In the past, i have also been in a similar dynamic, except that i was the main earner. Also, i was restricted from sex by a chastity device, and what made me feel most pussywhipped was that i was forbidden from bringing up the subject of intimacy, even to ask if i could masturbate. That began a few years after She began enforcing Her authority with DD, and went on for about a decade. She doesn’t cuckold me now, though She could as HoH, and i am no longer kept in chastity, about five years ago those were changes in the relationship that She decreed. Despite the greater freedom i now have, i miss the intensity of intimacy that the more strict dynamic that was formerly in place provided. She still sets the agenda and makes all final decisions regarding sex, money and social activities, She still decides which domestic duties are mine (everything but cooking, in the kitchen She rules and i do chopping etc at Her direction) and She still disciplines me for inadequate service when She believes it is appropriate but i am on a much longer leash now, maybe because She has trained me well enough to know my role, plus as sexuality goes, She and i are approaching 70 and slowing down. She ended using chastity, which i miss, and i can even suggest intimacy now and masturbate without having to ask permission, and that feels much less pw.
she is 100% in charge of her home. makes all the decisions, is the breadwinner of the house. i stay at home clean and cook and other chores she directs. she handles all money and i must ask for any i might need, which much of the time she vetos so i must have an excelent reason for needing it. she does all shopping, i make a list for groceries and she buys what she approves of. she dates as she chooses and for about 2 years has had only one man she calls her Master she sees.
my Mistress has not had to do dishes, laundry, clean, or pick up after Her dog since we have been together. She also has me pay all the household expenses, and has kept me in chastity for the whole 3 years we’ve been together. i’m so pussy-whipped that i know not to touch myself when not locked in my cage, and after being used for sex will go flaccid once my Mistress has climaxed without reaching my own.
You’re about as pussy-whipped as they come. Very nice. How does it feel being so whipped by your wife, and having Her call another man Master?
Very hot that She forbid you to even talk about your denial. That idea of being made to suffer in silence has always been a fantasy of mine, though in practice i seldom bring the topic up without any rules prohibiting.
Even now, though i am allowed to, i have a hard time suggesting intimacy. Fear of rejection keeps me from it, as i am told no at least 3 out of 4 times. Despite the frequent denial, i understand Her lack of libido is not from a lack of love, and am grateful She knows it’s Her decision in the final analysis, that saying no is Her prerogative as my leader. It’s disappointing when She does, but likely She is disappointed by finding out She married a sissy instead of a Man
Its good that you have accepted your failed masculinity as likely justification for Her lack of interest in your release. Cuckolding almost seems the natural progression in pussy-whipped relationships. Though your situation deals more with libido and appeal, i have heard many Dominant Women remark that they have trouble respecting their humiliated submissive partners enough to be sexually attracted to them in conventional ways. It stands to reason the Wife of a spineless, pussy-whipped man would eventually seek to avail Herself of concern for his needs to pursue Her’s elsewhere.
being pussywhipped means that i am subservient, that Wife makes decisions for me and i have no say over Her. In my case, it’s welcome, but it doesn’t have to be, as long as She controls the marriage, has final say as to how it’s run, then i think the husband is pussy whipped. For instance, i see you like to make Your husband wear panties, whereas Wife rarely lets me dress up, even though i want to wear frilly feminine clothes. Both are examples of being PW, though opposite to look at from the outside. Do You tell him which chores to do, how he can spend Your money
I am in charge of cooking and wash the table. Even if we have guest, my wife discuss with them and i am in apron in the kitchen…
My wife can give me order in front of family. Once, when she found i was not enough polite to my mother , she ask me to apologize. There was silent in the room, no one know what to do, my wife look angrily at me,…my mother said there was no problem…my wife said there was one…i have apologize even if of course i had not the feeling to be disrespectul to my mother…
When my wife speak , i listen, never i say the opposite or even different opinion…
In the opposite, she don t hesitate to cut me when i speak…
Of course , behind close door, thing a more obvious: we have sex when she want. When we ” make love,” I am on all 4 in panty and she pegged me….
Sometine, she only want pussy worship…so i go between her leg…
As a true submissive and masochist, i am happy that my goddess give a chance to my true kink…
I think i am pussy whipped
My husband must run a close 2nd haha hes totally subservient licks my boots lights my cigarettes kneels beside me even in company, years of training yes but seems worth it right. He even asks if he can look at me and masturbate …Ummmm, no! Get out of the room and use your memory, dog.
Last night’s young female house guest said about three times to my wife, “ I love how you put him in his place”. This just empowers my wife even more so especially after a number of wine drinks. Always deliciously scary when the momentum builds. We always assume everyone else is vanilla so try to stay stealthy. I wonder what our guest would say if she was around when I started on the mountain of dishes late the next morning?
I have been emasculated in this role and am now spoken to and treated as a servant or child and take care of household chores, cleaning etc. It is something we are quite comfortable with and once accepted as your new normal is wonderful.
Wife and i played with D/s for a decade, and during that time Her Mother came to live with U/us. One day when She came home, Her incontenent Mom complained that the trash in the bathroom She used was smelly. Wife got mad, grabbed me and marched me upstairs and beat me.
She hadn’t used DD before, and i had thought it would be erotic, but it hurt and made me cry, and that was the end of play. From then on, it was 24/7 real and i was afraid of being punished for screwing up again, and even though Her Mom never said anything, She never had to worry about the trash being smelly again.
Though MIL never ordered me directly, anything She needed from me She had delivered by Her Daughter, and i tried to to everything before being asked to avoid the embarrassment of being punished in front of Her again. Wife’s Sister-in-Law has also made some comments, too. Once, She had asked me to do something and when i didn’t agree to it, She said She would talk to Wife and W/we would see about it. It really put me in my place, and made me wonder if She knew the truth.
Barb my wife in-control, has let my bank card expire even after she changed my PW a few years back, so I have no access to my directed deposited pension, since she let my driver license expire also, and i cannot get to a branch, so I have to beg her for funds anytime i want something as small as a candy bar. I simply am not allowed to spend money !!
Through three decade, Wife and i have explored ways of living in a FLR. The dynamic started out as play but after ten years was changed to a strict regimen of FemDom authority enforced with domestic discipline. Turned out, i discovered that i am not a fan of physical punishments as i hate pain. Wife came to understand i was afraid of disobeying Her and i came to see myself as a sissy.
During the first fifteen years or so of this new millennium, She enforced very strict rules while exploring chastity, discipline and control. One aspect of chastity was being forbidden to initiate intimacy. Not with Her or even to masturbate, it only happened if She started it, which included supervised masturbation where She would humiliate me with fantasies i would cum to, frequently forced bi and cuckolding, but really, with Her dominating my mind i never lasted long in any case. During that time, if I could do anything to get Her to think about being intimate, i tried it, like doing extra chores after my normal housework was done, dressing up extra frilly and trying to behave my best. It didn’t work often, the sight of a pathetic sissy focusing on serving the best i could probably did little to arouse Wife, but sometimes i think it might have caused Her to consider unlocking me an if not, at least letting me go down on Her. Giving Her an orgasm when locked up was the most intimate and vulnerable i have ever been.
A few years ago, my wife allowed me to beg for sex, but rarely. When i do, it’s usually declined – not that i am surprised, my performance is dismal, with difficulty staying erect, so it’s no wonder i am not very seductive. Also, she inevitably causes me pain that she enjoys, like cbt, biting and pinching, not horrible but still as a sissy i am not very good about pain and instead of cumming, the pain and humiliation She taunts me with can induce crying, which She and i both like to encourage. When She decides to initiate, i would never decline, though if it happens after i have masturbated i am a horrible disappointment and that tends to make me avoid masturbating on the off chance She will want sex.
Between wanting to keep myself ready, fear of rejection or fear of physical pain, i have stopped initiating sexual activity, even though i am permitted. Does any of this feel relatable to other pussy whipped husbands? Also, for those controlling Wives who may comment, does being the primary spouse to initiate serve Your interest, whether from enjoying their husband’s respectful acceptance that decisions about intimacy are reserved for their Wife to make or do You want husbands showing amorous intentions?