Attitude

The slave is not allowed out of chastity but Mistress Michelle is going to use and taunt him anyway. After doing chores for her all day, it is time Mistress Michelle make use of his mouth. She first tease him with her sexy latex boots, kicking his chastised cock. Then Mistress Michelle make him eat her pussy until She is satisfied.

There’s a lot I like about this FLR: the way he has to present himself, get on his knees, kiss her boots and then – of course – pleasure her while in chastity. A regular morning routine in a life of a slave husband includes lovingly kissing her feet, waiting for her next order.

He knows that begging is useless. And he knows that I want him at home and available to me at all times and that I will not be swayed by any argument in that regard. And he knows that pointless arguing will only bring him trouble.

As I have explained in a previous post, he has a challenging and time-consuming job working for me, whether I’m at work or at home. And when I’m home I want him to be at my beck and call at all times to serve me hand and foot. Even when he is allowed “free time” I can call him and order him to come home.

I would not ask a maid to do all the things I’m asking of him (naturally I’m not even talking about sexual services here). For example I like my lingerie, shapewear and nightwear hand-washed AND ironed. I did not request that from the maids, but I have no difficulty requiring a man to do these things. I furthermore recall maids that worked really slowly or would have their pet activities, like polishing silverware, while showing less interest in scrubbing bathrooms and kitchen floors. Those days are fortunately over!

Regrets? Maybe – he works harder now and longer hours and he has no “workers’ rights”, only obligations.

Ms Becky, does your husband have any sort of life outside of serving you?

He does. Obviously there are limits to his free time, as I’m very demanding: he does all the work in and around the house, he has to execute those tasks to a very high standard and he is not allowed to procrastinate, unless a very good reason can be given.

And most importantly: I like to be pleasured by him – oftentimes and not just for fifteen minutes or half an hour. I am addicted to having his head between my thighs, licking and sucking away, whether I’m relaxing with my head resting on soft pillows or doing some routine work at home, reading a book or watching the news or a movie.

In addition to all that there has to be time for discipline. This may sometimes take just five minutes, like when I need to be off to work but still have time to make him fetch the crop.

On the other extreme I may find it necessary to subject him to a disciplinary session lasting from Friday evening to Monday morning (naturally not just consisting of corporal punishment!)

Hi Ms Becky. I overheard the following conversation from a couple sat in front of the train. Her: What shall we do when we get home. Him: Can I kiss your legs? Her: No. You can kiss my feet, then my legs, then you can lick me. Him: Thank-you. Her: What did you call me? Him: Thank-you Mistress. Her: That’s right. Good dog.

In addition to all of this there are other punishments she could consider: corner time, withdrawal of certain privileges etc. And very female friendly: assigning you with chores, that are both practical for her and helpful for putting you in the right frame of mind.

I guess I come across as a tough cookie sometimes, but those who follow this blog know I have my soft side. And I see a relationship as a two-way street. So yes, I do like to stimulate him and I do enjoy his pleasure, just like he does mine. The difference is that any of it is always on my terms, at my discretion, when I feel like it. But I love to see his reactions to my flirtations – an erection I regard as a compliment! (Unlike the lady in this recent re-post I did, who told her guy to remain soft, I never require him to stay soft. Whether he gets to reach a climax is a different matter of course.)

I like this idea. But for me, I think I would have to move the keys out of the house. Keeping them at work or a safe deposit box or something. I am keeping the options open. There is a scenario where we would have to unlock it, so that it is probably a better deal than sealing it. Really this is symantics because it almost never comes off. Like two or three times that I can think of this year.

my Wife MsL and i have been married over 40 years. Most of it She has been the Dominate person in control of the finances, household decisions, and me, both in and out of the bedroom. We lead a simple life in a FLR and D/s relationship. She has decided to keep me chaste so i am permanently locked in a Lori’s #5 which i have grown accustom to over the last year.

my experience in male chastity is extensive. We started in 2002 with an MCD which is a plastic strip with spikes. i could only wear it three days at the most. Like most, we tried the cbxxx series and She soon decided plastic was a toy. i was measured and fit with a Neosteel Hip belt and wore it almost full time after an adjustment period. Jan. 2004 She gave me the gift of receiving an 8 ga PA. and three months later She gave me for our anniversary a Lori’s #6 the older solid model so we could switch between the Neosteel and the Lori’s and not leave me unlocked.

My sub/hubby has been grumbling about my plan to keep him in permanent chastity and orgasm denial. He has been locked up pretty much 24/7 now for about the last 3 years. He gets out for a few days or a week once in awhile. I milk or give him a release ever now and then, no more then 10 a year. My plan next year is absolutely no release from his chastity sleeve, and only 4 milkings and 1 orgasm a year from now on. he thinks I am being extremely cruel and unreasonable about it. And says there isn’t many Women around the world who would do that to there hubbies. I don’t believe that.

I have trained him to please Me properly with his mouth and tongue. As well, we have many strapon’s and toys for My pleasure. I haven’t needed his penis in Me for sometime now. I get all the pleasure I need in other ways.

I feel that it is your choice on what happens as he is nothing more than a sub.

he is just scared of what he has created I think. Careful what you wish for men, it could happen to you! Fantasy and reality are two different things. We are a long time couple who have grown to this stage over 15 years. If he wanted to stop or out, he would have. he needs this as much as I do. We both love it. It’s just new to him being in a total FLR for him. he will adjust.

To the previous poster…they are a couple that i an familiar with ..she is real and he is afraid …i’ve met him.

Let Me tell everyone, i love my Mistress and if she was to tell me i would never have another orgasm again just to please Her. i would be fine and accept Her choice for me.

Yes i love to cum, used to jerk off daily all my life. i found over time how selfish it was, and as i got older. It took longer to rebound and be attentive and submissive to Her, sometimes days, and then i would be jerking off again. Again ignoring her pleasure and only being selfish about my own. I have to say, i am happier to be locked and have those orgasms taken away and out of my hands, and let her decide when i get to cum.

Yes i was grumbling about what she has in mind, but i gave her that control. What kind of a man goes back on what. i hoped and begged for a Mistress like that all my life. Now i have what i wished for. Sometimes it sucks a bit, but i wouldn’t trade it for a vanilla life again for anything.

Yes i Thank her every night for being my Mistress and keeping me in chastity and orgasm denial. I have never been able to cum in the tube, since it is so tight when i get hard. No movement in it. It’s less than a inch inside diameter. Mistress has brought me off in it only when she uses her high powered Hittachi vibrator. This will cause me pain and frustration, and i usually shoot about a foot across the floor. Which then i must knee and crawl while licking it all up.

Last year i only had 2 real orgasms, and the rest where milkings or ruined one. So really not far off that number if she goes thru with it. And she promised to give me at least 4 milkings. That’s one every three months. I can’t complain about that.

I would concur with the comments regarding milking and as long as they are entirely orgasm-free, then I see no problems for them to be given at regular 4 week intervals. This will drain him of any troublesome fluids.

I could care less if locked120 cums or not. FLR and male chastity was his deal when we met and I’m going along with it (not that I mind haha). He’s been locked up the whole time (approaching 3 yrs) and has maybe 4 or 5 usually ruined orgasms a year. BCWYWF

I personally know a few guys who do not get to orgasm period ..one for just under 1000 days …nada zippo… does he like it all the time ?…nope … does he want to orgasm? ..yup.. it’s because he asked for it and told his Mistress She has control ..She took that control and pushes him farther each year …he committed to Her …he is an honorable man.

Even though originally my fantasy was a woman that controlled my orgasm( including denying them completely) was where my perspective eas at the start, i also made it clear i wanted You to follow Your own likes and dislikes and i would follow in line with that.. To hear You say You don’t care one way or another is ….surprisingly hot☺ And a great big thank you for the type of orgasms You Do allow and produce…Always much appreciated.

Sigh. He asked, begged for chastity and only now has second thoughts? Too bad,it’s called Dominance and Submission,and he gets the submission part. All his whining is topping from the bottom.

If he’s been in chastity 3 years already I would think it isn’t a big deal to go 24/7 with less releases, isn’t that what eventually happens to everyone in (real deal) chastity?

You’re an alpha woman and your subby hubby should count his blessings that he can lick you to orgasm often while in long-term chastity. After all, you could have turned into a prude Puritan instead.

Sorry, I did not realize that Cumslave already is so well trained. Going from 10 to 1 (or none), well, a submissive man can come through a woman’s orgasm, if he sets his mind to it, without needing to ejaculate himself.

his anniversary is November 15th. That is when this year is up. he hasn’t cum or been milked since Aug 4th, and won’t be until the 15th of November. No way No how. Next year we discussed, and I have taken his milkings into consideration.

So for the rest of amount of times he get’s to cum, well will have to see. He knows he will get one next year, but I am incharge and maybe he’ll get more. This is also about his sub/slave training in a FLR also. So if he performs well, and meets My expectations as a worthy slave hubby. he might get more than he ever expected. But if not, he knows the consequences. We both agreed to this, and he is eager and willing to comply.

To Us this isn’t about just chastity and orgasm denial, but his training to be a perfect sub/slave husband. This means everything from domestic household chores to bringing Me the best orgasms he can. he has learned to lick My ass, drink my golden nectar, recycle his cum, massage My feet and body. Everything a sub/hubby needs to know to pleases his Mistress. This also includes a lot of sexual frustration for him. It just keeps him inline. There is also a lot of punishment and discipline he is given on a monthly basics. he can’t sit for days after I whip and beat his ass.

So this is our life, and we will keep communicating and exploring this wonderful life together.

I’m in discussion with a Domme/Cuckoldress who also desires permanent denial for Her sub/slave. Her reasoning is service to Her is unconditional and should not be linked to any possible pleasure or reward for the sub, therefore there should never be any release for the sub. I am a firm adherent of orgasm control and denial by a Female Dominant as it clearly defines the power exchange dynamic.

My subbie’s locked permanently. Final.

Not unreasonable at all.

If it’s what you want, and you can, then go for it.

One thing we both enjoy a great deal is spooning/cuddling in the morning, mixed in with me rubbing her back. However, after I have been locked for awhile I have a habit of…humping her. I can’t help it. Her skin is so firm and soft, and when my hip are pressed up against her tush, and I have been locked and feeling very horny, its just happens.

Well, my wife says its disrespectful and she wants it to stop, and if it doesnt stop my lock up will be extended beyond the three month lockup I am currently in. Although she still wants me to spoon her. And I just dont know if I can. Sometimes it almost feels like I am doing it involuntarily.

Anyone else having to control themselves this way? I am finding it very, very difficult.

I’ve not tried stopping them completely, but I do consciously try and prevent them taking over and getting too big out of a fear of your situation occurring. The spasms are incredibly erotic sensations, and are one of teh few physically erotic sensations I have on a regular basis, so I wouldn’t want to be told to banish them. In the light of that – I feel for you.

Sounds like your wife is having a lot of fun teasing you while you are locked up! Surely she knows that is next to impossible for you to control yourself in a situation like that and is probably laughing to herself inside. If I were you, I would prepare myself for extended lock up.

I sympathize completely, but unfortunately that is part and parcel of the tease & denial aspect of female-dominated male chastity. Curious if physical punishments, such as spikes added before spooning/massages or whippings afterwards, would be more effective than the less immediately tangible adding on of days.

My wife immediately wanted to have me as a 24/7 slave as soon as my retirement was settled. I knew she would continue to work, so again I resisted. She convinced me I would enjoy full time slavery. The date was set—Jan.1, 2002, the date my life would change. I kept asking questions but was told not to worry and that she would take care of everything. On Dec.31st we dressed up and began making our rounds at several New Years Eve parties. At midnight, my Wife gave me a long sexy kiss and took me by surprise when she told me to enjoy it, for it would be my last kiss.

We immediately went home. She took my wallet, cut up each credit card along with my driver’s license. I was ordered to strip and kneel. She took a long chain and locked it around my left ankle. She grabbed my hair and pulled me into the garage, took the other end of the chain and locked it to the bar holding the door in place. It was impossible to remove the chain. I was in this position before during some of our playtimes but this time, there was no escape.

My wife then shocked me by giving me a couple of backhands across my face. I became terrified. My wife had a look of determination that I had never seen in her before. She had wanted to do this to me for a long time and now her fantasy was becoming a reality, and her enthusiasm and excitement were obvious. I was told to stand and not to move until she returned.

She told me that she was going back out for more partying but this time by herself, as a single woman. I think two or three hours passed when the door opened. She appeared looking sexy and as desirable as I had ever seen her. She also had a riding crop in her hand. I knew I was in for it. She began to whip me harder than at any time during our previous D/s play. This time her whipping was not erotic, this time it was not play. This time it was real and she was breaking me and I was quickly submitting to her dominance.

Over the weeks and months to follow, my wife continued to break me and transform me from being her husband into being her slave. I loved her as much as ever but I now also feared her. I now clean, cook, do the laundry, iron, answer my Mistress’s mail and e-mail. I work a 12 to 18 hour day every day of my life. Do I enjoy it? Yes! I am disciplined daily and punished when necessary. I have lost 35 needed pounds and increased my muscle structure. I follow these simple rules:
1-Obey at once.
2-Mind your business.
3-Stay on your knees with your eyes down.
4-Answer Yes Ma’am or No Ma’am.
5-Speak only when spoken to.
6-Never ever expect sex.
7-There are rewards and punishments-so never complain.

I am now only allowed to kiss her feet as a sign of respect. Anytime she enters or leaves a room in which I am working, I must kneel and wait. She may approach and place her feet under my bowed head, this is a signal to kiss her feet. At times when I’ve worked extremely hard, she might kiss my head. We are no longer intimate. Yet, I have never been more attracted to her. I see her in a new light, with a fresh adoration and a new respect. In my eyes, she is the sexiest woman alive.

To those who wish for a 24/7 life, it is hard work. You must love your Mistress as well as have lust for her. Lust is all you can have and deserve. Once you are there, there is no getting out. I have no money, no credit cards, no car and have very little clothing. My hair is cut by my Mistress when it’s necessary. This lifestyle is hard, frustrating, and at times, painful, but I love it. I get to live what many men only fantasize about. I am truly the slave of a beautiful woman. My wife loves me like this and I love pleasing her.”

Darren is her husband in legality but not in reality. He has surrendered everything over to his wife and she comes and goes as she pleases. His life is not one of leisure. He does not spend his retirement on the golf course. No, his life is about the serving of his Mistress. He must do chores for her, to tend to her house, to spend hours being bound while he reflects on what she may be doing with her liberation.

I find all of this to be fascinating. By being her slave and working for her, Darren actually has a sense of self-worth. He has found contentment and this life is a challenge for him and this life is fulfilling for him. His wife knew the kind of structured life he needed to be content and fulfilled. He is freed from mental responsibility and can focus his energy on pleasing his Mistress. Darren’s sexuality is now in worshiping his Mistress and serving her. No more intimacy but his sexual fulfillment comes in submitting to her. His is a life of giving and not getting, yet it is fulfilling because he loves giving of himself in such a pure manner to a woman. Most men fantasize about being a true 24/7 slave of a woman but the reality is that few men could live it.

Jessica likes for her husband to view her as his Queen. They view their roles as not only Wife and husband but also Queen and servant. Jessica uses her creativity to make the most mundane tasks fresh and exciting within their marriage.

“My husband and I recently have come to a unique arrangement regarding our finances. The underlying thesis of our plan is that all of our marital assets belong to me. First, we have a joint checking account (with my name appearing first, as in the phone book) and my husband is responsible for making sure all bills are paid. The trick is that he prepares all the checks, but I am the only one who signs them. My husband is not allowed access to our checkbook except when he does bills and I take it after he’s finished with check preparation and balancing, and lock it in a lock box, of which I hold the only key. I also keep the only credit card, which also has his name on it and he’s only allowed to carry it when supervised or traveling alone and then for emergency purposes only.

My husband is allowed only $20.00 per week cash allowance, which I give him each Friday at the bank, and this also allows for some delightfully subtle public domination (my new hobby). On the Fridays he gets paid, I take him to the bank, have him sign the check in front of the teller, and then he hands me the check for deposit. I take out one twenty and hand it to him and several more for myself, which I put in my purse.

On the Fridays he doesn’t get paid I take him to the bank, withdraw only a twenty from the teller and hand it to him. The point is that he is not allowed to take money directly from the teller (even in the drive-thru I make him hand the cylinder to me first), and he’s never allowed to go to the bank alone. I always try and go to female tellers and I’m sure they’ve caught on. Many of the female tellers are young and I like to think I’m educating them as to how men should treat women.

In addition to paying bills he has to prepare a “Queen’s Yearly Budget” which is on hardcopy and different pages examine Her Majesty’s Assets, Liabilities, and Monthly Expenses. I will review each bank statement as it comes in to monitor hubby’s work, and he is to give me a quarterly report in which we will discuss the condition of the Queen’s Treasury and Her long-term financial goals. I like this arrangement because it leaves the burden of managing for our future on him but leaves all the power with me.

If hubby wants more than his allowance, I allow him to have a special
hearing before the Queen, which is held in our bedroom. I wear a long black satin robe, and black garter belt with stockings, and nothing else and sit on the bed. He will knock at the door and after I say “Enter” he will come in and kneel before me totally nude. I then say “Yes” and he bends down and kisses the top of each foot and says, “My Mistress, I have come to petition your Highness to allow me to have additional funds from Her Majesty’s Treasury.” I will then listen to his request and grant or deny it. If I deny it he is stood in the corner and whipped with a riding crop for wasting my time, and then made to kneel in a corner for thirty minutes to think about why he was punished. If I grant it he is required to kiss the top and bottom of each of my feet, and say “Thank you my Queen.” Sometimes I’ll condition my grant upon his putting his head between Her Majesty’s legs and licking her to orgasm within fifteen minutes, and failure will be punished as mentioned above.

The finances are usually the hardest area for a man to surrender over to his wife. Finances represent a man’s time and talents. When the wife takes over the finances, she is indeed taking over the last area of resistance. A man works at his occupation and earns a paycheck and that paycheck represents much to a man. For him to surrender total control over to his wife and allow her to make the financial decisions, it is true female domination and male submission. A woman who owns a man’s paycheck, owns that man’s time, talents and career. From here on out, Jessica’s husband works for her. He will now experience more and more dependence on her and he will become more and more submissive toward her.

Fast forward to the present. I am now required to sleep naked, except for a newer and thicker collar secured snugly around my neck. I am forbidden to touch it. Only my Mistress can remove it. She often comments how she hates to take my collar off in the morning. In addition to the household chores I must perform, I am also required to be my Mistress’ personal servant. I give her regular foot massages and put lotion on her feet. When she wants me to, I serve her as her footstool. I also kneel at her feet in our tub and shave her legs every other night. I am required to caress her whenever she demands it, and of course, I sexually serve her on command. When my Mistress allows my penis inside her vagina, it must be with me lying on my back with my legs spread wide apart for her in submissive invitation to her to take me. I love the feel of her naked thighs pressing the back of my own thighs when she rides me. Mistress says that as her slave, my place is underneath her, therefore I am forbidden to climax inside of her in any other position.”

Karl is a twenty-three year old male with a very worshipful and
respectful attitude toward women. He met Andrea, a thirty-nine year old Female Supremacist.  Andrea was born within a Female Supremacist marriage and she was herself a Pro Dom during college. Now Andrea has a boutique and Karl is her shop-assistant and her house husband. She chose Karl because of his worshipful attitude toward the female gender. Andrea saw in Karl a pure heart and an eagerness to serve. Karl describes their untraditional but pure FemDom relationship.

“Our marriage is a female supremacist one. We married eighteen months ago and from our wedding night, I wear a chastity device and the only form of sex for us is with me tonguing Andrea, usually twice a day. She is dead set against vanilla intercourse and she says the tongue is the real sex organ of males. Nothing wrong in this, she is a woman and knows the facts of life better than me. On the other side, I empty myself once a week, on  Sunday night if I’m a very good boy during week. This happens almost every weekend because I do my very best to pamper her.

The way this is done is a routine and a ritual. Before bedtime she emerges dressed in only her panties, bra and high heel shoes. Believe me, her feminine power is unbelievable. I drop to my knees at once and hurry to kiss her feet. Andrea is so beautiful and powerful I can’t resist from dropping to my knees. If she’s in a good mood, Andrea lets me kiss and lick her feet for a while and then she blindfolds me before taking off her panties. I’m always blindfolded when I worship Andrea because we’ve learned from the early time of our marriage that the sight of her naked body is enough for me to have a wet accident.

Next, she ties my legs together and my arms firmly in place behind my back. Of course I’m always naked for this ritual. When my hands are secured, she unlocks the chastity device and I get an erection ready to be used for sex. Andrea lightly slaps my balls to get rid of my swelling and to cool me down to avoid wet accidents. Two or three painful slaps are usually enough to soften me down. At this point, Andrea slips my penis inside one of her shoes still warm from her foot. Then, she fixes it firmly in place with one of her stockings. This done, she has me lay on her bed, on my belly, while my penis grows erect, filling her shoe. Then she begins to spank me. She uses a large belt or her slipper as her spanking instruments.

A belt is a lethal weapon in her hands. She doesn’t like to use her hands and she’s very experienced as a spanker. To tell you the truth she doesn’t call these “spankings”, but instead: “lessons in humility and respect”. During the spanking I have to hump her warm shoe, pumping it as quickly as it rests on her bed. A few hits from her on my ass are enough to make me beg her for mercy. She spanks me without fury or anger, but with method and regularity like she’s doing some fitness exercise. I’m in tears in seconds but believe me, I cry like a baby not for pain but for the joy to be spanked by Andrea.

I don’t know how to explain what I feel. I’m very proud of her, and I feel a deep happiness to be her husband. These feelings are rising in me week by week. Since we’ve been married, her shoes are as close to making love to her as she has permitted. In the beginning, I wanted to make love with Andrea, but I’ve learned to accept her rule. I learned quickly to thank her with all my heart for the opportunity to make love to her shoes. In spite of the sexual pleasure rising from my member encased inside her warm shoe, the spanking is hard enough to reduce my sexual pleasure and so I can go on like this for a long time.

It’s hard to explain my feelings during those moments. I’m both in heaven and hell. The spanking ends when I come in her shoe and during the entire spanking she scolds me. After coming she lets me cool down for a few minutes, during which she goes on lecturing me about respect for females. Then I have to thank her politely and if I’m not respectful enough she gives me another round of blows. As you can imagine, to avoid it I’m very submissive and very respectful.

When she’s ok about my behavior, she releases my penis and I have to lick her shoe clean. Ended this task, she cleans me using a wet and cold towel before locking my chastity device in place again. Once I’m safe, Andrea unties my arms and legs and lets me kiss and lick her feet as reward. Then, it’s my duty to tongue her vagina urgently until she obtains two or three orgasms.

With a few laps of my tongue, I lose myself. The world is cut away from my mind and I only exist to worship Andrea. Blindfolded and on my knees, smelling her scent and tasting her, my thoughts run miles away and I am lost in my mind, in subspace. If she doesn’t stop me by patting my head with her hand saying “it’s enough, boy!”, I’m able to lick her for hours and I am in heaven. How can the female sex be so powerful? A wave of profound happiness rises in me when I worship my Goddess.”

Queening is a form of trampling only the man is under the woman’s ass, instead of her feet. Queening is basically where the dominant female sits her ass on the face of a submissive male and has him orally service her bottom. This is an erotic and pleasurable experience for the woman, and a very humiliating and submissive act for the male. Most submissive men are extremely turned on by the female bottom, its shape, appearance and softness. To a submissive man, the female tush also represents power to him. Not only does the submissive man crave to kiss and orally worship the feminine bottom but he also desires to be crushed by it. He desires to be held captive and helpless through the act of face sitting so that he is conquered and at the mercy of his female captor.

The next piece of furniture I want is a Queening bed. I saw a picture on the Internet of a woman lying on a large bed and there was a man’s face trapped in the middle of her bed. You could only see his face, as the rest of his body must have been bound under the bed. In the next picture on this site, the woman straddled his face and had a look of ecstasy on her face. I have challenged my husband to make us such a bed. I tease him that I really only need his face for sex, so why allow the rest of his body on my bed?”

Some men get excited about golden showers because to them it is the ultimate in servitude and the depths of submission. To them, there is nothing so degrading and humiliating, yet exciting. To some submissive men, it is the moment right before the golden shower that is the most exciting. To have his Queen positioned over his body, perhaps seated on a Queening stool with him bound below her, awaiting to be degraded. It is that moment of anticipation that submissive men have confessed that they felt unbelievably submissive, as if they had indeed been conquered by their Queen. Then as they felt the warmth of the woman’s urine against their body they knew there was no doubt that they could never be her equal.