Last night I gave Thomas a ruined orgasm.  A ruined orgasm is when you stop providing stimulation to you man’s cock when he starts to cum or right before he starts to cum, thereby ruining his orgasm.

The man may feel a brief moment of pleasure but then it immediately vanishes leaving him frustrated.  I have to admit that I get a thrill from seeing his desperation and it is even more thrilling that he thanks me afterward.  He is like a puppy dog that is always happy…always wagging his tail no matter what I do.  Some may consider this cruel, but even Thomas enjoys when I ruin his orgasms because it is another form of control that he gets to experience.  To him a full blown orgasm is a very special privilege that he only experiences on a rare occasions. Denying his orgasm keeps him feeling submissive and controlled.  He craves this feeling and enjoys the mental game.

The thrill and arousal that I experience from his ruined orgasm is only a part of the reason I do it.  I also consider the ruined orgasm a powerful tool for controlling Thomas and keeping him obedient.  The biggest advantage of a ruined orgasm is that it allows the man some release but avoids the post orgasm “slump” that most men experience after an full orgasm.  The slump I am referring to is when the man loses all energy and loses interest in sex and pleasing the woman.  After a ruined orgasm, many men do not experience the slump or it is very brief.  Thomas will often remain hard after the ruined orgasm.  His level of horniness remains high as well.

One final benefit that I would like to point out is that it can be used as a punishment.  If your man has been naughty or simply not meeting your expectations, you can announce that the next orgasm (or next 2, 3, etc.) will be ruined.

I prefer to tell him to try not to orgasm.  I enjoy seeing him struggle.  He eventually gets to a point where he can’t hold back.  The fun part with this is that I can do a stroke or two and then watch his cock as he struggles to prevent his orgasms.  There have been times when I have stroked his cock and then watched him struggle for 20 or 30 seconds and then he spurted without me touching him.  That is art!  It is beauty to see him struggle and work so hard to please and obey me.  It is also a power rush to know that I control him so much and that no matter how hard he tries he can not stop me from giving him an orgasm.  What a mind fuck for him!  In these situations I don’t feel that it is fair to punish him for having an orgasm without permission.  However,  I usually give him the disappointed look and tell him how weak he is.

• “…Go get your chastity device.  I know how much you love being locked up for me and giving me complete control of your cock.  For being such a good boy, you can wear your chastity device until I decide otherwise.
• “For your reward, you can kneel before me and worship my feet with your tongue.
• “For being so good you may hand wash my panties and delicates this week.  I know how much you enjoy touching them and looking at them.

This particular memory was about Thomas kneeling before me naked and reading back to me rules of the house. What I do remember is seeing a beautiful mistress sitting comfortably across a plush chair.  She was sideways with her back resting against the back corner of the chair and her stocking covered legs dangling over the edge of the chair.  She wore a short black silk night gown.  In one hand was a glass of red wine and in the other was a thick chain leash.  At the other end of the leash was her husband.  He was kneeling on the side of the chair where her feet dangled. He was naked except for the thick chain leash around his neck.

In front of him was a book that he was reading rules from. The Mistress sat comfortably and sipped wine while she listened to her husband read how he would obey her.  Occasionally she would respond in a firm authorities tone, “Yes..Good boy”. Often she would tug his leash hard and command “Repeat” or Again!”.  The slave would repeat the rule.

I absolutely loved this scene.  She looked majestic, powerful, and queen like, while he looked submissive and needy.  I re-created the scene in our house.  I had Thomas type up a list of all the rules that he was already following.  Then I took his list and added a few new ones. One of my favorite rules that came from the video clip was “In our house the word husband means slave.”  I made that rule #1.  I had Thomas fetch me a glass of wine and then put a leash on him and had him kneel at my feet.  It was a thrill to tug on the leash and tease him a bit while he read back the rules.  We both enjoyed the situation immensely.