A FLR is unfair. There are many aspects of a FLR that lead me to this conclusion. These include things such as the submissive husband does most of the chores (sometimes all), does not get the final say in any decision, has little control over the sexual aspects of the relationship and in many cases no control over his own orgasms. Additionally, he must always cater to the needs and whims of his wife and yield to her even when he feels he may be right. There are many FLRs in which he earns the majority of the money in the household, yet he has no control over the money and may even be limited to a very small allowance. If you are entering into a FLR, you are subscribing to the idea of unfairness. You are buying into the idea that the female has ultimate authority and control over the male or submissive partner.
A FLR is a bit unfair towards the submissive. What I have learned from your responses is that although there is unfairness, there are certain aspects that bring fairness, especially when you look at the overall benefits of the FLR. If you were to take a few days of a FLR and break it up into small segments and look at just those segments individually, you would probably see a lot of unfairness. For example your might see the husband taking orders from his wife, doing most of the chores, and pampering her. You might see him wanting to do something but being told no by his wife.
As a male who is in an Female Led Marriage my sense is that an FLR is very fair. By taking on the role of head of household and allowing me to serve her as her husband-slave my wife is fulfilling many of my deepest desires. I hope that in my service to my wife I am giving her a gift as well. As I take on more and more of the household chores such as cooking, dishes, laundry, cleaning the house, etc she is more free to pursue her own interests, whether it is gardening, reading, going out with her girl friends, or just lounging at home. She has also grown so much in her confidence and authority (while I have lost quite a bit of my male edge as I submit to her in all things). In terms of our bedroom activity, she has become more dominant, allowing me only 3 orgasms so far this year, while she has had many many more– and this is the way we have come to think it should be. Her control over my orgasms makes me even more dedicated to her and increases my desire to serve and please her.
Is a Female Led Relationship Fair? Yes, and as submissive male my self its for the best if mistress get her way in all things and her husband slave just does as he is told and waits on his mistress hand and foot with her needs only on his mind and how to be a better servant and housekeeper and how to massage his mistress’ feet better and her back and tried to be the best slave he can be with out ever topping from the bottom.
I’ll be honest and say that I am turned on sexually when I am treated unfairly. As time passes my wife becomes ever more strict with me, and unfairness is the glue that makes it work. We are at a point that I am kept naked; I am not allowed to speak or use the furniture in the house; I do all housework, all cooking, cleaning, serving, every day with no break; I am teased with no hope of release, and beaten if I accidentally release; sex is for her pleasure, never for mine; if I’m well-behaved and totally subservient I get five quick swats of the paddle in the morning and five in the evening, but I’m caned with greater severity if I need correction; I treat her like a queen and in turn I’m treated as a slave, with literally no rights that I can take for granted; the list goes on. All of this is terribly unfair, and I admit that, at times, it is hard to take. And I feel like the luckiest guy in the world. I love my Mistress with all my heart. I worship her and the ground she walks on. Literally. In the everyday, non-D/S world I’m treated unfairly. But in the world of consensual 24/7 slavery, this is precisely how I as a slave should be treated, if my Mistress so chooses. My Mistress enjoys my subservience and my commitment to her comfort, and she has every right to treat me this way. It is a fair way to treat a slave.
I’ll add that, because I find unfairness erotic, my life as a slave is an endless tease. Something as mundane as serving Mistress a meal is erotic for the simple reason that I may or may not be allowed food. Then in turn, the eroticism is multiplied exponentially by the unfairness of my sexual denial. Mistress is satisfied sexually every day, usually by her slave — a slave who is denied release. That fact makes it all double up. Unfairness is part and parcel of this. Unfairness is a way of life.
On Saturday mornings when I hand (usually dictate after breakfast) a very, very long chore list that I know will take him all day while I am planning a day of total relaxation – usually exercise, tennis and/or luncheon with a girlfriend – the idea of “fair” is not paramount. I want to come back from my day and see visually that he has worked and is working hard for me. It is not about fair. I agree that it is about “need”. He literally hungers to serve me and make me happy. I of course cherish happiness. We entered this slowly but it works for both of us. He is a “free” person and if at anytime it does not (I don’t mean to sound harsh but it is true) – the door is open.
It’s simple. Semen retention (which she instituted) make’s me more submissive to her. She controls my ejaculation schedule and prohibits masturbation in her house. She’s also the primary and only income in the house earning in the six figures a year.
2. Are there things you do not enjoy, but you “put up with” as part of your obedience? If yes, why do you do it and is it worth it?
I don’t enjoy semen retention. I ejaculate once on the last day of the month. She’s multi orgasmic, so she generally has had 60+ orgasms by the time she give me verbal permission to ejaculate.
Why do I do it? We have a great relationship, She’s gorgeous, and she won’t be in relationship with a male that is not semen retaining. The whole submissive thing flows out of semen retention.
3. Are there things that you enjoy doing, which you think others (in a non-FLR) would not understand why you enjoy them or would think that you are being taken advantage of as a result of doing them?
I don’t think males that are free ejaculating would understand any of this, and would call me pussy whipped. Taken advantage of? If I want to be in this relationship I need to consent to this. There’s about 10 other guys lined up to replace me I’m sure. It is the greatest most frustrating sex I’ve ever had.