“does a sub hubby need a cock cage?”
Before I locked elliot up I would have said “no”. After all, a good husband accepts his position and understands that he is not allowed to touch his cock or initiate sex at any time. It is a matter of honour and a good husband is nothing if not honourable.
However, having locked elliot up and now having had him in his cock cage for well over a month without letting him out for more than a few minutes, I can safely say that submissive husbands, at a certain point, are better locked up.
The reason is pretty simple: locking away his little cock reminds him constantly of his position. It is too easy for a couple to slip into a routine. Which is fine as far as it goes; but keeping your husband under lock and key means that he is always aware that you are in charge at the most intimate possible level.
But he understands his position perfectly. I like to ask him for his views on all sorts of things; but as my husband his opinion will certainly not change my mind. And, whatever my decision, he is expected to obey or face the consequences until he does.
I was amused to read elliot’s reflections on his new chaste reality – basically he is in his cock cage full time, 24/7. It does not seem to cause him any serious discomfort and, rather obviously, it takes no effort on my end other than that satisfying “click” as the padlock snaps shut. I like to do that myself.
Now that I know it causes him virtually no discomfort, except, usefully in the morning when his little erection wakes him up in time to make my tea, empty the dishwasher and stand in his corner, I don’t see any reason to take him out.
Well, occasionally for my greater pleasure but his little cock really does not do much on that front. Much better for him to keep improving his pussy licking technique and retreat to his corner so I can have privacy for my climax. Well, after keeping him caged most of January, I can safely say that I will never be without a chastity cage again. This is a marvellous invention. It provides a level of elegant, demure wifely control which I had never experienced before.
Once elliot is locked in our lives continue in exactly the same way. He has his corner time and his duties and he is whipped for both maintenance and punishment; but now he has no control at all over his cock. He has to take his tiny dose of viagra as usual and so he has a quite uncomfortable morning erection which is pretty regular at about 7:30 when he has to get up and make my tea in any case. He may have other erections during the day, I don’t know and don’t actually care. I often tease him a little at cocktail hour and I will, occasionally, lift his nightie and stroke him erect before I go to sleep. But he knows once he is locked in he’ll stay that way for some time. I don’t even keep the key in the bedroom so it takes a bit of planning if I want his cockette for some reason.
Once in a while I have him strip off after some cornertime and with a little lube, I’ll push his prostate milking vibrator up his bottom and let him drain into some tissue. But not too often. I like him to be full, completely on edge.
Good to hear you are keeping him locked. It adds another dimension to your control of him. A dominant woman needs to keep her man locked in chastity. It’s a reminder to him that you are in total control.
A maintenance caning should remind your husband of his position; but there is nothing wrong with recognizing that that might be all the sexual tension he has that day or even that week. I don’t “dress” to whip; but I certainly like to whip elliot when I am in my nightdress or lingerie. I suspect he likes it too. The point is never to dismiss your husband’s sexuality. So long as his cock is under lock and key and he has been trained to obedience, teasing and flirting is all the more fun.
A good whipping is all about intensity rising. When I first used to correct elliot I held back a lot for fear of really hurting him. Now that I am more proficient with the cane I can control the intensity. But there is no point in just “tap, tapping” unless I want to deliberately tease him. Which I usually don’t. Instead, I have been increasing the duration and intensity of our maintenance whippings. In time I would like to stretch them out to a full 30 strokes with the last ten quite severe. I think it leaves a much stronger impression for a man to be wearing his welts and weals for several days after he has been caned.
Of course, this leads to an increase in intensity for punishment canings but those are quite infrequent. They have to leave elliot gasping which is accomplished by starting hard and going right to full force in two or three strokes. He does not like being punished one bit…as he shouldn’t.
But now we are in the post whipping glow and he is ever so attentive. His little cock is straining against its cage but I like that. Tonight, perhaps, I’ll have him show his appreciation. He is really getting very skillful with his tongue, fingers and my vibe. (He’s managed to get a lovely sequence where he first licks with the whole of his tongue to get me deliciously wet, then while he concentrates on my clit, he slips the vibrator in on a low speed and slips a little finger in my backdoor. While I prefer to finish myself in the privacy sending him to his corner affords, I must admit the last couple of times I have been tempted to just hold his head in place…Once I did, once I sent him away. Not sure which I will do tonight.)
I like to have my husband work very hard to please me. Which is not, I must say, all that difficult to do.
At the same time, very early on in our marriage I made it clear to elliot that, at least in the bedroom, I was in charge. Too many women put up with mediocre sex too often. I was more experienced than my lovely alpha man and I knew he needed training. So, I began by cutting him off entirely after about six months. No sex for a month focuses a man’s attention. Then I began our current regime where he is allowed to have sex when I want the greater pleasure his little cock can sometimes bring.
What this did was put him on my sexual cycle. The only time he had any hope of ejaculating was when I was on heat. The rest of the time, while I would have him pleasure me with his tongue and fingers from time to time, his cockette was entirely irrelevant. (Caging him has only underscored my control.) A man allowed to ejaculate only a few times a year is a very attentive man.
It was a natural progression to both punishing him and whipping him to remind him of his place and he learned to accept his whippings as a near substitute for the sexual satisfaction he was denied. He actually gets quite broody when he’s not been whipped for a week. Over a year, while he might ejaculate a dozen times, he’ll be whipped at least forty. Whipping makes a huge improvement in elliot’s attitude and puts a bounce in his step.
Humiliations like corner time, his little black cock cage and having to wear a girdle during the day or a nightie to bed, simply re-enforce the fact that I am in complete charge in our marriage. Special attention like nipple clips or having to push his steel rod up his backdoor add a bit of surprise to the mix.
The wonderful thing about a wife led marriage is that elliot is completely focused on me and what I require.
When a wife is in charge of her marriage she has no choice but to pay close attention to her own desires while ruthlessly curbing her husband’s. More than once I have whipped elliot simply because he was getting all hot and bothered and I was not in the mood. A well whipped man standing in his corner with his nose pressed in your panties is actually a pretty sexy sight and, I have to admit, I have occasionally whipped elliot just so I could take myself in hand for my own pleasure as he stood so obediently. Which is, of course, my perfect right and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
My wife feels exactly as you do, only allowing me a precious very few orgasms a year. In 2013 I was allowed 4, in 2014 I was allowed 3. And this year she has not allowed me to cum at all. Over 11 months. I will be joining the special 1 year club in another couple of weeks. She has said if my housework, cooking and overall attitude stay as she likes it, then maybe sometime in January she will rub me thru my panties to orgasm. She does not like penetrative sex anymore. Too messy. So she gets her orgasms about twice a week from me eating her and using her vibrators.