I shall require you to demonstrate the degree of grovelling servitude consistent with your status as a slave and I shall expect you to make every effort to please me and my girlfriends.

You will kneel beside the bed, cup my breast in your hands and kiss it slowly and reverently. You will kiss the whole of the breast not just the nipple.
• You will massage the breast with circular and squeezing movements of your hands whilst licking and kissing the nipple.
• You will continue until I snap my fingers.
• You will then massage the other breast.
• You will continue your worship until I snap my fingers twice when you will kneel, bow and assume position 1.

I began to develop a dominant attitude toward him. The first thing that changed was our sex life. I released Ted from the CB-2000 once a week in which he would clean both himself and the device and shave his pubic hair. I would allow him a few hours out of the device before requiring that he reinstall it. During his few free hours, I would allow him to have sex with me. He would spring to erection and his passion toward me was the best since we were newlyweds. But there was one minor problem. Ted was so sexually frustrated from being confined in that cage all week without being able to touch himself, that when I permitted him to have sex with me, he would have a pre-mature ejaculation, which left me frustrated. An even bigger problem was that after his quickie orgasm, he seemed to revert back to his old self, meaning a loss in passion and a short temper
toward me. This was not good so I had to make some adjustments to our sex life.

I began to only have sex with Ted while he was wearing the CB-2000. In fact, I only permitted him out of the device about once every other week and then only for a few hours to allow him to shave, to clean himself and clean the device. If we were going to engage in sex, he had to be wearing
the CB-2000. The results were that for the first time in our marriage, our sex life became all about my pleasure. Ted orally pleasured me for as long as I wanted and I pleasured myself with a dildo or a vibrator. Ted was so full of passion that he began to perform oral sex on me for hours at a time. Before, he never liked to go down on me but now, he was doing me with passion and an incredible endurance. I would also make him pleasure me with my sex-toys. I took great pleasure in pointing out to Ted how my dildo was much bigger than his penis and how my dildo never went limp.

Ted had to remain in the CB-2000 during sex, which caused him some discomfort from his penis fighting to become erect but being rebutted by the tight cage of the chastity device. Ted began to beg me for sexual relief and I loved having this control over him. My urge to dominate him began to expand into other areas outside the bedroom. I made Ted earn the privilege of an orgasm. I began to assign him chores around the house each night and he had to do a satisfactory performance in his housework in order for me to allow him an orgasm the next time I released his penis from its cage. When I would let him out of his cage, intercourse was not an option because of his problem with pre-mature ejaculations. So I began to have him masturbate for me, in front of me. This lead to all kinds of exercises in Ted’s humiliation as I would invent creative ways for him to entertain me while he masturbated for me.

Ted was soon doing all the household chores, including the cooking. I enrolled Ted in cooking classes and in massage therapy classes. Ted began to be my personal servant. I took charge of almost every aspect of his life and he was so horny all the time from being sexually denied that he obeyed practically all of my demands. He became rather docile and submissive toward me and I kept growing more dominant toward him. On the weekends, Ted is no longer allowed to play golf or watch sports. He has to attend to my needs.

I began to make him fast from sundown Friday to sundown Saturday. During Saturday, he is required to read books on female care, hair care, nail care, skin care and such. Before his fast ends, I will administer to him an enema to promote health as well as incorporating another method in dominating him. Once again, this has made Ted more submissive toward me.

On Sunday, Ted must utilize what he has learned by pampering me. He will do my hair, my nails, give me a massage and of course, he will orally service my body and bring me to multiple orgasms. Every other Sunday, I will free him from the CB-2000 and allow him to masturbate in a way that I find to be entertaining. I might make him lay across my lap and hump my leg while I spank him until he climaxes. Or I may have him lay across the bed and hump a pillow while I paddle his behind.

There is an evolution that takes place within most women as they experiment with this lifestyle. Most women start out timid and unsure about this lifestyle. Then once they begin to overcome their inhibitions and embrace the dominant side of their personality, they begin to love being dominant and controlling. Over time, the Dominant Female’s appetite grows and she hungers for more control and more power. Denying a man orgasms is a real power rush. Women who practice this lifestyle will eventually learn that a sexually satisfied man is a selfish man but a denied man is an obedient man.

We’ve had our children, so at this point balls on a slave aren’t needed, so abusing them really gives me no worries, other then hurting him too badly of course. but as we progress, hes taking more pain there, and I’m sure in time permanent damage will occur. if it hasn’t already. but, as I’ve said, slave is not permitted orgasm, so those balls only exist for my use and pleasure. there are lots of studs out there who deserve to orgasm!

We decided that instead of nagging or arguing, She would communicate Her displeasure to my testicles. Part of my chastity agreement states that my nuts are Hers to do with as She wishes whenever She wishes. So now, instead of an argument, I must willingly make my balls available for Her to “educate” me about my behavior on demand. The logic in this is that I will DEFINITELY give Tigger my 100% undivided attention when She has me by the balls, & I’m much less likely to “forget” Her point. For me, it makes me feel SO much more like a Man to have Her handling my testicles instead of yelling at me. We BOTH WIN!!

She will spank me and makes me sit in a chair and not to move. She waits while I make supper and very seldom thanks me for supper. I know my place as her obedient servant. She seldom releases me from chastity and never allows any sex.

Begin with the simplest gesture: when my wife enters a room I rise. And I do not sit back down until, with a now practiced gesture, she gives permission. Doors are held, as are chairs. These are the simple manners of a bygone era.

As to finance, gradually the wise wife restricts her husband’s financial independence. Credit cards should only live in her purse, the main family bank account should be in her name. In time the well tempered husband is put first on an allowance and then, on a cash request basis. He should rarely have more than ten dollars in his pocket. While it is certainly humiliating to have to ask for money, that is precisely what a well trained husband will have to do.

Household management is a matter of skill. A man is quite capable of pushing a vacuum cleaner or mopping a floor. He can be taught to wash clothes properly. He can certainly hand wash intimates and iron, and, of course, wash the dishes (or load and unload the dishwasher.) Cooking ability varies and many women prefer good meals to the pleasure of teaching their husband to cook.

Again, introduce these bits of subordination gradually but firmly. A wife lead marriage is not about negotiation. Which is, quite simply, one of its attractions for a surrendered husband. He does what he is told. Which is, in itself, a huge relief and reward.

If he does it well there may be other rewards and, in time, if he does it badly, punishments.

Behind closed doors, my wife is the Queen. I’m more of a service-oriented submissive, which means I love doing housework, pampering, occassionally kneeling. No spanking or cross-dressing–we are just not into it. My job is to pamper, and my enjoyment is seeing that she gets what she demands of me (yes, it’s hard to explain). Needless to say, this requires a complete trusting relationship.

Sex is extremely fulfilling with my wife being pampered and having little pressure to please me.

As a man reading this thread that was serving my purpose as a doormat in my marriage (I was broken and wanting to be completely submissive near the end of it, if she had led me by the hand I would have been a devoted servant)

Then I bring her the tea, kneeling while we chat for about 30 minutes. She on the sofa enjoying tea, me on my knees. We call this time 100% attention time–my job is to be attentive. She may want a refill or some grapes or she may just want conversation. Kiss her hand to thank her for allowing me to serve her breakfast.

Shower time. Every now and then, she “rewards” me with shower chores. That means showering together, pick out her clothes for the night, help with towering, lotion, drying hair. She likes nightly back massage…and if it leads to sex, I usually get the signal.

If we have sex, sex always leads to multiple orgasms for her whereas sex does not always lead to orgasm for me since she decides if my orgasm is “allowed” or not. I’ve gone to sleep many nights fully aroused while hugging/caressing my wife to sleep after she had multiple orgasms. She knows sex is mostly for her benefit and she is under no pressure/resentment that I’m only in it for my quick orgasm (because she decides if I’m going to get one). And she knows I love kneeling on the bed giving her full body massages for as long as she wishes–and if it leads to no sex, I’m content with that.

“I’m the Queen. I deserve this simply because I am the Queen. Your job is to please me and thank me for allowing you to please me.”

Using your sub male as a footstool is a good way to keep him mindful of his lesser standing and the humble attitude that he owes his Mistress. Daily footstool use is best.

If the sub husband works outside the house he should automatically assume the footstool position on entering the home. No change of dress, drink of water or bathroom visit.

Instantly assuming a humble posture beneath the Mistress is a good way for the sub male to transition from the outside world where is his treated like an equal to home where he is an inferior servant.

“I will take all pleasure and comfort from your life.

“You will not masturbate, nor stroke yourself. Your only sexual pleasure will be mine. The only orgasms in your life will be mine.

“I take away your comfort. You will live on the floor and sleep where I allow you. Your nights will be spent in the bathroom or the hall. No pillow, no blanket. If you lie there awake you will remind yourself that your inability to rest is at my will.

“That you once enjoyed eating will become a dim memory. What food I allow you – and often it will be little as I enjoy your hunger – will be functional at best. Like the beast you are, you will eat from a bowl. And your thirst will grow so strong that in being allowed to drink only my piss your gratitude will be all you feel as you lick it up.

“Loneliness will make you ever more thankful that I pay any attention to you at all. Often you will be locked away and forgotten hoping for any attention from your owner.

“Discomfort and neglect will leave you hungry for the worst because that is better than nothing.

“All that will be left to you is acceptance of me as your superior. Your clinging to inferiority hoping that by embracing a role of worthlessness that your service will be more endurable.

“But my demands will never abate. “

On any occasion……when slave is permitted to release sperm into Goddess or anywhere else slave must immediately, without prompting or question forthwith clean away all such sperm using his mouth, swallowing the sperm in order to remove it.

If Goddess ever needs to ask slave to lick up his sperm, or clean sperm away using any other means then slave will not have acted with perfection in this matter and will be liable for punishment.

This morning Goddess’ cock was hard cuddling up against Her and Goddess allowed me to rub it into Her butt, and even let me insert it into Her. However I was not permitted to cum. Perhaps She has something planned for tonight, or just chose not to let me cum.

Goddess squeezed Her cock briefly, and instructed me to go down and eat Her. I did so, and lapped at Her diligently. As is often Her style, Goddess allowed Herself to the edge, and did not let Herself orgasm, so that She could prolong Her pleasure. I delighted in this, and enjoyed giving it to Her, licking away and occasionally drinking up the juices She produced.

After a while Goddess instructed me to put Her cock in, and I rose to mount Her, sliding my rod in, before pumping gently in and out of Her.

I paced myself slowly, not wanting to reach the point of no return any sooner than I must. Goddess pushed my body a few inches away and reached out to pinch my nipples firmly as She likes to do. As Her fingers bit into my nipples the delight of experiencing Goddess’ pinch and Her love tunnel was more than I could bear and I soon felt myself drawing close to orgasm.

“I am close to cumming,” I informed Goddess, as I gently stroked in and out.

“OK,” She said. “Then you must stop. Go back down on me.” And She pushed me off Her and I returned to eagerly lapping at Her lovely pussy, now engorged by our love making. I lathered Her groin with my tongue, one finger in Her pussy as Goddess likes, and ultimately brought Her to wonderful orgasm, drinking all Her juices as She did so.

Goddess lifted Her leg over my head and away, and I guessed that it looked like I was not going to get to cum this evening. Sure enough, She instructed me to go and unlock the door, which I did before returning to spoon close in behind Her in bed.

“This is the way it will be,” explained Goddess. “You will not be allowed to cum again until you have received your strokes for not being submissive enough in front of Amanda.”

My cock jerked even harder against her butt as I lay next to Her. The excitement was overbearing. Not only had She awarded me an extra six strokes for the next day, but now She was demanding that I be more submissive in front of other ladies in future, and She was controlling and delaying my orgasms, and insisting on giving me my punishment due, all in one evening. My love at Her domination overflowed.

The slave shall notify the Goddess immediately or as soon as possible in the case he has an erection. Such notice shall include, without prompting, the full reasons for the slave’s erection.)

On these occasions Goddess is always very clear to insist I serve Her. I must put Her food on Her plate and take it to Her, prepare and bring Her a hot water bottle, clear away the dirty plates, make tea after we have eaten, bring Her Her nail things if She requires them – whatever Goddess requires I provide. Goddess does not Herself lift a finger or get off Her chair the whole evening. My mother has now come to accept this as the norm in our house, and I detect that Goddess gets great pleasure from presenting Her dominance and my submission to her in this way.

When She had finished giving me the six, She stood their with the steel cane in Her hand, and said “I am going to give you one more, hard, punishment stroke, just to remind you how hard punishment strokes are, so that you remember to be good.” And She brought the steel cane crashing down. So that confirmed matters – I am back where I belong – under Her.

it look revolting I said what a good idea, I turned to Fanny and said look how much Mistress Jean could save me on your food bills, we will try this out for a week and see how much swill we have to feed you and then adjust your weekly allowance for food down to may half that would leave me more to spoil myself, do you agree Fanny, he said yes I wish you to have extra to spoil yourself thank you Madam, we could not stop laughing.

As I went to toilet I started to fart I got Fanny to come into the toilet with me we both looked at toilet and saw his dinner floating in piss and toilet tissue, I thought for a second and said put your nose to my ass and I let a really loud and smelly fart in his face, I asked him if he was OK with me shitting on his food and of course I have him trained not to displease me he said it would be a pleasure and honour to serve Madam in what ever way she chooses, but I could hold no longer hold the shit so I sat down on the toilet, when I got up all was covered in shit I got Fanny to wipe me, as I walked out Fanny I said you are in for a real teat tonight, get back in the hall and wait further orders, back in the relax room I told Jean what I done and she said no problem, make him take his food out and clean off the shit and put in his bowl and then he can eat it, we keep him waiting for nearly another hour before I told him he could clean off the shit and put the food in his doggy bowel and eat then go to bed as his service was no longer required, by now he had stood for nearly 3 hours in his 2’’ heels waiting to eat his cold soggy and now very dirty dinner.

After a few years like this I decided to married Brian or as I call him now Fanny only because of his wealth as he is not very good looking and is no good in the sex department, he has a little cock about 4 inches, but I told him that I would marry him if he became my full time servile slave, he agreed and we signed a contract that I would own everything and he would be my slave.

Fanny’s living quarters are of course in the basement, there are two rooms in the basement one is large room directly under my TV and relax room and also under my gym the other is a small room off the large room that would have been the coal store it had a opening from the outside where the coal was delivered but this was now fully closed up, the room has no windows and is only about 8 ft x 10ft, he has a small radiator, an old steel frame bed that we found in the attic and a old wooden commode that serves as a seat and his toilet, the toilet bucket can be lifted out to empty, he has to empty his toilet bucket down a manhole in the yard, he is not allowed to use any of the toilets or bathrooms. He keeps himself clean by bringing down buckets of water from the laundry room and has to wash himself this way. I insist on this to ensure that he fully understands that he is a servant and he must live his life like a servant /slave. I have a call system one part he wears round his balls and the other I have hand held so when I require him I press the button and he gets a shock

He is on call day or night, and to keep him on his toes, if I happen to wake in the middle of the night I press the button a few times and he will come running, I allow him maximum of five minutes to be at my side, I sometimes in the night make him attend me as a toilet, this I know he get a thrill from me pissing in his mouth.

The rule is for every minute he is late over five minutes he gets ten lashes. If I am felling wicked I will sometime go to my bedroom and lock the door while he hard at work then I press the button and because he is unable to get in through the locked door and keep him waiting for maybe five more minutes before I open the door, this means I have the right to give him 50 lashed because he was not by my side, after I whip him I feel so horny I make him lick me until I come and come, even I have left his ass and back in lumps and marks he is still grovelling at my feet and thanking me.

His clothing and food are provided by me and he does the shopping for food and supplies, I have a special credit card that he is co signer and he buys all my food, drink etc and I check the receipt to make sure he has not added anything for himself and each Sunday I give him £14 cash and he must use this to buy himself food and hygiene supplies for the week, my food bill is around £150 each week as I like the best. I know only £2per day is not a lot for him but he knows in the supermarkets he can buy the food that is just going out of date or I have instructed him to ask for any out of date food and tell them it is for his dog !!! he buys the supermarkets own brands also he gets to eat my leftovers. We he is cooking for me he must also cook his meals at the same time but on different pans, he has one old pot to cook his food in and I make him boil his meat food together with any vegetables so everything looks and tastes the same then he in a large dog bowl, he serves me and waits till I have finished and have dismissed him to clean up and that I require nothing more before he eats, so all the time he is eating cold soggy tasteless food.

Sophia’s control over him, Sophia removed her shirt slowly and then her bra. In street clothes she could appear slightly overweight, but naked, her cannonball sized breasts gave her a sexual power that was undeniable. Her nipples were tight and Billy just stared at her. She stood in front of him with her hands on her hips and smiled. He blushed again. She smiled and thought to herself that she had finally completely dominated a man. He would now be her sex toy, and she would never again have to pretend he had any say at all.

“It is time for sex, servant” she announced.

His eyes followed her to the dresser as she pulled out a translucent strawberry colored strap on dildo. Sophia faced Billy and strapped it on, tightening the straps. The strawberry cock now mimicked an erection and Billy knew what was next.

He was powerless now, though, a fact she was well aware of. He now understood the lubing was preparing him for this. He knew there was no masculinity left though so he put up absolutely no resistance.

Billy spread his legs as she knelt on the bed in front of him. The tits were closer now and he just stared up at them, his eyes dilated. Sophia knew he was now her complete slave, and her pussy was wet. She lifted his now smooth legs to either side and pressed the phallus to the edge of his anus.

Billy continued to stare up at her, his lips parted slightly and then his eyes widened as she entered him. Pleased that he offered no protest, Sophia whispered.

“Good little slut”

She pulled back the dildo and thrust a second time. Billy gasped as it took the breath out of him. With the third thrust his body completely relaxed. He moaned softly in a decidedly feminine way and tilted his head backward.

As she moved in and out he moaned softly, his masculinity gone. Sophia knew there was no escaping this moment and he could never look her in the eyes again without knowing what she had done to him.

It was important to her that she finish the process that night before he had any chance to reconsider his choices.

His cock was erect now, his sweat mixed with precome to give his shaved skin an oily sheen.

Billy looked up at her massive tits as she fucked him, mesmerized by her power. He didn’t dare touch them without permission.

“I like it when you moan like a woman, your shaved legs in the air. Your feminization pleases me.”

The Keyholder demand 

• You will learn the benefits of chastity, the enjoyment of orgasm control and the pleasure of handing over all rights to your penis.
• You will learn how to gain sexual fulfillment though bringing ME to orgasm and learn how your ass, mouth and other areas of your body can provide enjoyment despite not being able to cum.
• You will not speak of your penis or your orgasms. The penis belongs to me, and you simply don’t have orgasms until I choose otherwise. When asked, you will respond with how MY penis is doing while locked in the cage.
• You will learn to embrace your interest in chastity without complaint. You will not ask for release, or ask when you will be released. You will not like what happens if you complain or beg.

Not allowing him to orgasm during sex with you, and doing away with his unsupervised masturbation by putting him in chastity will result in your man always being focused on you. He will not be able to escape his need to give you fulfillment of every want and desire.

A helpful way to think of this is to think of his sexual satisfaction as a vacation away from you. Every time the male achieves orgasm his focus will move somewhere else for about a week. During this time he will be “on vacation” and will not be serving you to the best of his ability. With that in mind, you should consider how many weeks per year you want his attention to be on his own selfish desires.  As his boss, how many weeks of “vacation” should be granted.

One male orgasm per week translates to 52 weeks of “vacation” per year.
One male orgasm per month translates to 12 weeks of “vacation” per year.
One male orgasm per quarter translates to 4 weeks of “vacation” per year.
One male orgasm every six months translates to 2 weeks of “vacation” per year.
One male orgasm per year translates to 1 week of “vacation” per year.

Control the money! Husband gets no credit cards, no checks and no allowance. Husband wants something, you buy it, if you want. If you give him some cash for a specific purchase, he brings back the change and the receipt. After that is established any controls can added easily. Like keeping his car keys in your purse. I recommend not giving him a chore list, instead direct him to do each chore at the time you want it done. When you control the money it is easy to reward him with something he wants. It doesn’t have to be a big thing. for instance, a simple bottle of beer that he can’t get himself will become a much appreciated reward. If you control the finances then you are head of the house.

 Many wives actually:

• turn over their housework to their husbands in part or whole,
• take control of family finances informally or formally,
• direct sex toward their own satisfaction, and
• are courted by their husbands and treated like a Goddesss twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week

But once you have him in a chastity device you will notice a big change in his behavior and attitude. Not only does it enforce your management of his sexuality and prevent masturbation, it also represents a constant physical reminder of his submission to your authority. In a sense, it is a wedding ring around his penis.

I am totally obedient to my Mistress, but i confess that i am thrilled to do things for women in general. For example, one time my Mistress said she would “give” me for an afternoon to a friend who needed help with housework. Her friend is “vanilla,” so when she and Mistress spoke with one another, it was couched in different terms — she said I would be happy to help. Her friend was very grateful and maybe a little embarrassed to have me working in her house. She worked alongside me even though Mistress and i both urged her to rest while i worked — something she needed to do, because she had been experiencing a lot of stress. Anyway, I feel ashamed that i felt a small erotic twinge when, finally, she stretch out on a sofa as I was vacuuming the floor. There was no way i would act on such an impulse — i am not even allowed to do that with my Mistress, whom i literally worship and am devoted to — but i wonder if i’m wrong to have such feelings. I told my Mistress and she was not happy to hear it, but she did not punish me.

There is nothing wrong with a properly trained male serving women other than his wife. In fact I expect it from my husband without having to reminded him. As a male devoted to living under female authority and believing women should be put on a pedestal I would expect nothing less from him. As the situation allows he is always eager to show every woman the proper respect and obedience. All I’ve done during his training is to refine these desires of his. If I was to punish him for anything it would be for a moment of forgetfulness on his part. In which he passed up an opportunity to serve a woman, any woman.

And of course during any femdom situation where one or all of our lifestyle girlfriends are present. He will serve, obey and wait on the lady or ladies hand and foot. When our men serve other women it only helps to remind them of their training and their proper place. And they love it because being in the service of women is one of their greatest joys. After all, being free to openly serve women is exactly what they were denied for so long in their vanilla relationships. By encouraging this we as their mistresses reap the reward of having better and even more devoted servants at our feet

In our contract i am not allowed to keep secrets. Mistress knows i feel a sexual edge sometimes as i serve her and her girlfriends when they visit our house for dinner. I long for Mistress in those situations, and we both have fun with it later, and with the denial that inevitably follows.

The ad hoc sessions are  quick and to the point.  I will send him to the bedroom and he will get ready for discipline.  I walk in fully clothed and get him into position and start spanking.   It will go something like this: “Slave, don’t ever talk back to me like that,” (slap! slap! slap!). “I deserve more respect than that and am very displeased by you,” (slap! slap! slap!). “For your disobedience and disrespect you will get three more spanks and you will apologize after each one.”  (slap! ‘Sorry Mistress’, Slap! ‘Sorry Mistress’, Slap! ‘sorry mistress’).  ‘For the rest of the week you will come home immediately after work and do chores or tasks for me.  You are not permitted to do any other activities this week, got it?’ (Slap!).  ‘Yes Mistress.’   ‘Good’ (Slap!).  ‘We are done.’   He kneels down and kisses my feet and thanks me and promises to do better.

You will feel a more confident and natural authority over him and he will feel a natural submission towards you with a strong desire to obey and please you, which ultimately leads to a more fulfilling relationship for both of you. Be sure to set high expectations and be firm when your expectations are not met. We are Goddesses and deserve the best.

When we are apart from each other overnight I have a few ground rules for him and I usually also have a list of tasks for him to do. I do this because I want him to feel my presence and my authority even when I am not there. I want him focused on me. It also helps to keep him out of trouble. Even the most loyal husbands can stray when put into a tempting situation. Thomas has told me that he enjoys the rules and tasks that I give him. It keeps him from getting lonely and he enjoys staying focused on me and being under my control.

I expect the house to be spotless when I arrive back home and I expect to have a gift or flowers waiting for me when I arrive home (I am a Goddess after all). I will give him extra chores to do such as straightening up my shoes, re-folding my panty drawer, or organizing my closet. Since I am not there for him to serve, he should have plenty of time for these extra chores. I may require him to sleep in the extra room as a symbol that the master bedroom belongs to me and it is a privilege for him to share it with me. I will usually lock him in chastity when I am away.

Little time has been spent with my husband.  Despite this lack of attention to Thomas, he made my coffee every morning, kept up with his chores, and kept the house in order. He did everything possible to please me and even offered extra help knowing my busy schedule.  This dynamic is the essence of a FLR. FLR is not about whips and kinks that you see in the mainstream media.  The kinks certainly are a part of the FLR for many people, including myself, but they are only a small piece of the overall FLR.

The FLR is more about a lifestyle decision to accept the woman as the lead.  It is about the male embracing his obedience to his wife and striving to please her.

I focus on three things in the session: 1. Attitude, 2. How well he did his chores and normal expectation, and 3. How well he handled non-routine items. For attitude I am reviewing his attitude towards me. For chores and expectations I take into consideration whether or not he performed all his chores and routine expectations, were they completed timely, and did they meet my expectations. For non-routine items, I am reviewing how he handled himself with unexpected or random situations.  He obeys me and I am in charge of him but that does not mean I have to tell him how to handle everything.  He should anticipate what I want and do the right thing.

For every session he is spanked a minimum of 60 times.  It may be more than 60 but it will never be less. He knows this.  The intensity of each spank will vary depending on how good or bad his behavior was for the item I am speaking about. For good behavior, I will give a light playful spank with the riding crop and will usually reward him by rubbing it over his ass, thighs, and between his legs.  For things to improve on, he will be given a moderate spank and for disobedience or items that I am displeased with, he will receive a hard stinging spank (sometimes more than one).  I start off with good to moderate things and progress toward the moderate to disobedient items so that the spanks get progressively harder.

I start off with a general statement of how his behavior has been, which sets the tone for the discipline session.. It would be something like, ‘Slave, you have been very good and I am pleased with how you are serving or obeying me’ or Slave, you have done good serving and obeying me but there are things to improve on’ or ‘Slave, I am not pleased with your behavior.’  The statement is followed by the first slap of the riding crop.  The intensity of the slap depends on how good or bad Tom’s behavior has been. I purposely refer to him as slave and I try to emphasize his obedience and how it is pleasing or not pleasing me.  These little details help elevate my authority over him and push him deeper into submission.

The next two or three spanks relate to the three major areas I focus on, which are mentioned at the beginning of this section.  It will be something like, ‘your attitude has been very good,’ (slap with some rubbing), ‘You did an o.k. job with your chores, but we need to review a few things’  ( harder slap), and ‘my car oil light has been on for several days, you need to take care of that’ (slap).  The remaining three or four spanks can be used to expand on the general statements.  I will talk about what he needs to improve on for chores, or specific items that I am displeased with, or maybe things that I am happy with.

This part of the session varies depending on my mood and how good or bad his behavior is.  There will be spanking and rubbing as I talk through the different things.  As noted above, I may spank him more than 60 times.  I don’t necessarily make all the general statements first and then go into details.  For example, I will make a general statement about his attitude and then discuss the details about it before moving onto his chores.  However, if there is not much to talk about then I will just make the general attitude statement and move right onto chores.  If he had a bad week, I may jump right to all the things that require correction and punishment and not even talk about the other items.   If he really pissed me off, then he might get 60 or more hard spanks for the one item that pissed me off and then we are done.  If he has been exceptionally good, then it’s all playful spanks and rubbing. I may reserve the last few spanks for new future expectations and make the spanks a little harder to emphasize the importance of his obedience.  If he is in a position where I can reach his cock, sometimes I will hold it or his balls while I talk and spank, squeezing it at certain times to emphasize key points.

When I am done with the spanking, I will recap things that he has to improve on and make him repeat it.  I will issue punishments if needed.  Punishments can also be given during the session when the infraction is being discussed. and I may also spend a few minutes talking about expectations or new rules or chores for the upcoming week.  I have his undivided attention so it is a good time for this.  I usually end up adding a few more spanks while I talk about these things

When we are finished he stands up and I will pull up his panties Again, I think by me doing this it mentally elevates my authority over him adds to his submissive state.  Then he will kneel and kiss my feet and thank me for disciplining me. He will also tell me that he will continue to serve me as best he can and will improve (if applicable) on his performance.  He will do this every session, even if he is harshly disciplined.  It is important to leave the session on a positive note. He will remain kneeling until I dismiss him or give further direction.

Usually after the session I will either have him pamper me with a massage or pleasure me orally or both.  When I am sitting and he is kneeling before me it is just so easy to spread open my legs and push his head between them-I love that! I make it a rule not to touch him after a discipline session.  The focus is all on me.

I have teased him with the idea of never allowing him to have sex with me again.  His tongue and fingers can do wonders and is he even worthy of having sex with a Goddess? (I have asked him that question) lol. The idea of denying him this pleasure forever is exciting to me but I don’t think it I could do without it.  As it stands now, intercourse is a special privilege for him and I only allow that privilege on occasion.  He knows that he is lucky when I allow it and that as a submissive it is very special when he is allowed to put his sex inside a Goddess.  Most of the time he pleasures me orally.  When we do have intercourse, I usually do not allow him to orgasm. On a rare occasion I will allow it.  He actually gets a “rush” out of being used like this, where I have an orgasm and he his denied during sex. Frankly I could do without the mess so I enjoy it to.  Although I do allow intercourse occasionally, it is fun to put the idea in his head that one day I may choose to deny him this privilege forever.

I will tease his cock and tell him how hot and excited I am but that he is not allowed to have sex with me. I will tell him that I know how bad he wants it. This drives him wild and usually gets him begging. Then I go in for the kill.  I will get on top of him and rub my sex all around his cock, teasing him but not letting him in.  This drives him insane (and me too!).  Ultimately I end up on his face, making him lick me to an orgasm while he is denied.  This is so much fun for both of us and it has a lingering effect on him for days afterward.

I truly believe these statements leave a lasting imprint on a submissive’s mind and help keep them focused on serving and being obedient.  I encourage you to incorporate them into your relationship.  Every once in rare moment I have allowed Thomas to be on top. When it does happen, I might say something like, “well consider that a gift.  It won’t happen again.” or “You weren’t supposed to be on top.  You’ll be punished for that.”

Saying these types of things over and over again have a lasting impact on you submissive’s mind over time. For example, whenever you assign a new chore or task you could use “Starting now and lasting forever….”.  If he tells you how great it is serving you, then you can respond with “That’s great to hear.  This is how your life will always be, so I’m glad you enjoy it.”

• Endless pampering whenever you want
• No need to do laundry. That’s his job now.
• Kitchen cleaned & dishes washed and put away every night
• No more pumping gas
• Bills are paid every month. I don’t even think about them.
• Orgasms whenever I want, however I want and he expects nothing in return
• A play toy (him) to play with whenever I want
• Coffee ready for me every morning
• I have the final say in all matters and he knows this and agrees to it. He yields to my authority and decisions. This means arguments are practically non existent.
• He anticipates my needs and wants and strives to make me happy. This is huge!
• Gifts and flowers from him just because he appreciates me
• Open communication.  We talk about anything.
• I never have to clean a bathroom again.  Yea!
• My clothes are ironed every day
• I do what I want
• He does everything I tell him to do.

Giving appreciation is important for both the dominant and the submissive.  As the leader of the relationship I will thank Thomas when he has been good for me or if he does something thoughtful for me.  I believe this motivates him to serve me even more.  He does the same for me.  He will thank me if I do something special for him like buy his favorite snack or treat him to a special night of teasing.  What I love the most is when he pampers me and then later thanks me for allowing him to pamper me.  Talk about royal treatment!  There are many days where I ride him until I have an orgasm and there is no orgasm for him (in fact that happens most times).  He will thank me for that and tell me how great it was.  I find that incredible!

Rituals have other purposes as well.  A nice benefit of rituals is once a ritual is established, the submissive knows exactly what to do. The Dominant partner does not have to worry about giving commands (unless they are part of the ritual) or telling the submissive what to do.

We have a bath ritual that I just love.  With the kids being older it does not happen often, but when it does, Thomas knows exactly what to do and I can just relax and be pampered.  I just have to whisper to him, “get my bath ready.”  He immediately goes into action, lighting candles, running my bath water and adding bubble bath.  He brings an extra fluffy towel and my robe into the bathroom. He knows I like my bath water on the hot side.  He knows to shut the bathroom door so the room is warm and smells of the bubble bath scent when I walk in.

When I enter, he is always naked and kneeling by the tub.  I enter the bath and lay back and relax.  He is to remain quiet and worship my body with his eyes while I relax. He knows that but sometimes I command him to worship my body just for the purpose of reinforcing my dominance over him. When I am ready, I order him to wash me.  Sometimes he will also shave my legs.  When the bath is over, I will stand outside the tub and he will dry me off.  I do not move.  I enjoy seeing him move all around me and bending down to dry me off.  He knows he has to do a great job at drying me before putting on my robe.  It is a great ritual that makes me feel like a true Goddess and also makes Thomas feel like a true servant to me.  We both enjoy this ritual and every time we do the bath ritual it reinforces my dominance over him and his submission to me.

Rituals help frame a husband’s thinking properly. You are correct, we men often feel like we retain some control even though we live in an FLR. Rituals help to abolish that incorrect attitude.

My wife has some rituals that she uses on occasion, primarily kissing her feet. Sometimes writing lines about her authority hundreds of times so the concept sinks in. These help shape my thinking into a proper submissive mindset.

You have a well-developed sense that the husband’s place is to submit to his wife completely. He should strive to please her, make her life easier, and obey her promptly and thoroughly.

Kissing her feet is a sign of obedience, respect, and submission so I encourage it often. While there are many times Thomas is expected to kiss my feet, occasionally he will take it upon himself to lean down his kiss my feet. This always makes me smile.

hank you for great insights into the nature of femdom relationships. I absolutely agree with you about the importance of rituals that are repeated and become embedded in the relationship. When my wife wishes to add another chore or duty to my growing list, she will usually have me write out the chore a hundred times over the course of several days – “As Mistress K’s slave, I will dust and vacuum the entire house every weekend.” Writing this one line over and over again, helps me embrace this chore not only a task that i now own, but also a task that I want to do as my Mistress Wife’s slave husband.

And yes of course, kneeling before my wife daily and kissing her feet is a ritual that I look forward to every day.

We strive for frequent orgasms for my wife whenever she wants with me giving her head. I am usually denied. In fact, she also no longer performs oral sex on me. Earlier in our relationship, it was an equal sexual relationship with intercourse and reciprocated oral sex. Now my release, when allowed, comes from masturbation while either sucking her toes or performing oral sex. This has been going on for about a year and half although the start of tipping the balance towards her getting noticeable more orgasms started several years ago, followed by no intercourse about 3 yrs ago, to prolonged orgasm denials for me shortly after.

I always lick her asshole after she orgasms from me giving her head. This is a ritual. She roles over on her tummy and I proceed by burying my face in her ass. We dont need to communicate at all in between the acts. She likes a gentle ass rimming afterwards as it provides a relaxing complement to her explosive orgasm. I also like, as you mentioned in one of your blogs, to be told that I am a good ass licker. This has been an ongoing ritual for several years.

A recent ritual for us, started about 2 months ago, is that I rim her ass every morning before she gets up from bed. In fact, thats how I wake her up in the morning. I usually wake up before she does. When I think it is time for her to get up, I gently rub her ass, and she turns to her stomach, and I start to rim. I continue to rim until she pats my head. This can be five minutes to 25 minutes, depends on how long she wants me to lick. When I finish, I thank her for giving me the privilege to clean her ass.

I am her footslave. In addition to worshiping and massaging her feet, I also take care of her shoes, making sure they are clean and organize them for her. I also lotion her feet periodically as part of my responsibility to care for them.

I enjoy being submissive to my wife. There is something about sacrificing my needs, and to go out of my way to intensify the sacrifice in the form of degradation and humiliation, so that I can provide her sexual pleasure and mental pleasure, is intoxicating to me. My wife, I dont think, was wired to be dominant. But through the years she has become accustomed to the benefits of having a slave, and she has also evolved to derive mental pleasure from me being servile, devoted to her, and to have control over me. That is the ultimate turn-on — to know that my owner expects and is pleased by my submission.

The position that has the most dominant/submissive overtones is the queening position, which is why it is the favorite position for both Thomas and myself. In the queening position, the woman (the queen) sits upon the man’s face (her throne).  Submissive men like this position because they are beneath the woman, which is their rightful place and completely symbolic of their submission.  Likewise, the woman is on top of their man, which gives her control and is symbolic of her power of him.  When I straddle Thomas’s face, my knees and legs pin his arms to his side leaving him helpless beneath me.  I love that!  Now all he has to focus on is pleasing me with his tongue. I usually hover my sex just above his face so that he has to work for it. He has to lift his head slightly to start pleasuring me.  Another thing I love about this position is that I control the pace and rhythm.  Once he gets my juices flowing and I am feeling the pleasure, I can start grinding into his face as hard or as light as I want.  I can move fast or slow.  He just keeps licking while I control the rhythm and pace. It is all about me at this point and I am very selfish with my pleasure.

In the queening position you can face forward or backward (towards his toes).  I enjoy both positions and often times switch between both positions in the same night.  Facing forward, I like being able to look down and see him pleasuring me. Thomas has told me the he enjoys looking up and seeing the look of pleasure and ecstasy on my face while he is pleasuring me.  He also enjoys the view of being beneath me and seeing the underside of my breasts and seeing me look down upon him.  Facing backwards is fun too and in this position I feel like I can do more things and mover around more.  I can sit directly on his face but I usually end up kneeling over him on my hands and knees and pushing myself upon his face. In this position I can easily direct my asshole to his tongue if I desire.  My fellow Goddesses, if you have not experienced, anal pleasure by his tongue, you do not know what you are missing. It is an exquisite and wonderful pleasure.  I also get an emotional charge out of having Thomas lick my ass.  It is a power rush I guess, just knowing the he is doing something so raw and animalistic for me. When I am really in the mood, I will order him to lick me there and tell him he is a good ass kisser.

One thing I love about the queening position is seeing his hard cock.  He gets so excited when I queen him.  His cock is always swollen and hard.  I love that! Although, if I am in the right mood, I will put him into a chastity device when I queen him.  It is equally exciting for me to see his cock restrained into the small device, forced to remain small.  I know he is aroused and his cock is desperate to grow and break free from its small prison.  Seeing his imprisonment while I ride his face and take pleasure from his tongue gives me an erotic rush.

Another favorite oral position is me sitting with my legs spread and him kneeling between them. The fact that he is kneeling before me sets the submissive/dominate tone immediately.  In this position, I enjoy putting my hands on the back of his head and pressing him into me.  I can also squeeze my thighs around his head to give him an added sense of my control and power over him. I enjoy pressing his face into my sex and then a few minutes later pushing him away from me and ordering him to stop.  I may make him kiss or massage my feet or do something else for me.  Then after a few minutes I will order him back between my legs.  I will do this over and over again until I tire from it or I orgasm.  On occasion I like to squeeze my thighs around his head and keep his face locked just a few inches from my sex.  I will hold him in this position for 30 seconds to a minute.  This is purely a power thing for me.  He is forced to stare at my sex and take in my aroused scent which drives him into a deeper submissive state. Another fun technique is to lean back, raise your leg and press your heel into the back of his head.  In this position your are using the heel of your foot to press him into your sex.  This position creates quite a power dynamic because it is as if you are laying back and relaxing while he pleasures you and you are using your foot to control him.   I also like to tie his hands behind his back or use a collar and leash on him when he is in this position. It adds to his helpless state, which both he and I enjoy.

I’ve often thought about declaring his tongue as his new sex organ and forbidding his cock from ever entering me.  He is always aroused and hard when he orally pleasures me. I love that!  I also notice that the more tough or rough I am when he is orally pleasuring me, the more he gets off on it.  He loves to be smothered by my sex or pressed into my sex.  He loves that I get off on it but he is forbidden to orgasm.  I will tell him that his place is beneath me, pleasing me or that he is good ass licker.

Yesterday I woke-up and dressed for work.  The clothes I wore were ironed by Thomas.  I went downstairs and a fresh cup of coffee was waiting for me.  The car I drove to work was washed and full of gas.  I can’t remember the last time I put gas in a car.  I wonder if I even know how to work the pump anymore  :).   The lunch that I ate was packed by Thomas.  That night I enjoyed a full body massage from my naked husband.  His tongue ended up between my legs after the massage and  I enjoyed a wonderful orgasm.  Not once did I ask Thomas to do any of this.  I made no contact with his cock while he pleasured me.  I simply enjoyed the pleasure.  He thanked me afterward and told me that he loved me.   This was not an unusual or special day in our house.  Ladies – these are just some of the benefits of FLR and of a well-trained man.  A little training, maintenance teasing and spanking go a long way.  It is a fantastic lifestyle!

I enjoy teasing Thomas with his eternal statements.  These are statements the remind him that his submission to me is never ending.  Some examples that I have used are:

1. You will never orgasm without my permission
2. You are never allowed on top (during sex).  Your proper position in life is beneath me
3. You will always be my slave
4. Starting now and lasting forever…..
5. This is your life now
6. You exist to serve me.

I will often whisper these things in his ear while I am teasing him.  Sometimes they are bold statements that I make when I am giving him orders, disciplining him, or reprimanding him.  Sometimes they are loving and teasing statements meant to drive his mind wild. For example, I may be teasing him and whisper, “It’s so fun to tease you like this.  I love that you are my slave and can not orgasm without my permission. You will never have an orgasm without my permission slave.”

When I am on top of Thomas, either during sex or when I am queening him, I like to remind him that he is never allowed on top and I tell him how sexy and hot he looks beneath me.  On occasion, he will end up on top of me or will be moving in that direction and I will simply laugh and ask him what he thinks he’s doing and remind him of his place.  I may order him off me or I may forcefully roll him over and get on top of him with my full weight.  This puts him in his place immediately (and I get a bit of a power rush from this). I have been guilty of baiting him into this situation just so I can roll him over and show my dominance.