Men are not women. They are not built for pleasure the same way. A woman can have one orgasm after another and she will be energized and ready for a full yoga and Qigong routine. A man has one orgasm and he is exhausted and ready for a nap.
Semen retention is therefore important for both health and spiritual reasons. This isn’t just fetish, you are progressing together to discover your true natures as the male practices retaining his semen. It’s tempting to just allow him that release but that would be the easy way out. One must keep in mind his actual need for regulation and control. Imagine you’ve been enjoying one orgasm after another. It’s over for the night but he’s still wound up ready for more. Ejaculation is still several more days away for him. What do you do with the quivering mass of man lying between your thighs? The most difficult part of getting started with this new life is redirecting him when you’re finished.
Of course, he will feel that the desire to complete the act is unstoppable. Males have an almost insurmountable urge to complete the act and plant their seed. After all, it’s what their designed to do. And if your trying to have a baby, by all means let him proceed with his duty. So teaching him to put the brakes on that runaway train, and postponing ejaculation, can be a challenge. Just stopping and moving to another activity may almost seem incomprehensible to him. In fact to a male new to this, it is very incomprehensible!
You are leading him to transition from a penis-centric boy to a man that is truly worthy of being inside a woman. This is truly a rite of passage for him. A man pleasures a woman helping her transcend. A boy takes his and leaves her in the puddle. He needs to realize that your orgasm is his orgasm. The chi energy that he generates, you will both draw from. And just the pleasure of intercourse, and being inside you is a privilege. He will experience an intensity in intercourse that he’s never experienced before.
So how do I do it? I’m almost always on top where I can direct our activity toward grinding and not thrusting. That makes it much easier for me, and harder for him, to achieve orgasm. When I’m on the brink, I jump off onto his face and he licks me to climax. We repeat this until I am satisfied. On the last time, instead of going to the bathroom to pee, I just use the convenience that’s already between my thighs, and have him hold it in his mouth until he cools off losing his erection. Only then is he allowed to go spit it out. This seems to work the bulk of the time, and it also has the positive effect of eliminating the begging because obviously his mouth is full. This makes it almost effortless.
He can also transmute that energy by giving me a massage, doing the housework chore, and loving me gladly even when I’m less than perfect. All this is just a happy side effect of practicing semen retention under the guidance of a firm women’s hand. It’s a natural part of his new biology. And I indulge it by making demands and setting rules. To do otherwise, would be to neglect his new needs. It’s really the semen retention that sets the roles for both of us. It’s like the chi brewing in his bag is guiding the relationship to its natural state.
To me these principles are confirmed by his energy level after sex. Retaining semen, after sex he’s full of energy and ready to take on the world. With regular ejaculation, he’s wasted exhausted, depleted and ready for a nap. What’s right for the woman is not right for the man. It’s just a yin yang principle. I orgasm. He doesn’t. The male gives. The woman receives. These forces interact to form a dynamic system in which the whole is greater than the assembled parts.Once his balls are in your purse where he wants them to be, your relationship will transcend. I don’t know why, but men crave this command structure, and we women aren’t always good at providing it. But if we master it, the rewards are beyond measure.