other men, and of course this has been the hardest adjustment for him. I like to dress very sexy and tease him a bit, and I know it’s not easy for him to iron a sexy outfit and then help me put it on knowing that it’s for another man. However I never bring men home or talk about what happens because that seems excessive. Until very recently I would always meet my dates elsewhere although now I often have them pick me up at home. Sunday is the big day because that is when my husband receives his release from the dreaded belt. Assuming that he has behaved during the week, performed all his chores and stayed under his weight/waist target I remove the belt in the morning and he is free to do whatever he likes, within the confines of our property of course. Depending on how he did during the week I may keep it off for an hour or for the entire day. We may go motorcycle riding, go for a walk to the park, or just stay home and relax. At some point I announce that it’s time and I lock the belt back on, which he has learned to accept without whining.