She is in charge. She controls the bedroom. She decides if I’ll be free for the night, or for a weekend day or not; not me. She checks to see if I’m locked. I don’t grope her. She determines how long my time in denial will last and I honor her authority by letting her know, “I’m getting close” or by refusing to self pleasure during those times I am free for the day. And through it all – all of those things, all of those feelings, all of those rituals, all of those spontaneous actions – reinforce the bigger picture – of her being in charge.
I have been married to my husband now for just over a year and wanted to let you know how things have been going since John and I discovered your site about 8 months ago. He get a Prince Albert piercing and Guiche which could be locked together with a small padlock. We did this and it healed quite nicely and we finally got to the day when it would be locked together. Unbeknown to John however I had decided to go one better and had a stainless steel tube manufactured that was curved and had a slit at the top for his P.A. to fit through. It was plastic coated for cleanliness and only small enough for a flaccid penis to fit into. John would not be able to touch himself, have an erection or be able to urinate standing up again unless I wanted him to.
On the day I allowed him to be the aggressor in our lovemaking for the first time in a long time. That meant he was allowed to be on top and to penetrate me for a full 1 minute before he was made to withdraw.
“Firstly John” I smiled, “this arrangement will last at least a year during which you will not once feel orgasm.”
I explained that I was in complete control of his manhood and his sexual release forever.
I then explained that I was tired of him as a man and produced for him his first very own pair of panties. As his little cock was now securely tucked between his legs I explained he would no longer need male underwear. With the help of a sanitary pad (which he eventually would have to go out and buy himself) he looked quite feminine.
Over the first week until his milking he became quite horny and remarked at how it was difficult at times to think of anything other than release. He found it difficult to go to the toilet sitting down after having been able to stand all his life and was frustrated that the tube kept him limp all the time. I told him to get used to it as this was his life now. He was going to become a sissy maid for me and my pleasure was all he was going to live for.
I tried with my mouth for a bit and she informed me that wasn’t going to do it. She told me to get the key and I fucked her. In the end she did cum and I, of course, did not. I really wanted to though. Sometimes I enjoy the feeling of denial and happily pull out with a feeling of satisfaction. This wasn’t one of those times. I wanted to cum. I knew it wasn’t happening and I would regret it if I did, but that didn’t stop me from wanting it. An orgasm for me is 80% emotional ow.
Belle and I discussed several things afterwards. The first of which being her mental state with chastity. She doesn’t know when I will have my next orgasm and she no longer feels guilty making me go a long time. A “long time” is subjective anyway and since physically I don’t “need” an orgasm, time between them shouldn’t really matter.
A new device. We have been talking about a new device for a while. We will be buying one with our tax return. We have discussed a Steelheart as well as a Pet Trap. She said she is fine with either device but wants me to realize that with the Steelheart, I will have to go weeks without ANY stimulation since there are no holes in it like my Jailbird. It will not be a reason to be unlocked more frequently. This will take some thought. Not sure I’m ready to give up that aspect. Although the appeal to the Steelheart is that denial as well as denial of seeing my cock. It may be a little much for me. I told her that if this is the case, I will need even more mental stimulation.
1. It prevents him from masturbating. Male masturbation is a filthy habit. It’s addictive, selfish, and disrespectful to women. Chronic masturbation has the effect of substantially diminishing a man’s natural sexual desire for his wife of girlfriend. It unfortunately teaches him that his orgasm is primary, and hers is secondary…
2. Because he can’t even get an erection without her permission, it instantly changes the dynamics of the relationship…
3. It keeps his sexual focus and energy on his wife or girlfriend…
4. It will substantially increase his desire to orally service his wife or girlfriend…
5. If he’s never been an ass-eater, after having his penis locked up for a few weeks, he will be…
6. It serves as a constant reminder to him of her authority…
7. Because it makes his orgasms entirely dependent on her generosity, it positively incentives him to honor her, respect her, and motivates him to please…
8. It gives him the time and opportunity to substantially improve and perfect his oral skills…
9. It reinforces the idea that pussy is a precious gift that must be earned, and is to be savored and appreciated on those rare occasions when he does get it…
10. It teaches him that sexual activity with his wife or girlfriend doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with HIS penis…
11. It deepens his submission to her, and will cause him to worship the ground she walks on…
12. It will significantly improve his attitude, and make him more generous, caring, kind, respectful, and loving. It will help soften the sharper edges of his me-first masculinity. It will make him more of a listener than a talker…
13. It helps prepares him for the eventuality of anal penetration, and getting the strap-on. Because his penis isn’t being sexually stimulated, it has the effect of gradually turning other parts of his body into erogenous zones, particularly his anus and his prostate. With patience and persistence, he can be trained to orgasm from stimulation in that region via your finger, or the strap-on…
14. If his orgasms are consistently controlled and severely restricted, he will eventually get to the point where he will do just about anything to cum. You’ll be amazed by what he’ll do for you…
Note that there is no reason for the man to be erect during this process. I rarely touch Evan’s penis during this procedure, and he doesn’t either. Sometimes he gets hard, because if he hasn’t come in 1-3 weeks, he is excited about anything remotely sexual (and this definitely is sexual). But I don’t touch his penis during the process. It just dangles there, dripping. It’s a beautiful thing to watch!
I usually milk Evan for about 5-8 minutes. At this point, the drips have basically stopped. Then I often turn the dildo so that it has the normal side up, and I peg Evan deeply for a couple more minutes, just because it’s fun for both of us to do this. I like it when he moans his adoration of me during all of this process. Sometimes he will say “thank you, maam” every time I push deeply on his prostate or penetrate him. It’s good to be appreciated.
Evan also tells me that he feels very submissive to me at this point, when I am massaging his prostate: apparently it’s when he feels most submissive to me. He gets very quiet and subdued: not alpha male at all. As you might imagine, I like this very much.
We put a little dish or a cup below Evan’s penis during the milking process, to catch all the semen (the milk!). Once the milking process is completed, I make sure that Evan drinks this down.