I had never expected it, but my KH made me eat her, then penetrate her ….. as I was about to cum, she said to stop…..it was too late ! I had a ruined orgasm inside of her, I was then ordered (for the first time in my ife) to “clean it all up orally” ! humbling very very humbling !

the other morning in the tub, she was “washing” her toy, I was edging over and over !, I came real real close to orgasm and she said (for the 2nd time) “if yu mess you clean up”, this while she was edging me !

well it came to a stage where I begged her to stop !, she just added the extra jam acting as if she didn’t hear me……….well guess what RUINED ORGASM again, but in my hand !, she made me swallow it while it was still hot !!!

the following day I asked why ?, her reply “it turns me on, and you can call it sweet revenge if you like” !

either way, trust me when I tell you………it humbles you, and shows your KH absolute dedication !

In fact, my FLM is the very reason that I am not subject to this phenomenon for one very simple, convenient reason …. I don’t control my penis.  The second Mistress K. accepted my submission, I gladly offered and she happily accepted the responsibility and control of my penis.  As a covenant to our relationship (and as of a year ago our renewed marriage vows), my penis is completely and utterly controlled by Mistress K.  Access to it, it’s use for ANYTHING other than it’s cleaning or for urination, is absolutely prohibited without permission and supervision.

Controlling the male penis is essential in any FLR. It’s the essence of discipline. If a woman can’t control what a man does or doesn’t do with his penis she really isn’t in charge no matter how often she spanks him. Discovering Jay’s out of control masturbation was a turning point for us. That evolved into complete orgasm control. He cums when and if I give him explicit permission and masturbation is strictly forbidden ( and severely punished ) Getting control of Jay’s bottom with spanking allowed me to get control of his cock as well. I still do plenty of spanking but my control of his cock is the key to the success of our FLR.

Control of access, use and pleasure of the cock is absolutely essential in a FLR/FLM. There have been some posts and comments on other blogs debating as to whether not a submale should have his orgasms controlled. I can’t imagine how a successful FLR/FLM could exist if I were to be allowed to masturbate and orgasm whenever I wanted. I believe it explicitly defines the control of the relationship being in the “subs” hands. Literally. Since beginning our FLM, I have had so very few orgasms, and most of those are of the ruined variety. I can tell though, our marriage has never been better, and the sex that I have had since then has been soooo much better than any sex I have had prior to giving up control of my cock and orgasms. The overwhelming majority of the sex we have is Mistress having an orgasm, and me having the honoring of either participating or just watching. Either way, it is a beautiful, almost spiritual thing to witness my Mistress having an orgasms. I once was able to have an orgasm (permission was granted) simply by viewing Mistress having one. There was zero stimulation to my penis.

I allow Jay to cum about twice monthly.Some wives might think that’s too often.  Equally important,I believe it is not the number of times he cums that matter but that he has thoroughly internalized the message that he is forbidden to cum without my explicit permission and he is never to masturbate or ask to masturbate. As long as we are clear on that I am comfortable letting him cum when he is behaving and the moment is right.

I agree, it isn’t important how many times a sub male ejaculates. What is important is the knowledge that we are forbidden to cum. For me … I am forbidden from orgasm and touching myself sexually (anywhere, not just my penis). That being said, i do masturbate a lot because Mistress K. enjoys watching me edge myself for her. There are times where I am required to self edge during the day every 30 or 60 minutes. yes, all day! My balls just ache on those days but you know what, I have learned to yearn for that ache. She also enjoys watching me masturbate, but almost never will she allow me to orgasm that way. And god help me if I should have an accident.

This Sunday it will have been 42 days for me and the first opportunity for my Wife Mz. C to unlock me. God am I ready! Mz. C does not have me orally please her during my long lock ups, but I wish she would. I really yearn for it. If she were to have me orally please her it would not only remind me that she is my superior and owns me, but it would double my desire.
The longest she has kept me locked is 59 days and ironically that’s how old I am. I can’t help but wonder if next year she will set me a new record of 60 days?
I love her so much more now that she has complete control of my little penis and exploits it. If she had not taken control of it away from me it probably would have gotten me into trouble by now. I don’t think she’ll ever allow it to be free.

I will tell you that I was involved in the most beautiful, sensual and loving sex I have ever had in my life. It was almost spiritual.

AND

I was milked immediately after.  After Mistress and I made the most incredible love I can ever remember, she reminded me that I still needed to be milked.  I was not allowed to orgasm during our sex and after I told I could’ve literally had an orgasm just from witnessing her during our lovemaking, she told me to straddle her naked body on the bed.  She told me that my milking would happen only if i were able to produce an ejaculation with only the visual stimulation before me (naked her), and her gently massaging my balls.  It took less than a minute.  Not once was my penis touched.

Monthly objective complete.  Mistresses devoted pet-husband was ritualistically drained of his semen.

Sex was what Mistress wanted, and so that is what she got. I wanted it too of course, but that is never enough of a reason for Mistress to allow sex.

Then it occurred to me that Mistress was milking me.  She would occasionally rub the head of my cock with her slippery hand to speed up the process, but concentrated on the massaging of my balls.

Mistress was looking me directly in the eyes, without any expression on her face.  She was methodical and determined to coax the semen from deep within my balls.  At that moment, and because of the expression on her face, that Mistress intended to give me my spanking punishment immediately following my milking.  I begged Mistress not to spank me after extracting the cum from my balls, knowing that receiving a spanking after ejaculation is so much worse.  I begged her with everything I had to give me my spanking first and then milk me after.

Mistress would have none of it.  She continued to massage my balls knowing that it would be stimulation enough to produce my ejaculate.  She remained expressionless and continued in a clinical fashion rubbing my aching balls.  After several minutes of begging and pleading, I resigned myself to the fact that my spanking would come AFTER my milking and not the other way around.  Standing naked with my arms at the top f the doorway, Mistress silently held her palm in front of my cock.  It was her silent instruction that it was time for me to produce my mess into her.  As if on cue and from only the stimulation of Mistress squeezing and massaging my balls in her hand, my ejaculate oozed from the head of my cock and into her hand.  She continued to squeeze my balls and coax out as much as she could.  When the cum stopped oozing in her hand, she abruptly let go of my now-slippery ball sack, she paused and looked into my eyes for what seemed like a long time.  For a moment there, I thought she was going to feed me my cum because seemed to be in the mood of making me do something that neither of us want to do.  Instead, she walked past me and into the bathroom to wash her hands.

She returned from the bathroom quickly, grabbed my outstretched arm and led me to the bed.  Pointing to it she instructed me to stand next to it and bend over the side.  I begged her some more not to give me my punishment right then but I’m afraid that only caused her to be more determined.  I bent over the bed, offering my bare, sweat covered ass to her for my spanking.  She had me stand for an adjustment and that’s when she noticed that I had dribbled some of my cum on the freshly washed sheets.  Trust me, that didn’t help my situation.

For what seemed like an eternity, Mistress spanked me the gruesome wooden spoon with the rounded back.  It was awful.

A big part of your job as the leader will be redirecting his attention to serving you and focusing on your needs and not his desires.  It is primarily a paradigm shift in thinking.  He needs to embrace his submission and focus on serving and worshiping you.

 

 

So today, a week or so after I’ve been denied and locked up in a silicone CB6000s style device, my KH allowed me to massage her legs. I was super horny, and every little touch was making me seconds away from exploding (it really was) and I told her so…

So she turned around to me, and said I had 30 seconds to cum. I was still wearing my device. She started massaging my balls. I was incredibly, incredibly turned on.

30 seconds later.. nada. With a disappointed sigh, she said we’ll try again a week or so later.

I have revoked his rights to anything sexual with me. I will not allow him to see me undressed, nor will he be allowed to touch me during this period of chastity. With his new cage, one that is real, I want to take our relationship to a deeper level. One where he fully understands his place as a submissive man. I am not doing this to be mean to him but rather to reset him so to speak.

I love my husband and how submissive he is but I want to get him to a point where even touching me is precious and not taken for granted. I want him to feel overwhelmed with just grabbing my ass or licking me. I want that for him to feel like having sex.

As of right now I have no idea when I will begin to allow him to touch me, see me undressed, or lick me, but it will be a fairly long time of abstinence before that happens. A while longer still before the cage comes off to reward him for being good. And by being good, I mean he doesn’t ask, doesn’t hint period. It means leaving everything regarding sex to be completely up to me. He has been locked now since Valentines day and I think it will be at least two more months. We will see.

The purpose of this is to establish my position and his. It is a reset. I want to be courted properly and work forward from there. So there is the goal. He expressed that he wanted me to have total control. And I explained to him what that would look like if I was the one driving. He agreed, and so now we are headed down the road.

Now all that said, we still kiss. I hold his hand when we go for our evening walk in the neighborhood. We talk. We laugh. But of his hand wanders then it gets stopped. But again it isn’t permanent. It’s just for a time. And he knows that. He just doesn’t know how much time.

Dear MsKeyholderWife, my Mistress started me in a similar fashion but with an exception: I am trained not to gaze on Her when She removed Her outer clothes, and wear a blindfold when pleasing Her. I’ve not seen Her in any compromising way for a long time.

Although I was never allowed to ask for release (of either kind, from lockup or denial), I would often be grabby, or drop comments… or in general, ‘pressure’ her.

It is obvious why – denial breeds libido, and direct proximity to our beautiful, perfect, nigh-divine goddesses makes every individual hormone molecule stand up and say “that one, now”.

My wife found it annoying, irritating, but worst of all felt that when I was grabby and pushy that any action she took soon after that felt less as though it was her own, and more as though it was in response to my actions – which is directly antithetical to the D/S relationship. It is highly similar to ‘topping from the bottom’ to borrow from another part of the kink constellation.

Such a policy was extremely difficult for me to follow, and I still have lapses. It is un-learning an entire lifetime of arousal responses, and it isn’t easy.

Her decision in this regard was undoubtedly an excellent one, and was very good for our relationship.

Again this is what you want as a man. I don’t want him teased right now. I want him focused on my needs, my wants, not his own. It is interesting that a lot of guys here want denial yet when they get it in a way that does not suit them then all of the sudden the wife or keyholder is doing it wrong. Chastity for us is about my control not his. If I choose not to give him sexual stimulation in any way for a time, as a keyholder don’t I have that right? Of course I know what he wants but I want him to know the difference between want and need. And since I never said that his total abstinence is permanent, I think my requests for it for a time is reasonable.

I obviously want him to adore me. But more than that I don’t want games. I love reality. This is what I want in this relationship and he told me that it was mine for the taking. Not that it isn’t hard for him, I know it is. But the point of all this is to see how true he is to his promise of being totally submissive to me. It is my job to know how he is doing and to gently but firmly guide him in fulfilling his promise to me.

You most definitely should hold your husband to his promises. After all he also agreed to them. In our relationship I may voice my concerns but ultimately my wife decides if there is to be compromise.

We found the exercise of conception actually a bit enjoyable this time as I became nothing more than a stud or sperm donor unlocked to produce my seed when needed…unlocked before heading to the clinic wearing pantyhose or thigh highs provided by her to go produce my seed carrying a pair of her sexy day worn panties in a little silk bag for me to inhale their sweet aroma while mastutbating into the sample cup. Our restart began here. This is where it became “allaboutHer”. Rubbing her swollen, aching feet and back daily during her pregnancy, keeping her toes and feet looking perfect…and me locked with nothing in return except for the privelage of touching her and serving her…and it has pretty much stayed that way ever since. She now happily wears a key charm around her neck and has embraced this. It is not what I planned or expected. I never expected only 2 orgasms in the last 3 years. I did not expect to be sleeping in pantyhose and night shirts 2-3 nights a week. I did not expect to be a supplement to a vibrator and I did not expect to find myself craving my anal plug harness while we ” have sex” (pubic bone to pubic bone grinding like lesbians where she has quaking orgasms and I hold her closely and merely leak and clench on the plug harnessed inside me). It is all very different than I planned….but SHE is happy, and that makes ME happy.

I keep him denied from the beginning of our relationship. He had started to wear chastity device few months later and last two years he is locked 24/7. I have never allowed sex with me nor any masturbation. He is technically still virgin. I know it may sounds odd to someone. But it doesn’t mean I ignore him. It doesn’t mean I do not share intimacy with him. Quite contrary. I think it deepens our relationship. Even if there is no sex in the narrow sense of word there is a lot of intimacy, love and passion.

A btw I want to keep his virginity till our wedding night and it would be first time I will allow him experience orgasm with me.

Whole point is that the focus has to be that it’s now not want he wants out of it but what you want out of it. As he said he wanted you to take control this has to go with the territory. If you want complete abstinence for him, then you are entitled to get it. And he needs the mindset to accept it. And anything else you decide for that matter.

I’m in permanent chastity now, so I won’t be cumming any time soon. I’m told it will be only one time in 2016, so I might get as far as 16 months without a cum. After that, I’ll be counting in years.

 

Supervised and restricted there is no real come down from denial – Thank goodness for chastity cages

Simultaneous orgasms, when we climax together-traditional sex (for us traditional sex is us is me kneeling in front of her keeping her cock hard while she takes herself over the edge where at that point I am then permitted to enter her and cum, although I am not always granted permission) ….

Ruined orgasms, a whole new spectrum within orgasms for a man –

The anal orgasm during strap-on sex, mistress has informed me that I will learn to cum this way with the cage on. Orgasm this was is very intense and leaves one exhausted, So far while I get very hard and aroused I have cum with minimal stimulation Thank you mistress

One spurt : Where a man is driven to the very point of orgasm, but never quite gets over the edge but a muscle contraction results in one single spurt of cum, any more than one spurt and it’s a normal ruined orgasm. Result is very slight relief but continued stimulation is still possible – Thank you Mistress.

Edging followed by a squirt of cum without any associated feeling at all, usually following some anal stimulation. – Thank you Mistress

Sometimes if I am very lucky mistress well let me inside her to remind me what it feels like – Thank you Mistress

My wife just informed me that I’m never going to be released because she says I eat her best when she has me locked up and that the dick is not going inside of her.

I find physical affection and sexual stimulation relaxing. so when I get home from.work, I like to have my S/O come kneel down beside out bed. Then I take my boots off and he kisses/sucks my toes. I pet his head and back and tell him I love him, make lots of eye contact etc. Then I gently pull him up and have him give me oral, both up front and around back (I LOVE that) until I climax.

Hot Sex for my lovely wife is when I get home for work and make dinner and clean up. Then she will invite me to the bed room afterwards and I will be ordered to strip down completely naked and kneel in front of her suck her toes. From there I’m told to work my way up to please her orally. Afterwards I may use my strap on if she desires penetration. I’m very rarely am allowed to have penetration sex. Her desire is for me to perform orally.

But my wife has definitely assumed control of our 5 Food Groups and knows that she is the Head of the Household! I am on an allowance, look to her for decisions and approvals or all kinds, have sex when she chooses, have learned not to climax nor masturbate, and have a growing list of delegated tasks I am responsible for that free her time for more important things.

First, I don’t allow my hubby to touch himself unless I say. I, on the other hand, can touch anytime I please and without any warning. Secondly, I find that periods of denial helps to keep his focus. Denial can be me undressed, teasing and deny orgasms, assignments with an erotic intention etc. I keep him nude. This allows for unplanned and exciting couple time. I supply him with eye candy sightings of me. Direct orders works wonders in getting and keeping his attention. For example, me requiring him to give me oral service during one of his favorite shows.

I hate punishment and being punished, but my Wife enjoys venting her anger out on me, It is very unusual if I am not sobbing uncontrollable at the end of a very severe punishment session. The problem for me is that over the years I have become more immune to the cane, so my wife has steadily increased the strokes to make them effective. I have to thank her after every session. I also find that when she has had a bad day at the office I can expect to be Punished. Afterwards she is no longer bitchy. 3 years ago she was going through an aggressive take over of a rival company, I was punished every night for 3 months to ensure she was relaxed for the next day. I certainly worked for her as she got promoted shortly afterwards.

My wife disciplines me to correct poor behavior and enforce her authority in our marriage. Punishment spankings are typical and loss of privileges, especially intercourse are also effective means of building my character to her satisfaction and keeping my focus on her as head of our household. Because I have flirtatious tendencies and an unruly temper when frustrated, I am held to account 24/7. My wife does not let me get away with anything.

Henpecked: dominated, subjugated, browbeaten, subject, bullied, timid, cringing, meek, treated like dirt, led by the nose, tied to someone’s apron strings, pussy-whipped (taboo slang) The henpecked husband yielded to her demands.