1) Obedience – he does what I say! You know this had to be on top of the list!
2) Domestic service – he does housework – all of it! He loves it and is a real Domestic Diva!
3) Personal service – he’s my “maid in waiting,” looking after all the little things.
4) Atonement – he puts women – all of us – ahead of himself.
Let’s talk about the most important one first, because if your man is obedient – and he should be – everything else falls into place. Obedience is pretty straightforward. I give the orders and he follows them! PERIOD! No discussion or debate, just, “Yes, Ma-am!” when I tell him to do something. My husband recognizes that I manage the money, make all decisions, make rules as needed to keep the house running smoothly, and plan our social agenda.
Insist that he shut up! – I demand that my man shut up! And I have no problem telling him to shut up at home or in public. Why? Because men don’t have anything to say; women do. I don’t want to hear his complaints or how hard his day was, and I sure don’t want to hear that he didn’t get his housework done or that he didn’t do what I told him to do. In our home men speak when spoken to or when asked to join a conversation, a conversation that is woman-led.
Insist that he show you deference – He should be treating you with respect. “Yes, Ma-am!” is mandatory at home and away, I don’t care who is around. An apron is mandatory; he has to wear one at home no matter who is visiting. He has many aprons as do the other men in our family. If he doesn’t find an apron hanging in the kitchen when he gets home, he gets the privilege of choosing one to wear. He enjoys wearing this sign of his subservience, but, like it or not, he wears it because I demand he does.
Insist that he ask permission – He should be asking your permission to do anything outside of his established routine. If he wants a cigarette, he asks; if he wants a mixed drink, he asks; if he wants to do his Tuesday evening grocery shopping, he asks. Every time he asks permission he is recognizing that I’m in charge.
My husband and I used to talk all the time and could care less what he had to say, but was polite. I finally told his to shut up (yes I said those words and have learned to use them many times). The males (husband and son)in my house go about their chores and lives in quiet. It is just normal now. Our two daughters and I are quite talkative and the boys always listen and only talk when asked to.
dennis wearing an apron is mandatory whether he’s cooking or not.Since my grandmother, the women have been firmly in charge of things. Why? They just did a better job of managing things and of controlling the money. AND they put their foot down and insisted on taking control.