I’m permanently locked and sealed in an inescapable steel chastity tube – a custom Lori #5 with 0g PA pin. The PA pin has been epoxied in place on the inside, along with the security screw, which has also been broken away and stripped so as to be impossible to remove. The security screw recess has also been filled with epoxy. There is absolutely no way out, at least not without some serious power tools and risk of serious injury. I’ve been in since early May 2012. The intent is to be locked in this beautiful, permanent, inescapable chastity tube forever. I can clean every inch of the inside with soap in the shower. There’s really no need for it to ever have to come off.

After over 3 years of total denial, I do fantasize about somehow escaping. My penis is at least semi-hard and dripping precum nearly 24 hours a day, and it can get agonizing. I crave stimulation – rubbing that magical spot on the bottom of my penis head – more than anything. I’ve tried everything imaginable for over 3 years now, and it’s just not possible. As long as I’m in this cage, any meaningful stimulation is hopeless, just a fading memory and a building fantasy. Unlike a standard Lori #5, mine is completely solid on the entire bottom half, making anything other than the top of my penis head off-limits, and I don’t think any guy can get off from just rubbing the top of his penis head.

here’s the chores that Mistress expects to be completed automatically, without mention:

laundry…washing, folding, hanging, putting clothes away and ironing
cooking all meals
errands
shopping
coffee, tea, water, cocktails and wine…Her glass must never be empty
paying bills
keeping O/our home neat (i don’t do house cleaning, W/we have a service)
keeping the kitchen clean and loading and unloading the dishwasher
personal assistance…keeping Her calendar, answering phones, etc.
bathing Mistress and shampooing Her hair
shaving Mistresses’ pussy
carrying anything that Mistress needs…Her brief case, planner, computer, etc.

I do the cooking,cleaning,washing clothes putting away,pick up around house clean the table it cant be messy at all.
i must service my KH anytime she wants even if im tired and want to go to bed
there have been many times i had to perform oral and just roll over an go to sleep after.i am to keep her sex toys clean and lube ready for her to use anytime she wants to

if i am good slave boy she may let me out once every 3 months to either have pentratied sex or masterbate and then lock back up

I do work full time. I cook dinner about 4 times during the week and I am also responsible for breakfast and dinner on weekends. I have to cook whatever she provides, about once per month I get to go to the store with her and pick out a few things I would like to have for the pantry. As you may already know I have no money to go by myself. I also keep the cars clean, clean the pool, do all laundry, vacuum and mop the house.

I do laundry, cleaning, cooking meals, running errands. I serve coffee and fetch whatever Mistress needs in the house.

What helped for our chores is that we got wipe clean weekly planner board – it has a list of the standard chores that need done every day, and each day has an extra – dusting, hoovering, laundry, clean bathroom etc. At the end of each day Mistress writes the points She awards for that day up: 1 for crap, 2 for acceptable, 3 for excellent. At the moment I need 14 points to be allowed an orgasm at the weekend. As I have one day off a week, I need to score some excellents every week.

I have a full time job so sometimes, it’s hard to be motivated, especially when I know I’ve blown it for a week. But I suppose that’s what the flogger is for.

As I’m on holiday for the week, it’s great, I’ve got time to be a good househusband at the moment.

i have done many of the same things in service to a Woman. All of the domestic chores were part of my responsibilities, although i was not a live-in slave. i was also used by one Woman i served to do things at Her parents’ house – cleaning, etc. and wash their cars periodically. They thought She did these things so She started to be the “favorite daughter” because She was the one who helped them out so much. i always found that interesting and gratifying because She could reap benefits without doing any of the work, just as it should be in my estimation.

Currently, i am trying to promote the ideas of Female Supremacy and what it means to live as a male who believes in and supports the idea that Women are superior to men.

An FLR is not a sexual relationship. It is a lead and follow relationship. That is, as the leader of the relationship, you, as a woman, should be getting anything and everything you want. Only then, should you feel the need to reward your submissive with sexual favors that he wants, whether they be kinky or not.

Men, if you are not willing to give up your right to make decisions, to choose what you do and don’t do, on a daily basis, to turn over total control of your families finances to your wife, then you are not submissive at all. Being sexually submissive is NOT the same as being submissive to your partner in all things.

If you, as a man, want to be denied an orgasm for months at a time, then you must be willing to do anything to get that. Yes, I said “ANYTHING!” A true submissive will be rewarded for serving unselfishly. That means, if you expect no reward for your service to your partner and you serve her without complaint, then you deserve to be rewarded. That reward may, or may not, be sexual in nature, but it will be fulfilling. So serve your wife (Mistress) without seeking reward!

The mistress will peg me until I spill, and chastise me for being so weak and out of control. By that time Im feeling like warm bowl of watery Jello. Ill agree with anything she says. (Good she doesnt ask for a new car or expensive jewelry)

I’ve noticed that as soon as the belt goes on she becomes far more ‘aloof’. It is almost as if I stop being her husband and start becoming a ‘sex slave’. She will allow me to give her back rubs / massages, but I’m most definitely NOT expected to play with her tits or her pussy without her prior permission. Also I’m expected to give her a ‘chaste’ peck on the cheek rather than a ‘full-on’ French kiss.

I can’t say that I see a big change in her once my device goes on, since it’s always on. Well, at least for the past year and a half it has. I mean…it comes off when she wants access or for periodic cleanings, but it’s pretty much on 24/7. I noticed a big change when we first started down this path, but there was more involved than simply male chastity. It was an entire lifestyle change for us to a 24/7 female led marriage.

Mistress does not always use corporal punishment as it can blur the lines between play and punishment, but she does not hesitate to use it if she feels it’s necessary and it’s always effective. I can’t say that I enjoy being strapped down and being whipped or caned beyond my pain limit with no warm up and often no rest or recovery period between strokes, but afterwards, when I’m released and calming down and feeling remorseful for what I did to deserve that, I feel an incredible closeness to her and just want to hold her and tell her that I’m sorry and that I won’t do it again.

Funny that you mention the kissing thing. She does exactly the same thing. Often, she just lets me kiss her on the forehead rather than the lips, but when SHE decides to, she’s a wonderful kisser. Yesterday, she was leaving for a 2 night trip for work. I was in the driveway telling her goodbye and she grabbed me by the hair and pulled me close to her face, grabbed me by the balls with the other hand, whispered “stay tight” and gave me a very deep, passionate kiss. She then pushed me away and got into her convertible and drove off.

I enjoy the frustration immensely. The CB just enhances that frustration. I think she enjoys the level of control that it gives her…..not only in the bedroom, but 24/7. No obligation on her part. No guilt for not reciprocating the energy that I put into pleasing her and the realization of how close it brings us.

The entire female dominance and male chastity thing is the best thing that has EVER happened to my marriage….period.

My wife controls everything whilst i’m under lock and key, Her tits and pussy belong to her and she controls my access to them, and she also controls my cock.
i guess thats the way it should be

Same for me. I’m locked 24/7 and haven’t come in 2 months. Take this morning, a nice cuddle then my wife tells me to get up and make the breakfast. I noticed as I got out of bed that she glanced to check my cock was straining inside its cage.

A little ritual we are fond of: On leaving the home, she will litely slap my cheek, I hold her hands, kiss one, then her lips and we say, together, “I accept”, a reminder of who we are to each other.

Have him cook and serve your dinner and remain either standing or kneeling by your side while you eat it. Have only your dishes on the table while you do this. When you are completely finished, he may begin dishing up his food and eating it. For fun you may try allowing him to eat from a dish on the floor.

We’ve also discussed an evening ritual before bed. I kiss her feet lovingly and then whisper my oath again to her.

Some other ideas that we like include knocking at the bedroom door when she is in there by herself. The bedroom (as well as the whole house!) is hers and her privacy should be respected. We also like the idea of me waiting for her to finish speaking before I myself speak. This in general is just polite and also emphasizes her position in the house.

My most memorable punishment was a caning. was administered by a woman who was pure evil. in hindsight, it was pretty much a non-consentual beating. live and learn, we did discuss and agree to the severity of the caning, i just didnt realize that what i considered intense could be considered mild by someone else. she was just brutal, and i agreed to an intense beating that turned out to be 10 times more intense than i was prepared for. when asked how i liked it afterward, i said it was way more than i was expecting, she looked shocked and said she “totally held back on me”. was a very bloody caning and the bruises lasted a long time, but it was still my most memorable punishment.

Mistress came home quite agitated, as I attempted to inquire what the matter was, I was slapped across the face and told to get my ass to the bench where she literally beat the shit out of me. It lasted almost an hour and left me bleeding and in tears!
We evolved from a few hours of chastity to 24/7 since about 2 years now. And I’ve never been happier. I must say that my wife loves cuddling, kissing, lots of fondling and attention but she doesn’t have the urge to have sexual intercourse frequently. So having a hubby locked 24/7 for long stretches of time don’t bother her. On the contrary, as all mistresses here know, keep us hubbies from orgasm and you’ll get lots more attention. If I’m out of the belt I usually couldn’t control myself. It started out with watching some porn on Internet, getting aroused and masturbate. Feeling guilty afterwards, but next day or sometimes hours later I went at it again.

Now my wife keeps me in my belt for 1 or 2 months before granting me a full orgasm. We discovered ruined orgasms at about the same time I switched to the Neosteel belt and 24/7 wearing.

My lovely wife now has acquired the art of “milking” me by submitting me to two or three consecutive ruined orgasms every two to three weeks. It is terribly frustrating for me but it does relieve me of some of the built up pressure but keeps me on my toes because the sexual urge and tension remains present. And keeps me tuned to my wife’s more romantic urges.

We agreed that you could try to achieve total chastity with technical means (the belts) but you need more than that. We think that 100 % chastity can only be reached by a combination of a CB and psychology. The sub who wants to be chaste has to turn the switch between his/her ears…stop thinking about how to escape your chastity but live and enjoy it and help your mistress by indicating where the weak spots remain so she can help you keeping chaste. Don’t hunt for orgasms but hunt for the satisfaction of pleasing your mistress by offering her your chastity. She will give you so much in return.

My wife now took complete possession of my penis. A few weeks ago I just handed over symbolically my penis to my wife. This means that in my mind I don’t have a penis any more. It’s my wife’s possession; I just carry it with me. So for me it’s only minimal touching any more, even when I’m not belted (which happens less and less). Usually for cleaning only.

Considering my penis, and of course anything it produces (spunk) as my wife’s exclusive possession helps me to mentally control myself for reaching 100 % chastity. If I feel that I’m on the edge of loosing control I immediately tell my wife and she will help me by keeping me from getting more aroused, if necessary restraining me until I calm down again or granting me a ruined orgasm to release some of the pressure. But that is only as a last resort.

We also agreed that my wife doesn’t tell me any more when I might expect an orgasm, not even a ruined one any more. I just have to wait and be surprised. I know I will still get a full orgasm from time to time but not if it will be in one, two three months or maybe tomorrow…

In the meantime I will of course take excellent care and be very mindful of my wife’s sexual needs. But I will stay belted and only use my fingers, tongue, and dildo’s and vibrators to satisfy her. Hoping that if I’m a real good hubby I might get some release with a ruined orgasm and every now and than a real orgasm.

I’ve been caned quite a few times. Mistress says that the cane is one of her favorite implements. I was quite thrilled when our dog chewed one up, but it was soon replaced.

I will say that it hurts quite a lot. I can USUALLY hold my position with no restraints for a crop, but no chance for a cane. I will say that I do enjoy pain to a certain extent, so it can be difficult to use it effectively as punishment, but when the cane comes out, there’s no question that I’m in trouble. It just hurts like hell.

I’ve never been brought to tears from it, but I’ve come close twice. The infraction that caused those two canings will NEVER be repeated.

SO, I guess I can say that I have a real love / hate relationship with the cane. I hate the feeling of it, but I LOVE the level of control that it gives her.

When it comes to actual punishment, which I often get for kissing, or touching, uninvited, when I’ve been disobedient or disrespectful she has a schooling whip which is a four foot long very thin fibre-glass cane with a chord tail on the end, and she makes me bend over for it, and hits really hard, and the chord whips round and cuts deep in my flanks, and I really know I’ve been punished by the time she has finished. Thankfully I am well behaved most of the time, so I don’t get punished very often. Mistress keeps a “black book”, and makes a note of any bad behaviour, and then fetches it out to “settle my account”, when she is in the mood to punish me.

When practicing Femdom both my wife and I accept that I am to do all the cleaning and all the cooking. In fact I am to do anything she says. That there is no nagging, she orders me, she does not ask, I am to obey immediately. Every evening after work I prepare dinner and clean up. I also plan the meals and order groceries. Many evenings I then work through a list of household cleaning chores that Mistress defines, as she relaxes. I only relax if she is happy with the house and allows me to do so. The only time she might do housework is if she wants to. This is what I would expect in a Femdom relationship.

How many of you submissive men are expected to do all the housework?

How many of you dominant women demand this of their men?

I am expected to do a lot of the housework, and most of the cooking; She wishes that I was available to do all the chores.

I did a lot of the housework & cooking because it had to be done. My wife would ask me & I usually would do as she requested. I only slept 6 hours at night.

I licked her to orgasm while the viagra was taking effect. By the time I was straining in my cage, she unlocked me, lathered me with lanacane and then placed not one, not two, but three condoms on my cock.

I entered her and we began to make love. Only problem was, I couldn’t feel anything! I told her that and she just laughed. I can still hear that laugh of shear delight when I said that.

I kept pumping and pumping. I swear it had to have been the longest I have EVER lasted. She had numerous orgasms, and I can vividly remember the look on her face as she lost herself in Dome-space. She was totally content and as happy as I’ve ever seen.

I remember being so close to getting there, but then it’s like the numbness kicked in another notch and I just couldn’t orgasm. Eventually she said enough, and made me stop. My cock just shriveled up in the condoms, useless.

She maid me clean up and then put the cage back on. That was brutal!

1-2 range – Checking in with her reguarly on the phone; receiving an allowance each week.

3-4 range – Doing my weekly chores as listed; cooking dinner every day;  laundry

5-7 range -Doing the various Fall Cleaning List for a household on the Domestic Servitude Blog; cleaning Her two cars; carrying Her purse and purchases at the mall; I absolutely love being the perfect househusband!

8-9 Giving her body and feet a massage; Being given a list of things to do while she is shopping with friends or goes with friends on a get away for the weekend;

10 Handing over my paycheck as Her personal paycheck to do as She pleases; sucking on Her feet; painting her toenails and shaving her legs and privates; bathing her; undressing her for the evening and putting her clothes away. Preparing her bed at night before she goes to bed and tucking her in, and then asking Her permission to get in Her bed (most of the time it is yes and sometimes no). Sleeping at the foot of the bed when commanded so she can have more room.

Part 1: What deepens Your Submission? I think in terms of the sexual aspect is important because of the intimacy and connection I have with my Wife. But I think this list in how I domestically serve only Her needs are even more important to deeping my submissive nature because this is paying attention to her needs and desires around the clock.

1-2 range – wearing daily a chasity device. A small constant reminder daily that my wife is in charge no matter how far away from home I am.

3-4 range – light CBT throughout the day at home. An occassional slap of the balls by my wife to remind me she is truly in charge.

5-7 range -Mistress causing an erection in the chasity device, somewhat uncomfortable, and interchanged with ball slapping, as she gives me instructions for the day gets me very deep into subspace and can get me to do anything.

8-9 bondage and spanking; sexually satisfying her while denying me, either through oral, hand, or strapon for her pleasure alone making sure I focus completely and only on her needs.

10 taking me with the strapon makes a total attitude adjustment in me and total puddy in her hands.

1-2: physical inspections, collar and leash, cock ring, blindfolds,

3-4: physical restraints, CFNM, being gagged with panties, eye contact restrictions, speech restrictions, pussy worship,

5-6: ass worship, wearing panties, covert public humiliation, being spat on, butt plugs, oral service in public places,

7-8: face fucking, being lent to other women, serving at a party, being pissed on, swallowing spit, strapon sucking, being locked in a cage, tease and denial, anal stretching

9-10: strapon fucking, swallowing my KH’s nectar, cleaning her after she uses the toilet, being cuckolded, overt public displays of submission, enforced chastity for an unknown length of time

0-1 range Knowing that my Keyholder is content and happy keeping my orgasms under Her control. Whether locked in chastity or not, trying to remember to do the little things every day that make Her happy.

2-3 range – Wearing daily chastity device, knowing and feeling the small constant reminder each day that my Keyholder is in charge, and the feeling knowing my shared secret with my Keyholder as we go about our everyday life.

3-4 range Anytime my Keyholder acknowledges or hints of my chastity, even better if in public. An occasional slap on the ass by my Keyholder to remind me that She truly is in charge.

5-6 range Keyholder teasing me, causing an erection in the chastity device.

6-7 range Spanking, Spanking and Spanking.

8-9 range – Sexually satisfying Her while denying me, either through oral, hand, or strap on for Her pleasure alone making sure i focus completely and only on Her needs.

A perfect 10 – Taking me with a strap-on both oral and anal. Making me Her total and complete bitchboy.

1 2 :
– Wearing Panties, it is a silent, but a constant reminder of my service. Sometimes, I forget about them until I have to go potty, then it becomes real and apparent.
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3 4 :
– Being constantly naked while serving Mistress.
– Wearing a locking collar. It serves as another constant reminder of who OWNS me.
– Wearing a chastity cage.
– Being commanded to sit or lie on the floor and rub Mistresss legs as she sits or does whatever she is doing. This is low on the list because I love doing it so much, that I do not really realize the level of submission.

5 6 :

– Whippings of any kind; short or long; easy or hard.
– Being shaved (pubic and underarms). You see it ever day when you shower.
– Long Term Chastity Cage lockup (more than 1 month).
– Being taken in the ass and used as Mistresss slut.
– Having a locking Restraint of any kind.
– Mistresss laugh when she is doing something/anything to me.

7 8 :

– Punishments of any kind. While rare, they do demonstrate there are rules and boundaries which must NOT be crossed. Punishments are also typically severe and while I know Mistress loves me, that fact does not deter her from her goal.
– Harsh discipline whipping session, where I would be bound unable to move. Mistress will get to a point where I mentally and/or physically am defeated and then I fall into submission.
– Teasing.
– Multiple LOCKS.

9 10 :

– Taking My Mistresss golden nectar makes me extremely submissive and focused on Mistress. Especially the moment right after she is done and has been cleaned and is getting up off my face. I lie almost in a trance for a few moments.
– Being locked into my sleeping cage at night at the foot of Mistresss bed. She will lock me in the cage at the end of the day, stand over me and talk to me. I stare up at her knowing that I am in the cage for a duration totally decided by Mistress. She will finish talking to me, and just stand over me and stare down at me. The longer that time, the more submissive I get. She then will walk away and slide into her warm and cozy bed, next to her pet. I watch and slide deeper into submission as I realize how much power she has over me.
– LOTS of Teasing.
– Being made to penetrate Mistress while locked in a CB Cage and using a strap on. I have not actually ever done this, but mentally, it seems like this would be the ultimate in submission. First you would have to really concentrate on the task due to the lack of feeling. And, you are being asked to be intimate with Mistress while totally forgoing your own pleasure.
– MORE, LOTS OF LOCKS.Did I mention those already.

1-2: Shaving pubic area and wearing panties. Always sitting down to pee.

3-4: Acting as a foot stool for long periods of time- especially during important sports events (on TV). The Everyone I know is watching the Super Bowl and I am blindfolded on my knees while my Mistress watches the game, her feet resting on my back, her paddle occasionally slapping my ass smartly.

5-6: Going to the piercing studio and getting my nipples pierced and my Mistress paying the tab (with my money). The pain and embarrassment made me feel very submissive and seeing the pierced nipples and feeling them under my clothing is (was, since I had to give them up for medical reasons) a constant reminder of my identity as a submissive person.

7-8: Consuming every drop of my own sperm. This is a brief act that takes only a few seconds but over time when you realize that a year or two or more has gone by and you have eaten every single drop of cum you made regardless of how it was produced- by orgasm, by milking or by accident the cumulative effect is impressive.

9-10: Never being allowed an orgasm- ever. Only serving Her and pleasing her sexually.

Explain the benefits (to her) of having you in a chastity device. You will be able to serve her sexual needs and she need not worry about yours. I have a 6000S and have been in it for almost 6 months. My wife does not reach orgasm by penetration thus, she doesn’t really need my cock. She does, however, get incredibly turned on by knowing that I am locked and cannot get off. Her best orgasms occur while she cleans my chastity in the dishwasher, keeps me in bondage and brings me to the brink, over and over again, but never lets me cum. After she replaces my cb, I am frustrated beyond belief. I always wanted to experience this and now that I know what it’s like, it is everything I thought it would be. Unfortunately, in the past I could masturbate after thinking about this scenario. Not any longer.
Once again, ask for what you want!

Sal – actually, my girlfriend has kept me locked up most of the time for the past two years or so.

She tells me that our relationship is unfair – clearly I’m not providing her with the sexual stimulation she needs, and it’s as much from my poor technique and stamina then my undersized penis. She suggests that she could and should severely punish me for selfishly depriving her in the bedroom. Examples of fair punishments might be paddling, grounding, reduction of allowance (she controls my finances and gives me a weekly allowance), writing lines, corner time, extra chores

I had been celibate for about 4 weeks. Mistress promised a Xmas gift and sure enough She provided. She gave me an orgasm. What surprised me was the quality of my response. She was very careful to completely control it. It was a hand job with Mistress staring deep into my eyes and me thanking Her all the way for my position in life. It happened fast and was without much force on ejaculation. Both of us commented afterwards it was more akin to a milking than anything else.

Five years later, WE own 2 devices and, at her leading, I wear one or the other 24/7 with rare exceptions for medical reasons. Recently, due to a small sore, I was out of the device for 4 days and she commented about the change to my attitude that occurs when I’m unlocked. I don’t expect to ever be without again.

My wife told me one time she couldn’t wait for me to become impotent. It hasn’t happened yet, but I know it’s not far off. Since I’ve been put in chastity, I no longer have involuntary erections. It also takes far more effort to get myself hard than even 3 months ago. My keyholder, MDsh, has been training me to stay limp, and it’s working. She says there’s no need for me to have erections since I can’t please a woman with my tiny dick. And, now that MDsh has me in permanent chastity, I’m not allowed to fuck or cum, so it doesn’t matter if I’m impotent.

I wonder howm many others on this site are peased that they are now impotent. After all chastity prevents erections and PIV sex so the natural progreession from that desire perhaps is to become impotent. I know in my particular case I am extremely happy not to get erections or to ejaculate / leak any male fluids

Locked up permanently since November 1, 2014. No hope for release in the next few years

Each lock up has been getting longer since married a year and a half ago. Last was 175 days.

I’m only 5 days into this locked session but my wife never plans on letting me free ever again. I was only free 5 days ago because it was my 40th birthday but now its all over according to her. She will release me 1 time per week for shaving and washing only and then locked right back up, no questions asked.

Tonight is a night to remember for me.
She’s had me in and out of lock down for the last three months. Started out with the holy trainer and now the bird lock… I’ve been in the bird lock for the last 7 days. And tonight I was just told that we will order my new MM queens keep. And I can be let out from the tube only, and only for an erection for an hour. And my hands will be tied to the head board.
I almost know that she’ll tie my hands and go soak in the tub for the hour

“5 Food Groups” of FLRs, which they list as:

1. Finances
2. Free Time
3. Household Chores
4. Life Direction
5. Sex

These are areas of a relationship in which couples can profitably experiment by expanding the area of female control, from 50/50 to total. The site discusses the advantages to a woman (and, ultimately, to her spouse) in gradually ratcheting up the amount of control she exercises in each of these areas.

He fantisizes about – her exerting power over him including humiliation and punishment.

His fantasy may include any or all of these: being naked when the woman is clothed, kneeling at her feet, performing sex acts on demand, bowing to her, kissing her feet, wearing a collar, being held in chains, having to obey her at all times, being in bondage so he cannot resist, being teased sexually, being whipped, being tortured, being caged, being leashed (led by a leash), being kept in a dungeon, being one of many slaves, being required to dress in women’s clothes, being required to dress in only an apron, addressing her as “Goddess”/”Mistress”/”My Queen”; her forcing him to submit sexually “her giving him anal sex with a strap on device”, “being forced to service her friends or other lovers sexually”. Sexual chastity, wearing a chastity devise, prostate milking, and orgasm denial. Being slapped in the face, spanking, corner time out, genital torture, required to wear genital fetish wear, forced to wear a butt plug.

He fantisizes about – her interest level being very high and she is confident. She wants it.

He wants his fantasy to desire the relationship more than he does, to drive it and make it happen, to captivate him. She is sure of herself, she talks down to him, commanding him and belittling him to remind him of his place. Yes she puts him in his place, “naked, at her feet”. Depending on his, preference she may wear long flowing fairy or goddess clothing; she may wear sexy, tight, or leather outfits; she may wear motherly or business attire. In his fantasy she makes him want to surrender and serve. He has a fantasy that she has sadistic desires.

He fantisizes about – Sex and/or sexual control especially fetish sex, props and costumes.

Her power is enhanced by being able to control his orgasms. She denies him pleasure, teases him – sometimes painfully. She flaunts her power and control with whips, riding crops, canes, and her, many ways of restraining him. She may have sex with others while he is teased sexually and forced to watch then denied pleasure. She is in complete control of his sex and pleasure.

He fantisizes about – his willingness to give up control to her.

He wants her to take control and is willing to submit but feels/needs to become a much better servant by forced and very strict training. He desires humiliation as a teaching tool and is willing to beg and worship. His willingness is limited — he wants her to use him in many ways or it just wont work. He wants to be used as a servant, sex object and for her sadistic desires.

He fantisizes about – his level of high interest in her body and serving her as a woman.

He is interested in the woman’s body; it turns him on because it is so different from his and a little mysterious. He wants contact, especially when she demands it. He wants to serve her every desire from fetching her slippers to providing oral sex on demand, all while he is naked. He want to bath her, dry her and put lotion on her body, help her dress and undress. He wants her to dress in her sexy attire (differs from man to man). He wants to be his fantasy’s personal butler. Some men want to wait on/serve women using the toilet or menstruating. He is interested in all things female especially in ways he feels are private.

I am a wife and my husband often bows down on my feet and kisses them. He shows me respect this way.

I have been searching myself to figure out why I am so turned on by the fact that my husband has to remain in chastity for me. I don’t know how to explain it. I just really like that he wants me so bad and yet must wait to be inside of me for extended periods of time. Don’t get me wrong, I love my husband and his penis. But the more we go down this road, the more I want him to stay locked. It gives me such a good feeling knowing that he is waiting for me. And for some strange reason, in my twisted mind, I like the idea that my husband doesn’t get to experience an erection much less my touch and warmth 99% of the time. Everyday I see it in his eyes that he wants me badly but also wants to give me what I desire.

Making love is so much more sensual to me when he is locked. We have passion together and his frustration increases that passion. When we make love and his arousal increases he gets a lot of pleasure albeit in a slightly different form than ‘normal’. He goes deeper into submission when we have intimate time together knowing that it is very unlikely that he will be unlocked. I know that I have been tainted because of the internet and the fantasies here but am I the only woman that truly likes to do this to their husband or significant other?

I have had thoughts lately of one day making his cage permanent (not anytime soon) but someday. We have talked on fetlife to people who have done this and I have mixed emotions and so does he as you can imagine. But I cannot get this out of my mind. Of course I would never do this to him if he ever objected but it is something we have talked about and everything that has happed with us so far suggests that all I have to do is tell him it is going to happen and he will. I consider myself very lucky to have him and want to be careful not to move hastily with this and not to take advantage of him.

I am 55 and my wife 50
We have had an amazing sex life after she started keeping me locked and releasing only for PIV sex
Later she started enjoying cunnilingus / oral sex more than PIV sex
Then probably these exact thoughts came into her mind
And finally in November 2014 she sealed my cage permanently
Let me tell you, permanent lockup is altogether a different & exciting experience!
Now all my focus is only & only in pleasing her since my cock is no more existent for me

I think you love the power you have over your husband, as you say, you can get him to do whatever you want, I cant understand why more women don’t seem to want this.
I think you have a very special relationship with a guy that truly adores you.

Your hubby’s dedication to you is a result of and a tribute to the control that you have carefully enforced over him! What a great relationship for you both. More women should read about these sort of successes that result from chastity! Hearing this from the Mistress/Wife’s perspective makes me motivated and even more committed to my beautiful and powerful Wife & Mistress!

The past two years though, Mistress with me in full compliance has wanted to up the control and especially power exchange.

Eventually it will lead to significant chastity and orgasm control.

I currently wear both a cock/ball shackle and kalis bracelet when ever in mistresses presence – both have a combi lock which means that Mistress can unlock me remotely. Most we’ve done so far is an overnight but Mistress is wanting to extend this period.

My very long time subby knows excactley what is in store for him in the very near future and he will have no choice but to comply . If at any time he disobeys me I will not hesitate to put my plan into action. He has previously had a little taste of being humiliated in front of one of my neighbours ( female ) . I happened to be organizing my upstairs window box while subby was supposed to be licking my boots instead he thought that he would try to relieve himself on the sly …a defiinate NO NO . his punishment was thrown in a cubbyhole that has specially designated for him with cock and ball on and hands cuffed behind him as well as being blindfolded and left not sure how long as punishments are not something I keep time on . .

I control him on a daily basis and he has to contact me daily no matter what or where he is at specific times set by me Situations are going to change drastically for subby and I have demanded that another device will be got that will keep him under MY control ( lock and key ) for a much greater length of time. It wont be too long before I will have full total control of his sexual will be very few and far between and only at my command .

His is concerned that I will keep him locked and forgotten. He acknowledges that he agreed to be completely submissive regarding sex and his penis but he still wants to have contact. He is worried about never being unlocked or never being allowed to cum. Also that I will cut him off from all sex. So this is what I told him. I expect first and foremost that he will always be caged. No breaks unless and until I want him to be unlocked. I never want him to ask for it and if he does it will be a guaranteed no.

I am not allowed to masturbate at all. She used to let me “exercise” which I enjoyed but I found it lonely because she would always leave the room when I did it.

She is expecting a lot more service, which I am giving freely. Running hot baths, foot and back rubs, cooking and cleaning, laundry etc.

She is giving some as very clinical commands. This pushes my sub buttons but also feels like a shot at my ego too and this is the duality of flr. I am learning to accept this role and she is learning to enjoy my resignation to this subordinate role.

After a half day of constant service, she asked for a back rub. As we lay down and I rubbed her, she started to rub her buttocks against my crotch. Normally, I am forbidden to grind her but she seemed to be inviting it so I started up.

She asked me if I was grinding. I admitted yes. She then turned around and said she could do better by making me come in my pants. “Real men don’t come in their pants, do they?” , I said coyly as she fondled me outside my pants.

She replied, “You’re not a real man.”

I thought I would melt. I thanked her and asked her what I was. “A girly-boy.”, she said.

Before I was able to come, she stopped
” I think I will just stop right there. Come on, we are going out. Get ready.”.

Still denied, but not inderstimulated

“does a sub hubby need a cock cage?”

Before I locked elliot up I would have said “no”. After all, a good husband accepts his position and understands that he is not allowed to touch his cock or initiate sex at any time. It is a matter of honour and a good husband is nothing if not honourable.

However, having locked elliot up and now having had him in his cock cage for well over a month without letting him out for more than a few minutes, I can safely say that submissive husbands, at a certain point, are better locked up.

The reason is pretty simple: locking away his little cock reminds him constantly of his position. It is too easy for a couple to slip into a routine. Which is fine as far as it goes; but keeping your husband under lock and key means that he is always aware that you are in charge at the most intimate possible level.

But he understands his position perfectly. I like to ask him for his views on all sorts of things; but as my husband his opinion will certainly not change my mind. And, whatever my decision, he is expected to obey or face the consequences until he does.

I was amused to read elliot’s reflections on his new chaste reality – basically he is in his cock cage full time, 24/7. It does not seem to cause him any serious discomfort and, rather obviously, it takes no effort on my end other than that satisfying “click” as the padlock snaps shut. I like to do that myself.

Now that I know it causes him virtually no discomfort, except, usefully in the morning when his little erection wakes him up in time to make my tea, empty the dishwasher and stand in his corner, I don’t see any reason to take him out.

Well, occasionally for my greater pleasure but his little cock really does not do much on that front. Much better for him to keep improving his pussy licking technique and retreat to his corner so I can have privacy for my climax. Well, after keeping him caged most of January, I can safely say that I will never be without a chastity cage again. This is a marvellous invention. It provides a level of elegant, demure wifely control which I had never experienced before.

Once elliot is locked in our lives continue in exactly the same way. He has his corner time and his duties and he is whipped for both maintenance and punishment; but now he has no control at all over his cock. He has to take his tiny dose of viagra as usual and so he has a quite uncomfortable morning erection which is pretty regular at about 7:30 when he has to get up and make my tea in any case. He may have other erections during the day, I don’t know and don’t actually care. I often tease him a little at cocktail hour and I will, occasionally, lift his nightie and stroke him erect before I go to sleep. But he knows once he is locked in he’ll stay that way for some time. I don’t even keep the key in the bedroom so it takes a bit of planning if I want his cockette for some reason.

Once in a while I have him strip off after some cornertime and with a little lube, I’ll push his prostate milking vibrator up his bottom and let him drain into some tissue. But not too often. I like him to be full, completely on edge.

Good to hear you are keeping him locked. It adds another dimension to your control of him. A dominant woman needs to keep her man locked in chastity. It’s a reminder to him that you are in total control.

A maintenance caning should remind your husband of his position; but there is nothing wrong with recognizing that that might be all the sexual tension he has that day or even that week. I don’t “dress” to whip; but I certainly like to whip elliot when I am in my nightdress or lingerie. I suspect he likes it too. The point is never to dismiss your husband’s sexuality. So long as his cock is under lock and key and he has been trained to obedience, teasing and flirting is all the more fun.

A good whipping is all about intensity rising. When I first used to correct elliot I held back a lot for fear of really hurting him. Now that I am more proficient with the cane I can control the intensity. But there is no point in just “tap, tapping” unless I want to deliberately tease him. Which I usually don’t. Instead, I have been increasing the duration and intensity of our maintenance whippings. In time I would like to stretch them out to a full 30 strokes with the last ten quite severe. I think it leaves a much stronger impression for a man to be wearing his welts and weals for several days after he has been caned.

Of course, this leads to an increase in intensity for punishment canings but those are quite infrequent. They have to leave elliot gasping which is accomplished by starting hard and going right to full force in two or three strokes. He does not like being punished one bit…as he shouldn’t.

But now we are in the post whipping glow and he is ever so attentive. His little cock is straining against its cage but I like that. Tonight, perhaps, I’ll have him show his appreciation. He is really getting very skillful with his tongue, fingers and my vibe. (He’s managed to get a lovely sequence where he first licks with the whole of his tongue to get me deliciously wet, then while he concentrates on my clit, he slips the vibrator in on a low speed and slips a little finger in my backdoor. While I prefer to finish myself in the privacy sending him to his corner affords, I must admit the last couple of times I have been tempted to just hold his head in place…Once I did, once I sent him away. Not sure which I will do tonight.)

I like to have my husband work very hard to please me. Which is not, I must say, all that difficult to do.

At the same time, very early on in our marriage I made it clear to elliot that, at least in the bedroom, I was in charge. Too many women put up with mediocre sex too often. I was more experienced than my lovely alpha man and I knew he needed training. So, I began by cutting him off entirely after about six months. No sex for a month focuses a man’s attention. Then I began our current regime where he is allowed to have sex when I want the greater pleasure his little cock can sometimes bring.

What this did was put him on my sexual cycle. The only time he had any hope of ejaculating was when I was on heat. The rest of the time, while I would have him pleasure me with his tongue and fingers from time to time, his cockette was entirely irrelevant. (Caging him has only underscored my control.) A man allowed to ejaculate only a few times a year is a very attentive man.

It was a natural progression to both punishing him and whipping him to remind him of his place and he learned to accept his whippings as a near substitute for the sexual satisfaction he was denied. He actually gets quite broody when he’s not been whipped for a week. Over a year, while he might ejaculate a dozen times, he’ll be whipped at least forty. Whipping makes a huge improvement in elliot’s attitude and puts a bounce in his step.

Humiliations like corner time, his little black cock cage and having to wear a girdle during the day or a nightie to bed, simply re-enforce the fact that I am in complete charge in our marriage. Special attention like nipple clips or having to push his steel rod up his backdoor add a bit of surprise to the mix.

The wonderful thing about a wife led marriage is that elliot is completely focused on me and what I require.

When a wife is in charge of her marriage she has no choice but to pay close attention to her own desires while ruthlessly curbing her husband’s. More than once I have whipped elliot simply because he was getting all hot and bothered and I was not in the mood. A well whipped man standing in his corner with his nose pressed in your panties is actually a pretty sexy sight and, I have to admit, I have occasionally whipped elliot just so I could take myself in hand for my own pleasure as he stood so obediently. Which is, of course, my perfect right and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

My wife feels exactly as you do, only allowing me a precious very few orgasms a year. In 2013 I was allowed 4, in 2014 I was allowed 3. And this year she has not allowed me to cum at all. Over 11 months. I will be joining the special 1 year club in another couple of weeks. She has said if my housework, cooking and overall attitude stay as she likes it, then maybe sometime in January she will rub me thru my panties to orgasm. She does not like penetrative sex anymore. Too messy. So she gets her orgasms about twice a week from me eating her and using her vibrators.

Elliot is not allowed to use lubricant for his cage. What we have found works well is to fit the cage after a cold shower or – where I want it on immediately – after immersing his cock – but not testicles – in ice water for a few minutes.

I keep elliot locked for weeks at a time. It has had no appreciable effect on his little cock. It was small to begin with and remains small. That is one of the great advantages of the steel cage, it really can be left on more or less permanently. I make a point of never telling elliot how long he will be locked up and he is now reconciled to rarely being allowed out.

A good whipping weekly, whether he deserves it or not, will let you get over your perfectly reasonable reluctance.

And, frankly, since elliot has been in his chastity pretty much full time, our sex life – well my sex life really – has been much better. Now I can have elliot get to work for my pleasure without giving a thought to reciprocating. He is grateful to be allowed to rub my feet or massage my back until I tell him to stop. And he really does scoot off to his corner when I want to have an orgasm in private. Which I do, often.

There was a graphic there with a picture of a girl in business clothes and a guy in a cock cage and a collar standing by a stove. The caption was something like, “She is a successful career woman, he is a piece of property kept at home naked and chaste, to cook. clean and satisfy his female owners sexual needs”

If you are silly enough to marry a beta male who is submissive because he really has no other choice, you might think about keeping him barefoot and in the kitchen – but I can’t imagine that would be much fun. I mean why would you marry at all if that was all that was available?

Even though I keep him locked up and chaste, it took my years to first of all realize that was what I wanted and then lead him to the position he is in now. It was a bit of a tightrope. Because I want his complete sexual submission but I don’t want him to be any less aggressive in the business world or any less interested in his books or his wine or, frankly, women as sexual creatures. I read on the net and a lot of the time I wonder why some of the dominant wives don’t simply have their husbands castrated and have done with it.

He’s perfectly harmless in his little cock cage. So we both can tease when we want to without his having the slightest chance to get out of hand. I wanted a “well tempered” husband

However, a couple of people have asked about the discomfort caused by my sweet husband’s cock cage.

I am sure elliot would have a different perspective but his views are not really a consideration. Which is really the point. The mild discomfort which it may cause from time to time is actually a feature rather than a bug. With proper hygiene, elliot’s device can be worn continuously for weeks at a time. I prefer elliot to be locked up at all times.

The real point of keeping a husband in chastity is to remind him that he has no sexual rights whatsoever. I think elliot had accepted that before I locked him up but the cage makes this express rather than implicit.

The one concern I had in locking elliot in his chastity cage was that it was drawing a bit too much attention to his cock. As it happens, once he is locked in, after a couple of days his little cock is largely isolated and cushioned from any physical stimulation. While he tells me he occasionally has a pinching situation when the skin works its way into the device and is squeezed, his cock itself is padded and unable to receive much by way of external sensation.

Of course, when he gets hard in the early morning when most healthy men have erections, he experiences quite a lot of discomfort. But relative to a good whipping, this discomfort is minimal and he bears it without complaint.

The key thing is he knows that his cock is locked up because I want it locked up. I want him to be devoid of sensation between his legs, without the distractions a cock seems to carry for men. And, of course, I want him to be looking to me for any sort of sexual relief.

I don’t think it does ay good to lock up a man’s cock for a day or even a weekend. If a dominant wife decides to lock down her husband’s cock, after a breaking in period, locked should be his default state. If he knows that he is going to be locked and stay locked, it leaves him free to concentrate on obeying, and from time to time, pleasing his wife.

Which is how it should be.

We started FLR lifestyle at the urging of my sister, because my husband was a great addicted to porn and masturbation.

He wears Jailbird a chastity belt with frenum cable 24/7. He needed four months to get used to the chastity belt. After a month he requested not to wear at night. I tied his hands handcuffed to the headboard of the bed and took off the chastity belt.

I woke up in the middle of the night, he lay on his stomach and rubbed his erected penis on bed. He began to ejaculate. I hit his penis. I gave him a cold shower afterwards, and I put his penis in a cage. Since he wears a chastity belt 24/7. Once a week I take off his chastity belt for cleaning teasing and sex. During the week chastity belt does not come off, day or night. He concentrates on frequent cunnilingus, house cleaning and other duties.

Not only did Tara’s husband address me as ma’am, he bowed his head and welcomed me with a curtsey. Walking into the coffee shop I wondered with a secret smile if any one noticed the curtsey. When the waitress came to take our order I asked for a soft drink and a salad. When the waitress looked at Tara’s husband, he looked confused. At that moment I realized that he was either looking for my permission to order or for me to order for him. In front of the waitress I asked if his mistress allowed him to order for him self, or if she ordered for him. The response was that she usually orders for me. For one thing I learned that it felt empowering just being in the company of a submissive man. I enjoyed the respect. I enjoyed the way he addressed me as ma’am. I enjoyed the way he was quick on his feet to pull out a chair. Most of all I enjoyed the fact that he was so very attentive to me. When an attractive girl walked by our table he didn’t lift his eyes for even a second. Corner time is also effective because it is a simple way of letting a man know exactly who is boss in the home, and this is a reminder that men need from time to time. Men want to know that their wife is in control, and corner time is a way for a wife to assert her authority in a simple no nonsense manner. She invited a couple of us to watch it in the private area of the studio. Tara’s husband set up the machine, he made popcorn, and poured wine for each of us. As we curled up in a comfortable position to watch the movie, I thought that Tara’s husband would do the same. Instead he took a stance behind us with his hands politely held behind his back. Unless one of us needed something he remained standing in that posture for the entire length of the movie. Tara was more than a mistress wife. Tara had become more of a female supremacist. Her husband was not allowed to sit on the furniture in the living room. When they were together, alone, he sat by her feet. On occasions like this with several girls in the room he understood his requirement was to stand. As the movie played on I actually felt sorry for her him. An hour into the movie I could see how he was fidgeting with the discomfort of being on his feet in the same position. At one point I asked for more popcorn just so he could have a little break from his discomfort. On the other hand if Tara caught him fidgeting she would give him a ‘look’ and a waive of her fingers. That simple look from Tara had an amazing effect on this man. You could see that he truly feared her. I have believed in matriarchy and female superiority since I was too young to know these words. I now for many years have been the head of a female led family; my wonderful, fully domesticated and devoutly submitted husband From they were small they have heard me telling their father what to do, reminding him sternly, reprimanding him. They also at times when it just came natural saw me slapping him in the face or on his clothed bottom. They always knew that I made most decisions, that I had the final say in all matters and that their father in most matters had no say at all. As they grew up I spoke with them about gender roles, matriarchy, male immaturity, female superiority and all these things in a way they at their age at the time could comprehend. They never saw or hear about their father wearing chastity device and they never saw or were informed of him being caned or strapped but they knew when he was grounded and when he was sent to bed early as punishment. To them there is nothing strange or mysterious in me being in charge and their father having to do as I say, it is for them the most natural thing in the world and they seem all three to have fully grasped and embraced the matriarch values and outlook on life. The girls are eager to discuss female supremacy with me and they try to view everything they come across in school and the news and other places from a matriarchal viewpoint. From our discussions but also from many of the essays the girls have written at school I can see that the matriarchal viewpoint is always important to them and they use every opportunity to point out how wrong things always go in a society led by men and the primitive and childish masculine values. Now the oldest girl and the boy are teens it will not worry me if they one day should hear the sounds of the strap or cane and their father’s bawling from the bedroom; surely they will understand that if I punish him that way it is because he deserves it. I knew he would have to be trained, no matter how much a man wants it, no matter how devoted he is. Every man needs to be trained if the relatonship has any chance of making it. Still, I had to be sure that we where starting off on the same page with the same goals for our marriage. Once that was done it was just a matter of putting in some hard work and getting him properly trained. I am much more interested in obedience born of a devotion to me. And his dedication to make this the best femdom marriage possible. My husband does not fear any punishment I choose for him to endure. Knowing that all punishment is administered by a loving wife that is only interested in training him to do his very best. In a femdom relationship men learn to take pride in the quality of service and devotion to their female ruler. A man’s focus in life is centered on his mistress. Every day of his life he thanks her for making him into her slave. Yet, like you said things are never perfect. In order to be a good submissive husband men need training, they need discipline. By discipline I mean a structure of rules to live by. I also believe that a little fear of a wife is a good thing. A little fear keeps a man on track.

Giles and Xena do not at present have penis-in-vagina sex. Giles is happy with this because he has had lots of vanilla sex in the past, and not nearly enough Femdom. Giles may not initiate erotic intimacy, but may remind Xena to set aside intimate time. Xena has control over Giles’s orgasms but will not normally be present when they happen. Each of Xena’s orgasms costs Giles one or more Penalty Days (figures in bracket for working days): She masturbates with him out of the room – 0.5 day (1 day). She masturbates while he kneels or otherwise in the room – 1 day (2 days) She masturbates while he watches with a clear view – 2 days (4 days) He helps to bring her to orgasm – 3 days (6 days) He brings her to orgasm using a strap-on dildo – 4 days (8 days). He brings her to orgasm through PIV – 5 days (10 days). Other specific erotic circumstances in which penalties can be earned: On Xena’s whim. As the price of being involved in some erotic act including PIV ejaculation. During erotic time, Giles’s orgasms typically do not happen. He remains chaste except for the unlikely event of PIV sex. Xena may grant Giles a chaste orgasm as long as she is supervising, i.e. at minimum holding his leash chain. She can curtail his efforts on whim: Solo by self-penetration (if he can do it), no penalty. Solo by vibrator, 5 days. Spontaneous ejaculation, at last 5 days 10 demerits. If it amuses her, Xena may set up beatings using butt plugs and other devices to encourage an unlicensed ejaculation. Giles will advise honestly on this. Automatic Serious Punishments are earned for: If Giles applies emotional pressure in response to Xena’s orgasm choices. This does not preclude him whimpering briefly as an erotic response, for which she can apply demerits. If Giles masturbates to ejaculation without permission. If Xena sees Giles’s unchaste erect penis. 1. I am responsible for all household cleaning chores. 2. I am responsible for all laundry, folding, ironing. All items shall be back in her closet within 3 days or taking them off. 3. If she makes a mess, I need to clean it up. This needs to be done in a timely manner. 4. Bathroom breaks are permitted when a task is completed AND with Mistress S’s permission. 5. I need permission to drink alcoholic beverages. 6. I am responsible for getting her outfit ready for the next day each night before bed. This includes shoes. 7. Each night before bed I apply a lotion application to Mistress S. 8. Each morning I wake up Mistress S with a massage. 9. Releases are granted for me based on performance and must be earned. 10. I am not allowed to touch my penis without her permission. Her rule is simple on this, it belongs to her and I can’t play with her things without her permission. 11. All questions or requests must be asked for while on knees in a very respectful tone. 12. Punishments are given for lack or performance, poor work or for any other reason Mistress S deems necessary to help in training. 13. I do most of the cooking, she cooks when she wishes to however under no circumstances does she clean up or do the dishes for dinner. 14. I am not allowed to ask for release. Ever. 15. I am required to wear a pair of her panites every day to remind me of my place in our relationship. If he even sees a pretty girl when he is out with Tara, he is required to look down. If not, she would give him the switch, he said.

Today marks three weeks of orgasm denial and one full week locked in chastity for me. Both records for me. She has had eight orgasms during this period. I haven’t been permitted intercourse with her during this time, but I agree that is by far the hottest way to be denied orgasm. To maintain self control, give her the pleasure of an orgasm with your cock, and then her to tell me she doesn’t want me to come…. kicking me out of her pussy. Unfortunately, that doesn’t happen that often. She’s been “going vegetarian”, so to speak (no male meat).

In the past I’ve made the mistake of asking her when she will unlock me or when I will get release. I haven’t asked this chastity period, and I think she really appreciates that. No pressure. I really have no idea how long she is going to keep me locked and how long she is going to keep me denied release. And yes, woman on top sex is the best. Hands down.

It makes me feel “indecisive”. That is where the brass padlock comes in. I do not have the decision. I communicate my feelings in honesty to my wife and she chooses. Like Katie, my wife finds simply keeping me lock works best for her. Last weekend she had a nice long massage followed by prompting me to get her off via oral. About an hour later she also had me get her off via her bullet. I now relish being permitted between her legs to get her off. I crave the taste and seeing her back arch and her nipples become erect as her whole body shudders in orgasmic pleasure. It is such a ‘high’ for me and is what I look forward to most. I on the other hand know I will not see my key at least until the Christmas holidays, but I suspect even then I wont see the old guy out and about. Like you, it does not really bother me. In fact, I find being kept locked is something I am appreciative for

You know that we are submissive men when we can relish the sight we see and the pleasure we gain when pleasing our women. We are loved and yet we are there for the single purpose of serving them. It does seem a bit twisted yet I know you and I would wish for nothing more than we live out our days working, loving, serving and worshipping the woman that owns us. I too wish for many more days of denial even though I am permitted outside way more than you. I don’t know what is more intoxicating – being kept in the tube for prolonged periods or being allowed to get so close, and be touched often knowing full well I won’t be given a release. Both are heavenly!

My wife just txt’ed me letting me know that I may be permitted between her legs tonight to be able to taste her sweet womanly nectar that I have grown to so love.

I on the other hand really do being permitted out when in bed with Katie. I use to be able to convince her to allow me out when away on business, even if just for a few minutes to stroke without the intent of cumming – but just to get aroused for her. She will have none of that anymore. It’s time in chastity when away and out only when in her presence

You know that we are submissive men when we can relish the sight we see and the pleasure we gain when pleasing our women. We are loved and yet we are there for the single purpose of serving them. It does seem a bit twisted yet I know you and I would wish for nothing more than we live out our days working, loving, serving and worshipping the woman that owns us.

Katie doesn’t seem concerned that I touch – as long as it’s minimal. No real emotional arousal permitted. If so, her hand sweeps in and pulls mine to some other locale – away from the little soldier, as Kathy often calls it LOL.

Katie prefers the ‘chaste’ me. She likes my attention. She likes sex being about her. She likes my mood, my attentiveness, my desire to please, want, crave, lust, etc…..

But deeper still is the understanding of our relationship. She’s my Mistress and I her sub. All those silly, casual, romantic ‘things’ (I hate that word) we do continually reinforce our wife led marriage understanding. She is in charge. She controls the bedroom. She decides if I’ll be free for the night, or for a weekend day or not; not me. She checks to see if I’m locked. I don’t grope her. She determines how long my time in denial will last and I honor her authority by letting her know, “I’m getting close” or by refusing to self pleasure during those times I am free for the day. And through it all – all of those things, all of those feelings, all of those rituals, all of those spontaneous actions – reinforce the bigger picture – of her being in charge.

Pour my energy into loving and serving only her. In the bedroom that meant responding when she had interest although she enjoyed my continued pursuits. She expected me to dote daily and to show her love continuously. She also required me to do my chores so she wouldn’t have to.

As a submissive to my wife there many certain limitations placed on me including sexual, financial, decision-making and an expectation to obey in all matters at all times. I have willingly accepted these restrictions and although I do not always want to abide by them, I do obey. I strive to live as her servant. I live to please. I live with the mindset that Katie comes first in all things and at all times. If she tells me to do something, I do it whether I want to or not. If she tells me something as innocent as rolling over in bed, I obey. If I’m instructed to cook her ‘this’, I do. If she tells me we need to do this or that today or sometime next week, that’s what I do even when I have other thoughts in mind or plans I put hers at the forefront.

I guess an outsider that knew of our lifestyle might interpret my relationship with Katie as being ‘hen-pecked’ or that I’m ‘living with a bitch’ but that doesn’t mean I feel that way. If you go way back to the very first posts of this blog you will learn that I came to live this life willingly. It was me that came to her asking if she would accept my submission. Katie never demanded it or even asked. However, (and this is one big ‘however’) once I did, she informed me we’d never go back, that she’d never accept us living as equals. Why? Because she loved being served, catered, adored and having the independence to do as she wished.

The cost was $5. I paid. I had exactly $5 in my wallet. I was glad I did. I didn’t know if she had brought cash (she had). I also knew today was the 15th of the month – the day I get my allowance of discretionary funds ($20). When we got back home Katie dug out $25 from her purse and handed it to me. “Here’s your allowance,” she said smiling.

Now, did I feel emasculated because I only get that little bit of money to spend as I wish every two weeks?

I made light of the fact that she had kept her husband pretty much locked and chaste for some 160 some days at the time of her writing that particular post. What I didn’t’ reveal was my own time as a chaste submissive. As of the 14 it will have been six months since Katie last told me I was permitted an orgasm. Valentine’s Day seems like ages ago when she last gave me the OK.

Unlike Katie Christian’s husband, Katie prefers sexual satisfaction with me inside rather than going down between her legs. As a result there have been several times where I’ve had ruined orgasms. By ruined I mean I’ve done my best to stop the inevitable and pulled out or lasted long enough for her to be satisfied only to lose it several seconds later while remaining motionless either inside or outside her. To me ruined also means that there is no associated ‘wow!’ feelings when all that happens. I use the words, “I leaked,” since that’s how it feels. There is a release but no feeling like some erotic detonation exploding somewhere deep in my loins like there was back on the 14th of February. A ruined orgasm more or less feels like a pretty placid and wimpy ‘oops’.

He often asks me, “how do you do that?” meaning, go so long between ejaculations. My response is usually something to the effect of: what choice do I have? The answer of course is “I don’t have any say at all”. I don’t control my sexual outcome. I do what she wants and what Katie wants is for me remaining denied. So I’ve made it some 182 days, or there about. I don’t know if she will want me to go another 182 or another two. I really don’t know and to be honest, really don’t care anymore. What I want more than anything is to know that I satisfy her, that she enjoys me and that she is pleased with me both as a husband and one who will obey always.