After wearing a custom-made metal chastity device almost full-time for the past five years, our sex life has evolved to where I clearly understand which activities are permissible and how my wife will respond to my attention. In fact, the permissible activities and rewards can be summarized quite neatly in the following table. As you can see, we participate in a fair variety of activities, all of which result in identical outcomes for me. Anything else is pretty rare.

My wife doesn’t like me sticking my tongue too deep into her mouth, and she has little tolerance for breast or nipple play. She usually responds by sinking her fingernails deep into my scrotum and pulling on my balls like she is trying to tear them off. The offending behavior quickly ceases.

You may find that if you are patient, your wife’s play will become rougher over time. My wife is not particularly sadistic by nature, but her play has definitely become a lot rougher. She used to softly stroke and tease my balls. Now she is more into digging her nails into my scrotum and perineum, scratching and pinching, and pulling and squeezing my balls. She doesn’t like me talking to her about chastity or how she treats me, and I try not to top from the bottom. When she is working me over, I try to keep my mouth shut, but I cannot help but let out a little yelp once in a while. I suspect she sometimes pushes me to see how far she can go before I make a sound or try pulling away. Of course, as long as I keep quiet and continue to take it, she thinks she can keep torturing me. She also receives positive feedback from my body’s response and the improvement in my demeanor after one of our sessions.

After several years of chastity play, she has learned a lot about how my body responds to various techniques. I am sure she knows that I am more responsive and she can play with me longer when she treats me roughly. In fact, when she plays really rough by sinking her nails in deep and pulling hard on my balls for a couple minutes, it is like a switch is turned off, and she then can play with me indefinitely without having to worry about my penis getting too excited and ejaculating accidentally. But I also think she simply enjoys having control over me as I squirm and struggle to pull away from her grasp.

Last night, my wife and I engaged in an extended make-out session, but she didn’t give my genitals as much as a touch. Daybreak found me quite horny, with my penis pressing firmly against the inside of its cage. I tried providing myself a little stimulation by pressing my cage and balls up against my wife’s soft behind, and I was hoping she might be willing to play a while before starting her day. However, those hopes were dashed when she informed me that she had something she wanted to get done before leaving for her morning yoga class. I walked frustrated and naked into the kitchen to start breakfast. My penis was dripping, and there was precum sticking to my leg. Chastity with no planned release is profoundly different than chastity with occasional releases.

“Profoundly different” is putting it quite mildly. ESPECIALLY when she ceases to touch your penis or balls…perpetually. Welcome to my life.
You may soon find your main sources of pleasure to be at her service however she deems fit, the privelage of helping to produce her orgasms or witness them while she masturbates or the helpless feeling of your locked dripping, penis soaking your underwear pressed against her rump as you drift off in frustration. Perhaps if you are lucky or unlucky depending upon how you view it, she will indulge or exploit dark, repressed fetishes and fantasies within you which you may have shared with her and have you so hard up for physical pleasure that you begin to play with anal plugs and dildos with ever increasing frequency and find yourself touching your nipples whenever you get the chance. You may even grow to CRAVE these things as I do. Wait until your first anal orgasm.

She seems to genuinely enjoy tormenting my testicles though, and I can’t see her wanting to stop that. On the other hand, she has never enjoyed playing with my penis, and she would just as soon lock it up and forget it. Before we started chastity play, she used to stroke my penis just short of an orgasm almost every night just before we went to sleep. She says she did that just to please me, and she resented it. I can see now that we were already moving away from sexual intercourse, and she thought she had to play with my penis as compensation for that. Chastity was the perfect solution for her—she no longer needed to engage in intercourse or pay tribute to my penis. Now that it is caged, she never touches it except when she occasionally lets it out for a little play, and that has become more and more infrequent. Given I no longer need my device removed for cycling, I expect her to continue increasing the time between other releases. In fact, it wouldn’t surprise me if she quits releasing me altogether. She probably sees no purpose in either of us having access to my penis. Lately, whenever she thinks my balls need emptying, she doesn’t go to the trouble of releasing me. She simply milks my testicles until I have a ruined orgasm. She acts as though she is doing me a favor, but a ruined orgasm inside a cage certainly doesn’t compare to intercourse, a blow job, or even a lousy hand job. So, yes, I can easily imagine that we are quickly approaching the point after which my device is no longer removed—permanent chastity, I guess.