Defining the philosophy of Female Dominance, conducting a female led relationship in public and allowing a man achieve complete peace within himself through dedicated service to a woman continue to be the cornerstones of our relationship.

When our conversation touched on the ending of a FLR relationship, she was quite clear about it. Anything less that total obedience from a submissive male under her leadership could only have one result -There’s the door.
We talked about the necessity to maintain the purity of a FLR whilst in public. Lady Christine, however, was adamant that a FLR should remain robust and healthy whilst in public regardless of who we were with, and over time she would train me in ways to accomplish this.

“It’s not a true Female Led Relationship until it can function smoothly wherever the woman takes him,” she explained. “If he is properly attentive to her, he will be able to serve and obey her with grace and dignity absolutely anywhere in public.”

She will now happily let me know, for all present to hear, that I may be allowed just the one glass of wine tonight, that she has decided it’s time for us to leave or that I am to take care of the bill. I, of course, am required to obey immediately, politely and without a murmur of dissent.

Why should it be shameful or shocking to see a women tell her male to hold her packages or order her male to pay the bill and wait in the car while she does more business with a women colleague. FLR relationships should not be hidden in the home any more.

Women have become the main decision makers within marriages as more and more women are in charge of the checkbooks and the bank accounts. Women are becoming the main breadwinners in many families, and even in families where the husband has a higher income it is the wife who makes the financial decision.

I often tease my husband that sex was designed for the woman’s pleasure, not the man’s pleasure, and the male orgasm can never measure up to the intensity and pleasure of a woman’s orgasm(s) once she comes into her sexual prime.

After all, submission is really about servitude and worship, and servitude and worship, when broken down, are about intimacy, adoration and romance.

I love what we do in the bedroom as much as he does, if not more, because our motto is “sex is for the woman’s pleasure”. Sex has become all about my pleasure and a man who learns how to focus on a woman’s pleasure is a man you always want to have around.

The different punishments I’ve used are corner time, spanking (which involves the strap or paddle) being made to wear panties, pegging and mouth soaping.

My wife has been spanking me in front of her sister once or twice a year and it has had a dramatic influence on the number of times she has to spank me. I absolutely hate the ritual of being striped and spanked to tears in front of her and knowing she is probably giving her husband (my brother in law) all the details. Making Bob take it in front of a witness is probably the ultimate proof that you are in charge.

After months of threatening to spank me in front of a witness my wife chose to make her point by asking her sister if there was somewhere we she could take me to “adjust my attitude”. I don’t know if she had had the discussion with her in advance but my sister in law looked surprised when my wife took her hair brush from her purse and led me to the room her sister pointed to. I began to object when we were alone and she asked if I wanted her to call her sister to watch. I immediately decided that I didn’t want that and she really did adjust my attitude. I was really embarrassed when we returned my sister in law said” very interesting ” as I apologized . I know next time she will watch

My wife paddles me on a regular basis with a Spencer Paddle.

She prefers me restrained on the bed face down so I set up the bed so she can use eye bolts in all four corners and leather cuffs. She can secure me tight so I cannot move or get away.

She likes me gagged so I cannot complain or if I do the noise is muffled. She always selects a pair of panties from her hamper and uses a piece of duct tape to hold them in place.

My husband has been paddled, flogged, caned or strapped for a number of years (and, previously, by his late wife). The frequency of such treatment varies according to his behavior, but he ‘gets it’ at least once a week. Every so often, however, he is subjected to a “disciplinary week” during which he will get spanked once or twice every day – and he is also liable to get more than his share when we are on vacation.

When I married him, he had already been well ‘trained’ by his first wife (who was a good friend of mine), and I had watched her spanking him on a few occasions. Accordingly, I already knew that he not only accepted, but also – in a manner of speaking – ‘enjoyed’ being disciplined. Of course, he also feels the pain

Jen is actually a stricter disciplinarian than N. (my late wife). She claims that the skin on my backside has grown thicker from years of repeated (and frequent) chastising, and that she needs to paddle or flog me harder to ‘get the message across’…

I found that he often apologized somewhat flippantly for something he’d done, not because he was genuinely sorry, but because he knew I was upset about it. In turn, I accepted his apology, but silently held on to resentment for whatever it was. When I wasn’t angry with something he’d done, but hurt, he often told me that he wished that there was something he could do to demonstrate how sorry he was, even though I had accepted his apology. I suggested that we institute a punishment system – something that was pretty uncomfortable for him, and that would require him to submit to me and humble himself to apologize. After he had accepted and I had delivered whatever it was, he could feel forgiven, and I could feel that he was genuinely sorry.

In cases where I am upset with something he’s done, I will wait until we’ve calmed down and let him know that I feel a punishment would be appropriate for his behavior. Enjoyment is the last thing on his mind during a genuine punishment. Part of keeping those two worlds separate is fairly simple… We have one spanking implement used for punishment only, and one anal toy used for punishment only, stored in a separate place from everything else. That helps keep the mindset on discipline and not erotic activities for both of us.

I believe punishment should be sufficiently painful to correct behavior, but I don’t believe it should be administered cruelly, or with anything but love. It can be very hard, especially when it is a more severe one and I can see that it’s causing him pain. I have spanked him to tears on a number of occasions, and I believe strongly in holding, comforting, and ensuring that he knows he is forgiven afterward. I don’t “peg” him per se (we’ve found it’s simply too much for him) but I’ve modified the punishment in such a way that I’ll have him lie down, lie behind him, and insert it fully. After that I’ll hold him through what is inevitably a lot of squirming and wincing and pain, but eventually he reaches a point where the tears come, he is no longer resisting even though it hurts, and I am lying there with him in my arms, comforting and correcting at the same time. It takes an incredible amount of mutual trust and intimacy to punish someone that way and for the other person to submit to being punished that way, and I am grateful that we are able to share something like that… Afterward, I have laid with him for hours, him feeling completely forgiven and close to me and me having completely forgiving him and feeling close to him. Another benefit is that he is totally obedient and humble and begs to wait on me hand and foot, which I generously allow.

You recently finished up a punishment for Bob by pegging him and you got turned on. You had him lick you to orgasm after the pegging because you were very wet and you said you reached orgasm quickly. You also said that enjoyed having control over him during his spankings.

He should respect you all the time and I’m sure he does but if you start giving him what he needs (spanking) then he will learn to respect you even more or pay the price.

In closing, this is my summery, Women (yes with a capital) are rising in power, we as males are losing power, society will become more Female centric, Women will increasing make rules that they feel are proper, and increasingly they will teach us how to follow those rules, and we will be better off for it.

I married a woman who wanted to control our finances and expected me to do a significant part of the house work.

my wife also keeps me locked in chastity and we both feel oral sex for her is our sex life, we both know my 30 second mess isn’t worth the clean up or attitude for a week so she has recently decided to keep me locked for a year with no orgasm
I hope I can make it lol

You’ve got it right when you say “permanent wooing mode” This has changed me chemically. I think it drives me even deeper into wooing mode having so much intercourse without ejaculation which is exactly where she wants me. There’s not an aspect of my life she doesn’t exercise control over. I never dreamed I would have a wife that would set my bed time or have to get permission to spend over $50, approval for a grocery list and produce a receipt for her inspection, permission to eat out for lunch, wipe her after she uses the bathroom.

Of course it helps no end if your partner is actively restricting access to her body; sometimes I am not even allowed to kiss, and must ask permission, which of course increases the value of a simple kiss a thousand fold.

I’m locked away in my chastity cage since my last orgasm, which means I haven’t grown more than 2.5 inches long in over a month. It will probably be at least another two weeks before it does grow long. I will likely have a half-dozen orgasms this year, maybe eight or even ten if I’m lucky.

Now that my slave is permanently locked into ‘The Helmet’ chastity device with the KTB I do not permit him to orgasm or achieve erection. He is milked once a month with my gloved finger.

A moment in the kitchen is sexual, a look, a smile, a text, a call, a card, flowers, a touch. These do not lead to sex, they are sex. When I stroke his back, when my hand rests on his leg, when my fingers run through his hair, we are having sex. When he sees the smile on my face as he cleans for me we are having sex. When I leave him doing dishes to go shopping, or scrap-booking we are having sex.

this slave simply wears a necklace with its Owner’s name, Sonia, an S charm dangling from its left pierced nipple and a slave tag engraved from Mistress’ chastity lock that reads “DOOMED FOREVER”.

simple little constant 24/7 reminders

24/7/364, now in my second year of this regime. Thats locked all the time, not removed for cleaning etc as its not necessary to remove with the Loris’#5.

Except for regular cleaning (Mistress supervises) I have been caged for over 3 years now.

Well – I’m not locked – He is!
Permanently! – and he loves it as well. As much as it terrifies him, as much does it turn him on and make him so humble and serving. Still get my penetration when needed, but he struggles! It has now been like 130 days, -and he is doing just fine. So is the tube his is captured in. Apart from a brief encounter with a summer-edition – a more open device during vacation – he is always totally deprived the ability to feel anything down there – because of the closed tube. Only when I want him to he can feel me. But that does not happen all that often.

And for “cleaning the pipes” and stuff – I do not really believe in that.
I have come to understand that his body will reabsorb his surplus production of semen, so really no need to go for milking and such. Haven seen any enlarged filled up scrotum because of the long denial.

And certainly no ruined orgasms either!

It might be so that he does not feel the greatest of pleasures by the hand of a ruin orgasm, ( but I would not really know – would I? – are men pulling our legs here??) – but he certainly had a quite notable change in his behavior after I tried it once. He was not on his toes, to the same degree as before. So – there will be none. Only some devious edging, when I feel like it..;-)

Remember – it is not about his needs!

He managed to convince me – way back – that the true energy in our take on the lifestyle was for him to trash his needs, and to focus entirely on mine. That was his wish, and so far he seems to enjoy tremendously that his wish has come true. And I am keeping him to his promise. I even feel I owe it to him, – to enforce the arrangement;-)
I pay him back for his sacrifice by denying him so intensively… He is not even allowed to kiss me or touch my body without permission. It is amusing to see him on his knees, groveling for the chance to cuddle or kiss me.

She is in charge. She controls the bedroom. She decides if I’ll be free for the night, or for a weekend day or not; not me. She checks to see if I’m locked. I don’t grope her. She determines how long my time in denial will last and I honor her authority by letting her know, “I’m getting close” or by refusing to self pleasure during those times I am free for the day. And through it all – all of those things, all of those feelings, all of those rituals, all of those spontaneous actions – reinforce the bigger picture – of her being in charge.

I have been married to my husband now for just over a year and wanted to let you know how things have been going since John and I discovered your site about 8 months ago.  He get a Prince Albert piercing and Guiche which could be locked together with a small padlock. We did this and it healed quite nicely and we finally got to the day when it would be locked together. Unbeknown to John however I had decided to go one better and had a stainless steel tube manufactured that was curved and had a slit at the top for his P.A. to fit through. It was plastic coated for cleanliness and only small enough for a flaccid penis to fit into. John would not be able to touch himself, have an erection or be able to urinate standing up again unless I wanted him to.

On the day I allowed him to be the aggressor in our lovemaking for the first time in a long time. That meant he was allowed to be on top and to penetrate me for a full 1 minute before he was made to withdraw.

“Firstly John” I smiled, “this arrangement will last at least a year during which you will not once feel orgasm.”
I explained that I was in complete control of his manhood and his sexual release forever.

I then explained that I was tired of him as a man and produced for him his first very own pair of panties. As his little cock was now securely tucked between his legs I explained he would no longer need male underwear. With the help of a sanitary pad (which he eventually would have to go out and buy himself) he looked quite feminine.

Over the first week until his milking he became quite horny and remarked at how it was difficult at times to think of anything other than release. He found it difficult to go to the toilet sitting down after having been able to stand all his life and was frustrated that the tube kept him limp all the time. I told him to get used to it as this was his life now. He was going to become a sissy maid for me and my pleasure was all he was going to live for.

I tried with my mouth for a bit and she informed me that wasn’t going to do it. She told me to get the key and I fucked her. In the end she did cum and I, of course, did not. I really wanted to though. Sometimes I enjoy the feeling of denial and happily pull out with a feeling of satisfaction. This wasn’t one of those times. I wanted to cum. I knew it wasn’t happening and I would regret it if I did, but that didn’t stop me from wanting it. An orgasm for me is 80% emotional ow.

Belle and I discussed several things afterwards. The first of which being her mental state with chastity. She doesn’t know when I will have my next orgasm and she no longer feels guilty making me go a long time. A “long time” is subjective anyway and since physically I don’t “need” an orgasm, time between them shouldn’t really matter.

A new device. We have been talking about a new device for a while. We will be buying one with our tax return. We have discussed a Steelheart as well as a Pet Trap. She said she is fine with either device but wants me to realize that with the Steelheart, I will have to go weeks without ANY stimulation since there are no holes in it like my Jailbird. It will not be a reason to be unlocked more frequently. This will take some thought. Not sure I’m ready to give up that aspect. Although the appeal to the Steelheart is that denial as well as denial of seeing my cock. It may be a little much for me. I told her that if this is the case, I will need even more mental stimulation.

1. It prevents him from masturbating. Male masturbation is a filthy habit. It’s addictive, selfish, and disrespectful to women. Chronic masturbation has the effect of substantially diminishing a man’s natural sexual desire for his wife of girlfriend. It unfortunately teaches him that his orgasm is primary, and hers is secondary…

2. Because he can’t even get an erection without her permission, it instantly changes the dynamics of the relationship…

3. It keeps his sexual focus and energy on his wife or girlfriend…

4. It will substantially increase his desire to orally service his wife or girlfriend…

5. If he’s never been an ass-eater, after having his penis locked up for a few weeks, he will be…

6. It serves as a constant reminder to him of her authority…

7. Because it makes his orgasms entirely dependent on her generosity, it positively incentives him to honor her, respect her, and motivates him to please…

8. It gives him the time and opportunity to substantially improve and perfect his oral skills…

9. It reinforces the idea that pussy is a precious gift that must be earned, and is to be savored and appreciated on those rare occasions when he does get it…

10. It teaches him that sexual activity with his wife or girlfriend doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with HIS penis…

11. It deepens his submission to her, and will cause him to worship the ground she walks on…

12. It will significantly improve his attitude, and make him more generous, caring, kind, respectful, and loving. It will help soften the sharper edges of his me-first masculinity. It will make him more of a listener than a talker…

13. It helps prepares him for the eventuality of anal penetration, and getting the strap-on. Because his penis isn’t being sexually stimulated, it has the effect of gradually turning other parts of his body into erogenous zones, particularly his anus and his prostate. With patience and persistence, he can be trained to orgasm from stimulation in that region via your finger, or the strap-on…

14. If his orgasms are consistently controlled and severely restricted, he will eventually get to the point where he will do just about anything to cum. You’ll be amazed by what he’ll do for you…

Note that there is no reason for the man to be erect during this process.  I rarely touch Evan’s penis during this procedure, and he doesn’t either.  Sometimes he gets hard, because if he hasn’t come in 1-3 weeks, he is excited about anything remotely sexual (and this definitely is sexual).  But I don’t touch his penis during the process.  It just dangles there, dripping.  It’s a beautiful thing to watch!

I usually milk Evan for about 5-8 minutes.  At this point, the drips have basically stopped.  Then I often turn the dildo so that it has the normal side up, and I peg Evan deeply for a couple more minutes, just because it’s fun for both of us to do this. I like it when he moans his adoration of me during all of this process.  Sometimes he will say “thank you, maam” every time I push deeply on his prostate or penetrate him.  It’s good to be appreciated.

Evan also tells me that he feels very submissive to me at this point, when I am massaging his prostate: apparently it’s when he feels most submissive to me.  He gets very quiet and subdued: not alpha male at all.  As you might imagine, I like this very much.

 We put a little dish or a cup below Evan’s penis during the milking process, to catch all the semen (the milk!).  Once the milking process is completed, I make sure that Evan drinks this down.

This time my wife has stepped and declared this is what she wants. In her words “I’m not letting this go. This is your life now. Get used to it. You may ejaculate and think your free periodically, but when you come back, I’ll be here waiting”.

I think it may be different this time because this time we’re practicing semen retention based on her feminist beliefs, and she is really anti male masturbation. She just thinks it’s a bad thing with all kind of bad consequences for me. It would be a major hitch in our relationship if I tried to back out as she’s not letting go of the semen retention thing. In her practice, the female orgasms as much as possible, and the male just doesn’t or does so very infrequently, or does so without ejaculating which I’ve heard can take years of training. It’ essential to her that the male retain sperm in order to devote himself to the female’s pleasure. She’ll do anything to make sure I achieve all the benefits of semen retention.

We, probably like most people, started out slowly and worked our way up to longer lockups. When the longer lockups started, during the first year she would allow me an orgasm if I was good. We were getting reacquainted with each other and our lives started to change for the better.

After the first year, she decided that I would only be allowed a ruined orgasm from now on. No more full orgasms and the long lockups continued. She has pushed me as far as 6 months without unlocking except for cleaning and only to get a ruined orgasm before being relocked for another 3 to 6 months. This went on for several years.

Last year, after having some numerous discussions about the original intent of sex as designed by God and pondering the reality that there is no real need for the male to orgasm except to procreate we both decided that near permanent orgasm denial for me would be best for the both of us. We will complete that first year next week. This time the lockup periods have been a little different. No less than 3 months, sometimes longer, but after a couple of them, she unlocked me for brief sessions of repeated serious edging and denial then locked me for another 3 months or so.

I haven’t had a full orgasm for longer than I can remember and haven’t had any kind of release in almost a year and will may never have one again. And guess what, I’m more than okay with that!
In fact, we both are.I would have my wife chime in but she is out with a friend shopping and I stayed home to get the house cleaned so she won’t have to.

Now that we understand that his orgasm was unneeded for my/our satisfaction we have all but eliminated them. The result is that he is in a near constant state of pursuit and I allow him to capture, pleasure me, and then continue with the pursuit until he captures me again.

We have settled on a Jailbird and have not looked for another since putting it on. He wears the device 24/7 probably 350 days out of the year with only a removing it for cleaning reasons before putting it back on after his shower. If you are getting 2-3 a month to her 12-15 that is a good start but I think that that is too many for you and she needs to cut back. Secondly, please make sure not to let this become just about the sex. Find other ways to pursue her and make her happy. My Ken seduces me by doing housework of my choosing.

It is simple. I don’t think he needs to be unlocked. His permanent chastity creates a peaceful atmosphere. It is wonderful.

You quoted exactly my wife’s words!

Yes, we are having a wonderful life since November 2014, when she sealed my cage. My wife has categorically stated that she is never ever going to unlock me. No discussions. To experience the pleasure of this kind, one needs to be locked permanently!

Over the last few years, She has increased the amount of time i spend in chastity to the point of Her current position. She has decided i will be in permanent chastity for this vary issue. She is tired of my continual obsession with Her property and the hassles that go along with the multitude of devices, keys, and my constant questions of Her “plans.”

The only thing She has said is that my chastity is permanent, but She will revisited the issue in two years if i remain compliant, non- questioning, and non- argumentative.

I am in permanent chastity 5 years because I can not satisfy my wife because of some sex.
I understand his decision and I respect it.
As I’m crazy about her, it is only my wife must have fun.

I introduced chastity lifestyle to my wife in April 2012
She not only liked it, but took it quite seriously
Till April 2014, we used to have PIV sex about once a week
However in April she decided that I should not be released even for sex
Last week, as usual she chained both my hands behind my back and blind folded me
Then she unlocked the padlock
Then to my surprise, she inserted thick steel wire in the locking hole and bent it with pliers
Then she applied waterproof epoxy adhesive and sealed the lock post
I was left chained for about 2 hours, till the adhesive cured
So now release is just not possible unless the locking post is cut with saw
No more sex

I have been locked in chastity for almost exactly 3 years now by my wife. She releases me for sex of one form or another about every 20-30 days. When released, my wife first locks a steel collar around my neck, to ensure that I lock my device on again afterwards. Oral sex for her is about twice weekly.

I find that there are times when I hate it and want to remove the device, but that is what the lock is for of course, for those particular moments. Then when I realize I cannot remove the device, I get that “controlled feeling”, and I am hooked again….every time.

I am told to kneel in front of her and she points to her boots/shoes/feet which is my signal to start kissing and licking.

After a while she will tell me to stop and asks, “Do you want to make me happy” to which i of course reply “yes”.

She then signals to me to continue with my foot worship, this goes on for an hour or more.

Eventually Mistress will stop me from worshiping her feet and ask again if i want to make her happy, “Yes Mistress”.

She will say “The reason you want to make me happy is so you will be released from chastity, correct ?”

“Yes Mistress”

“Good” she will say, “to make me very happy now i want you to beg me to let you remain in your CB for another week”

The reverse element.

I so want to be released, but i also want to make my beautiful Wife happy so i bow my head.

“Please Mistress, will you allow me to stay locked up for another week”

She then teases, “Sorry slave, i didn’t hear you” or “well if you really want to, i was going to let you out tonight and let you have sex with me, but if you really want to stay locked!!”

When my wife and I got into long term chastity a few years ago I
always wanted to masturbate and cum. Now Ive realized that I don’t
feel that way now. We agreed to stick to a few rules this time.

1. Only the wife can orgasm..I ejaculate without orgasm every 3 weeks
or so.

2. I cannot masturbate.

3. I am locked at all times when at home.

4. I cannot cum during sex..sex is only when the wife wants. Once she
has had her orgasm I must refrain from thrusting and let her slide me
out and re-lock me. I may not receive oral sex or manual stimulation
of my genitals. Essentially…my cock is now only for my wife’s
pleasure.

I to only view sex as something for my wife’s pleasure. On occasions I am allowed sex with her and only then allowed an orgasm. Over time I have found greater pleasure in pleasing my wife in whatever fashion she desires, than from any orgasm I am allowed.

Today – Valentines day, she has told me I am going to be locked up permanently, by which I mean that I shall no longer have ANY time out of the tube without her. I simply do not know if this means that she will give me release again and when I ask she does not give me an answer. I know that at the very least I shall be kept in chastity for possibly months, and I know I shall never be free to abuse again – EVER. I know she MEANS IT

I may mention we have recently got engaged so my married life will always be one of total chastity.

I just had my B-day several days ago. My wife/mistress has kept me locked up without any release for 50 days. My birthday came and she decided to tease me all day long. When it was time for bed, I satisfied her as always without question. Afterwards she just said good night and that was that

A happily married monogamous male, we decided in 2009 that penetrative sex for him was over due to her wishes. After realizing that a female dominant, male in chastity relationship would work best, we’ve enjoyed moving down the path of a female led marriage and pegging became our normal form of intercourse. She, of course, gets all the orgasms She wants and last year had well over 2,000 orgasms as fulfillment of a goal She set. While we won’t have that many this year, I will still have none (except anal orgasms which are quite different).

He bagan his pursuit of my affections by kissing my lips, my neck, my breasts all while his fingers worked their magic. I turned over and to allow him to kiss the back of my neck, which gives me chills everytime, down my spine, and attend to my rump. I then rolled onto my back and said we are ready for take off! I allowed him to slowly make his way over me and he paused to allow me time to guide him in. When I reached down between his legs I stopped just short before I kissed him one more time and asked him to be a dear and get his cage on.

I tried, I really did try to keep a straight face but the look on his was priceless!

When he asked me why I told him we always have your cage on when you are pleasuring me so you don’t have an accident silly. As he kneeled there looking dumbfounded I reminded him this is what he asked for so go put the cage on.
I told him of my plans, of my hope to show him this is not what he really wanted for a birthday, but at least I hoped he would find it inwardly enjoyable and memorable.

Then I handed his list of chores for the day. He seemed a little shocked

While he had to perform his usual chores he also was going to be putting our winter clothes in storage, weeding my flower beds, scrubbing my bathroom top to bottom, making sure the house was spotless for his birthday party that evening, making his birthday cake and going shopping with me in the afternoon.
After my shower I was going to swing by and see my mom for an hour before having lunch with a friend. I would return to pick him up so we could go shopping and buy me gifts with the money that normally would have been spent on his birthday. His expression of disappointment was not supported by what was happening in his pants.

She is kind and loving yet strong and in control of my physical pleasures. She requires me to wear a chastity device 24/7. I am denied the most privileged right a husband is allowed to have with his wife. Being able to make love to her, empting my load deep inside her, feeling her hot wet sweetness around my cock. What started out as a novelty of sorts has become a part of our everyday life. I am no longer allowed to feel the pleasures of driving my cock in her pussy. Now I have a plastic pussy 24/7. Being the smart guy I thought I was by suggesting that we purchase a chastity device for fun has certainly not turned out how I thought it would be.

Some where along the way it has turned into reality. Now I am locked up all the time never getting any release. I have come to realize how much she does love me by denying me my right as a husband. She has created a focus in me to please her much more overall, body rubs, feet massages. Catering to her needs at all times. She tells me that by not being able to have her is the strongest display of my love and commitment.

I go to bed every night with my balls on fire and my cock aching to get out, knowing what I want so badly is just inches away. Knowing that if she would unlock me and allow me to slide my sexually denied cock in her would be the most incredible feeling of relief EVER!! She knows that I am a submissive Husband that needs control and discipline and should be handled this way, DENIED.

Now I have to wait for her when she feels like having sex. Pleasing her orally when she requests. Constantly wondering if this will be the day I can cum, either from her hands or inside her. I dream about her pussy everyday since she hardly ever lets me see it now. Everyday my aching balls remind me how luck I am to give her my love and be her husband.

So me and my wife recently decided to pursue a life of
permanent orgasm denial for me. I do not wear a chastity belt – I
don’t need one, the only thing I need to remain chaste is my desire for
her.

It has been 16 months since my last ever orgasm.

Benefits for her:

1) She can relax and enjoy sex free from any need for reciprocation

2) We can both have total focus on her pleasure

3) Total devotion to her pleasure means we get more experience at pleasing her

4) More experience at pleasuring her means we get better at it all the time

5) Sex is never ended by premature ejaculation

6) We can always practice activities that she finds most enjoyable

7) There is no messy ejaculation to deal with

8) I never dissipate my sexual energy through orgasm and give it all to her

9) My total devotion to her carries over outside of the bedroom

10) She can get any type of massage or sexual pleasure anytime she wants

11) She can have multiple orgasms for as long as she wants

12) She can now have orgasms that last many minutes

13) She has a permanently aroused partner who will do anything she wants

“Be careful what you ask for it just might come true”,My wife.Mistress says their will never be a day of complete freedom for me again,everyday she loves it MORE.

After I posted that my wife wanted me in permanent chastity and no longer wanted me to screw her again I begged her to reconsider and that I would do anything. Well, I did something I thought I’d never do and never want to do it again. I’m not sure whey she wanted to do what me did but I’ really ashamed of myself.

She said I could f*ck her one last time on the condition that I eat all the sperm I deposit in her pussy. I refused and said this is a bunch of BS and I’m not going to lick my spunk out of her freshly screwed vagina.

Well, two days later I couldn’t take it anymore and I asked her again but again she came up with the same conditions. She began rubbing my locked and diapered pee pee (that’s what she calls it) saying come on honey it won’t be that bad and I’d like your little pee pee inside me one more time so that I really know I won’t be missing anything.

That was all I could take and I agreed. She unlocked me and I came in less two minutes. Her pussy was all full of my load which was surprisingly pretty big. I looked at it but could not bring myself to put my face there, but she just calmly and sweetly urged me to complete my task. I told her that i couldn’t do it and she got more demanding.”Look she said, since you can’t f*ck you must be good at something”. “So from now on you can be a clean up boy, she replied.” “You can lick my pussy after I go to the bathroom and I’m sure I’ll think of some other uses for you.”

I felt that familiar sting of a big plug being stuffed in with minimal lube and then the torture began. She started cursing and whipping the shit out of my ass and talking about what a poor sub I was and that the reason she liked me locked up was because I was to small to please her anyway. She must have lashed me 35-40 times, it was absolutely crazy and super humiliating, I honestly felt ashamed…wow.

She then unhooked my nipple chains from the wall hook and turned me around I could hear the chains jingle and she spread my legs and using our spreader bar, and told me to stand still and that she would be back in a moment, she came back in and was talking to me sweetly asking me several yes /no questions that I was to knod my head to answer.

She asked me those humilliating dom / sub questions.. like do you have a small dick, do you like it when I fuck you with a strap-on and so on… She then asked if I like cock and ball punnishment, I knodded and BOOM she kick me in the nuts with CB on and all, It immediatly bent over , not realizing that my locked nips were still attached to something, it hurt so bad, that something clicked in my head and I started to cry with the gag in my mouth, still hooked to something by my nipples, balls aching, and spread out, I reached for my poor boys and then BOOM, she kicked me again and yelled, “dont touch my nuts or I will kick them again” I stood there wimpering in horrible pain, I could feel the tears and slobber from the gag making the hood wet

Male orgasm denial reactivated men’s natural need to satisfy his wife. The abolition of male full orgasm is the best option. This should not be done at the beginning. Timing is the key for everything.
Orgasm denial activates men’s need to satisfy his wife in many ways. The wife should allow him to satisfy that need.

I love penetrative sex. My husband and I have sex once a week. Emla cream and condom reduced sensitivity of his penis. We both enjoy sex without fear that he will have an orgasm.

Long orgasm denial and elimination of his full orgasm. done so that he has a strong mental orgasm while pleases me. It’s wonderful and that is why we feel great.

With us, my wife likes most of all penetrative sex though I am not allowed to orgasm. I learned a couple of years ago to not orgasm physically so I fulfill her needs and desires. I last as long as she wants and derive my pleasure from hers. I no longer want to orgasm. I don’t want to lose that “high’ I have for her. She believes in long term orgasm denial for me, believing it makes me a better husband. Who am I to argue, I believe it too!

Donna permitted my release last Sunday evening in a very wonderful and exciting lovemaking session, but to some very strange results. I was on an intense high for the rest of the night, and slept beautifully. The feeling was heavenly. The next day I acted like a moron. I was lackadaisical in preparing breakfast and serving Donna, and I was slow to respond to her requests. I didn’t treat her with the love and deference that I normally do

We have attempted to engage in intercourse without Ken having an orgasm but we still struggle in that arena. We either end in disaster (orgasm for him) or we seem to just get started when he needs to stop which is very frustrating.

I have my man search and pick a sheath that fits over his cock. I love the feeling of being gaped and full and he has come to love being inside me and pumping away if only to be able to slightly feel the warmth. And I sometimes have him take a before and after picture…wonderful. He does all the work and I get the rewards. After,,, he has to slowly and gently lick my swollen and stretched lips.

You are not alone with the feelings of guilt and wondering if you really want to cum. Mistress Rita is very strict with my cum privileges and i’m only allowed a maximum of 3 ruined orgasms PER YEAR. Your partner is actually quite generous letting you cum every two months or so.

my husband leaks all the time>he has to lick alot of it if he gets it on me >everytime he give me massages he leaks and then licks it.after a couple of months without coming i have actually seen some white fluid leak out due to his balls being so full and keeping him aroused and denied and it is very very humiliating for him while it is me and his penis is soft and locked up

We both knew that we needed to have a frank discussion about intercourse but I decided that I would initiate that discussion on my timetable. I wanted the feelings associated with his recent failed attempt at intercourse to be fresh but also wanted the discussion when his hormones had him in full on pursuit mode. When I considered what I was going to propose, that our relationship would be better if we were not burdened with his need for intercourse, I wanted things to be just right.

“What is the purpose of us having intercourse?” “How does it help us?” Then I waited for his response.

He seemed genuinely caught off guard by my question. He had no way to know I was just getting started.
After a surprisingly long wait to hear the answer to a pretty simple question he replied
HIM: “Because it feels good”.
ME: “Is that what it has come to? We do whatever feels good?” Not giving him a chance to reply, I fired again “How do you feel when it is all over?”
HIM: “After a few minutes I feel let-down, almost sad”
ME: “How long does that last?”
HIM “Sometimes a couple of days”
ME: “Does something seem wrong with this picture? You have a momentary experience that you feel bad about for up to a couple of days”

I could tell by his body language that this was not going well but I refused to give up.

ME: “Us females can have fun without all the mess that a guy makes when he orgasms, why do you think that is?” Because that nature was designed to be very purposeful, can you tell me the purpose of a man’s ejaculation if reproduction is not the goal?”

The early church saw that the singular purpose of intercourse was pro-creation. It was considered a misuse of sex for it to be simply for sexual pleasure of the male. A wife was made with the ability to have many orgasms because that is what God wanted. Her orgasms were to be for their pleasure. The only reason for his orgasm is to make babies. To ejaculate his seed into his wife when children are not the goal is wrong. Worse, to be so callous as to have intercourse knowing full well that their is no intention to bear children angers God. I could tell he wasn’t happy but I was unrelenting. I get that way when I am right.

It is the role of the wife, the helpmeet, to steer her husband in the right direction and that begins with saying no to intercourse unless trying to have children. Wives shouldn’t replicate that mistake by allowing recreational intercourse.

That God designed a woman to have far more orgasms than her husband and their sole purpose is to bring her and her husband pleasure is a given.
A Godly husband will cast aside his carnal desire for intercourse and give his efforts for his wife’s pleasure.  Her orgasm was designed for them both.

The husband should get to a point that his ‘only’ pleasure is through the wife’s pleasure! It should be clear that his ‘finishing’ is NOT a source of pleasure that he should look forward too.
Therefore; HE is not expecting to ‘finish’, ever. He is totally satisfied by pleasuring her. Her orgasms IS his orgasms as well!
And therefore; there is no reason to unlock him (other then cleaning & comfort)

It’s just that his pleasure does not come from his ejaculation. His pleasure is: serving her with the utmost devotion and -when she is in the mood- giving her heavenly orgasms with whatever ‘tools’ she wants, which is obviously not his penis.

But….. I hope for his sake that at some point SHE has the desire that HE should have a full orgasm.
But that’s for her to decide, not for him.