It was always our intention that Ken wear the chastity device the rest of his life. The focus was to reprogram his mind to accept that an orgasm for him was not needed for us to enjoy a fulfilling sex life. And even more, that his orgasm is actually a hindrance and since we no longer had a desire for more children, we had no need for his orgasm.

As I have shared in previous posts we have been at male chastity for years, always with the goal that we could move to the place that I could trust him to do the right thing with his penis and quit acting like a child. I have the right to know that just because he sees a pretty woman he is not going to start down the road that ends with him masturbating. I mean seriously, don’t I deserve his affections? Don’t I deserve to know that his passion is mine alone? The problem was all his and I needed to help him get free of it. Love is about giving and he had done far too little of it, especially in our sex life. I didn’t want just great sex, I wanted a man who would put my wants above his needs. A man who would know the sacrifice and joy of giving. Until Ken became that man we would be using a male chastity device until all of his selfish desires were gone.

I had to say no to his desires and yes to mine, always! I wanted to get to the place that I knew to my core that I had my husbands heart, all of it. I wanted a husband who knew that intimacy was about more than sex, it could be cuddling, touching, kissing, or me getting a massage.

And if I wanted an orgasm, he was not only a capable but an eager partner. Always and whenever.  I wanted the satisfaction of knowing that when we were intimate I would be satisfied, he would not simply put my desires first, they would be the singular goal. He pursues, I get captured, pleasured, loved and cared for. His pursuit of me never ends.

I never feel more beautiful and loved than when I am pursued. Why should that be ruined by his having an orgasm?

He has learned to pursue and pleasure me without messing things up (pun intended) by having an orgasm. Even when we are having intercourse we have developed techniques where he can experience my orgasm through my eyes without his having to ejaculate.

We will usually play for a while, then he will perform oral sex on me through two or three orgasms. But I still love the intimacy of looking into his eyes as I come so we try to finish with having me on top intercourse. Because that Ken has a hair trigger we have gone to using desensitizing cream and a condom. There is something wickedly fun about applying a cream to my husbands penis to decrease his pleasure so he can increase mine.

But he willingly allows me to as it puts my hands in touch with his manhood. The sacrifice he is making is never lost on me and I tell him how much I love him.

There needs to be a delay as the cream works it’s magic and I will usually busy him keeping my motor running. One time I got lost in the pleasure of him doing so and he had lost his erection.

Try as I might I could not get him hard. The next time we made sure not to play too long before I mounted up and soon that transitioned into me riding him to my orgasm trying to time it to the very last moment before he goes soft. It is actually fun as I stare into his eyes and feeling me get closer and closer to orgasm as he loses sensation and begins to shrink. If I time it just right he “pops” out of me on my last orgasmic shudder.

it is as if you are living in our house and reviewing the very things that have occurred in our FLM. Mistress K. has long since stopped wanting to worry about whether or not I would obey my rules of not masturbating, not touching myself sexually, unless it with her permission and under her supervision. She has no desire to even consider allowing me to remain completely chaste without the need of a chastity cage. We determined some time ago that a steel chastity cage was needed, and then sealed it permanently. The vows we exchanged in our collaring ceremony on our 15th wedding anniversary, that unauthorized masturbation or self inflicted sexual pleasure is no different than infidelity in our marriage. I am simply not allowed to do it.

Mistress K. even threatened divorce. Breaking these rules would be the same as infidelity. Yikes! For me, it was problem solved and as a result, our marriage couldn’t be stronger. I naturally now live in a constant state of desire because of this one thing you said …. “I wanted the satisfaction of knowing that when we were intimate I would be satisfied, he would not simply put my desires first, they would be the singular goal” Sex is only for my wife’s pleasure and I am never allowed to ejaculate.