You seem to have trained your husband so well to please you that you should expect no change in his attitude or behavior even if you give him an orgasm a few times a year. Given what you have told us so far I would think you would be best served to give him this gift as a surprise when it pleases you. He should not expect it nor demand it, but you should let him ask if he wishes. But do make it clear that you expect his focus to remain on you, in other words you come first, second, third….twenty third . And he comes, but comes last.

Katie has reprogrammed Ken’s thinking with the use of a chastity device but with any addiction there is always the temptation as Bob spoke about. So I don’t see any problem continuing to use the device to aid the marriage and Ken seems to agree. I believe it is Katie, who is feeling guilty, or wishing Ken would control himself, but we men are weak to our natural programming.

You also mention that you don’t desire a FLR but you use chastity to get “to reprogram Ken’s thinking that all his passions are directed toward me. I then utilize those passions to get things done, increase my leisure, or to have them released by him pleasuring me.” I think you are pretty close to the same goals of a FLR.

Q: What do you get personally from depriving your husband from what many men think of as their inherent right (namely frequent orgasms)?  Does it make you feel the ultimate in female superiority? Does your husband get a great deal of pleasure out of bringing you pleasure?

A: Thanks for the kind words. I would love to write a book someday about this lifestyle and gear it to young women. That is one of my future goals. If you know of a good publisher, let me know. Now on to your questions.

There is an evolution that takes place within most women as they experiment with this lifestyle. Most women start out timid and unsure about this lifestyle. Then once they begin to overcome their inhibitions and embrace the dominant side of their personality, they begin to love being dominant and controlling. Over time, the Doms appetite grows and she hungers for more control and more power. Denying a man orgasms is a real power rush. Women who practice this lifestyle will eventually learn that a sexually satisfied man is a selfish man but a denied man is an obedient man.

Men are much easier to control and dominate when you deny them orgasms. Plus, it makes the entire FemDom lifestyle more pleasurable for the man if he is denied and sexually frustrated. Once a man climaxes, he experiences a letdown and his enthusiasm to serve the female is greatly diminished. To many submissive men, they love the power exchange of being denied while being forced to pleasure the superior female as often as she demands. As far as I go, I do get excited by the thought of having such total control over my husband that I can eliminate his orgasms. We have a saying around our house, “Sex is for the woman’s pleasure.” We practice it and the denial process makes this a reality.

Does it make me feel the ultimate in Female superiority? Yes but it only works because the submissive man enjoys the power exchange as well. You could never deny a man that wasn’t excited about female supremacy and female domination. I feed off of the submissive male’s excitement and submission. My husband desires to surrender to me and I seize upon his desire and thus I begin to desire it more. I just love the thrill of knowing that my husband would rather give me pleasure than receive pleasure. It makes me feel very powerful and sexual. He has been trained so that his fulfillment is in knowing that I am being fulfilled. I can tell that he is troubled if my moans of ecstasy are not what they normally are. He gets much personal satisfaction in pleasing his Queen, which is how it should be.
Does your wife plan to permanently deny you? Will you ever be allowed to orgasm again? Your question seemed to imply that you are going to be denied for longer than 60 days. I would advise that she allow you a supervised orgasm at least once every two to three months to clean out your plumbing. You will be fine as she denies you for long periods of time. You very well may be able to go months at a time with no health problems. However, if you do experience some discomfort like burning sensations in your penis, then I would recommend that she allow you an occasional orgasm to clean out your plumbing. Sometimes the semen gets trapped in the head of your penis and that is why you may experience an occasional burning sensation.

If your wife is dead set against allowing you a pleasurable orgasm, she may want to do prostate milkings on you on a monthly basis. Many dominant women do this to their husbands so to clean out their plumbing without allowing them the pleasure of an orgasm. The best way to do a prostate orgasm is for her to insert her a latex gloved finger in your anus and to find your prostate gland and to massage it. Done correctly, this will cause you to release built up semen out of your penis. It is like an orgasm, only it is not intense. The semen kind of just flows out in a long stream, instead of shooting out like during an orgasm. If she really wants to deny you pleasure, she can numb your penis and balls with an ice pack before she performs a prostate milking.

I allow my husband occasional orgasms but they are done in humiliating ways and for my entertainment. Perhaps your wife could do that instead of the prostate milkings. Inform her of her options and allow her to decide how she would prefer that you obtain your rare release. I hope this helps you. Your wife is correct in that a denied husband is an obedient husband. A sexually satisfied husband is a lazy husband. Sex is for the woman’s pleasure.