Progressively, once locked up, a sub will get more comfortable wearing the cage, more relaxed being unable to orgasm, he will begin to enjoy his frustration more and more and eventually, just as my husband did, he will come to offer You total denial, permanent chastity, and will forfeit his orgasms completely. Eventually he will come to accept not to cum at all.

Now, I do not practice that as I just love seeing a perfectly performed ruined orgasm. I love the expression on his face the moment he realises his orgasm will be ruined, once again.

So I implemented some new things within my husbands daily training. Being chaste, teased and denied, is our routine for quite a long time now and it functions neatly. So for the Lockotober of 2016 I made few changes to his chaste state.

First of all, the cage is not coming off for the whole month, no matter what.

Second, he has to earn his tease time and I left it to his imagination on how he’ll earn it. I might be satisfied with his action or not, up to him.

So basically, he is now trained not to beg for release and satisfaction, instead he begs for frustration and sweet pain.

Recently I received an email from a woman stating that her life got so much better and beautiful, since she got in charge of the relationship and her husband. She esatblished a “true” FLR with her hubby and now, he is to do chores all day and night long.

Yes my husband does most of the chores but, where is the rest of fun if your sub is constantly doing something around the house?

Yes it is fun to watch him naked on his knees, cleaning between floor tiles.

Yes it is fun to have him wash my car.

Yes it is so hot seeing him naked and caged, in only his apron, preparing me a great dinner.

Yes it is hot to make him a waiter for the evening and just allow him to serve at the table.

The main thing I wanted to share was my use of feminization and emasculation

I let him know that if his male ego starts to surface in an inappropriate way that I don’t like I will have to reinforce and further emasculate him. I explain to him very clearly that due to his behavior his masculinity will be jeopardized. This always strikes fear into his eyes as I know he does not enjoy the humiliation that follows. During our next session I will remind him about his mistake so he can appropriately link his egotistical outburst to his pending humility. I always try to associate arousal and edging with all humility to help deepen the control and conditioning of the acts. As with all conditioning, they need constant reinforcement.

The contract itself has to be a general agreement of lifetime of servitude and chastity, not too elaborated when ti comes to kinks and daily actions. This will be added as an appendix to the contract later on, if I see fit.

Since the hubby is not working this week and I am, I’ll make sure he has enough daily chores to not be able to complete them all. Simply to have grounds to punish him!

I want to drive my husband’s submission deeper. Like you, I’ve already incorporated allowing him only ruined orgasms (he hasn’t had a real orgasm in almost 2 years). Also similar to you, I spank, cane him frequently (and, I find beating his butt very arousing to me). However, I don’t spank every day like you. I spank quite hard and he would be very sore if I did this daily. How hard are the daily spankings and do you increase the intensity when you deliver a punishment spanking?

ATTITUDE is a major part of daily and constant maintenance of your relationship. Sub men tend to lose their place quickly, if not regularly put there. By ATTITUDE, I do not say a woman has to be or act as a bitch all the time but, there is this fine line defining this constant attitude of power. It need to be visible all the time; your sub has to feel it all the time. If a woman is capable of training herself for this kind of appearance, in time, it just begins to radiate from you and so, presence is constant. Sounds a bit difficult but it actually is not. Since I did not know all this, somehow I came to realize it, gradually, just by looking at my husband’s behaviour in times I would act bitchy.

In between chores, my pet gets 10 min off as a pause during which, I always request some kind of attendance to my needs. This time, some minutes of foot worship did just well for both. He is chaste, he is horny all the time but I still like to increase it whenever I can. Cage on, balls full, no orgasms…you’d be surprised how easily a man get on his knees ready to do whatever it takes to please you and earn one orgasm, ruined one.

Then comes the lunch time. I let my pet choose what to prepare from time to time. In most cases I choose the menu. So I sit back, relax, read something and watch my pet in the kitchen, naked with only his apron, chastity cage and panties on. So hot.

Except for eventual cuddling, I am rarely in mood for anything else but piece and quiet. But, before any meal, I love being fully relaxed so…once the meal was over and ready, I asked for an aperitif for myself, and an appetizer for my pet.. Aperitif usually consist of an alcoholic beverage, strong one, like Jack Daniels with coke before lunch on Saturday. The appetizer for the pet was of course, taste of my pussy. His efforts are priceless; and he is aware that lack of an orgasm for me, might end up in not so nice consequences, for him. But he performs so well and I cum so easily 🙂

Being generous and selfless as I am, I often reward my pet hubby. So in the afternoon, I gave him 90 minutes to rest with no obligations whatsoever or, have some time for himself the way he wanted. 88 minutes later, my pet is at my disposal again, wondering if there is something I needed. When he is like that, sometimes I almost feel sorry a bit. Sometimes I wonder if this FLR we are having is equally satisfying and fair. These moments last around 2 minutes and appear twice or perhaps 3 times a month 🙂 In such moments, sometimes I ask him if there is anything he wants me to do for him. Lately and mostly, he kindly asks for pegging 😀 So I oblige…every time.

This one should not be that difficult, simply do not help him with anything for a week and see how it feels. To spice it up, complain a little and give him some additional chores. See how it goes then, if he is a real submissive, he’ll do it all with a smile on his face. Pick a day or two at which you will request him to give you oral orgasms once he has completed all chores for the day. Do not forget to mention that your orgasm is his reward for a job done well.

Ruined orgasms keep him horny and healthy. I cannot remember last time my husband had a real orgasm, and since he is so willing, I am seriously thinking of not letting him have one, ever again. From now on, probably only ruined ones.

Your sub needs to cum and he will do anything to cum. You will allow him to cum on occasion but you will also slowly take away his right to have that pleasure. Ruin his orgasms often and make him thank you. In time you could easily have him pleasure-less and without actual orgasms, up to you. Remember, an orgasm is not a right, it is a health necessity. It is not a reward either. Yours are important and only orgasms that should be cherished.

My FLR is kind of reaching the top of its meaning. My husband is practically my slave now, he is well trained, chaste, devotional and truly obedient. So now, my mind has lately been occupied with the idea of cuckolding. I am still very hesitant about it but I must admit it intrigues me. It is hot actually. We both travel quite a bit and spend considerable amount of time, separated. And it is hot. And it gives opportunities. And he is to remain faithful. And I just love sex. And whenever we talk about it, he gets hornier by it then any other kink.

I am kind of worried I am becoming the ultimate bitch 😉

Has he voluntarily gave up on his manhood? Is every bit of him now your property? Is he relaxed with being chaste, no matter for how long?

If the answers are all YES, you might be on a true path to true sustainable Female Led Relationship. If some of the answers are NO, then do something about it 🙂

It is good to have your submissive repeat chores on same days, but such scheduling should not limit you of course. Example given, my husband is required to perform full toilet cleanup twice a week, on Mondays and Thursdays. Of course, he does it also whenever I tell him to regardless if the toilet actually requires cleaning or not…and no questions asked. In the beginning he used to ask why. But with proper training, he got much obedient and now he knows not to ask anymore.

Under 4, my subby agreed to waive all his classic orgasms and, from now on, have only ruined ones. I see this as quite of an offering and renunciation, and must say how very proud I am of my sub. But then, I caught myself thinking of how maybe it would be sooo nice, if I could get him to renounce the ruined orgasms, too 🙂 Plus, I so much love to tease, edge and deny…hmmmmm….am I becoming a devious, vicious, sadistic bitch?

Until now we played with chastity on and off, on and off. We agreed that from now on, it will be permanent and the cage will come off only when I am in need of his tools and 3 times a week for proper hygiene of his genitals. These 3 times a week will be supervised by me and will not last more then 20 minutes, after that, back in the cage.

One huge and perhaps most important part of training is spanking. Spanking, caning, whipping, flogging, any of these terms. For a sub getting used to be spanked every day, just as getting used to have less and less pleasure, is a bottom line from which everything else is built up and on.

Some years ago, at the very beginning, I made my husband promise me he won’t have an uncontrolled orgasm, ever again. That was before I introduced chastity.

Chastity is a beautiful thing but, chastity with a dose of tease and denial is spectacular. I do that a lot, both tease and denial.

Keeping him horny and frustrated makes my day…and makes him a better and more usable servant. Lately I have been practicing a lot of ruined orgasms. Why? Well, ruined orgasms are much less pleasurable then classic orgasms, and give you an additional sense of power. In order to achieve high level of devotional sex, it is not enough just to make it unequal between partners. A sub has to be trained to feel less and less pleasure, to practically give up on orgasms as an ultimate pleasure, and transfer all of his attention to you. Ruined orgasm does the health thing for him, his testicles get some relief and that is mainly it. He remains horny and semi-frustrated. Next thing to come will be a way of milking, the way he won’t feel any pleasure…but that’s still to be learned by me 🙂 Anyway we are so close to the point at which he will give up on all orgasmic ways…can’t wait :