I, of course, employ these principles in my daily life with my husband. He does, like any well trained male, observe a good chastity regimen which has worked wonders on his manners and conduct.  He is allowed plenty of ways to demonstrate his lust – however, his doing so will result in severe punishment.

The goal is associating arousal to at least a moderate/healthy level dependence and fear, by ensuring he is both very tempted but very cautious, about acting out his urges.  That is why I don’t particularly pay attention to fully covering my breast in his presence. I may neglect buttoning my shirt if it’s hot, or come out of the shower wearing only a towel. I casually wear semi-transparent shirts in the home, or very tight garments. It is his responsibility to demonstrate a basic level of respect and reverence by never laying eyes on my body (or that of any other female). He is taught that however mild my other punishments may be, the one thing he must never ever do is stare at my body. That includes legs when he hasn’t earned that privilege by making me happy.

Infractions aren’t hard to detect. He already understands that “down” is the only direction he’s allowed to look when in the presence of any female, and that initiating eye contact with one is considered a sign of disrespect and punished as a serious infraction.

When I catch my male staring, I slap his face hard and so quickly he initially doesn’t know what’s going on. I found that for this training to be effective you must hit quickly, like thunder, so that you can create the “golden moment” of confusion, arousal and fear – after he’s started enjoying the sight, but before he’s realized what he’s actually doing, or the consequences. I love the way he looks at me in complete confusion with a “but what did I do??” look on his face, touching his cheek, then suddenly assumes an “oh my god what have I done” expression. That’s the golden moment.

Even young girls know the position of inferiority they can put a male in by creating a sexual urge in him, and later feigning offense/blaming him for his indecency. All we’re doing is making the urge irresistible through chastity and opportunistic exposure, and being a bit more severe with the punishment.

Thinking of a male in long-term chastity, who out of fear and reverence controls his powerful urges, and chooses to sacrifice and respect my privacy – even as I run around the house scantily clad – by never allowing his eyes to set on any part of my body, turns me on. I think of him looking down to the ground in surrender and abject servitude as he hands me a towel after my shower, or the beverage he’s prepared for me and the girls. I think this form of “mental castration” is a step beyond chastity in the sexual control of the male, in that it requires complete and voluntary compliance, and his constant vigilance. Only in this way can his surrender of his sexuality to my whim be complete and genuine.

After some thought I was trying t decide on a Christmas present for Weenie. Came up with the idea of maybe a strap on that I could put him into and found a little beauty.

It is a vibrating strap on that is hollow, so I am hoping to be able to insert his cage inside and then we can make love like we used to with all the cuddles. Only thing is I think his pleasure will be quite limited to virtually nothing while lock inside his cage wearing it…Ah well at least one of us will be satisfied.
As of that night Lisa updated to the rules to include the new “Soft Rule”, which reads; “Sissy will be expected to stay soft when unlocked, unless told otherwise”

Maybe you need something like a Kali’s bracelet so that your brain associates erections with pain or maybe you can find a hypnosis program to prevent erections. A shock collar for your clitty could do the trick as well.

I have had to wear the dreaded KTB when not able to properly control my erections in the past. Now, Mistress simply keeps the KTB prominently displayed on her dresser so that I see it every day as I move about the house. It serves as a constant reminder of the consequences of any improper actions on my part and has been very effective, even though I have not work it in some time! Your mind can control erections when properly motivated!

A very small chastity cage is constantly compressing the spongy tissue in a penis, so it would lose some of its elasticity. My wife did not want any erections so she had me get a 1 1/4 inch cage that touches my flaccid penis on all sides. After 4 years of daily 24/7 wear, my penis seems to be smaller when erect than it used to be.

Mistress Sonia re-locked Her now smaller, after 3 years continuously locked, 51mm flaccid cock into Mature Metal 38mm long Jail Bird July 12 2015 and has not unlocked it ever since. There has been no skin damage of any kind, however, not being able to move or grow at all while always being teased and kept constantly horny by Mistress is extremely frustrating and can be quite uncomfortable. slave wakes at least 2 to 3 times a night from immediately denied nocturnal erections and has not needed a warm clock to wake itself since the 38mm cage was locked on. This has all become Mistress’ slave normal and everyday life now and Mistress is now thinking about a 25mm Jail Bird for July 2017, Mistress’ 5 year anniversary in Owning Her chastity slave. Mistress doesn’t believe Her slave is suffering enough for Her anymore.

My wife and I have always negotiated the minimum number of orgasms I get for the next year. That number has always been lower and lower so that I have gotten used to very few orgasms and learned to share my wife’s pleasure.

The reason why we negotiate the minimum number of orgasms each year because every time I mentioned leaving my orgasms completely up to her, she said that I do not want that because I would have none. For reasons posted in the past, my wife actually has no need for my penis and the only pleasure she gets from me during sex is my moans of sexual frustration.

We have a FLR or D/s relationship outside of the bedroom. My wife has noticed that I do not bug her for an orgasm anymore. Yesterday she read an article which basically said that many, not all, men who want chastity want permanent orgasm denial and there is nothing harmful about that and wives do enjoy sex more when their men express their sexual frustration in bed. I do know that my wife is having the best orgasms of her life for the last two years until she lets me cum and then dreads the next month as do I.

It is one thing to give you KH full control knowing that you will get a certain number of orgasms each year and quite a different feeling knowing that it may be a very long time or never for an orgasm. The trick for my wife is to let me think there is hope for an orgasm but keep denying me while keeping that hope alive. All she agreed to is to let me orgasm if she feels I am in mental or physical distress. She said she will also consider giving me an orgasm on special occasions but no promises. I know she does not want me to have any. She has said this over and over again. She stays away from me for a week or so after my orgasm because I get grumpy and sad. Then again it is said that serial killers prevent their captured victims from trying to escape by giving them just a little hope that they may live. It was chilling to read that but it does make sense. We all can get through rough times if we have hope, no matter how small. It is what religion provides to many people. It will be interesting how she manages this.

Has anyone actually gone a year or more without a full orgasm?  My guess is that she will tell me that I may get one at the end of the year and then find a reason why I need to wait another year or just a few months longer. Knowing my wife, she may actually give me one as she views that as a punishment, not a reward.

I only answer this post because he is not allowed to post, so I will tell you I have been denying him for longer periods of time. I feel like he is so much more sensitive to the touch than he has ever been. I use a date method to set his day of release and have added the month and day together to determine the weeks he will locked up without cumming. His longest was 14 weeks and now we are on 23 weeks.

I have a doubt. I explain, I have my husband was the first and the only one I have been with. And I feel like I’m not satisfied with the size. Measure 5 inches erect, do you think this okay?

Apart from this I think that suffers from premature ejaculation according to my opinion, since penetrating me lasts at most 3 minutes. He is only able to make me enjoy his tongue (with that if he is very skillful)

I honestly do not like him and for some reason he’s excited that he can not satisfy me. Well, I’ve decided to do something about it.
I want to put him in chastity with a small cage 24/7 without any release (he will not have hygiene problems since he is circumcised) and that his penis diminishes of size until it is not able to penetrate to me. I want to buy a dildo and that I only penetrate with it and of course much oral sex. And humiliate him like that (I know he likes).
I have some questions.

I have always defined my relationship with my husband as complete FLR. Meaning that I am in control of everything: financial, sexual and otherwise. I make the decisions and he abides by them. I make sure things run smoothly by managing his tasks and routines. He wears a chastity belt because it reinforces my control and provides a simple method of reward and punishment, meaning that it ensures that he is motivated and disciplined.

So I define FLR as a way of life, whereas I think of femdom and D/S as terms that are more related to sex. I am a female and dominant and he is submissive, but the sexual component of our relationship is only one component, not the principal one. Obviously my being the boss and him being locked means that sex I initiate sex, and that his needs are not met in the traditional male fashion, but I think of femdom and D/S as being focused on kinkiness and on “scenes”, which really is not what our sex life is like. Of course the fact is that I sometimes peg him and that most sexual activity consists of him being on his knees pleasuring. But I characterize our relationship as FLR, meaning that my control is comprehensive and absolute, not focused on the sexual aspect.

In our case, the Mrs. has always been very dominant in all aspects of our marriage and married life. Since she has, for a very long time lacked marital “intimacy” and since I have tried to adjust to it, submitting to any behavior that may give me that feeling of intimacy I so much desire, I’d have to conclude that our relationship is definitely Domme/sub.

Over time (i.e. 5 years), yes. Use it or lose it, as they say. And I guess that without stroking it all the time (wasting orgasms as my wife calls it), shrinkage should occur. I clearly went from 5.9″ to 5.4″ when extremely hard. I know that sounds terrible from a male perspective, but it is erotically fulfilling to a submissive. I asked my wife for her thoughts before I posted this reply, and She said (actually texted me): “The shrinkage is a tangible reaffirmation for my husband that he cannot adequately satisfy my needs. There is no reason to allow him any sex as he is unable to satisfy me with his small penis.”

Ten years ago, my subhub was about 5 1/2″ erect. These days, he’s down to four at the most. LOL

I’m exactly the same as in the previous post. I’m in a Lori #5, so there’s no teste ring it’s just held in place by the snug tube and the head of my penis, and locked on with a 0g PA pin. After 10 months (it never comes off – ever – and most likely never will) my cockhead seems bigger, all the blood goes there and the base of my shaft. It seems like my penis head has gotten bigger, always slightly engorged. I’m always semi hard, but it seems my penis has adapted to the tube and changed shape a bit, and the head has filled out the space it has in the tube, under the bars on top.

Well my subby has very definitely shrunk over the years since he’s been locked 24/7/365, which for me is a definite added bonus. Also increases his sense of inadequacy – just how I like it!!

My keyholder told me it didn’t matter if I shrank or not, because I wasn’t going to be fucking again. As usual, she knows what she’s talking about.

The key for me is to stay in the cage, and only be released for the couple of minutes to cum once or twice a year. Then I’m locked right back in as soon as I cum, go limp, and get cleaned up. If I’m never out for more than a few minutes twice a year, it never gets a chance to regain the size it used to be. Loss of size is a non-problem since I don’t fuck anymore.

The final step was 4 years of 24/7 lockup and now I fit into a 1 1/4″ Jailbird which my wife wanted me to get to prevent orgasms and squash my penis down. Now my penis often retreats into my body so at times you cannot even find it. Also my penis rarely gets erect anymore due to being denied orgasms for at least 1 month and but often more over 4 years. The best way to explain it is that I am so used to fighting having an orgasm when my wife teases and edges me that now my penis fights getting erect.

Add being sterile and we have a small penis that does not get erect and that is my wife’s reason to keep me locked up permanently. She reminds me that my penis is useless to her and we have not had intercourse in longer than either of us can remember. My wife only orgasms with her vibrator because she has no use for my penis other than to tease to illicit moans of frustration from her which seems to turn her on.

My wife moved in her girlfriend and I got to watch and assist them to give each other orgasms and once in awhile they would milk me but only when I was in some kind of pain. Sounds terrible but I have led this life for the last 20 years but only the last 4 being locked up. We tried to quit and lead a normal sex life but that lasted only 2 months and we went back to chastity and orgasm denial.

I do think all of the above has affected my penis. When I do orgasm it is with a limp penis. I rarely get hard and that is even after taking Viagra. Best I can do is a semi hard cock.