I have been wearing a custom-built stainless steel chastity device for almost four years. Prior to obtaining the stainless steel device, we experimented with acrylic and silicone devices for about a year. For the first year and a half that I wore the stainless steel device, we followed a series of three six-month chastity agreements. At the end of 2012, my wife informed me that she planned on keeping my penis locked up but that our relationship would no longer be subject to an agreement. Since then, she has made all decisions regarding our sex life and my chastity.

I basically wear my chastity device full-time year round. There have only been a few exceptions. Because my wife is uncomfortable about packing my device in our luggage, we do not bring it with us when we travel by air. During those trips, we may engage in some light petting, but there is no sex, and she will not touch my genitals. She expects me to resume wearing the device as soon as we return home. On a couple occasions, we arrived home very late at night, and I was a bit timid about asking her to lock me up again. Exhausted from the trip, and enjoying having my penis free (I liked having erections!), I ended up postponing my surrender for several days. That was a mistake, and I was punished. Now when we return from a trip, I immediately ask her to lock me up, no matter how late it might be.

However, she believes that she is not obligated to do anything she doesn’t want, and she makes it clear that I will never have sex with her again unless I continue to wear my device, and she refuses to touch me, or let me touch her, when I’m not wearing it. Recently, she told me that I will only rarely experience sexual intercourse in the future, and when we have intercourse, she will always be on top. I will never again be allowed to fuck her.

She has always enjoyed petting much more than I, and since I have been locked up, we regularly begin our bedtime with a few minutes of kissing and touching. Unless she is too tired, or she is annoyed with me for something I did earlier in the day, the petting usually leads to her playing with my testicles. If it doesn’t, I know she is in the mood for me to focus my attention on her feet or her anus. In the past, when she played with my balls, her touches were gentle and sensuous, but they have become quite a bit rougher over time. She usually digs her fingernails deep into the base of my scrotum and repeated tugs hard on my balls. When she begins using both hands on me, it can be difficult to take, but I have learned to enjoy and look forward to this torture.

My wife doesn’t like having her pussy eaten more than once a week, and that usually occurs on the basement couch on Saturday nights. I kneel naked on my hands and knees while she lies back against a pillow. These sessions have evolved to become more and more about worshipping her and focusing exclusively on her needs. She used to stroke my back and softly play with my testicles, but lately she seldom touches me. Once we’ve finished and gone to bed, she quickly kisses me goodnight and rolls over to sleep.

When we used to follow a chastity agreement, she would shave off my pubic hair once a month. Once she finished, she might masturbate me by hand for twenty or thirty minutes. Whether she gave me an orgasm or not would depend on how well she thought I had behaved over the past month. If she thought I deserved it, she might even climb onto my penis and ride me to an orgasm. However, once our last chastity agreement expired, she no longer felt obligated to perform this monthly ritual. She generally doesn’t think I deserve to be shaved, and she has only shaved me or given me an orgasm a couple times over the past year or so. When she has shaved me, she has roughed up the skin on my penis so the aftershave will burn, and any masturbation or intercourse has been pretty uncomfortable for me.

Most of my orgasms occur while she is playing with my testicles and my penis is locked up in its cage. Once she senses that I am about to ejaculate, she quits touching me, thus ensuring that the orgasm is ruined. Some of these orgasms are accidental. However, she has become quite skilled at avoiding unintentional orgasms, and she may give me a ruined orgasm just to drain the semen out of my balls. She is often able to give me a “dry orgasm”—my penis begins a series of involuntary spasms, as if it were ejaculating, but no semen emerges and I don’t experience the pleasure of a climax. Sometimes when we play, she will milk me for a few minutes by softly stroking my perineum, but we don’t have dedicated milking sessions.

My wife enjoys lying on her stomach in bed while I massage her all the way down from her shoulders to her feet. When I massage her feet, I lick them, and I lick and suck her toes. Over the course of a week, I spend a lot of time licking her anus with my tongue. Because she only allows me to eat her pussy once a week, ass worship often serves as a ritual substitute for worshipping her cunt.

Although chastity can keep me at a high level of excitement (and frustration) for days, it is difficult to always meet my wife’s expectations, especially when I am tired or busy at the office. Because I seem to be unable to work hard enough to earn additional orgasms, one could conclude that I receive as many orgasms as I deserve, or as many as I really desire. I miss fucking my wife, and simple things like experiencing erections or just touching my penis, but the overall pleasure I receive from having my penis locked up probably exceeds the pleasure I enjoyed when we engaged in conventional sex. My wife believes that male chastity is superior to ordinary sex. But it represents a different path, and the male cannot hope to experience its benefits fully without choosing to leave the ordinary behind.

These quotes exactly mirror my/our situation! The long-term chastity experience seems to be changing my wife’s reaction to oral worship. [Penetration is a thing of the past]. She told me this morning that the orgasm was great and different and described it in detail to me, something she’s never really done before. Perhaps she is emphasizing that she is getting all the orgasms! I think though that her relaxation during sex and ability to concentrate entirely on her own body’s reactions is more to do with it and she is just enjoying it. I also think that seeing me always wearing the device gives her a frisson of excitement. Her pleasure is giving me great pleasure too.