The ad hoc sessions are  quick and to the point.  I will send him to the bedroom and he will get ready for discipline.  I walk in fully clothed and get him into position and start spanking.   It will go something like this: “Slave, don’t ever talk back to me like that,” (slap! slap! slap!). “I deserve more respect than that and am very displeased by you,” (slap! slap! slap!). “For your disobedience and disrespect you will get three more spanks and you will apologize after each one.”  (slap! ‘Sorry Mistress’, Slap! ‘Sorry Mistress’, Slap! ‘sorry mistress’).  ‘For the rest of the week you will come home immediately after work and do chores or tasks for me.  You are not permitted to do any other activities this week, got it?’ (Slap!).  ‘Yes Mistress.’   ‘Good’ (Slap!).  ‘We are done.’   He kneels down and kisses my feet and thanks me and promises to do better.

You will feel a more confident and natural authority over him and he will feel a natural submission towards you with a strong desire to obey and please you, which ultimately leads to a more fulfilling relationship for both of you. Be sure to set high expectations and be firm when your expectations are not met. We are Goddesses and deserve the best.

When we are apart from each other overnight I have a few ground rules for him and I usually also have a list of tasks for him to do. I do this because I want him to feel my presence and my authority even when I am not there. I want him focused on me. It also helps to keep him out of trouble. Even the most loyal husbands can stray when put into a tempting situation. Thomas has told me that he enjoys the rules and tasks that I give him. It keeps him from getting lonely and he enjoys staying focused on me and being under my control.

I expect the house to be spotless when I arrive back home and I expect to have a gift or flowers waiting for me when I arrive home (I am a Goddess after all). I will give him extra chores to do such as straightening up my shoes, re-folding my panty drawer, or organizing my closet. Since I am not there for him to serve, he should have plenty of time for these extra chores. I may require him to sleep in the extra room as a symbol that the master bedroom belongs to me and it is a privilege for him to share it with me. I will usually lock him in chastity when I am away.

Little time has been spent with my husband.  Despite this lack of attention to Thomas, he made my coffee every morning, kept up with his chores, and kept the house in order. He did everything possible to please me and even offered extra help knowing my busy schedule.  This dynamic is the essence of a FLR. FLR is not about whips and kinks that you see in the mainstream media.  The kinks certainly are a part of the FLR for many people, including myself, but they are only a small piece of the overall FLR.

The FLR is more about a lifestyle decision to accept the woman as the lead.  It is about the male embracing his obedience to his wife and striving to please her.