I live the FLR lifestyle 24/7/365, with my husband subservient to me and securely locked in a Neosteel Arch belt. It has been a long and winding journey which I would like to share with anyone who is interested.

Deciding to convert our marriage to FLR was a major step, but locking my husband in chastity was in many ways even more important and has made my life exactly what I always wanted and deserved.

It has been a 40 year road to get to this point. I want to share day to day issues that come up and hear from all of you in this forum but I have to explain how I reached this stage of my life, I hope it is helpful so that you can understand a mean bitch’s point of view.

In my relationship with my husband I am 100% dominant, but he doesn’t greet me on his knees, dress up like a sissy or play any sort of fantasy games. The fact that I am in complete control of his life is enough.

My word is law. My husband is in 24/7 chastity and he is released only if I decide to grant him release. I make all the household decisions. I keep him busy with domestic tasks all day long. It’s not an easy life for him and I’m not interested in making it harder for him by humiliating him further or playing games with him.

He doesn’t need any reminders that I have his balls under my heel. I want this relationship to work and to enjoy his servitude long term, so I am not going to make things harder for him than they need to be. I understand that some men may fantasize and enjoy getting down on their knees or being feminized, but thats not the case with my husband, so I’m not going to rub the loss of his manhood in his face any more than necessary.

#1 You can’t change how a person is wired. I am naturally assertive, selfish and decisive. My husband is naturally a weak, submissive beta. So I took command of our relationship and made him subservient to me, and there wasn’t too much resistance from him because of how he is wired. A real alpha man would not have allowed his wife to lock him up and basically take his manhood away. And I admit that I am selfish and hard on my husband.

#2 It is vital to be firm but fair. To be consistent at all times. To have a transparent system of rewards and punishments. My husband knows exactly what the rules are and what is expected from him. If he falls short or disobeys me he knows what the punishment will be, and if he pleases me and completes all his chores he knows that he can count on being rewarded, which includes a release from his belt. Sometimes I am in a bad mood and feel like taking it out on him. And sometimes I sympathize with him but I stick to the rules. Example: he has to lose one pound per week because he is overweight and I want him skinny. A few weeks ago I weighed him on our digital scale and he was 0.1 pounds short of his goal, which meant that he would stay locked up for another week. He was almost in tears and I actually felt sorry for him but it was important to maintain discipline so the belt stayed on. One of my rules is no whining or complaining so he just had to take it, he knew that if he begged me to release him I would add another week to his chastity. Tough, but fair.

#3 Belt >>> Cage. Switching my husband from a cage to a full belt was necessary for security, but it goes way deeper than that. Men have a sense of pride and arrogance simply based on having a cock. A good belt removes any access to his cock and pulls it back leaving a feminine flat front with no bulge at all, and it also forces the man to squat in order to pee. It has a huge psychological effect in taming the man and eliminating the masculine traits that interfere with FLR. In my husband’s case it had an immediate effect on his personality and resulted in a healthy attitude adjustment.

It’s funny that you brought up that example. My husband had really let him self go, being at home he would just eat junk food and be very sedentary. He had gained 45 lb since we got married and not looking or feeling good. So I set a target for him of losing one pound per week (a very safe and reasonable goal) and I weigh him on his release day. So far he has reached his goal every week except one and lost almost 20 lb. He feels proud, he has a sense of accomplishment and he has more energy so he is happier. There is no chance that he would have made the changes to his diet and exercise unless he had the incentive of getting his weekly release from the belt, and he acknowledges that. The other thing is that when we go out he has to wear a shaper under his clothes because I refuse to be seen with a slovenly man. He hates it because it’s uncomfortable but as soon he reaches his goal he won’t have to wear it any more, which has motivated him to lose even more than a pound some weeks, so again the goal of a reward is motivating him to do what is good for him.

I unlock the belt and he is free to do whatever he wants. I have no desire to watch him or supervise, and I hope he enjoys himself. Then the belt goes back on the new week begins. I leave him alone so that he enjoys himself, I want him motivated until the next release.

Excellent you are training him well. I stopped my husband masturbating by also locking him in chastity and its taken a while to find the right device that is secure and neat. He is now locked each day in his steel cage which also penetrates his urethra which stops him escaping.

I also decided that since he was no use as a male any more he can be my girl friend so I dress him up too as part of his submission training.
Works for me and keeps him so stimulated he does anything I want and is now only allowed to wear skirts and heels while at home.

Dependence and Denial are the foundations of a successful FLR, at least in my experience.

Denial is what keeps my husband motivated. Being well behaved gets him a brief release from the belt so it’s a simple reward system that keeps him working hard to please me.

Dependence keeps him in line. As the breadwinner, from the start I took full control of the finances so that he had to ask me for every dollar and then account for it. This was very hard for him to get used to. But it’s important because it means he doesn’t have the option to go out to a bar or stray or to do anything that I don’t think is good for him. He still struggles with it. It’s not easy for a man to give up all control, but it’s necessary to keep him in his place.