I fit in by having her meals ready according to her schedule; helping her pack and unpack and ensuring her gym kit is clean and ready for when she needs it. Though I know my wife loves only me, nevertheless, I feel vulnerable knowing that I am a spent force if it ever became a competition with another man for her favors. At least this keeps me on my toes and vigilant in my efforts to please her and maintain her approval and well-being. My wife has me under her thumb, just where she wants me, loving and adoring her and striving ever more to please her as her servant.”

Her subtle domination stirs his submission to the place where it gives him the energy and motivation to do all those chores for her. While he is serving her by being her house slave, this gives him submissive fulfillment and to him that is as good (if not better) than sex. The brain is the greatest sex organ and even if it is unable to send the necessary signals to his penis, the mind is still stimulated by her dominance and his submissive nature reacts to her dominance, and thus it sends off pleasurable sensations and that takes him to a place of both sexual arousal and inner peace and harmony. Charles’ penis may not be able to receive the message but his soul receives the message and this is pleasurable to him on an emotional level.

Objectification is another form of Humiliation Play. Nancy’s husband Greg has the submissive desire that revolves around him wanting her to use him as a piece of furniture. He likes to be her footstool, or her chair or her rug, or even her clothes rack.

She incorporates this activity within their play sessions and even some within their everyday life. Nancy enjoys Objectification because it gives her a powerful feeling of control over her husband and this satisfies a part of her dominant nature. She also enjoys the fact that this activity takes very little effort on her part. Treating a man like an inanimate object has been known to do wonders in fulfilling submissive desires within some men. Plus this activity is a great way to dominate a man when the woman is not in the mood or does not have the energy to engage in a D&S session with her submissive man. She can just order him to be her coffee table, footstool or clothes rack while she relaxes and reads or watches television. In doing this, the woman is dominating the man’s psyche without too much effort on her part.

To the submissive male, this image makes the statement that women are so far superior to men, that a man is only worthy to be used by a woman in such a humiliating and degrading manner. It elevates the woman to Royalty and even to Goddess status in the mind of the submissive male. How can he ever be the equal of a woman who treats him this way? This causes him to feel humble and subservient. The psychological effect stays with him for a period of time after the objectification so he is primed to serve his Goddess in more practical ways. The submissive male likes to just lie there under her feet and bask in his weakness as she flaunts her superiority over him.

Another form of Humiliation play is Trampling. Beth’s husband Trey enjoys this form of being dominated. Trey slips into subspace when he is helpless under Beth’s feet as she uses him as her rug, doormat, bathmat or footstool. Whenever Beth wants to dominate her husband, she will order Trey to lay prostrate on the floor as she stands and walks on his backside. Beth’s favorite method of trampling Trey is to stand on his naked backside with her bare feet.

“I love the feeling of Trey’s naked skin against my bare feet. He tightens up at first but then I can feel him relaxing as he loses himself in submission. I will walk back and forth over his backside, from his upper back to his firm ass cheeks to the back of his upper legs. Sometimes I will add a different sensation for him by wearing a pair of shoes or boots. I’ve been known to trample him in high-heel shoes. He really has to focus as my sharp heels dig into his flesh.  Trey must use mind over matter to overcome the pain in order to relax so he can slip into subspace.”

“In the beginning of our relationship, I though he was strange for wanting me to walk on him but once I began to do it, I found that it was erotic and fun. I feel powerful and sexy as I walk on my husband. It makes me want to dominate him in other ways. The trampling is usually our foreplay to other D&S activities. Once he slips into subspace from the trampling, I am able to do just about anything I want to him and he eagerly obeys my every command.”

“Sometimes as part of a romantic evening, Trey bathes me and when I am finished with my bath, I use him as a bathmat when I get out of the tub. I stand on his back or his buttocks while I towel off. I might even make him roll over so I can trample his front side. I like to stare into his eyes when I stand on his chest or grind my heel into his groin”

An interesting aspect to the FemDom practice of male orgasm denial is the sexual impact it has on women. Few things rival the sexual intensity that a woman will experience when she denies her husband sexual orgasms while she enjoys as much pleasure as she desires. It is a psychological power exchange that releases more of a woman’s
dominant nature and sexual desires. Women begin to not only enjoy the benefits of male orgasm denial outside of the bedroom but also the benefits inside of the bedroom. Male orgasm denial is all about control and the woman who controls her man’s orgasms ultimately controls her man.

A man being kept denied while pleasuring a woman is an incredible experience. The intensity of sex for a woman that is being orally serviced by a denied and passionate man will surpass most sexual experiences for the female. Likewise, few things rival the mental pleasure that the denied man experiences when he is being denied while required to sexually satisfy his Mistress.

There are women who deny their men longer and limit them to only one orgasm every ten days to two weeks. Then there are women who think one or two orgasms a month is sufficient.

I have always been allowed to worship her body and have occasional intercourse with my wife. However, I have now been cut off from intercourse. Once again, this adds to my submission to her and her power over me. I must say that so far, I am enjoying these new power
dynamics. I am more motivated to submit to her and I cannot get enough of my wife. I long to be in her presence and to serve her in some capacity. I actually ache to touch her but I am no longer allowed the freedom of a husband to touch her whenever I want. I am only allowed to touch her if she gives me permission, and that is rare. Touching her is now a privilege and a reward for obedient behavior.

She now wields enormous power over me and she is able to take me to subspace with ease, sometimes with only a few spoken and teasing words

It is frustrating to live with such a sexual woman but be denied access to her body. Yet, on those occasions that she allows me the privilege to worship her body or orally service her body, it is so intense and special. I feel like I have just been granted permission to touch and pleasure a supermodel or a movie starlet. Think about it? How many husbands take their wives and sex with their wives for granted? I never do because it is now rare that I get to touch my Goddess and each time is like the first time I have ever been with her. That is what cuckolding has done for our relationship.

I dominated my husband with an energy and a dominance that I had never known. I was extra bitchy and forceful with him. I had such a power surging through my body. He was a little upset but he quickly yielded to my power and I took him deep into subspace. We had a marathon strap-on session that night. I broke him to a new level of submission.

When a woman humiliates her husband to this degree, it actually becomes a form of mental sex between her and her husband. Her abusive and cruel ways might excite him and touch his submissive nature in ways that most would not understand.

When I humiliate my husband about being an inferior male or about the inadequacy of his penis, I am attacking his male ego. I am wounding his male pride, which causes his submissive nature to come forth. I find I can get my husband to perform better outside the bedroom by complimenting him and showing him genuine love, respect and affection. But inside the bedroom, that is a different story. I like to humiliate him about being of the male gender and thus inferior to me. My goal with humiliation play is to shatter his male ego and the best way I’ve found to do this, is to attack his manhood (especially the ultimate symbol of his manhood, the penis). He gets excited about this kind of humiliation play and this transports him to subspace.

Without ever condoning my failures, or pretending she is not insulted by them and displeased with me, my wife has graciously conceded that there are some benefits in my impotence for her. That is, provided it makes me more aware of the gulf between her superiority and my inferiority and provided this awareness drives me yet more diligently to seek to serve her better in other ways so that I compensate by becoming the best house slave I can be. I must admit to feeling completely inadequate as a man, but so grateful to my wife for so generously taking advantage of this fact and exploiting it to her advantage.

It makes me feel so much better about my impotence knowing that at least my wife enjoys having me trying to compensate her by more diligent service in other ways, especially doing all the household chores. I am so grateful to her and pleased to be married to such a wonderful, superior and considerate woman. Indeed, because of my wife’s wonderfully generous response to my impotence, I feel I have fallen in love with her all over again, but this time I am totally in debt to her.

Of course my wife has quite explicitly made it crystal clear that she can quite happily live without my feeble efforts to make love to her, but just occasionally, when she is in the mood, she is gracious enough still to let me try to please her, when I have earned enough points to deserve a treat. Almost always this ends in failure and humiliation for me. The frustration of sexual denial is probably far greater than that of any chastity device as there is no chance of ultimate relief. My wife is very subtle as she leaves me to make all the running, asking for opportunities for intimacy; she then strings me along, sometimes from one week to the next, never knowing when she will oblige. When I then fail as a man, I guess I end up feeling even worse about letting my wife down, as it was I that asked to try and give her pleasure, only to fail yet again.

My wife is actually using my impotence to manipulate me to her advantage. Perhaps this is why she has always implied I should just accept my lot in life and that I am making a mountain out of a molehill by seeking medical treatment for my impotence. The idea of any sort of medical consultation together is something she has firmly rejected; it is my problem as an inferior male and that is the end of it. It is not worth spending money on treatment for something so trivial in her eyes, “think of all the real illnesses other people have to put up with.” My wife really does welcome my impotence as a weapon she can use to make me behave towards her, as she wants.

8 long weeks later I had a chastity on my pierced member and was setting in the cafe where we first met. She walked in and was more beautiful than the first time I seen her. She didn’t say anything , she just held out her hand and I knew I was supposed to put the keys in her hand. I want you to know this is the most scared I have ever been. She then took me by the hand and lead me to her car and wordlessly, we went to her apartment. As soon as we got in the door she said lets see it. I was so embarrassed, but I did as I was told. She took my pants and told me to finish undressing. She then went into her bedroom and after a short while she called me to come in she was on the bed and she was in a black see through gown with nothing on underneath it. She was the prettiest woman I had ever seen even in magazines. She called me over to the bed and asked me if I was ready to be a woman for her. I said I don’t know, she got angry and said dammit you have wasted my time again and to get my clothes and get out, I stammered I am ready, ready to what? She said. I am ready to be your woman! I am ready to be anything you want me to be.

So it began, I gave her oral sex and made love to her like a woman would, and she told me that I was chastised and therefore my dickie didn’t matter, that sex was for her, and I should be happy to give it to her. She was right, all I needed was her, and to be turned on like I have never been turned on before.

Lori explained to me that she had tried sex with a male before and did not like it. I told her that I had never been with a woman and allowed to put my penis in her, and Lori liked that very much.

We dated every week-end with her getting all the sex she needed and me nothing other than being teased to the max. I finally told her I needed some kind of release after about 6 weeks of this. This seemed to disappoint her but she told me to lay down as she tied my hands above my head, took my chastity off. She brought me to a climax like I have never felt before with her hand. After about 3 months of dating she said the time had come to start making me a woman, and she gave me some hormones to take and told me to move out of my apartment and to quit my job.

Mistress Lori was waiting for me she said lift your dress, and she pulled my panties down and she had me hold my chastity out so she could fill the keyway of my lock with the solder. This act somehow turned me on I was all swollen in my chastity. I don’t understand it, but somehow it seemed so final. It was if I was reborn. I didn’t have to worry about my little dickie ever releasing again. It was like someone had lifted the whole world off my shoulders. I was all swollen up in my chastity device and I looked at Mistress Lori and she is obliviously flushed and very excited. She pushed me to my knees and pulled my head under her skirt and I took care of her needs as I had be taught to do, but somehow it seamed different this time, I felt it was better than releasing, I felt so right, I felt I could stay there forever.

I am now permanently chastised with break-off screws and a full cover hooded chastity device, I live with Mistress Lori and another chastised she male named Barbie. We all have a lot of fun together and we have a relationship that cannot be equaled by anything else. I have never had a woman sexually by entering her, so I guess I would be considered to be a virgin, Although Mistress Lori often straps a small dildo on me and has me use it on her as she bounces down on my chastised dickie with her buttocks. I have offered to tie it back or tape it out of the way, but I think she like doing it, she said NO!!

Last night I gave Thomas a ruined orgasm.  A ruined orgasm is when you stop providing stimulation to you man’s cock when he starts to cum or right before he starts to cum, thereby ruining his orgasm.

The man may feel a brief moment of pleasure but then it immediately vanishes leaving him frustrated.  I have to admit that I get a thrill from seeing his desperation and it is even more thrilling that he thanks me afterward.  He is like a puppy dog that is always happy…always wagging his tail no matter what I do.  Some may consider this cruel, but even Thomas enjoys when I ruin his orgasms because it is another form of control that he gets to experience.  To him a full blown orgasm is a very special privilege that he only experiences on a rare occasions. Denying his orgasm keeps him feeling submissive and controlled.  He craves this feeling and enjoys the mental game.

The thrill and arousal that I experience from his ruined orgasm is only a part of the reason I do it.  I also consider the ruined orgasm a powerful tool for controlling Thomas and keeping him obedient.  The biggest advantage of a ruined orgasm is that it allows the man some release but avoids the post orgasm “slump” that most men experience after an full orgasm.  The slump I am referring to is when the man loses all energy and loses interest in sex and pleasing the woman.  After a ruined orgasm, many men do not experience the slump or it is very brief.  Thomas will often remain hard after the ruined orgasm.  His level of horniness remains high as well.

One final benefit that I would like to point out is that it can be used as a punishment.  If your man has been naughty or simply not meeting your expectations, you can announce that the next orgasm (or next 2, 3, etc.) will be ruined.

I prefer to tell him to try not to orgasm.  I enjoy seeing him struggle.  He eventually gets to a point where he can’t hold back.  The fun part with this is that I can do a stroke or two and then watch his cock as he struggles to prevent his orgasms.  There have been times when I have stroked his cock and then watched him struggle for 20 or 30 seconds and then he spurted without me touching him.  That is art!  It is beauty to see him struggle and work so hard to please and obey me.  It is also a power rush to know that I control him so much and that no matter how hard he tries he can not stop me from giving him an orgasm.  What a mind fuck for him!  In these situations I don’t feel that it is fair to punish him for having an orgasm without permission.  However,  I usually give him the disappointed look and tell him how weak he is.

• “…Go get your chastity device.  I know how much you love being locked up for me and giving me complete control of your cock.  For being such a good boy, you can wear your chastity device until I decide otherwise.
• “For your reward, you can kneel before me and worship my feet with your tongue.
• “For being so good you may hand wash my panties and delicates this week.  I know how much you enjoy touching them and looking at them.

This particular memory was about Thomas kneeling before me naked and reading back to me rules of the house. What I do remember is seeing a beautiful mistress sitting comfortably across a plush chair.  She was sideways with her back resting against the back corner of the chair and her stocking covered legs dangling over the edge of the chair.  She wore a short black silk night gown.  In one hand was a glass of red wine and in the other was a thick chain leash.  At the other end of the leash was her husband.  He was kneeling on the side of the chair where her feet dangled. He was naked except for the thick chain leash around his neck.

In front of him was a book that he was reading rules from. The Mistress sat comfortably and sipped wine while she listened to her husband read how he would obey her.  Occasionally she would respond in a firm authorities tone, “Yes..Good boy”. Often she would tug his leash hard and command “Repeat” or Again!”.  The slave would repeat the rule.

I absolutely loved this scene.  She looked majestic, powerful, and queen like, while he looked submissive and needy.  I re-created the scene in our house.  I had Thomas type up a list of all the rules that he was already following.  Then I took his list and added a few new ones. One of my favorite rules that came from the video clip was “In our house the word husband means slave.”  I made that rule #1.  I had Thomas fetch me a glass of wine and then put a leash on him and had him kneel at my feet.  It was a thrill to tug on the leash and tease him a bit while he read back the rules.  We both enjoyed the situation immensely.

My wife removed the lock, inserted steel wires, bent them with pliers, and then applied waterproof adhesive. The adhesive cured within about 1 hour, and till then she had chained my legs & hands to bed. She did not inform me in advance that she is going to seal it permanently.

When asked, she said, ” why do I need to tell you? I will do anything with ‘my cock’!

Let me tell you, since that day (when I realized that I am never going to be unlocked), the whole dynamics of my mind has changed. I have simply forgotten that I ‘have a cock’ below my belly. I am able to concentrate more on satisfying her pleasures because orgasm or masturbation is no more a subject for me.
We are having a wonderful life together!
Worth considering permanent chastity for your husband!

Is it permanent as in it never comes off? I have been speaking with a number of women who have their husbands permanently locked because I am considering this for him in the future. I have no doubt that it is possible because he can wear this one for months on end with no issues. Cleaning is easy with it on. I can do it and dry it in 10 mins with it on him. My real question is do you make it permanent by applying lock tight on the screws and sealing openings that allow access to the lock heads (talking Lori’s devices here). Or just be resolute in not unlocking him again but still possible?

I’m permanently locked and sealed in an inescapable steel chastity tube – a custom Lori #5 with 0g PA pin. The PA pin has been epoxied in place on the inside, along with the security screw, which has also been broken away and stripped so as to be impossible to remove. The security screw recess has also been filled with epoxy. There is absolutely no way out, at least not without some serious power tools and risk of serious injury. I’ve been in since early May 2012. The intent is to be locked in this beautiful, permanent, inescapable chastity tube forever.  Oral sex for my wife is the only thing I am allowed, so she said there’s really no need for it to ever have to come off.

After over 3 years of total denial, I do fantasize about somehow escaping. My penis is at least semi-hard and dripping precum nearly 24 hours a day, and it can get agonizing. I crave stimulation – rubbing that magical spot on the bottom of my penis head – more than anything, but my wife will never allow that. I’ve tried everything imaginable for over 3 years now, and it’s just not possible. As long as I’m in this cage, any meaningful stimulation is hopeless, just a fading memory and a building fantasy. Unlike a standard Lori #5, mine is completely solid on the entire bottom half, making anything other than the top of my penis head off-limits. My wife is very strict with me and is very happy with our female-led relationship.

Last night my husband did something that I told him never to do again. He came to me and told me he needed a break from chastity. He said he was having a really hard day and really wanted to take a break from the cage. I felt sorry for him. He fell just shy of begging me to take it off. He told me it is too much and he wanted to feel free. And I considered it for a moment but then I realized that maybe he just needed to be held and talk him down. I explained to him that we can’t just take breaks from our commitments to one another. We can’t take a break from marriage either. I can’t just take a break from him when it gets difficult.

I held him and told him how much I love him and that while I know this is difficult him need to endure through the hard times, he needs to not give in to his desires. He told me he was starting to think I didn’t like him as a man. To that I assured him that the most manly thing he could do for me right now is work through these feelings. I told him that being locked up and denied, does not mean I don’t want him anymore. Quite the opposite, I WANT him and him being locked makes me want him that much more because he is giving me what I need.

After we talked for a while I think he understood my position. I love him dearly and that will never change and another thing that will not change is him being locked in chastity. In fact last night I figured it was best that he knew that we are headed down a certain path where if not permanent, his chastity will be nearly so. I need this from him, it makes me happy. I need him to stay chaste and that IS manly in my opinion. Giving so much of himself up for me.

This is the second time that he has broken down and the first since he got his new smaller cage and I expect it from time to time. This lifestyle is not easy on anyone truly committed to full time chastity. I know that this will not be the last time.

I know this is very trying for him and he would love nothing more to be free and be “normal” but aside from these two breakdowns everything has been great for both of us. We are so close and intimate and sex with him while locked is so beautiful. So sensual. I feel like a queen.

Kay will discipline Harold if his performance is not satisfactory but other than their occasional corporal punishment sessions, the only other D&S activity they engage in is Kay controlling Harold’s sexual release. Harold wears a male chastity device all of the time and Kay holds the key. As a reward for excellent domestic service (usually rendered no more than once or twice a month) Kay will unlock Harold’s privates and allow him to masturbate (wearing the mandatory condom) while he kneels and kisses her feet. That is the only physical contact between them. They are never intimate on any level.

Kay is not the first woman whom Harold has served in such a capacity. Harold was the domesticated servant of a woman named Audrey for ten years. Harold actually lived with Audrey for the majority of that time. Audrey was not married but Harold was never intimate with her. Audrey had another submissive who was her sexual servant but Harold was her domestic servant. Audrey did engage in many D&S activities with Harold with a strong emphasis on strict discipline as she trained Harold in the ways of proper domesticated servitude.

I knew I could not be intimate with Lady Audrey and I know I will never be intimate with Ms Kay, and I like that. I enjoy serving women with no expectation of receiving sexual favors in return. Having my orgasms controlled by a woman provides me with my sexual excitement.

Whatever the reason, I began belittling and berating him for his pathetic efforts at finding a new job. The fact that he didn’t fight back just made me bolder. Since he was home, I assigned him chores so that he could at least do something to help out the family. He was too sheepish to object and I was too sharp-tongued to put up with any resistance, especially once I discovered that I really liked bossing him around. The day I ordered him to hand wash my lingerie, and he did, I knew that things were never going back to the way they had been.”

“I complained about the way the house looked. Nothing was ever right for me. Although I was earning about what my husband had, I decided that we no longer had enough money to afford the weekly cleaning woman. He was just going to have to pick up the slack. I constantly reminded him that it was I who was saving the family from financial ruin and that he could at least keep up the home. My husband was working like mad to meet my increasingly difficult demands, doing much more than I ever did as a homemaker. He just took to it and I got very comfortable with giving him instructions. Any resistance from him was met with a sharp scolding and a reminder of his failure to be a provider. He would back right down to me and I relished in my new power.”

I brought my husband up to the bedroom. I looked sexy as hell, but definitely portrayed a no-nonsense and strict demeanor. I wore a white see-through blouse over a black bra, sparkly black pantyhose and high-heeled pumps. I ordered my husband to strip. I bet he thought we were going to have sex, something that had become a rare occurrence, but I had other ideas.

Instead, I lifted up my skirt and revealed the dildo. Before he could speak, I told him that I no longer viewed him as a man in the traditional sense. I told him that I loved him and would care for him but that if he ever failed to submit to me as a servant submits to his Master, I would throw him out and divorce him. I told him that his lot in life was to be the perfect househusband and servant. I told him that access to my body would be hard earned and that if he ever failed to please me in the bedroom, I would seek other sexual partners wherever and whenever I wanted.

While generously lubing the dildo that was strapped to my waist, I told him that he had a choice, either pack up and move out or bend over the bed and spread his legs. I said that tonight was to be a ceremony of sorts, symbolizing his new status in life. He started pleading for me to reconsider but I just said to either bend over or get out. Of course he accepted the inevitable and positioned himself over the bed and waited for me, his Mistress, to take him. I did take him and I enjoyed it
immensely.

My husband is now a docile homemaker and caretaker. I believe in having weekly correction sessions. He bends over the bed naked every Thursday night and I review my list. Punishments range from a dose of the paddle to the trusty dildo.”

My husband was waiting on me in the bedroom in his required submissive position of on his knees with his head to the floor. I entered into the bedroom and gave him permission to view me with his eyes.

While most dominant women like to incorporate male orgasm denial on some level (be it allowing male orgasms only once a week, twice a month or once a month), a few women go even a step further with their men. There are relationships where the dominant woman has incorporated permanent denial and permanent male chastity. Eva enjoys such an advanced FemDom relationship with her husband.

“I am a practicing female supremacist and am enjoying this life more than I could have imagined. I am having the most incredible orgasms of my life. I have been married to my husband for five years now and he has not had an orgasm for the entirety of our marriage. I am heavily into orgasm denial and his frustration keeps my libido high.

Our honeymoon night was his last orgasm because he knew what we had planned as a couple and our “pre-arrangement” to be a D/s couple. His last orgasm was onto a copy of the contract that we had prepared out in detail. I let it dry and he framed it so he could see what he was never going to get again as long as we were married. We have a loving relationship and even though his frustration grows rapidly, I handle him with true superiority.

Is such a relationship possible? Can a man really be denied permanently? Some women claim that they have such a relationship with a submissive male and there are permanent chastity devices on the market that come with break-off screws and can be installed in accordance with a Prince Albert piercing or a Frenum piercing in the male’s penis. From my research, it is important for health reasons that a man is allowed to have his plumbing cleaned out periodically. So how does a woman achieve permanent denial in the training of her husband and at the same time ensure his proper health and mental well-being? The key seems to be with a practice known as “prostate milkings”.

The first thing I did was to take charge in the bedroom. I required my husband to please me orally and I set up a schedule where he had to satisfy me four times to be allowed an orgasm of his own. I found him to be very submissive and soon I assigned household chores to him. It became clear to me very quickly that the more dominant I acted towards him, the more subservient he became to me. There was little or no resistance when I took over the finances. I ran into my first problem when I ordered my husband to stop surfing porn sites on the Internet. I found more web sites in our history file. I also suspected that he was masturbating while looking at these sites. When confronted with the evidence he confessed to both, begged for forgiveness and admitted to a lack of self-control. At this time I started spanking him for any shortcomings and I ordered a chastity device which I hold the key!

Having him in chastity 24/7 has helped increase my power in the relationship to the point that my husband is completely submissive to me. He is also completely dependent on me for any sexual relief, and this is a very powerful weapon when wielded by a woman who is not afraid to use it.

He does most of the housework and all the yard work. He not only cooks for me, but also caters to my personal needs. In the last year, I have trained him to shave my legs, help me with my bath routine, and to serve me in the bathroom. He cleans me with tissue, sponge, and powder when I finish. I feel that his service keeps his attention where it belongs; and that is on me. Failure to please will result in punishment, usually a spanking or longer length of time to release from his chastity belt.

I allow him to orgasm only about once per month. This has forced some changes in our sex life. I take my pleasure from his tongue usually three or four times a week. I have become hooked on oral sex, and I have very strong orgasms when he tongues both my vagina and my anus. It makes him more submissive after he has spent the evening servicing me orally. A few months ago my husband complained that we did not engage in enough penetrative sex. I ordered a strap-on dildo and now use it on my husband regularly. I also ordered a chinstrap dildo, when he wears it he can penetrate me and lick my anus at the same time. The natural growth in our marriage has been toward a female dominated union. My husband is not only my lover and friend, but also a complete servant. He obeys me at all times without question.