My husband and I have been in the chastity lifestyle more than 5 years. If you are asking how long has he been in the cage presently, I really don’t know. I no longer keep track.
He is ALWAYS locked during sex. Because he is usually on the edge if you know what I mean, it is not safe for his manhood to be rubbing on the sheets when he is pleasuring me. On the rare occasions when I want to involve his penis, I replace his cage with desensitizing cream and a condom.
We use a Jailbird. We use the chastity device as a tool to reprogram his thinking that all his passions are directed toward me. I then utilize those passions to get things done, increase my leisure, or to have them released byhim pleasuring me.
We both have seen a change in his mindset towards sex. He doesn’t want to ruin our sex life by having an orgasm. I agree with him.
He has orgasm via night emissions about every 5-6 weeks which seem to have little impact on his pursuing me. These night emissions tell me he has been faithful. We will never permanently lock him up. But his having an orgasm will soon permanently be a thing of the past.
Chastity belt keep him on track. No more porn and compulsive masturbation. He focused on my satisfaction. He has a strong mental orgasm when I have an orgasm. He simply enjoys to give me pleasure.
Man in female-centric relationship needs stability. Long term orgasm denial it always ensures maximum stability. Frequent ejaculation affects badly his behavior, even when they are without an orgasm.
I love intercourse once or several times a month (depending on my mode for it). Emla cream and condom are required. I like chin dildo. He did not need much preparation as for his penis. Put on his head and he can begin. With such intercourse he can licking my clitoris too. Penis in this case remains in the chastity belt.
Positive reinforcement is what I always do. I tell him: “Good boy or You were fantastic” , kiss him. It is equally important as a chastity belt.
His last orgasm? Oh my, this is going to sound so bad of me, but I honestly don’t remember. Is there a reason that should be important to me?
In the context of a female led relationship where masturbation is forbidden, like mine, masturbating is akin to infidelity. Before I entered into my FLM with my Mistress Wife, I masturbated A LOT. Because I could! For us, it was something we identified together as being harmful to our marriage and as such, Mistress K. strictly forbade it. Once that particular new context of our relationship was established, it was (for me) a matter of my commitment to my Mistress Wife, and whether I felt it was important enough to adhere to that rule. I am lucky enough to be able to adhere to the rules my Mistress has placed upon me in our marriage.