I have (greatly) restricted my husbands orgasms since I shifted my position in our marriage. He works very hard for them (very) and is allowed no masturbation (whatsoever). It keeps him very, very, focused on what I need and want and keeps him under control. The vast majority of our sexual interaction is based on him gratifying me (with his tongue). It is mostly what sex is for him with a periodic but infrequent orgasm on his end – planned and doled out by me. Accidents have happened (in his pants) just from getting over excited – those are a sort of discipline moment because they are supposed to be avoided.

Yes, basically I feel in general divorce is caused by frequent ejaculation. Men should pledge to only ejaculate with the wife’s permission in the marriage ceremony. If only that one change was made in the marriage vows, many marriages would be saved. I really want to have a moment with my husband where he formally does that at some point.

An early bedtime or a restricted allowance might be just as effective in dissuading behaviors like masturbation or spilling during intercourse. The threat of a bedtime is very effective with my husband. With early bedtimes, I would suggest a video baby monitor so the wife can easily see that hands are above the covers if the husband has a separate bedroom as mine does. We have trust, but it’s helpful for him to know someone could be watching.

Semen retention is particularly good for long period of denial, longer than a single month.

I didn’t always used to orgasm like this. I would say my yoni has awakened a lot over the past year. As my husband practices retaining his semen, his passion is very intense when he services me. He has also increased his stamina so he is able to continue thrusting to get me to 9 or 18. I usually end it at 9. I draw a lot of energy from him and his intensity. When he’s on the brink, there’s no question it speeds me to a climax knowing that he wants me badly. I’m always able to just move from one orgasm to another by just starting again. It’s not like I achieve climax and it just triggers 9 orgasms. It takes a male with stamina to be able to thrust in a sustained rhythm, finish me, and resume thrusting. I have achieved up to 50 orgasms in a session, but that is not common at all. we were just pushing the envelope. I’d say that’s about the limit for me. 9 is regular.

It sounds like your doing well retaining. I assume you have eliminated masturbating from your life as well and only release with your wife. I think that’s also essential.

I always obtain all my orgasms from intercourse. He has never just serviced me orally. He gets me to the brink with thrusting, and I will jump on his face to let him finish me. I always finish with clitoral stimulation, thrusting with his lingam always carries me there.

The holy trinity of my model is semen retention, the ejaculation schedule and consequences for violation of the schedule. The specific consequences for violation of the schedule should be discussed by both parties. But yes, there is an averse stimulus that will be applied for violation of the schedule.

We have sex daily but he does not ejaculate. I require submission. Submission is the natural result of semen retention with daily stimulation. His true giving nature is revealed to him. I honor that nature by taking and receiving from him whether it’s receiving 18 orgasms like today, or it’s hand washing my clothes and keeping the kitchen in order. I just follow his new biology and try to keep up with it. Retaining, he has far more stamina in bed than I have. He will ejaculate next Sunday if all goes well.

In my philosophy a boy has to obey Women *regardless* of orgasm, so it’s not a need to deny them.

Question: Can we please talk more about corporal punishment? What are your takes on over the knee spanking vs. whipping, the dreaded cane or hot wax?

I have already been doing this with my husband for almost a year, though I have set an ejaculation schedule, and he knows when he’s due for ejaculation contingent on his attitude and behavior. Semen retention is so important for the male not only for his attitude in the relationship, but for his health too. I think he gets too depleted when he cums to much, and it certainly effects almost every aspect of our relationship if he’s masturbating in private.

He says he wants to go back to the way it was before, but frankly, I can’t really imagine being in a relationship with a man that doesn’t practice semen retention. I tell him I would lose respect for him if he decided not to continue which is true. I came across this from the eastern traditions of spiritual practice where semen retention is common. We tried it, and the experience brought intensity into our marriage that hadn’t been there for years. I took control of his ejaculation schedule because frankly he would opt for ejaculation every time in the heat of the moment if I didn’t. I did need to institute consequences for unauthorized ejaculation which may seem unpalatable to some women but if it’s done right, it only needs to be done rarely. It’s really for his own good, and he understands that. Women really need to take control if we’re going to reap the intense rewards of male semen retention. And the rewards are intense!! If you want emotional bonding , and a man that craves you, you need to learn learn these few simple concepts. You’d be surprised with how much respect a man treats a woman who controls his ejaculation schedule.

I used to think it’s none of my business what he does with himself in private. I couldn’t have been more wrong because he was stealing the passion from our relationship every time he jerked off. I really can’t stress for all women enough that they need to find out how much their man is masturbating and make it clear to him how important it is to you that he stop, and also get him to admit how much he views porn, and take control of that as well. Of course this all depend on truth and honesty. Luckily we have that as a foundation in our relationship. I realize men are men, and I’m not opposed to giving him 15 minutes of free computer time once in a great while if his chores are done and his attitude has been great.