Just to be clear: the only hand on my husband’s penis is his own and the only thing being penetrated by the dildo is his ass.

You are correct that the full belt goes far beyond just chastity, it has a major psychological effect because the penis is totally inaccessible, not to mention having to sit down to pee and having a perfectly feminine flat front instead of a male bulge.

I know how he feels. Having the belt locked on is excruciatingly frustrating and it hasn’t gotten easier to endure even after all this time. What it does is force him to focus his energy elsewhere and to adopt a mindset that allows him to cope with his situation. Keeping busy and taking pride in completing his many tasks. Deriving pleasure from pleasuring me and gaining my appreciation and approval. It’s hard for outsiders to understand but taking on a new mindset brings him satisfaction and acceptance. Instead of his selfish desires he focuses externally, and instead of being idle he keeps busy so as not to dwell on being locked up.

Besides the issues related to the belt, how does he feel being under my complete control, subservient to me? it’s something he has adjusted to by knowing that he is provided for in every way, that we enjoy our companionship and doing things together, and that he is relieved of the pressure of “being a man” which he had trouble with. In many ways he has sacrificed his manhood, but the upside is not having the stress of being the breadwinner, having to make any decisions, and having to waste time with macho b.s.

It’s a major power rush to be sure! Our arrangement is practical but I don’t deny how the power I have makes me feel. Every morning I wake up with my husband’s manhood locked away while I hold the key, knowing that I have conquered a male to the point that I have his complete obedience and that his life consists of service to me in every way, domestically and sexually. Sometimes I look in the mirror and smile at how I have worked hard to build a dream life and been smart and powerful enough to emasculate a man and make him totally dependent on me. Not too many women can say that. It’s a power trip and hard to describe how satisfying and fulfilling it is, it only gets better with each passing day.

A male has a lot of pride, and removing that pride is important to an effective FLR, but smashing a man’s pride all at once can backfire. Achieving a balance in taking a man’s pride is important. I admit that it gives me a rush to chip away at his manhood and to humiliate him in small ways, but I don’t go overboard either.

To earn his weekly release he doesn’t only have to behave well but also complete a lengthy list if chores. So enduring my pegging is really just another chore that is required. He doesn’t enjoy it but does what he has to do.

my husband wakes up and helps me get ready for work by ironing my clothes and laying them out for me. I usually work 10-12 hours at the office, meantime my husband is busy with domestic chores. There is no daily list or hourly schedule because he knows what needs to be done. He’s busy cleaning, vacuuming, scrubbing, doing laundry for most of the day, or shopping for groceries or doing errands. I check on him via text or video chat at various points during the day. If he needs to leave the house he gets my permission first. Any time I call him he better be where he is supposed to be, meaning at home or wherever he asked permission to go, e.g. the supermarket. I check his weight and his waist measurement once a week to make sure he is under the targets that I set for him, but what he eats and how much he exercises is up to him. He is strictly forbidden from consuming any alcohol at any time. I give him cash for expenses but he has to account for every penny with receipts. When I get home I am usually exhausted, so I usually just throw my shoes and work clothes off and sit on the sofa while my husband brings me a glass of wine and rubs my feet. Then I usually point and he kneels down between my legs and pleasures me with his tongue, which he has become quote proficient at. He prepares our dinner and then we watch television or read quietly like any other couple before going to bed. So basically our life is similar to a typical dominant man and housewife, except the roles are reversed and more defined.

Sometimes we invite friends over and my husband cooks and serves a nice meal. None of our friends know that he is in chastity or the degree that I control him, but we are open about the fact that I am in charge and that he is subservient to me. Sometimes we go out and again I don’t hide the dynamics of our relationship, which is sometimes jarring to strangers. It’s still embarrassing to him and the last vestiges of male pride surface at times but he has gotten used to it when I make it obvious to the outside world that we are in a FLR. Sometimes I go out clubbing or bar hopping with girlfriends and my husband stays home, knowing that I will be checking on him during the evening. Sometimes I go on dates with other men, and of course this has been the hardest adjustment for him. I like to dress very sexy and tease him a bit, and I know it’s not easy for him to iron a sexy outfit and then help me put it on knowing that it’s for another man. However I never bring men home or talk about what happens because that seems excessive. Until very recently I would always meet my dates elsewhere although now I often have them pick me up at home. Sunday is the big day because that is when my husband receives his release from the dreaded belt. Assuming that he has behaved during the week, performed all his chores and stayed under his weight/waist target I remove the belt in the morning and he is free to do whatever he likes, within the confines of our property of course. Depending on how he did during the week I may keep it off for an hour or for the entire day. We may go motorcycle riding, go for a walk to the park, or just stay home and relax. At some point I announce that it’s time and I lock the belt back on, which he has learned to accept without whining

I absolutely don’t tolerate any begging, whining or complaining about anything, but especially about his desire for intercourse.

I respectfully ask you since your husband is very horny all the time and you don’t allow him intercourse, do you at least allow him long kissing sessions with you while being in chastity? can he grab or kiss your ass and boobs?

No, I absolutely do not tolerate any kissing or playing with my boobs. He knows he would stay in his belt for a good long time if he ever disrespected me by trying to initiate intimate contact.

For the most part, he is respectful and keeps his hands to himself and catches himself from staring too long at my bosom. But once he couldn’t help himself after being locked in his belt for a full month and he tried to grab both of my breasts. I slapped his face harshly and kept him in his belt for another month until he obediently apologized and begged forgiveness, promising to keep his hands off and his mind on serving me.

 

 

For the best part of ten years, I have been serving my wife in our Wife Led Marriage, one in which my wife enjoys and encourages my submission. I enjoy, more then anything, to be kept locked teased and denied as a way of encouraging my continued submission, including my subservience. To that end, I am now expected to serve my wife, carry out most of the domestic chores, cleaning, shopping and laundry. On a more personal level, I am responsible for washing and cleaning her underwear and maintaining her shoe and boot collection. Since introducing her to the concept of a WLM, we no longer have PIV sex, preferring me to stimulate her orally about once a month, while I am only permitted self masturbation in her presence when she allows.

In our female-controlled marriage, my topping from the bottom is absolutely forbidden. My wife insisted on total, unquestioned control as a condition of our remaining married. That makes it easier for me.

we agreed that I should be locked 24/7/365 with releases no sooner than 3 weeks at a time and locked back up immediately after release. This was my suggestion to her after I’d inadvertently gone that long because we had a very busy end of our summer. We both saw how much more submissive and subservient I was to her after no O’s for 3 + weeks. So I made a promise to myself once I realized how much more motivated I was after being denied an orgasm for so long.

The essence of our female-controlled marriage is a complete power exchange. My wife has taken away all of the traditional male tasks and assigned to me all of the women’s tasks, while she also is emasculating and feminizing me. Is anyone else living this way?

As our relationship has developed I’ve been given the responsibility of doing almost all of the female tasks as well as the male tasks, I also spend a lot of time serving my Wife/Mistress. Our relationship has been working Very Well. I will add that it has taken some time we didn’t just wake up one morning and everything was changed.
My Mistress hasn’t emasculated or feminized me very much yet. My pubic area is shaved clean and I only wear panties, she has had me wear a Bra on a few ocations but that’s as far as its gone so far. My cage doesn’t get removed unless she wants it removed which isn’t very often. I think that communicating with each other and having a strong loving relationship even without chastity has made a huge difference in our Success.

But since we have been working in a FLR I have more on my plate then I use to I still do a lot of the heavy stuff but food shopping laundry and vacuuming dusting etc. Has now been turned over to me and yes doing more has its ups and downs and stress is up a bit but I think thats why we are who we are not every guy can say there cocks in a cage and only comes out to play when the wife wants. Its what makes us get up in the morning to be at our Mistress/Wifes beck and call and to serve the one we love in any way we can.

I do all of the household chores and, since I get to do them dressed in lingerie, at a minimum, I really don’t mind at all. It just feels so feminine to strut around the house in heels and a housedress or skirt. I love it.

I live the FLR lifestyle 24/7/365, with my husband subservient to me and securely locked in a Neosteel Arch belt. It has been a long and winding journey which I would like to share with anyone who is interested.

Deciding to convert our marriage to FLR was a major step, but locking my husband in chastity was in many ways even more important and has made my life exactly what I always wanted and deserved.

It has been a 40 year road to get to this point. I want to share day to day issues that come up and hear from all of you in this forum but I have to explain how I reached this stage of my life, I hope it is helpful so that you can understand a mean bitch’s point of view.

After a few weeks in the CB6000 he seemed to adjust pretty well and stopped complaining, but over the next few months he started to slack off again. One day I caught him and realized the problem. He was able to slip out and pleasure himself. Unfortunately for him that meant getting a Neosteel Arch which has him completely and securely locked, with his dick pulled back between his legs and no access at all. If he behaves he gets briefly released once a week, and believe me he is a very good boy now. The belt has finally made him completely obedient and subservient and made our marriage perfect as far as I am concerned.

Bottom line I refuse to apologize for living the life that is typical for a successful man in my position. At home I have a “wife” who does all the chores and makes my life as easy as possible, who is completely dependent on me, who jumps when I say jump and who has to accept that I have an active and fulfilling sex life outside of the marriage. And the chastity belt is fundamental, because it is a simple reward and punishment system that keeps him in line and at my beck and call. So that is how I arrived here. It has taken a while but I have the life that I deserve.

You’re right, you have every right to want an obedient and subservient husband. You have nothing to apologize for, you financially support him and grant him release every week if he’s well behaved, that’s pretty generous if you ask me. It takes a strong woman to realize what’s wrong in her relationship and take charge of the situation. We as a society should encourage more woman to be as empowered as you.

Excellent you are training him well. I stopped my husband masturbating by also locking him in chastity and its taken a while to find the right device that is secure and neat. He is now locked each day in his steel cage which also penetrates his urethra which stops him escaping.

I also decided that since he was no use as a male any more he can be my girl friend so I dress him up too as part of his submission training.
Works for me and keeps him so stimulated he does anything I want and is now only allowed to wear skirts and heels while at home.

In general as an assertive, dominant woman I am considered a mean bitch. And I admit that I am selfish and hard on my husband.

A few weeks ago I weighed him on our digital scale and he was 0.1 pounds short of his goal, which meant that he would stay locked up for another week. He was almost in tears and I actually felt sorry for him but it was important to maintain discipline so the belt stayed on. One of my rules is no whining or complaining so he just had to take it, he knew that if he begged me to release him I would add another week to his chastity. Tough, but fair.

#3 Belt >>> Cage. Switching my husband from a cage to a full belt was necessary for security, but it goes way deeper than that. Men have a sense of pride and arrogance simply based on having a cock. A good belt removes any access to his cock and pulls it back leaving a feminine flat front with no bulge at all, and it also forces the man to squat in order to pee. It has a huge psychological effect in taming the man and eliminating the masculine traits that interfere with FLR. In my husband’s case it had an immediate effect on his personality and resulted in a healthy attitude adjustment.

Thanks, you are right that I know what I want and I demand nothing less from my husband. My husband is not allowed any PIV sex, as long as he is married to me he won’t be penetrating anyone. I do enjoy him pleasuring me orally and he does that on almost a daily basis. He does see me walking around nude but unfortunately I think that its frustrating for him when I do that. He is allowed to masturbate when I grant him his weekly release but he is on his own, I don’t watch and he is certainly not touching me, licking me or watching me when he is unlocked.

I’m just curious, why do you allow him to masturbate? Once my wife decided she no longer wanted my penis involved in sex, it was permanent chastity for me. In a FLR, I would think you would have more authority and control by not allowing him any sexual gratification ever.

Not trying to suggest how to run your marriage, just curious why you allow him that much autonomy and freedom.

Given he’s in a Neosteel have you got or considered the RCES (Remote Controlled Education Shield)? Perfect for giving him a few volts right where it hurts when he needs kept in line or taught a lesson.

1. I “keep him around” because I enjoy his company, value his support and appreciate being married to him and sharing our lives together.

2. 95% of my orgasms are provided by my husband. He pleasures me with his tongue on pretty much a daily basis. Sometimes I enjoy the company of other men and desire full sex but that is secondary to the intimacy I have with my husband.

3. There is a kink to my relationship with my husband in that I enjoy having total control over him and I admit the power trip turns me on. But keeping him chastised has a major practical side to it besides kink, it makes the relationship work for me by keeping him focused, behaved and motivated. Without the chastity our marriage probably would fall apart due to his laziness.

4. It’s not a kink for my husband in any way. He hates being locked up but it’s the price he has to pay to maintain our relationship, and it’s worth it to him to endure being in the belt.

He has not warmed up to being pegged, it’s just something he has to endure. Besides being a show of power it is physically arousing for me, but after penetrating him I usually have him turn around and bring me to orgasm with his tongue. The belt stays on throughout, the model he wears has a rear opening.

Thanks! Transitioning from a cage to the belt changed everything for the better. It is completely secure, but more than that it is imposible for my husband to even see or touch his penis, and the belt also creates a flat, feminine front with no bulge whatsoever, which has a powerful psychological effect. A lot of a man’s ego and arrogance is related to his penis, having it not only locked away but essentially disappeared humbles a man and makes him much less defiant. Managing his releases gives me all the control that I need, he craves being out of the belt and that is enough to keep him productive and behaved.

Also from the very start as soon as I caged him I painted his toes and insisted he maintained them bright red to start him on a path to enforced feminization as well. The rest is just history now he has gone too far down the rabbit hole and basically accepts his enforced chastity and his ultimate emasculation.

The belt was only part of it, but mainly my husband accepted the traditionally female role in our relationship. Instead of taking initiative he learned to follow my lead and to look for me to give him instructions and to set his limits. He adopted a mindset of thinking about pleasing me (and avoiding ever displeasing me) in order to receive his rewards. He learned to adapt to my moods and to modify his behavior to my whims. The best way to out it is to say that the belt wiped away any typical male arrogance and pride that he had left.

As you said he has to serve my pussy knowing that he will never penetrate a woman again. It’s humbling for a man to only use his tongue instead of his penis. Being on his knees with his face buried between my legs is a daily reminder of his position in our relationship, and it’s still difficult for him to accept, but over time he continues to adjust and accept.

I would allow it. It would reinforce the fact that his pleasure comes from submitting to my power.

You seem to have done a great job with your husband so far in progressively reducing his male ego, and hopefully in completely de-sexualizing regular intercourse, eliminating that option in favor of regular service to you. He may still resist, but your consistency is key! In my experience, fully achieving that allows the male’s fantasies and energy to be redirected away from himself and towards pleasing us. More importantly, along that training process, I’ve noticed my males continue responding with increased submission when I make an effort to give them positive reinforcement as they perform certain tasks that I demand in order to eliminate that “male pride” or stereotypical male attitudes and behaviors. That firms up their commitment over time, and makes it clear to them that his submission is praiseworthy and is something for him to be very proud of!

Wow…..I just can’t imagine being that close to pussy daily but never getting to use your penis again never to feel the warmth and tightness of a great pussy
I can’t imagine he can totally accept that. How does he resist ? Does he ever look to get out of his cage when your gone?
It seems if he is never going to get to use his penis ever again it would be more humane and simpler to just have it removed? Ever considered if you view it so worthless ?

 

I have been been caged for a little while now, mistress says my cock is hers…..I am not allowed to play with it, and when I was released last time…..no O, she has me plugged at night and the next evolution is plugged and caged 24/7…….I have no release……not allowed anal pleasure and not allowed to touch “her” cock. I know she has a plan but I am getting a little concerned that she is intending long term denial….I don’t watch porn, Mistress doesn’t approve….but then whats the point anyway if I can’t cum? Is there any other way I can get release without disobeying my Mistress?

Since I am not allowed to have PIV intercourse or to masturbate, all of my orgasms come from prostate milking, pegging or an anal vibrator. How regular this is, I don’t know. But it’s the new normal for this submissive hubby.

No PIV for 5+ years, no wanking ever permitted, so I’ve come to appreciate and look forward to being milked. Being an older sissy makes me more docile and easier to control, I think. She certainly has the control.

My sub has not had one for years. Nor will again.Ever.

My Wife/Goddess is very much in the same thought process.
In our pre-chastity past She loved to make me cum and watch me spurt; now She seems to really enjoy milking and ruining me along with not putting up with my post-orgasm moodiness.
The previous Saturday I was milked and last Saturday night She ruined me while teasing – last Saturday She was once again edging me relentlessly to the point I was begging for an orgasm; after asking if She was going to ruin me She mentioned that’s not Her plan but if that’s what happens then so be it… at one point I felt ‘something’ and asked if anything came out – She said no but then when She squeezed my shaft She pushed some cum out – “Well, looks like I did ruin you…”

I’m now approaching 6 months without a real orgasm and getting deeper and deeper down the rabbit hole of insane hornyness and lust / craving for my Wife – as much as I’m desperate for an orgasm during edging I’m ultimately grateful that my Wife denies me.
I sometimes think back trying to remember what a real orgasm feels like…

I love orgasms and will take one as soon as it’s offered. She doesn’t have to tell me twice and usually happens seconds after she says ok…but they are for me. A gift. She has and can orgasm from grinding on me with me inside, but it’s not the earth shattering kind from either the strapon or the wand. So, if she gives them to me it isn’t because she just got too horny to hold back and needed my penis. It is because she wanted to give me a treat. Like all gifts, it doesn’t pay to expect them. Luckily for me she hasn’t gone past 4 weeks or so without her feeling I deserved a gift. She could easily find her generosity evaporate if she felt that she didn’t want the other me to keep showing up.

i am not allow spurty ones but i am milked evry 4 weeks if i have been good.

It has been over a year for me and I have learnt to get pleasure from anal mastrbation now which is now more intense than a regular o
My wife loves it and unfortunatey can’ see me getting a unlocked for some time
We both love our lifestyle and sex life so no complaints

My last regular Orgasm was September 20.Since if been locked by my Goddess in October i had no regular Orgasm.
Ans i dont know if i sometimes happen that i‘m allowed to cum regular again.

My last PIV action was 2 January 2016 with a ruined orgasm, been on ejaculation ad erection denial ever since, RO only very irregular.
My princess likes it very much hat I can meanwhile make myself ejaculate when rubbing my penis like a clit without erection and so do I.

My wife sometimes allows me to attempt PIV sex with her, but it’s not at all sexually satisfying for her. It’s more of a means for her to reinforce my inadequacies and laugh at and humiliate me for not being able to get it in at all in some positions, slipping out constantly if I do get it in, and for the fact that she can’t really feel much when it is in.

It’s been a loooong time since I was able to orgasm while inside her (w/ condom). And I highly doubt I’ll ever do it again. But we take breaks from chastity, so sometimes I am allowed to masturbate after my pathetic attempts at PIV and/or after she rides my face and has me lick her while she enjoys her huge dildo.

Yesterday Goddess tells me about her plans for me in 2018.

No PIV Sex

No wanking permitted

Only milked by her.

So 2018 will be my first orgasm free year.

I have not been allowed to penetrate my wife for years now. I only get ruined orgasms through milking. She enjoys her “boyfriend” vibrator better than my pathetic little cock and she can have a real orgasm with her lover twice a week but I only see her when she comes back home. I get sometimes a chance to see her panties or garter belt with little white stains…

lubed latex gloves in rear — or just vibrator in rear and on scrotum — prostate orgasm — no need for penile orgasm really — if done well with humiliation — prostate lasts longer — 30 seconds not 3 — and is less intense but sweeet — “cum like a girl you are a sissy now.” personally the whole sissy thing goes with this. if you are still macho sorry, that does not go with the new kind of orgasm for you now — if you give up penile orgasm you should be in the girl outfit at least during sex ?? never cum unless in bondage and with something in your behind, your pussy. personal opinion. vibrator on frenum (under head behind head) is nice but does not make it a penile orgasm. you can train to adapt to diff kind of orgasm without erection without leaving cage. good luck.