Another way to keep a man in a submissive frame of mind is through regular Queening. Make it a part of your lifestyle to sit on his face and have him tongue your ass. Few FemDom activites will take a man to subspace and make him docile as quickly as Queening. This can be fore-play before he sexually services you or it can be as a means to dominate him during your weekly discipline session or you can do this in a non-sexual setting as you are watching television or reading a book while you sit your tush on his face.
My wife began to demand that I do more of my share around the house. This grew and grew and grew and now I do most of the housework.
My wife began to take more control of the money. My wife began to make most of the decisions in our marriage. Some of her decisions have been the opposite from what I wanted but if I ever fight her or disagree, she reminds me of our rule ‘The only rule is that she makes the rules and I obey them.’ She reminds me that this rule was my idea.
I was just thinking the other day how far we have come. Has it only been a year? She has become so dominant in such a short time.
I knew any chance of having romance in the bedroom was contingent on me not only “behaving” myself but it began to be a requirement that I obeyed her.
Over time, in the bedroom our roles began to change as well. She no longer wanted to offer oral sex to me but she knew that I loved providing her with oral sex. In fact, she began holding out opportunities for me to give her oral sex if I did not meet her expectations during the day or week. One night as I prepared to lick her with my eager tongue, she stopped me and said, “Does my slave think he deserves his treats tonight” ?
I stopped and immediately responded, “I think so, I tried to be as obedient today as possible”.
She replied “What did you do to deserve your treats (all while teasing me)”; I responded, by telling her what I had done around the house (mopping, cleaning toilets, vacuuming, doing the dishes) as well as massaging her feet.
She said, “Well, I guess you somewhat earned your treats”. You can start by kissing my ass. I immediately proceeding to caress and kiss her beautiful tush. She replied by saying, “You are really becoming a good little butt kisser and brown nose, aren’t you”.
I responded by saying, “Yes, mistress”. This set the tone for our life about three years ago.
Now, I am charge of cleaning the house on the weekends. She likes to order me around and ask me to go and get things for her in the house which I do with no delays. She smiles when she asks for something and sees me rush around the house to get it quickly for her. On the weekends, she likes to go shopping a lot and will call me and order me to do more and more chores until she gets home. I am so excited that I get aroused from cleaning the house. It is so wonderful when she comes home from a day away from the kids for her to smile when she sees the house clean, the laundry done, the kids homework completed and dinner ready to be served.
If she is tired she will order me to hang up her coat and follow her upstairs to tell me about her day and she also orders that I tell her everything I did and have not completed yet. While doing this, she says, “I will even let you rub and lotion my feet”. After rubbing her feet for 30 – 45 minutes, she tells me to go serve dinner and I immediately jump up and prance down stairs.
Following dinner, after the kids have gone to the basement, I clear and clean the dishes. That night if she is happy with my work and my attitude, she will let me give her a full body massage with body lotion which I truly love to do. She purrs while I do it and I even get to kiss her feet which she is starting to like. I get so excited by making her happy it is the biggest turn on for me. In fact, I now enjoy making her happy more than I enjoy orgasming myself. She makes me continue this massaging for at least an hour. Sometimes she will then roll over and say, I am tired – time for sleep. I cannot argue that I want to lick her to orgasm – it is her decision as to when I get to give her oral service. Either way, I need to be clean shaven and ready in case she wants it.
On nights when she wants to reward me, she finally rolls over on her back and spreads her legs. I have to beg to lick it. She finally lets me lick it and I am in complete heaven. I pleasure her for up to 30 minutes finally bringing her to orgasm as I continue to lick her. Most nights she will then tell me to penetrate her and I always ask her before I reach orgasm. She likes controlling this part and tells me that I have been a good slave for her. These words are better than any orgasm I can have.
Some other things she has over time “taken over” include:
1) The remote control on the TV – I don’t even ask anymore it automatically goes to her.
2) When something is to be thrown out, she will say “don’t even question me”, take it out now.
3) She has me trained to “fetch her coffee and paper every morning”. I have learned precisely how to make her coffee and bring it to her in bed every morning. She gets to read whatever sections she likes. I get whatever is left
4) She has me not only do the laundry but fold it and put it away for her.
5) I am told to run errands for her all the time – the best show of her control over me was when she told me to “turn off the football game, come over here and take this bra back to the dept store for me”. I said, “do I have to do it now”? She said, “Right now and don’t ask again”. I quickly scrambled over and proceeded to take it. I turned around on my way to the car, and she just smiled, knowing she has me completely wrapped around her finger.
6) Now, I ask her if I can do things for her. She seems to love it.
7) She now makes all of the decisions for any purchase in the house and when she can see that I am not in complete agreement (I of course to challenge her ideas) she quickly responds by saying, “You’re not questioning my decisions, are you ?”. I respond, “No, I won’t question your decisions”. She smiles and says, “Good, I knew you would see it my way”.
8) Finally, I now have to ask if I want to go somewhere, get up from rubbing her feet, or call someone on the phone. Sometimes she says “No” and laughs when I don’t respond or question her.
I never thought that I could become so submissive but I love it.