Our situation is similar in the past 3 years we have only had penetrative sex 5 times. Although it is pleasurable for both of us it never lasts long. Foreplay is always the best part for both of us (I give she receives only). We have many more ways to connect that bring us closer to one another with more intamicy than penetration ever has. Mascara Snake is very correct when she says that penetration isn’t the end all act. Have penetrative sex always ends in a full orgasm for me (after she gets hers) and then I’m sad, moody and argumentative for several days after. We prefer to keep me on edge as I am more attentive to her needs and stay in high spirits.
Since starting with chastity we both have noticed this difference and both love me being locked up so that I can be her dream husband and take of her before myself. Having a chastity cage that is easy to clean and of proper size and comfort makes keeping it on full time a reality rather than a fantasy. Milkings and ruined orgasms on occasion answer the delema of health. As long as both parties are in it together come what may both good and bad then more power to their decision on how to live.

One evening, about 5-6 months ago my KH wife simply sealed my lock post with wires & adhesive
It can’t be removed unless cut with saw
I know for sure that I am never going to have sex / masterbution
As against, I am having the best of her companionship and the pleasure to keep her happy all the time
So sacrificing my cock is worth the returns what I’m enjoying!

I haven’t had penetrative sex with a woman for over 6 years. I am in 24/7 chastity and feminized. I am very happy this way and I have no desire to have sex with a woman ever again. My small and useless penis is at best 3.75″ erect and recently measures in at 3.25″ this makes penetrative sex for a woman very unsatisfying and pointless.

I would either cum in less than 3 minutes or just keep losing my erection through lack of friction. They can’t really feel me inside them and I can’t really feel them.

One of the main considerations for me is that by penetrating a woman I am validating both my masculinity and my penis, which are the 2 things that I most want to eradicate from my life.

Much much happier being a girl and staying limp at 2 inches is key to this.

My sissy hubby will get to have sex one more time with me on our anniversary and that will be his final time. I let him have sex with me on our last anniversary. So far it has been almost 9 months for him with three more to go for his final shot, then he will be locked permanently.

As he only has PIV sex once a year, he should get used to permanent denial quite quickly.

A close friend is locked in a Lori’s tube However, He has learned to orgasm by prostrate stimulation with anal sex .

This is a very good example of what I would classify as “Erotic Zone migration”
Something that can be cultivated through and associated with the cessation of penile stimulation.

There is something very erotic about permanency. I haven’t had penetrative sex for 6 years and will soon have a Jailbird so that I need never take it off. No great loss, as I am only allowed to masturbate about 4 times a year. When it becomes zero times a year it will be the psychological impact that is so arousing and more than makes up for the physical loss of touching myself.

I have been denied intercourse for over 18 months now, however, I would also say that both D and I have never had a better sex life. Intercourse is way over rated and the fire and excitement of a session with D makes it pale in comparison.

667 days since my last orgasm (and the last time I had PIV intercourse…all 90 seconds of it!). My Wife/Mistress/Keyholder has not so much as touched my genitals in this timeframe and has shown no inclination to do anything to stimulate me to an orgasm. She enthusiastically attends to my nipples orally and manually and seems to happily entwine her smooth legs with mine when I am wearing hosiery. She has not said a single word about intercourse, fellatio or anything of the sort…no “never agains” or anything…NOTHING. That said, she seems perfectly happy interacting with me sexually as if I had no penis (I see it as very lesbian-esque and if you have read our story, you know my theories there). If I DO get to have sex (PIV) again, I do not see it being very often…oh, yet another “be careful what you wish for moment”.

It’s been one year since I had sex.
Iv been in and out of chastity most of the time iv been locked now for 23 days no release for cleaning or anything will be locked for one year. My kh will never let me have sex again anybody else feeling sorry for thier bits as I used to enjoy sex now I never want again only to please my kh who finds it so funny .
Texted her asking if I can remove cage for shower .her reply was hope my useless bits fall off .I love it but kinda feel scared

Just what I’d say to you. My subbie’ll never have sex again either. Not ever.

I am the dominant in our relationship and so what I say goes. Not that he would wish to go without. He enjoys chastity for periods as part of my overall control of his sexual experience. He doesn’t have a yearning for being permanently locked up or permanently denied sexual intercourse.

My current Lady and I have been together for 28 months.She has never allowed (used ) my penis for regular intercourse.it is kept caged 99.99 % of the time.
personally it works for me /us..i provide and she uses me for plenty of other sexual acts and as she isn’t interested having me penetrate her..it’s a total win win☺

24/7/364, now in my second year of this regime. Thats locked all the time, not removed for cleaning etc as its not necessary to remove with the Loris’#5.

sissy sub should not get an erection without MD’s permission.

sissy sub must never cum without MD’s permission.

sissy sub when allowed to cum, sh must drink or lick it all up.

sissy sub’s bedtime during the week is 9:00 and 10:00 on weekends, unless MD chooses to extend.

sissy sub must get permission to go anywhere.

sissy sub must text MD upon arrival and departure of any place he goes except work.

sissy sub must ask MD’s permission for anything to eat or drink.

sissy sub is not allowed to look at any pictures of naked women.

sissy sub must not leave the shopping cart area without MD’s permission when shopping together.

sissy sub must keep all receipts of anything he purchases.

sissy sub must always open and close the car door for MD.

sissy sub must always ask permission from MD to “go potty” at home, work or out in public.

sissy sub must avert his eyes if MD is naked or dressing unless given specific permission to see MD’s body.

sissy sub must never touch MD in an intimate place or way without Her permission.

sissy sub may only have a certain number of alcoholic drinks (wine/beer/liquor) per week to be decided by MD.

sissy sub must always sit when peeing at home.

sissy sub is responsible for all house cleaning activities.

sissy sub is not allowed to use real plates for meals, but is only allowed to eat off of paper plates.

sissy sub may not ask for sexual relations with MD and when in chastity, may not ask for release.

Next, you must always remember that sexually you are the center of attention and that as a couple your singular goal is that you be sexually satisfied. This is the cornerstone to happiness for both you and him. Keeping you sexually satisfied is your husband’s job. Because that none of your efforts are wasted on his having an orgasm means that you experience many more than ever before.

It is almost universally held by women who seriously practice chastity with their husband that initial enforcement of chastity should be at least three months of continuous wear without relief after you go through the break in period of getting a device that fits.Expect him to be a little shocked at that news!

Preventing him from having an orgasm for a three month period may seem a bit harsh but it is paramount to your success as it allows his body and mind to adjust to the lack of masturbation and sexual pleasure as desired. Enforcing the first three month period will allow him to get in to the proper frame of mind and make him understand your desire, your commitment and your determination to his being chaste.  It will also give you the chance to develop the strength to consistently say “no”.

He should be made aware of the time frame a few weeks before being secured in his device, which allows him some time to come to grips with his commitment to you and a clear understanding of your expectations. When I told Mark it hit him hard. But 2 1/2 weeks later when he came to tell me it was time to install the device I knew how much he was willing to sacrifice for me.

If he struggles with it, calmly talk with him and tell him that this will work wonders for your marriage. Remind him that scripture requires him to give himself to you as Christ did the church. You are worth it.

If he is at all uncooperative during this first three months, you should add additional time to his lock up. I gave Mark a one week extension as a warning about whining and a one month extension the second time he more bluntly told me he needed out. After that there were no more incidents but I was seriously considering three months for the next offense.

I tend to agree with the more experienced women that I talked with that you can not be too strict with respect to the initial lockup period if you want to achieve the triple goals of:

1. Getting yourself past feeling that it is your duty to give him orgasms
2. Getting him focused on his new role of pleasing you
3. Becoming comfortable with being the focus of his attention.

If after the three months you haven’t achieved these goals then lengthen the time.

In retrospect, I think that I came down hard on Mark and added the extra month because I felt myself falling into the trap of feeling that I had to let him have an orgasm since I saw him so frustrated by the chastity device. I am glad that I did. When I finally let him out it was on my terms.

After my experience my mind has changed and I have come to strongly hold the view that it would be even better if the initial chastity period is set at one year with further extensions for any serious misbehavior. After three months of being locked up your hubby would be willing to do almost anything for a release so in that sense the chastity device will have done its job physically but mentally some men can hold out for three months and bounce back to their old ways once you let them cum and they expect future orgasms on a regular basis.

A year’s time horizon puts an end to all the fun and games and excitement he may have associated with chastity. It makes your agreeing to lock him up the very serious proposition that it is. A year’s initial lock up tells him that you are committed to making your relationship work long term and that once he hands you the keys there is no turning back.

You will need to experiment and ultimately you will need to do what works best for you, recognizing that the less often for him is actually better. The most common belief was that it was not good to allow their male to achieve an orgasm more than once per month but most thought that his orgasm should not often be withheld for more than three months unless there was a good reason for doing so.

Several women who I have become acquainted with believe that once a year is the right number.

I personally have found that a good baseline is to not allow double digit releases, meaning less than ten per year. You may find that you allow him to be released monthly and then decide that you would enjoy making him go for a longer period. It is alright to suddenly increase the time. He might ask why and you simply need to tell him why; I have responded with “because I am in control of your sexual abilities and I enjoy denying you, the longer I deny you the more you become attentive and thus I feel a sense of satisfaction”.

Right now I am following the advice of several of the women I am friends with to have Mark go an entire year without an orgasm just to see how hard I can push him and how well he can handle it. We are eight months into it now and it has been wonderful. I have really stepped up the teasing and managing Mark takes more time and discipline. The payoff is that I have had more great sex than I have ever had and Mark has become sweeter and more devoted to trying to please me than I ever thought possible. He has done this without any whining since I told him that I would happily add on more time if he did.

From time to time you might find it necessary to punish him for what ever reason, he might refuse to provide you with sexual pleasure as instructed or he spoke to you in a negative and degrading way; there are certainly many possible infractions. The most effective punishment is to increase his time of confinement; this should always be done in at least a week increment but you will probably find that additions of two weeks or a month will be more effective unless you like having him continually testing you. As an example let’s say he was tired or in a bad mood and failed to enthusiastically provide oral sex to you one evening. If this happens it is imperative that you do what he would not. Masturbate yourself to as many orgasms as you like, he may then attempt to provide for you but you must not allow him to. After you have satisfied yourself let him know that his refusal requires that he be punished and that you have decided that an additional month will be added to the time. If he gives you any argument, add two or three months to his lock up time.

One of my friends likes to have her husband instigate elaborate romantic seduction rituals. She never unlocks him during these events but on the rare occasion when he really out does himself, she gives him an orgasm the next day. The bliss point is when you get your hubby to the place he gets pleasure purely from your pleasure without thinking about his cock.

There is an old saying among those wives who adopted a chastity lifestyle because their husbands encouraged them — be careful what you wish for.

I think some of the husbands would, if given a choice go back to their old ways, but none of the wives would. I think that deep down the men are happier because they wanted help from their wives and now they have it.  I know the wives, who stuck it out through the trials of finding a chastity device that worked and figuring out how change their mindset from a need to give him orgasms to one of deserving all the orgasms they could ever want, are all much happier.” Who could have guessed that ignoring his “need” for an orgasm actually could turn out so well?

We, probably like most people, started out slowly and worked our way up to longer lockups. When the longer lockups started, during the first year she would allow me an orgasm if I was good. We were getting reacquainted with each other and our lives started to change for the better.

After the first year, she decided that I would only be allowed a ruined orgasm from now on. No more full orgasms and the long lockups continued. She has pushed me as far as 6 months without unlocking except for cleaning and only to get a ruined orgasm before being relocked for another 3 to 6 months. This went on for several years.

She was/is amazing. She had become sexually free and we both loved the new her. She was getting all the pleasure she wanted when she wanted and I was getting all the pleasure I wanted by pleasuring her.

If you had ever tried to tell me that I could be sexually fulfilled by pleasuring my wife and rarely getting an orgasm I would have thought you were smoking some bad weed.

Last year, after having some numerous discussions about the original intent of sex as designed by God and pondering the reality that there is no real need for the male to orgasm except to procreate we both decided that near permanent orgasm denial for me would be best for the both of us. We will complete that first year next week. This time the lockup periods have been a little different. No less than 3 months, sometimes longer, but after a couple of them, she unlocked me for brief sessions of repeated serious edging and denial then locked me for another 3 months or so. This really stirs up the pursuit chemicals in my brain.

Have not penetrated my wife for longer than either of us can remember. I used to be told to masturbate most of the time but occasionally got a handjob. Then my wife told me no more giving myself an orgasm. so it was only handjobs.

I am allowed one orgasm per year, usually at D’s request it is penetration, but to be honest its not as important has giving orgasms to my wife.

I have not had vaginal intercourse with my current Miss. We have been dating now just over two years.
I experienced intercourse twice during the summer 14 months before meeting Miss..this with no orgasm or much feeling (cock head and glans were covered in many layers of electrical tape)
In february this year There was one occasion that Miss allowed me to enter her anus for a few minutes..without orgasm ( of course)
That felt wonderful..
Most orgasms I am allowed to have over most of this year have been brought on by her using a magic wand while I stay locked in the device..*267* days now..
those two times I have had vaginal intercourse
(Such as it was) were the only occasions in the last seven years and over three years ago.
I am very happy to provide oral sex and give her pleasure in that fashion .when she has had as many orgasms as she desires if it is at nite ..i now kiss her feet and go to the spare bedroom to sleep..or if it is during the day generally we simply go about the rest our day ..
the first minutes of which I am still still as swollen in my cage and dripping slightly..
this seems to work just fine for her and because of that it also works wonderfully fir me..win win

We have a unique situation, after 10 years of what started out as me pnishing him for an extra-martial affair, after being married for 28 years. For a long time, I wanted noting to do with him sexually. I kept picturing the “other woman”. But as things evovled, with chastity for him eventually being a 24/7 requirement for us remanining married. Years later, as a reward, or when I was simply so horney for a “person” rather than a “thing” or my girlfreind’s tongue inside me, I would let him enter me, although with numbing cream and double-condom barriers to reduce his sensitivity, so that I could achieve my needs, while preventing him from his release. I can only emember 4 or 5 times over the last ten years where he was allowed to orgasim inside me. I have allowed him “inside: in his CB device, which pleases me, but totally frustrats dickie, and allows me only slight pleasure, but is a good warm up for oral via facesitting!!!

One thing that I tryly love about dickie….when giving oral with me on top, the end of his somewhat larger nose fits right into my g-spot while he works away with his tongue inside me. This is my fav…and I know it frustrates him as he is locked and i comment “that’s all the penetration I need from you,sissy!”

If and when Mistress does allow slave to “visit” her I’m required to wear a cock sheath. This serves two purposes: 1) I have absolutely no sensation so Mistress doesn’t have to worry about me cumming and she can go as long as she desires and 2) The sheath adds about 2 inches to my length and it’s quite a bit bigger around so Mistress gets that full and stretched feeling that she loves and wants.

His is concerned that I will keep him locked and forgotten. He acknowledges that he agreed to be completely submissive regarding sex and his penis but he still wants to have contact. He is worried about never being unlocked or never being allowed to cum. Also that I will cut him off from all sex.

So this is what I told him. I expect first and foremost that he will always be caged. No breaks unless and until I want him to be unlocked. I never want him to ask for it and if he does it will be a guaranteed no. However, he must trust that I will be aware of what is going on. For example, if he has a doctors appointment then we will go together and I will unlock him but he will never leave my side until it is locked back on. Air travel. This is a big concern but one I have decided will have to be dealt with. We went to a park recently where there were metal detectors and we were with friends.He began to get really nervous but I told him to just tell them he had piercings and it ended up being no big deal. So that is that. I don’t want to travel with a key simply because there is only one and I don’t want the chance for it to get lost. It stays at home. I know this may be an unpopular view here but if this is going to be what I want it to be, then we must learn to deal with some of these inconveniences. He is ok with that with some understandable reservations.

I promised him that so long as he continues to be good about this reset that he is going through that there would be some very very good rewards at the end. Think threesome. However there are conditions that I will go into at a later date.

He doesn’t want kids. I do. He wants to have orgasms (not chaste orgasms). I don’t want him to. I told him the following. So that we both have a choice here I will be willing to allow him an erect orgasm as long as it is inside me. I will not take the pill. We could have conceive so that will be the cost of getting what he wants and it will give me what I want. Once I conceive he will be locked until after the child is born and then if he wants to continue having orgasms there will always be the chance I get pregnant again. Otherwise we can have normal sex from time to time but he will not cum. So now he knows he has options and we both agreed to those terms. If he agrees to no orgasms, then his reward will be to have the opportunity to get what most men want but never will have. Me and my friend Jen (she is excited about this too by the way).

My main point is that I want him to have no orgasms. It turns me on. I would not have married him if this was a breaking point in our relationship. Again, you guys don’t have our full story. Non of this is non-consensual. That type of thing is non sense. The only reason he is pierced and in the cage in the first place is because he agreed to what I want. He knew coming into this relationship what I was going to be doing to him and to date it has worked for us.

I have been with my boy together more than 3 years now. We are both young (24 and 23) and we are still not married although we live together. I keep him denied from the beginning of our relationship. He had started to wear chastity device few months later and last two years he is locked 24/7. I have never allowed sex with me nor any masturbation. He is technically still virgin. I know it may sounds odd to someone. But it doesn’t mean I ignore him. It doesn’t mean I do not share intimacy with him. Quite contrary. I think it deepens our relationship. Even if there is no sex in the narrow sense of word there is a lot of intimacy, love and passion.

A btw I want to keep his virginity till our wedding night and it would be first time I will allow him experience orgasm with me.

I want to share my plan for him right now. I have revoked his rights to anything sexual with me. I will not allow him to see me undressed, nor will he be allowed to touch me during this period of chastity. With his new cage, one that is real, I want to take our relationship to a deeper level. One where he fully understands his place as a submissive man. I am not doing this to be mean to him but rather to reset him so to speak.

I love my husband and how submissive he is but I want to get him to a point where even touching me is precious and not taken for granted. I want him to feel overwhelmed with just grabbing my ass or licking me. I want that for him to feel like having sex.

As of right now I have no idea when I will begin to allow him to touch me, see me undressed, or lick me, but it will be a fairly long time of abstinence before that happens. A while longer still before the cage comes off to reward him for being good. And by being good, I mean he doesn’t ask, doesn’t hint period. It means leaving everything regarding sex to be completely up to me. He has been locked now since Valentines day and I think it will be at least two more months. We will see.

Now all that said, we still kiss. I hold his hand when we go for our evening walk in the neighborhood. We talk. We laugh. But of his hand wanders then it gets stopped.

My wife instituted a policy such as this early on in our D/S journey.

Although I was never allowed to ask for release (of either kind, from lockup or denial), I would often be grabby, or drop comments… or in general, ‘pressure’ her.

It is obvious why – denial breeds libido, and direct proximity to our beautiful, perfect, nigh-divine goddesses makes every individual hormone molecule stand up and say “that one, now”.

My wife found it annoying, irritating, but worst of all felt that when I was grabby and pushy that any action she took soon after that felt less as though it was her own, and more as though it was in response to my actions – which is directly antithetical to the D/S relationship. It is highly similar to ‘topping from the bottom’ to borrow from another part of the kink constellation.

Such a policy was extremely difficult for me to follow, and I still have lapses. It is un-learning an entire lifetime of arousal responses, and it isn’t easy.

Her decision in this regard was undoubtedly an excellent one, and was very good for our relationship.

That being said, my advice is to be strict about this. It is a deeply ingrained habit, instinct, and behavior in males of western society that when you’re aroused and close to your committed other, the correct outlet is to express it in physical and verbal fashions. We’re told that women <like> this because it makes them feel sexy (and I don’t doubt it does!). But, it isn’t proper when our wonderful keyholders tell us to put a lid on it.

So, I think it is an excellent thing, but on behalf of your husband, please be forgiving.

Again this is what you want as a man. I don’t want him teased right now. I want him focused on my needs, my wants, not his own. It is interesting that a lot of guys here want denial yet when they get it in a way that does not suit them then all of the sudden the wife or keyholder is doing it wrong. Chastity for us is about my control not his. If I choose not to give him sexual stimulation in any way for a time, as a keyholder don’t I have that right? Of course I know what he wants but I want him to know the difference between want and need. And since I never said that his total abstinence is permanent, I think my requests for it for a time is reasonable.

The device came out and I pledged to her that we would do this HER way from now on. We found the exercise of conception actually a bit enjoyable this time as I became nothing more than a stud or sperm donor unlocked to produce my seed when needed…unlocked before heading to the clinic wearing pantyhose or thigh highs provided by her to go produce my seed carrying a pair of her sexy day worn panties in a little silk bag for me to inhale their sweet aroma while mastutbating into the sample cup. Our restart began here. This is where it became “allaboutHer”. Rubbing her swollen, aching feet and back daily during her pregnancy, keeping her toes and feet looking perfect…and me locked with nothing in return except for the privelage of touching her and serving her…and it has pretty much stayed that way ever since. She now happily wears a key charm around her neck and has embraced this. It is not what I planned or expected. I never expected only 2 orgasms in the last 3 years. I did not expect to be sleeping in pantyhose and night shirts 2-3 nights a week. I did not expect to be a supplement to a vibrator and I did not expect to find myself craving my anal plug harness while we ” have sex” (pubic bone to pubic bone grinding like lesbians where she has quaking orgasms and I hold her closely and merely leak and clench on the plug harnessed inside me). It is all very different than I planned….but SHE is happy, and that makes ME happy.

My husband has made it to his 3rd month being locked up. I gave him a choice of either fucking my friend and then being on lock down another month or remain locked and participate in a threesome with us and have the opportunity to play with us often. He chose the latter. His cock remains locked. I am actually very surprised at his choice. He has been dying for a release but with the choices before him he choice to have sexual relations instead of complete sexual sustenance. Albeit it is sex without the possibility of an erection.

We both fucked each other with our strapons and then straped one on him over his cage. That was amazing. Fucking him while he was locked! He was moaning and straining so hard. We even allowed him to see our bodies as we fucked him. Something he has not been allowed to see when we had sex in the past because I would blind fold him. I am looking forward to the rest of the month.

I have to say that I am extremely proud of my Husband. He has now been in continuous chastity for six months. He has not had an orgasm in 7 months. We have had some rough patches but I guided him through with a heavy yet loving hand. Over the past few months following three months of complete abstinence I rewarded him with the ability to satisfy my friend Jen and I often and he is taking to his role nicely. He longs for the day when he will be allowed to enter us uncaged and today is that day. He has been reluctant at times but has been learning to take our strapons in our effort to learn how to make him cum while cage. This has not happened yet, mostly because he is still struggling with the idea of being taken that way. However, he has admitted that it is starting to be very pleasurable. We have started out very slow and small with him and have been working up to a nice size. Someday soon I hope he will be able to cum since that is the only way we will allow it. He has told me how nice it is to feel our skin on him and that is what has carried him through. It is very intimate.

Because he has shown his devotion to me through his submission I am going to give him the reward of a lifetime. Tonight when he gets home he will have two hot ladies who will tie him up, uncage his beautiful member and have sex with him until he has had enough. Then it will be back in his cage. The other reward he will get and we will tell him tonight, is that from now on as long as he is good, we will unlock him at least once a month for him to experience vaginal intercourse.

He has a couple of rules he must follow. 1. He is not permitted to get close to orgasm. Therefore he must communicate with us on were he is at. 2. He will have his anus plugged. 3. He will return to chastity when we are done. And finally he is still never permitted to ask to be released.

He is never allowed to orgasm unless he can do so in his cage. Which he can’t. Not a real orgasm anyway. We have tried. However, he is getting very close through anal stimulation which is the way I want him to orgasm.