The Keyholder demand 

• You will learn the benefits of chastity, the enjoyment of orgasm control and the pleasure of handing over all rights to your penis.
• You will learn how to gain sexual fulfillment though bringing ME to orgasm and learn how your ass, mouth and other areas of your body can provide enjoyment despite not being able to cum.
• You will not speak of your penis or your orgasms. The penis belongs to me, and you simply don’t have orgasms until I choose otherwise. When asked, you will respond with how MY penis is doing while locked in the cage.
• You will learn to embrace your interest in chastity without complaint. You will not ask for release, or ask when you will be released. You will not like what happens if you complain or beg.

Not allowing him to orgasm during sex with you, and doing away with his unsupervised masturbation by putting him in chastity will result in your man always being focused on you. He will not be able to escape his need to give you fulfillment of every want and desire.

A helpful way to think of this is to think of his sexual satisfaction as a vacation away from you. Every time the male achieves orgasm his focus will move somewhere else for about a week. During this time he will be “on vacation” and will not be serving you to the best of his ability. With that in mind, you should consider how many weeks per year you want his attention to be on his own selfish desires.  As his boss, how many weeks of “vacation” should be granted.

One male orgasm per week translates to 52 weeks of “vacation” per year.
One male orgasm per month translates to 12 weeks of “vacation” per year.
One male orgasm per quarter translates to 4 weeks of “vacation” per year.
One male orgasm every six months translates to 2 weeks of “vacation” per year.
One male orgasm per year translates to 1 week of “vacation” per year.

Control the money! Husband gets no credit cards, no checks and no allowance. Husband wants something, you buy it, if you want. If you give him some cash for a specific purchase, he brings back the change and the receipt. After that is established any controls can added easily. Like keeping his car keys in your purse. I recommend not giving him a chore list, instead direct him to do each chore at the time you want it done. When you control the money it is easy to reward him with something he wants. It doesn’t have to be a big thing. for instance, a simple bottle of beer that he can’t get himself will become a much appreciated reward. If you control the finances then you are head of the house.

 Many wives actually:

• turn over their housework to their husbands in part or whole,
• take control of family finances informally or formally,
• direct sex toward their own satisfaction, and
• are courted by their husbands and treated like a Goddesss twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week

But once you have him in a chastity device you will notice a big change in his behavior and attitude. Not only does it enforce your management of his sexuality and prevent masturbation, it also represents a constant physical reminder of his submission to your authority. In a sense, it is a wedding ring around his penis.

I am totally obedient to my Mistress, but i confess that i am thrilled to do things for women in general. For example, one time my Mistress said she would “give” me for an afternoon to a friend who needed help with housework. Her friend is “vanilla,” so when she and Mistress spoke with one another, it was couched in different terms — she said I would be happy to help. Her friend was very grateful and maybe a little embarrassed to have me working in her house. She worked alongside me even though Mistress and i both urged her to rest while i worked — something she needed to do, because she had been experiencing a lot of stress. Anyway, I feel ashamed that i felt a small erotic twinge when, finally, she stretch out on a sofa as I was vacuuming the floor. There was no way i would act on such an impulse — i am not even allowed to do that with my Mistress, whom i literally worship and am devoted to — but i wonder if i’m wrong to have such feelings. I told my Mistress and she was not happy to hear it, but she did not punish me.

There is nothing wrong with a properly trained male serving women other than his wife. In fact I expect it from my husband without having to reminded him. As a male devoted to living under female authority and believing women should be put on a pedestal I would expect nothing less from him. As the situation allows he is always eager to show every woman the proper respect and obedience. All I’ve done during his training is to refine these desires of his. If I was to punish him for anything it would be for a moment of forgetfulness on his part. In which he passed up an opportunity to serve a woman, any woman.

And of course during any femdom situation where one or all of our lifestyle girlfriends are present. He will serve, obey and wait on the lady or ladies hand and foot. When our men serve other women it only helps to remind them of their training and their proper place. And they love it because being in the service of women is one of their greatest joys. After all, being free to openly serve women is exactly what they were denied for so long in their vanilla relationships. By encouraging this we as their mistresses reap the reward of having better and even more devoted servants at our feet

In our contract i am not allowed to keep secrets. Mistress knows i feel a sexual edge sometimes as i serve her and her girlfriends when they visit our house for dinner. I long for Mistress in those situations, and we both have fun with it later, and with the denial that inevitably follows.