My wife begged me to orgasm like the old days back in January. We were both miserable for about a two months after that until about mid March of this year she told me she was putting the cage on and it wasn’t coming off for a year if ever. Well things have never ever been better between us no matter what type of relationship we have had. So while the cage is the facilitator of that, it isn’t something I am attached to or anything. What I am attached to is being married to a nasty selfish sadistic bitch that has a soft touch.
My wife also doesn’t mind me checking out other women, she doesn’t think it’s disrespectful to them or her, but she does think getting erections for and masturbating to those women is disrespectful to them and her and now that it’s impossible for me to do so, she is actually even more comfortable with me admiring them, knowing full well that it’s all I’m allowed to do.
She has definitely taken notice and is very happy with my behavior now. The fact is, I was the one with the problem, I had trouble answering to a younger woman that turned me on, but male chastity changed all that. Before, I would masturbate to her images, but how in the world was I supposed to respect a woman in the office and take orders from her if I spent every night sexually fantasizing and masturbating to her images? Now that I can’t so much as achieve an erection for her, all that sexual desire I have for her has turned into admiration of her and demonstrated through my subordination and obedience. The combination of my locked up state, long periods of denial, and inability to experience a painless erection, have all forced me to view and admire and other women in the office and in society in general in ways I never thought imaginable.
My wife (42) of 3 years is amazing. I’m completely in love with her. But she’s insanely jealous and demanding of my time. I work 7-6 m-f and 8-12 sat. If I’m not at work I am to be with her. Doing what she wants. When she wants. I’m allowed Wednesday nights only to play video games or do what I want to do. Every other night if I don’t do what she wants and decide to watch a tv show that I want to watch or movie or game. She gets mad and I have to deal with 3 days of cold shoulder and attitude. I’m not allowed to go over friends houses unless she is with me. The other day I texted her and asked if SHE wanted to go over to a friends house WITH me. She replied “no. You go. Just don’t be late. ” So I went. And came home to her pissed off and that her telling me I could go was a test and I should have just came home to her because she’s more important than my friends.
She also Threatens that other guys will treat her better and I’m lucky to be with her. I pay every bill in the house. I make a great living. She has a brand new Navigator. I pamper her. Love her and take care of her. As long as I’m catering to her every wish it’s fine. If I’m doing something I want to do and she doesn’t. Heaven help me!
I came home and told her my feelings. She blew up and is leaving me. Period. She’s going to find a guy that treats her right because I clearly don’t love her or treat her like she deserves. I groveled at her feet and begged her for another chance, but she just kicked me in the balls and slammed the door as she left.
Yep, this is almost exactly like one of my best friends. His wife is very similar to this and we basically never see him anymore. She is a controlling manipulative nutjob and he lets it happen. Its sad really, you can tell he hates a lot about his life, but doesn’t have the courage to do anything about it.
As soon as they got married, he basically stopped doing anything that wasn’t related to her in some way. He changed his entire appearance. He started working 80-100 hour weeks to support her lifestyle. If he wasn’t working, he was with her. He used to come over our house and visit all the time, now we never see him unless she is out of the country (she is from Russia and goes home once a year to visit family). He basically shut down every facet of his life that he enjoyed.
Obedience, it’s the first and most important of the four tenets of an FLR. It is the key to domestic bliss! Obey your Wife without hesitation and you can expect domestic tranquility and happiness. Disobey Her and there will likely be unpleasant consequences.
In workshops we conduct for couples embarking on an FLR we encourage Women to demand obedience and put the necessary structures in place to get it. Why? Well, there are a number of reasons:
First, Women are intellectually and emotionally superior to men. They are also more benevolent in their leadership. Women are the superior sex and deserve to be in control.
Second, men behave better when specific rules and responsibilities are put in place for them to follow – men love structure and Women should give it to them.
Third, Women are increasingly in charge in the business world. Why should they surrender
their considerable and expanding authority when they return home? They shouldn’t! Rather they should carry their workplace authority seamlessly into their home life.
Fourth, households run smoother with Women in charge, and tranquil households are what we all want.
Fifth, and i know i will be criticized for this, but we firmly believe that men – today’s men – have to atone for patriarchy’s ill-gotten gains; obedience to Women and complete respect for their authority are a good start on the road to atonement…
Couples contemplating an FLR know this and understand that in such a relationship She makes the decisions, controls the money, sets the social agenda, assigns the chores, makes the rules and enforces them. his job? Simply to obey! Her decisions are not subject to debate; they are final! Women relish the leadership role and in our experience don’t hesitate to press their innate authority. Many men, on the other hand, conditioned by patriarchy, have some hesitation when initially confronted with a suddenly demanding Wife. She needs to quell his hesitation.
Here are some things for Women and enlightened gentlemen to do, based on my own experiences in Nancy’s family where Her Grandmother, Joan, and Mother, Sue, and others conditioned me to the need for obedience:
Remind yourself of your inferiority as a man and of the superiority of Women; i use notes and stickers as reminders. When i was leaning to obey when first introduced to Nancy’s family, each Woman and some of the men(!) reminded me of the superiority of Women and of my own inferiority. Joan, Sue, and Nancy would write “Women Rule and men drool” using lipstick on mirrors and on my windshield; sexy to be sure, but i really understood the underlying message!
Wear an apron; it’s practical in many ways but also calls out his subservient status; Joan
admonished me to wear a “pretty” apron as it multiplied the impact. My wearing an apron has been mandatory from the start.
Use honorifics. Ma’am is always acceptable; “Yes, Ma’am” is one of my favorite sayings, one that excites me and honors the Woman to whom it is directed. Make it your business to learn Women’s preferences for address and use them. Or men can experiment by using different honorifics: “My Queen,” “Madame,” “Lady” with Her last name (i.e., “Lady Gannon”) come to mind. All convey deference and respect and acknowledge the higher status of Women. Progressive gentlemen report excitement in using such terms.
Don’t limit the use of honorifics; i recommend “Ma’am” when addressing any Woman, at home of course, but also in public and at work. “Good morning, Ma’am”; “Yes, Ma’am.” These show respect and courtesy. “Ma’am” works well in all situations, and i would use it exclusively outside the home.
“Hear and do”: The Women in Nancy’s family initially put me in situations where i was always getting requests or told to do things. Joan called it “Hear and do,” and it was great training. It taught me to hear a request, acknowledge it, and carry it out; and it taught me to love taking orders. While i understand that it’s not at all practical to constantly get orders from the Women, my doing so, especially during this initial period, made it second nature.
Set up rules. As noted above, it’s just not practical for Women to constantly be giving direction. In Nancy’s family we have an elaborate set or protocols and schedules that prescribe what i should be doing and how things are to be done. There’s a day to do ironing, laundry, and grocery shopping and a documented way that things should be done. Things happen automatically with little imposition on the Women. Obedience isn’t just listening to what She orders. It’s also following the protocols She has prescribed. With deference to Her, work with your Wife to develop similar rules. It will lighten or eliminate Her burden in managing your work.
Listen to Her. This doesn’t mean obeying Her – men know to do that – but rather to quietly listen to Her conversations – with permission, of course, no snooping! Women’s conversation should be regarded as private unless you are informed otherwise! But by listening to Her you can anticipate Her needs and move to fulfill them before She asks – now that’s obedience! And fantastic personal service, too! If, for example, She says She’s thirsty, you can rush to get Her favorite drink. Beyond this, listening to Her will help you learn Women’s perspectives and opinions and thus be a better man.
For Women: There are things that a Woman should be doing to ensure that Her husband is an obedient and acquiescent spouse:
Instruct him – make sure he understands Your expectations and any protocols You’ve established.
NEVER say “Please,” Ladies! You are entitled to have Your requests fulfilled and he is privileged to fulfill them. And there’s absolutely no need for “thank you” once Your request is filled.
Have him use “Ma’am” or whatever honorific You prefer. ALWAYS!
Set up household rules as above. Complying with the rules is the same as his complying with Your orders, and it’s far less burdensome to You. If it’s in the rules and he doesn’t comply then, consequences are due.
Raise Your voice. It helps to periodically reestablish Your authority by raising Your voice. Nancy and Sue do this from time to time to keep me on my toes. Learn to love releasing Your ‘inner Bitch.” men love Bitches – be one!
Exercise Your authority. Have him do things because You can. Give him an opportunity to serve you – men LOVE serving Women! Nancy and Her Mother periodically send me on little excursions. Going across town for a specific brand of cigarettes at 3:00 a.m., for example…