Elliot is not allowed to use lubricant for his cage. What we have found works well is to fit the cage after a cold shower or – where I want it on immediately – after immersing his cock – but not testicles – in ice water for a few minutes.

I keep elliot locked for weeks at a time. It has had no appreciable effect on his little cock. It was small to begin with and remains small. That is one of the great advantages of the steel cage, it really can be left on more or less permanently. I make a point of never telling elliot how long he will be locked up and he is now reconciled to rarely being allowed out.

A good whipping weekly, whether he deserves it or not, will let you get over your perfectly reasonable reluctance.

And, frankly, since elliot has been in his chastity pretty much full time, our sex life – well my sex life really – has been much better. Now I can have elliot get to work for my pleasure without giving a thought to reciprocating. He is grateful to be allowed to rub my feet or massage my back until I tell him to stop. And he really does scoot off to his corner when I want to have an orgasm in private. Which I do, often.

There was a graphic there with a picture of a girl in business clothes and a guy in a cock cage and a collar standing by a stove. The caption was something like, “She is a successful career woman, he is a piece of property kept at home naked and chaste, to cook. clean and satisfy his female owners sexual needs”

If you are silly enough to marry a beta male who is submissive because he really has no other choice, you might think about keeping him barefoot and in the kitchen – but I can’t imagine that would be much fun. I mean why would you marry at all if that was all that was available?

Even though I keep him locked up and chaste, it took my years to first of all realize that was what I wanted and then lead him to the position he is in now. It was a bit of a tightrope. Because I want his complete sexual submission but I don’t want him to be any less aggressive in the business world or any less interested in his books or his wine or, frankly, women as sexual creatures. I read on the net and a lot of the time I wonder why some of the dominant wives don’t simply have their husbands castrated and have done with it.

He’s perfectly harmless in his little cock cage. So we both can tease when we want to without his having the slightest chance to get out of hand. I wanted a “well tempered” husband

However, a couple of people have asked about the discomfort caused by my sweet husband’s cock cage.

I am sure elliot would have a different perspective but his views are not really a consideration. Which is really the point. The mild discomfort which it may cause from time to time is actually a feature rather than a bug. With proper hygiene, elliot’s device can be worn continuously for weeks at a time. I prefer elliot to be locked up at all times.

The real point of keeping a husband in chastity is to remind him that he has no sexual rights whatsoever. I think elliot had accepted that before I locked him up but the cage makes this express rather than implicit.

The one concern I had in locking elliot in his chastity cage was that it was drawing a bit too much attention to his cock. As it happens, once he is locked in, after a couple of days his little cock is largely isolated and cushioned from any physical stimulation. While he tells me he occasionally has a pinching situation when the skin works its way into the device and is squeezed, his cock itself is padded and unable to receive much by way of external sensation.

Of course, when he gets hard in the early morning when most healthy men have erections, he experiences quite a lot of discomfort. But relative to a good whipping, this discomfort is minimal and he bears it without complaint.

The key thing is he knows that his cock is locked up because I want it locked up. I want him to be devoid of sensation between his legs, without the distractions a cock seems to carry for men. And, of course, I want him to be looking to me for any sort of sexual relief.

I don’t think it does ay good to lock up a man’s cock for a day or even a weekend. If a dominant wife decides to lock down her husband’s cock, after a breaking in period, locked should be his default state. If he knows that he is going to be locked and stay locked, it leaves him free to concentrate on obeying, and from time to time, pleasing his wife.

Which is how it should be.

We started FLR lifestyle at the urging of my sister, because my husband was a great addicted to porn and masturbation.

He wears Jailbird a chastity belt with frenum cable 24/7. He needed four months to get used to the chastity belt. After a month he requested not to wear at night. I tied his hands handcuffed to the headboard of the bed and took off the chastity belt.

I woke up in the middle of the night, he lay on his stomach and rubbed his erected penis on bed. He began to ejaculate. I hit his penis. I gave him a cold shower afterwards, and I put his penis in a cage. Since he wears a chastity belt 24/7. Once a week I take off his chastity belt for cleaning teasing and sex. During the week chastity belt does not come off, day or night. He concentrates on frequent cunnilingus, house cleaning and other duties.