So I recently met a very dominant girl who seems absolutely perfect for me, she is into pretty much every kink I am, and more on top of that! So far things have been going pretty well and I have been really enjoying our relationship.

We are both very into chastity, but she especially gets off on complete and total chastity, like no teasing, no erections but long term hardcore chastity. Even going so far as only allowing it to be taken off every 3-5 days to clean in the shower supervised, with SEVERE punishment for any erection.

Now I am very much into chastity, but previously whenever I have done this it has always come along with tease and denial. I am finding it a little difficult to deal with. I can’t say she ignores my chastity and forgets about it she actually loves it and is constantly grabbing it and playing with the cage in her hands at every opportunity.

Is there anyone out there in a similar situation who has some advice? I think she knows how hard it is to be in complete chastity and thats what gets her off so much, which I love. I’m just finding it VERY difficult to deal with.

My wife hasn’t released me in 501 says and has no intention of ever releasing me again. That’s permanent

The first time I was ‘punished’ was after dinner one night. I was to do the dishes and my Wife had a specific way She wanted them done. I failed miserably. When She checked my work, I could see She was upset I failed to “listen”. She looked at me and said, “sit over there” and pointed to a chair in our living room. I sat down and for the next 20 minutes, my Wife lectured me on doing dishes. She was not mad, she was stern and very clear about what I did wrong and what was expected of me moving forward. She made me repeat things She said, She pointed at me and put Her hands on her hips. She was glowing with power. When She finished, we hugged and kissed. I apologized very sincerely and before I knew it, she retrieved a chastity device and had my penis completely locked away.

Afterward, I asked Her how it felt. She said She had never felt so relieved in our entire relationship. She said the fact She could express herself and I just ‘listen’ was so arousing and empowering that Her pussy was literally leaking during Her lecture. For me, Her taking control and just saying what She really felt was also arousing to me.

And this is Her favorite punishment for me. The lecture. It has grown over time into a more formal thing with Her. I have a specific lecture chair. If I am told to sit there, I know what it coming. Sometimes She will have me sit there for a bit while She does Her makeup and puts on nice clothes. She likes to look a certain way now when she lectures me. Lectures are events in our home. She turns off the TV and all distractions. There is a light by the chair She shines on me. I am usually naked for lectures now. She does this to humiliate me. It works. Lectures can last a half an hour or more sometimes. She enjoys hearing me admit to my failures and my promises to improve for Her. After these lectures, She is typically aroused. I don’t necessarily get to orgasm but we generally engage in some sort of sexual activity once She has finished lecturing me.

In the last year, my Wife has occasionally lectured me in public. I find this more humiliating than sitting naked in a chair. She knows this, which is part of the reason She is doing it. But the end result is an amazingly loving relationship. I get lectured maybe once a week. Yes, it’s an event and She really lets me have it but I learn about Her and what is bothering Her instead of arguing with her and getting nowhere.

My wife recieved her new cage for me, a Lori 2a with anti pull out ring yesterday. Never seen her so excited before. She took off my other cage and locked the Lori on me. Fit like a glove. I think the pull out ring really isnt needed but she wanted it included to discourage any attempts by me to pull it out. I dont think its posdible to pull out especially with the ring in there.
One more month and it will be 1 yr locked. My wife has told me before that being locked up is going to be permanent. With this latest purchase, I believe her.
As far as function this cage is high quality. Its very secure, this one could actually be escape proof. No way to get to security screw, it is recessed deeply. It looks like if you could get to it you would end up stripping the head and then it would never come out….not telling my wife just incase, she might want to do that so it never comes off.
Price was good and totally custom fitted. Good cage thats very affordable.
My penis is totally trapped and out of my control.

It is very good at keeping ya honest. does yours have the anti pull out in it. My wife keeps the keys in a bio metric safe that only her finger opens, I couldn’t get the keys even if I wanted too. Im coming up on 1 yr locked. After that 1 yr mark I will probably stop keeping track because she has said that this is how it will be from now on, and that was after the first month. If she wasn’t serious about keeping me locked up she would have let me out after a few days and she wouldn’t have had the Lori made.
I have to accept that this is permanent. Some days Im ok with it but other days Im not.

Your ambivalence is so sexy, and so normal for long-term chastity, I think. She’s really in charge, we really don’t have free erections anymore.

Well you definitely have the firm wife part right. There is no life for me anymore without this cage. Knowing this has changed me a lot. My feeling about this change day to day. Some days I desperately want it gone and I regret ever letting her have this power over me. Other days Im ok with it cause it makes her so happy. The happy wife always wins. It has made our marriage a lot better. I focus my energy on her more than myself. Before it was all about me. I was a habitual masturbator. I played more with myself and neglected her, which I’m totally ashamed off.
I was the one who first locked myself up and then that night confessed to her what was going on. It seemed like the only solution. It was a solution that I didnt want to do but didnt know any other way. I wanted to save our marriage. It has worked.
I have to confess that I am happier with my wife than I have been in years. We are having more fun and enjoying life more these days.
I guess until I accept that fact that this cage is a permanent part of me the better I will be. In 1 month it will be a year. Ask me in a month how I feel and I will give you an honest answere as an update.

I’m no longer allowed to masturbate supervised or not she has made it clear that it is hers to play with as she pleases.

I was permitted supervised masturbation almost every night until my wife determined that she wanted me placed in chastity. This would almost always consist of me humping my diaper until I would make sissies although there was different variations. Sometimes I would be put into the corner with my nose litterally against the wall as she sat in our bed. I was instructed to hump the wall while she verbally humiliated me. Most of the time I would just lay on the bed and hump one of our big fluffy pillows. She would have me look into her eyes and almost always remind me that this is what I deserved and that my sissies belong in my dirty diapers so they can ne thrown away in the trash can. Since my wife just got fucked in our bed by her boyfriend I am sure she will remind me of this if I am permitted supervised masturbation in our bed again.

If I have been a really good girl then sometimes she allows me to hump her leg or bottom. That is a specail treat. One time she put a heating pad between her leg and my diaper and that was a special treat while humping.

My experience after a long lockup is that it is really nice emotionally to have and see my erection again, although it’s smaller and the tissue is a little unforgiving. Last time I was a little surprised that my orgasm wasn’t as satisfying as I had hoped. It came quick, to be sure (pun intended), and there was more fluid than usual, but it kind of dribbled out. And it wasn’t earth shattering by any standards.

I’m not allowed to ask for a removal of my cage unless I have a problem. I also can not ask for a release. Like b-quark she’ll extend my time. I have gone a very long time with no release. I too was somewhat disappointed in the feeling of cumming.

I cannot answer that question as my lock period is still ongoing, now close to 6 years. But prior to that was 1 year as a trial for the current session. I begged my wife to let me have an erection at least once a year and she said no.

My husband has been locked with a PA device since January 1 2018 which is a day we both agreed on to start a new chapter in our marriage. A whole two months before that we got his PA so his had time to heal before his two week fuck fest were he was allowed anything anytime anywhere. On 1st the first device went on. Since then I’ve changed his device 6 times, sometimes as planned sometimes not so planned. But even then his penis was only unlocked for a few minutes. InitaInit he complained about chaffing, itching, erections were painful (as pained) and he dripped alot of precum during our sexual activities, and his drive was up and down and he was very confrontational at times, oh and wet dreams a big no no 282 days in I’ve can say I’m very proud of him. He’s in a heavier steel device that can only be cut off if need be (by emt with small cutters or such event). He’s very docile and obedient in my presence yet his libido is at a regular and maintained high. He no longer becomes erect but he still gets drippy when he’s very ecexcit. I do allow him to orgasm via prostate stimulation about every 60 days or so… I help him achieve them through pegged with a strap on. We’re both still learning alot and have a long way to go.