it look revolting I said what a good idea, I turned to Fanny and said look how much Mistress Jean could save me on your food bills, we will try this out for a week and see how much swill we have to feed you and then adjust your weekly allowance for food down to may half that would leave me more to spoil myself, do you agree Fanny, he said yes I wish you to have extra to spoil yourself thank you Madam, we could not stop laughing.

As I went to toilet I started to fart I got Fanny to come into the toilet with me we both looked at toilet and saw his dinner floating in piss and toilet tissue, I thought for a second and said put your nose to my ass and I let a really loud and smelly fart in his face, I asked him if he was OK with me shitting on his food and of course I have him trained not to displease me he said it would be a pleasure and honour to serve Madam in what ever way she chooses, but I could hold no longer hold the shit so I sat down on the toilet, when I got up all was covered in shit I got Fanny to wipe me, as I walked out Fanny I said you are in for a real teat tonight, get back in the hall and wait further orders, back in the relax room I told Jean what I done and she said no problem, make him take his food out and clean off the shit and put in his bowl and then he can eat it, we keep him waiting for nearly another hour before I told him he could clean off the shit and put the food in his doggy bowel and eat then go to bed as his service was no longer required, by now he had stood for nearly 3 hours in his 2’’ heels waiting to eat his cold soggy and now very dirty dinner.

After a few years like this I decided to married Brian or as I call him now Fanny only because of his wealth as he is not very good looking and is no good in the sex department, he has a little cock about 4 inches, but I told him that I would marry him if he became my full time servile slave, he agreed and we signed a contract that I would own everything and he would be my slave.

Fanny’s living quarters are of course in the basement, there are two rooms in the basement one is large room directly under my TV and relax room and also under my gym the other is a small room off the large room that would have been the coal store it had a opening from the outside where the coal was delivered but this was now fully closed up, the room has no windows and is only about 8 ft x 10ft, he has a small radiator, an old steel frame bed that we found in the attic and a old wooden commode that serves as a seat and his toilet, the toilet bucket can be lifted out to empty, he has to empty his toilet bucket down a manhole in the yard, he is not allowed to use any of the toilets or bathrooms. He keeps himself clean by bringing down buckets of water from the laundry room and has to wash himself this way. I insist on this to ensure that he fully understands that he is a servant and he must live his life like a servant /slave. I have a call system one part he wears round his balls and the other I have hand held so when I require him I press the button and he gets a shock

He is on call day or night, and to keep him on his toes, if I happen to wake in the middle of the night I press the button a few times and he will come running, I allow him maximum of five minutes to be at my side, I sometimes in the night make him attend me as a toilet, this I know he get a thrill from me pissing in his mouth.

The rule is for every minute he is late over five minutes he gets ten lashes. If I am felling wicked I will sometime go to my bedroom and lock the door while he hard at work then I press the button and because he is unable to get in through the locked door and keep him waiting for maybe five more minutes before I open the door, this means I have the right to give him 50 lashed because he was not by my side, after I whip him I feel so horny I make him lick me until I come and come, even I have left his ass and back in lumps and marks he is still grovelling at my feet and thanking me.

His clothing and food are provided by me and he does the shopping for food and supplies, I have a special credit card that he is co signer and he buys all my food, drink etc and I check the receipt to make sure he has not added anything for himself and each Sunday I give him £14 cash and he must use this to buy himself food and hygiene supplies for the week, my food bill is around £150 each week as I like the best. I know only £2per day is not a lot for him but he knows in the supermarkets he can buy the food that is just going out of date or I have instructed him to ask for any out of date food and tell them it is for his dog !!! he buys the supermarkets own brands also he gets to eat my leftovers. We he is cooking for me he must also cook his meals at the same time but on different pans, he has one old pot to cook his food in and I make him boil his meat food together with any vegetables so everything looks and tastes the same then he in a large dog bowl, he serves me and waits till I have finished and have dismissed him to clean up and that I require nothing more before he eats, so all the time he is eating cold soggy tasteless food.

Sophia’s control over him, Sophia removed her shirt slowly and then her bra. In street clothes she could appear slightly overweight, but naked, her cannonball sized breasts gave her a sexual power that was undeniable. Her nipples were tight and Billy just stared at her. She stood in front of him with her hands on her hips and smiled. He blushed again. She smiled and thought to herself that she had finally completely dominated a man. He would now be her sex toy, and she would never again have to pretend he had any say at all.

“It is time for sex, servant” she announced.

His eyes followed her to the dresser as she pulled out a translucent strawberry colored strap on dildo. Sophia faced Billy and strapped it on, tightening the straps. The strawberry cock now mimicked an erection and Billy knew what was next.

He was powerless now, though, a fact she was well aware of. He now understood the lubing was preparing him for this. He knew there was no masculinity left though so he put up absolutely no resistance.

Billy spread his legs as she knelt on the bed in front of him. The tits were closer now and he just stared up at them, his eyes dilated. Sophia knew he was now her complete slave, and her pussy was wet. She lifted his now smooth legs to either side and pressed the phallus to the edge of his anus.

Billy continued to stare up at her, his lips parted slightly and then his eyes widened as she entered him. Pleased that he offered no protest, Sophia whispered.

“Good little slut”

She pulled back the dildo and thrust a second time. Billy gasped as it took the breath out of him. With the third thrust his body completely relaxed. He moaned softly in a decidedly feminine way and tilted his head backward.

As she moved in and out he moaned softly, his masculinity gone. Sophia knew there was no escaping this moment and he could never look her in the eyes again without knowing what she had done to him.

It was important to her that she finish the process that night before he had any chance to reconsider his choices.

His cock was erect now, his sweat mixed with precome to give his shaved skin an oily sheen.

Billy looked up at her massive tits as she fucked him, mesmerized by her power. He didn’t dare touch them without permission.

“I like it when you moan like a woman, your shaved legs in the air. Your feminization pleases me.”

The Keyholder demand 

• You will learn the benefits of chastity, the enjoyment of orgasm control and the pleasure of handing over all rights to your penis.
• You will learn how to gain sexual fulfillment though bringing ME to orgasm and learn how your ass, mouth and other areas of your body can provide enjoyment despite not being able to cum.
• You will not speak of your penis or your orgasms. The penis belongs to me, and you simply don’t have orgasms until I choose otherwise. When asked, you will respond with how MY penis is doing while locked in the cage.
• You will learn to embrace your interest in chastity without complaint. You will not ask for release, or ask when you will be released. You will not like what happens if you complain or beg.

Not allowing him to orgasm during sex with you, and doing away with his unsupervised masturbation by putting him in chastity will result in your man always being focused on you. He will not be able to escape his need to give you fulfillment of every want and desire.

A helpful way to think of this is to think of his sexual satisfaction as a vacation away from you. Every time the male achieves orgasm his focus will move somewhere else for about a week. During this time he will be “on vacation” and will not be serving you to the best of his ability. With that in mind, you should consider how many weeks per year you want his attention to be on his own selfish desires.  As his boss, how many weeks of “vacation” should be granted.

One male orgasm per week translates to 52 weeks of “vacation” per year.
One male orgasm per month translates to 12 weeks of “vacation” per year.
One male orgasm per quarter translates to 4 weeks of “vacation” per year.
One male orgasm every six months translates to 2 weeks of “vacation” per year.
One male orgasm per year translates to 1 week of “vacation” per year.

Control the money! Husband gets no credit cards, no checks and no allowance. Husband wants something, you buy it, if you want. If you give him some cash for a specific purchase, he brings back the change and the receipt. After that is established any controls can added easily. Like keeping his car keys in your purse. I recommend not giving him a chore list, instead direct him to do each chore at the time you want it done. When you control the money it is easy to reward him with something he wants. It doesn’t have to be a big thing. for instance, a simple bottle of beer that he can’t get himself will become a much appreciated reward. If you control the finances then you are head of the house.

 Many wives actually:

• turn over their housework to their husbands in part or whole,
• take control of family finances informally or formally,
• direct sex toward their own satisfaction, and
• are courted by their husbands and treated like a Goddesss twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week

But once you have him in a chastity device you will notice a big change in his behavior and attitude. Not only does it enforce your management of his sexuality and prevent masturbation, it also represents a constant physical reminder of his submission to your authority. In a sense, it is a wedding ring around his penis.

I am totally obedient to my Mistress, but i confess that i am thrilled to do things for women in general. For example, one time my Mistress said she would “give” me for an afternoon to a friend who needed help with housework. Her friend is “vanilla,” so when she and Mistress spoke with one another, it was couched in different terms — she said I would be happy to help. Her friend was very grateful and maybe a little embarrassed to have me working in her house. She worked alongside me even though Mistress and i both urged her to rest while i worked — something she needed to do, because she had been experiencing a lot of stress. Anyway, I feel ashamed that i felt a small erotic twinge when, finally, she stretch out on a sofa as I was vacuuming the floor. There was no way i would act on such an impulse — i am not even allowed to do that with my Mistress, whom i literally worship and am devoted to — but i wonder if i’m wrong to have such feelings. I told my Mistress and she was not happy to hear it, but she did not punish me.

There is nothing wrong with a properly trained male serving women other than his wife. In fact I expect it from my husband without having to reminded him. As a male devoted to living under female authority and believing women should be put on a pedestal I would expect nothing less from him. As the situation allows he is always eager to show every woman the proper respect and obedience. All I’ve done during his training is to refine these desires of his. If I was to punish him for anything it would be for a moment of forgetfulness on his part. In which he passed up an opportunity to serve a woman, any woman.

And of course during any femdom situation where one or all of our lifestyle girlfriends are present. He will serve, obey and wait on the lady or ladies hand and foot. When our men serve other women it only helps to remind them of their training and their proper place. And they love it because being in the service of women is one of their greatest joys. After all, being free to openly serve women is exactly what they were denied for so long in their vanilla relationships. By encouraging this we as their mistresses reap the reward of having better and even more devoted servants at our feet

In our contract i am not allowed to keep secrets. Mistress knows i feel a sexual edge sometimes as i serve her and her girlfriends when they visit our house for dinner. I long for Mistress in those situations, and we both have fun with it later, and with the denial that inevitably follows.

The ad hoc sessions are  quick and to the point.  I will send him to the bedroom and he will get ready for discipline.  I walk in fully clothed and get him into position and start spanking.   It will go something like this: “Slave, don’t ever talk back to me like that,” (slap! slap! slap!). “I deserve more respect than that and am very displeased by you,” (slap! slap! slap!). “For your disobedience and disrespect you will get three more spanks and you will apologize after each one.”  (slap! ‘Sorry Mistress’, Slap! ‘Sorry Mistress’, Slap! ‘sorry mistress’).  ‘For the rest of the week you will come home immediately after work and do chores or tasks for me.  You are not permitted to do any other activities this week, got it?’ (Slap!).  ‘Yes Mistress.’   ‘Good’ (Slap!).  ‘We are done.’   He kneels down and kisses my feet and thanks me and promises to do better.

You will feel a more confident and natural authority over him and he will feel a natural submission towards you with a strong desire to obey and please you, which ultimately leads to a more fulfilling relationship for both of you. Be sure to set high expectations and be firm when your expectations are not met. We are Goddesses and deserve the best.

When we are apart from each other overnight I have a few ground rules for him and I usually also have a list of tasks for him to do. I do this because I want him to feel my presence and my authority even when I am not there. I want him focused on me. It also helps to keep him out of trouble. Even the most loyal husbands can stray when put into a tempting situation. Thomas has told me that he enjoys the rules and tasks that I give him. It keeps him from getting lonely and he enjoys staying focused on me and being under my control.

I expect the house to be spotless when I arrive back home and I expect to have a gift or flowers waiting for me when I arrive home (I am a Goddess after all). I will give him extra chores to do such as straightening up my shoes, re-folding my panty drawer, or organizing my closet. Since I am not there for him to serve, he should have plenty of time for these extra chores. I may require him to sleep in the extra room as a symbol that the master bedroom belongs to me and it is a privilege for him to share it with me. I will usually lock him in chastity when I am away.

Little time has been spent with my husband.  Despite this lack of attention to Thomas, he made my coffee every morning, kept up with his chores, and kept the house in order. He did everything possible to please me and even offered extra help knowing my busy schedule.  This dynamic is the essence of a FLR. FLR is not about whips and kinks that you see in the mainstream media.  The kinks certainly are a part of the FLR for many people, including myself, but they are only a small piece of the overall FLR.

The FLR is more about a lifestyle decision to accept the woman as the lead.  It is about the male embracing his obedience to his wife and striving to please her.

I focus on three things in the session: 1. Attitude, 2. How well he did his chores and normal expectation, and 3. How well he handled non-routine items. For attitude I am reviewing his attitude towards me. For chores and expectations I take into consideration whether or not he performed all his chores and routine expectations, were they completed timely, and did they meet my expectations. For non-routine items, I am reviewing how he handled himself with unexpected or random situations.  He obeys me and I am in charge of him but that does not mean I have to tell him how to handle everything.  He should anticipate what I want and do the right thing.

For every session he is spanked a minimum of 60 times.  It may be more than 60 but it will never be less. He knows this.  The intensity of each spank will vary depending on how good or bad his behavior was for the item I am speaking about. For good behavior, I will give a light playful spank with the riding crop and will usually reward him by rubbing it over his ass, thighs, and between his legs.  For things to improve on, he will be given a moderate spank and for disobedience or items that I am displeased with, he will receive a hard stinging spank (sometimes more than one).  I start off with good to moderate things and progress toward the moderate to disobedient items so that the spanks get progressively harder.

I start off with a general statement of how his behavior has been, which sets the tone for the discipline session.. It would be something like, ‘Slave, you have been very good and I am pleased with how you are serving or obeying me’ or Slave, you have done good serving and obeying me but there are things to improve on’ or ‘Slave, I am not pleased with your behavior.’  The statement is followed by the first slap of the riding crop.  The intensity of the slap depends on how good or bad Tom’s behavior has been. I purposely refer to him as slave and I try to emphasize his obedience and how it is pleasing or not pleasing me.  These little details help elevate my authority over him and push him deeper into submission.

The next two or three spanks relate to the three major areas I focus on, which are mentioned at the beginning of this section.  It will be something like, ‘your attitude has been very good,’ (slap with some rubbing), ‘You did an o.k. job with your chores, but we need to review a few things’  ( harder slap), and ‘my car oil light has been on for several days, you need to take care of that’ (slap).  The remaining three or four spanks can be used to expand on the general statements.  I will talk about what he needs to improve on for chores, or specific items that I am displeased with, or maybe things that I am happy with.

This part of the session varies depending on my mood and how good or bad his behavior is.  There will be spanking and rubbing as I talk through the different things.  As noted above, I may spank him more than 60 times.  I don’t necessarily make all the general statements first and then go into details.  For example, I will make a general statement about his attitude and then discuss the details about it before moving onto his chores.  However, if there is not much to talk about then I will just make the general attitude statement and move right onto chores.  If he had a bad week, I may jump right to all the things that require correction and punishment and not even talk about the other items.   If he really pissed me off, then he might get 60 or more hard spanks for the one item that pissed me off and then we are done.  If he has been exceptionally good, then it’s all playful spanks and rubbing. I may reserve the last few spanks for new future expectations and make the spanks a little harder to emphasize the importance of his obedience.  If he is in a position where I can reach his cock, sometimes I will hold it or his balls while I talk and spank, squeezing it at certain times to emphasize key points.

When I am done with the spanking, I will recap things that he has to improve on and make him repeat it.  I will issue punishments if needed.  Punishments can also be given during the session when the infraction is being discussed. and I may also spend a few minutes talking about expectations or new rules or chores for the upcoming week.  I have his undivided attention so it is a good time for this.  I usually end up adding a few more spanks while I talk about these things

When we are finished he stands up and I will pull up his panties Again, I think by me doing this it mentally elevates my authority over him adds to his submissive state.  Then he will kneel and kiss my feet and thank me for disciplining me. He will also tell me that he will continue to serve me as best he can and will improve (if applicable) on his performance.  He will do this every session, even if he is harshly disciplined.  It is important to leave the session on a positive note. He will remain kneeling until I dismiss him or give further direction.

Usually after the session I will either have him pamper me with a massage or pleasure me orally or both.  When I am sitting and he is kneeling before me it is just so easy to spread open my legs and push his head between them-I love that! I make it a rule not to touch him after a discipline session.  The focus is all on me.

I have teased him with the idea of never allowing him to have sex with me again.  His tongue and fingers can do wonders and is he even worthy of having sex with a Goddess? (I have asked him that question) lol. The idea of denying him this pleasure forever is exciting to me but I don’t think it I could do without it.  As it stands now, intercourse is a special privilege for him and I only allow that privilege on occasion.  He knows that he is lucky when I allow it and that as a submissive it is very special when he is allowed to put his sex inside a Goddess.  Most of the time he pleasures me orally.  When we do have intercourse, I usually do not allow him to orgasm. On a rare occasion I will allow it.  He actually gets a “rush” out of being used like this, where I have an orgasm and he his denied during sex. Frankly I could do without the mess so I enjoy it to.  Although I do allow intercourse occasionally, it is fun to put the idea in his head that one day I may choose to deny him this privilege forever.

I will tease his cock and tell him how hot and excited I am but that he is not allowed to have sex with me. I will tell him that I know how bad he wants it. This drives him wild and usually gets him begging. Then I go in for the kill.  I will get on top of him and rub my sex all around his cock, teasing him but not letting him in.  This drives him insane (and me too!).  Ultimately I end up on his face, making him lick me to an orgasm while he is denied.  This is so much fun for both of us and it has a lingering effect on him for days afterward.

I truly believe these statements leave a lasting imprint on a submissive’s mind and help keep them focused on serving and being obedient.  I encourage you to incorporate them into your relationship.  Every once in rare moment I have allowed Thomas to be on top. When it does happen, I might say something like, “well consider that a gift.  It won’t happen again.” or “You weren’t supposed to be on top.  You’ll be punished for that.”

Saying these types of things over and over again have a lasting impact on you submissive’s mind over time. For example, whenever you assign a new chore or task you could use “Starting now and lasting forever….”.  If he tells you how great it is serving you, then you can respond with “That’s great to hear.  This is how your life will always be, so I’m glad you enjoy it.”

• Endless pampering whenever you want
• No need to do laundry. That’s his job now.
• Kitchen cleaned & dishes washed and put away every night
• No more pumping gas
• Bills are paid every month. I don’t even think about them.
• Orgasms whenever I want, however I want and he expects nothing in return
• A play toy (him) to play with whenever I want
• Coffee ready for me every morning
• I have the final say in all matters and he knows this and agrees to it. He yields to my authority and decisions. This means arguments are practically non existent.
• He anticipates my needs and wants and strives to make me happy. This is huge!
• Gifts and flowers from him just because he appreciates me
• Open communication.  We talk about anything.
• I never have to clean a bathroom again.  Yea!
• My clothes are ironed every day
• I do what I want
• He does everything I tell him to do.

Giving appreciation is important for both the dominant and the submissive.  As the leader of the relationship I will thank Thomas when he has been good for me or if he does something thoughtful for me.  I believe this motivates him to serve me even more.  He does the same for me.  He will thank me if I do something special for him like buy his favorite snack or treat him to a special night of teasing.  What I love the most is when he pampers me and then later thanks me for allowing him to pamper me.  Talk about royal treatment!  There are many days where I ride him until I have an orgasm and there is no orgasm for him (in fact that happens most times).  He will thank me for that and tell me how great it was.  I find that incredible!

Rituals have other purposes as well.  A nice benefit of rituals is once a ritual is established, the submissive knows exactly what to do. The Dominant partner does not have to worry about giving commands (unless they are part of the ritual) or telling the submissive what to do.

We have a bath ritual that I just love.  With the kids being older it does not happen often, but when it does, Thomas knows exactly what to do and I can just relax and be pampered.  I just have to whisper to him, “get my bath ready.”  He immediately goes into action, lighting candles, running my bath water and adding bubble bath.  He brings an extra fluffy towel and my robe into the bathroom. He knows I like my bath water on the hot side.  He knows to shut the bathroom door so the room is warm and smells of the bubble bath scent when I walk in.

When I enter, he is always naked and kneeling by the tub.  I enter the bath and lay back and relax.  He is to remain quiet and worship my body with his eyes while I relax. He knows that but sometimes I command him to worship my body just for the purpose of reinforcing my dominance over him. When I am ready, I order him to wash me.  Sometimes he will also shave my legs.  When the bath is over, I will stand outside the tub and he will dry me off.  I do not move.  I enjoy seeing him move all around me and bending down to dry me off.  He knows he has to do a great job at drying me before putting on my robe.  It is a great ritual that makes me feel like a true Goddess and also makes Thomas feel like a true servant to me.  We both enjoy this ritual and every time we do the bath ritual it reinforces my dominance over him and his submission to me.

Rituals help frame a husband’s thinking properly. You are correct, we men often feel like we retain some control even though we live in an FLR. Rituals help to abolish that incorrect attitude.

My wife has some rituals that she uses on occasion, primarily kissing her feet. Sometimes writing lines about her authority hundreds of times so the concept sinks in. These help shape my thinking into a proper submissive mindset.

You have a well-developed sense that the husband’s place is to submit to his wife completely. He should strive to please her, make her life easier, and obey her promptly and thoroughly.

Kissing her feet is a sign of obedience, respect, and submission so I encourage it often. While there are many times Thomas is expected to kiss my feet, occasionally he will take it upon himself to lean down his kiss my feet. This always makes me smile.

hank you for great insights into the nature of femdom relationships. I absolutely agree with you about the importance of rituals that are repeated and become embedded in the relationship. When my wife wishes to add another chore or duty to my growing list, she will usually have me write out the chore a hundred times over the course of several days – “As Mistress K’s slave, I will dust and vacuum the entire house every weekend.” Writing this one line over and over again, helps me embrace this chore not only a task that i now own, but also a task that I want to do as my Mistress Wife’s slave husband.

And yes of course, kneeling before my wife daily and kissing her feet is a ritual that I look forward to every day.

We strive for frequent orgasms for my wife whenever she wants with me giving her head. I am usually denied. In fact, she also no longer performs oral sex on me. Earlier in our relationship, it was an equal sexual relationship with intercourse and reciprocated oral sex. Now my release, when allowed, comes from masturbation while either sucking her toes or performing oral sex. This has been going on for about a year and half although the start of tipping the balance towards her getting noticeable more orgasms started several years ago, followed by no intercourse about 3 yrs ago, to prolonged orgasm denials for me shortly after.

I always lick her asshole after she orgasms from me giving her head. This is a ritual. She roles over on her tummy and I proceed by burying my face in her ass. We dont need to communicate at all in between the acts. She likes a gentle ass rimming afterwards as it provides a relaxing complement to her explosive orgasm. I also like, as you mentioned in one of your blogs, to be told that I am a good ass licker. This has been an ongoing ritual for several years.

A recent ritual for us, started about 2 months ago, is that I rim her ass every morning before she gets up from bed. In fact, thats how I wake her up in the morning. I usually wake up before she does. When I think it is time for her to get up, I gently rub her ass, and she turns to her stomach, and I start to rim. I continue to rim until she pats my head. This can be five minutes to 25 minutes, depends on how long she wants me to lick. When I finish, I thank her for giving me the privilege to clean her ass.

I am her footslave. In addition to worshiping and massaging her feet, I also take care of her shoes, making sure they are clean and organize them for her. I also lotion her feet periodically as part of my responsibility to care for them.

I enjoy being submissive to my wife. There is something about sacrificing my needs, and to go out of my way to intensify the sacrifice in the form of degradation and humiliation, so that I can provide her sexual pleasure and mental pleasure, is intoxicating to me. My wife, I dont think, was wired to be dominant. But through the years she has become accustomed to the benefits of having a slave, and she has also evolved to derive mental pleasure from me being servile, devoted to her, and to have control over me. That is the ultimate turn-on — to know that my owner expects and is pleased by my submission.

The position that has the most dominant/submissive overtones is the queening position, which is why it is the favorite position for both Thomas and myself. In the queening position, the woman (the queen) sits upon the man’s face (her throne).  Submissive men like this position because they are beneath the woman, which is their rightful place and completely symbolic of their submission.  Likewise, the woman is on top of their man, which gives her control and is symbolic of her power of him.  When I straddle Thomas’s face, my knees and legs pin his arms to his side leaving him helpless beneath me.  I love that!  Now all he has to focus on is pleasing me with his tongue. I usually hover my sex just above his face so that he has to work for it. He has to lift his head slightly to start pleasuring me.  Another thing I love about this position is that I control the pace and rhythm.  Once he gets my juices flowing and I am feeling the pleasure, I can start grinding into his face as hard or as light as I want.  I can move fast or slow.  He just keeps licking while I control the rhythm and pace. It is all about me at this point and I am very selfish with my pleasure.

In the queening position you can face forward or backward (towards his toes).  I enjoy both positions and often times switch between both positions in the same night.  Facing forward, I like being able to look down and see him pleasuring me. Thomas has told me the he enjoys looking up and seeing the look of pleasure and ecstasy on my face while he is pleasuring me.  He also enjoys the view of being beneath me and seeing the underside of my breasts and seeing me look down upon him.  Facing backwards is fun too and in this position I feel like I can do more things and mover around more.  I can sit directly on his face but I usually end up kneeling over him on my hands and knees and pushing myself upon his face. In this position I can easily direct my asshole to his tongue if I desire.  My fellow Goddesses, if you have not experienced, anal pleasure by his tongue, you do not know what you are missing. It is an exquisite and wonderful pleasure.  I also get an emotional charge out of having Thomas lick my ass.  It is a power rush I guess, just knowing the he is doing something so raw and animalistic for me. When I am really in the mood, I will order him to lick me there and tell him he is a good ass kisser.

One thing I love about the queening position is seeing his hard cock.  He gets so excited when I queen him.  His cock is always swollen and hard.  I love that! Although, if I am in the right mood, I will put him into a chastity device when I queen him.  It is equally exciting for me to see his cock restrained into the small device, forced to remain small.  I know he is aroused and his cock is desperate to grow and break free from its small prison.  Seeing his imprisonment while I ride his face and take pleasure from his tongue gives me an erotic rush.

Another favorite oral position is me sitting with my legs spread and him kneeling between them. The fact that he is kneeling before me sets the submissive/dominate tone immediately.  In this position, I enjoy putting my hands on the back of his head and pressing him into me.  I can also squeeze my thighs around his head to give him an added sense of my control and power over him. I enjoy pressing his face into my sex and then a few minutes later pushing him away from me and ordering him to stop.  I may make him kiss or massage my feet or do something else for me.  Then after a few minutes I will order him back between my legs.  I will do this over and over again until I tire from it or I orgasm.  On occasion I like to squeeze my thighs around his head and keep his face locked just a few inches from my sex.  I will hold him in this position for 30 seconds to a minute.  This is purely a power thing for me.  He is forced to stare at my sex and take in my aroused scent which drives him into a deeper submissive state. Another fun technique is to lean back, raise your leg and press your heel into the back of his head.  In this position your are using the heel of your foot to press him into your sex.  This position creates quite a power dynamic because it is as if you are laying back and relaxing while he pleasures you and you are using your foot to control him.   I also like to tie his hands behind his back or use a collar and leash on him when he is in this position. It adds to his helpless state, which both he and I enjoy.

I’ve often thought about declaring his tongue as his new sex organ and forbidding his cock from ever entering me.  He is always aroused and hard when he orally pleasures me. I love that!  I also notice that the more tough or rough I am when he is orally pleasuring me, the more he gets off on it.  He loves to be smothered by my sex or pressed into my sex.  He loves that I get off on it but he is forbidden to orgasm.  I will tell him that his place is beneath me, pleasing me or that he is good ass licker.

Yesterday I woke-up and dressed for work.  The clothes I wore were ironed by Thomas.  I went downstairs and a fresh cup of coffee was waiting for me.  The car I drove to work was washed and full of gas.  I can’t remember the last time I put gas in a car.  I wonder if I even know how to work the pump anymore  :).   The lunch that I ate was packed by Thomas.  That night I enjoyed a full body massage from my naked husband.  His tongue ended up between my legs after the massage and  I enjoyed a wonderful orgasm.  Not once did I ask Thomas to do any of this.  I made no contact with his cock while he pleasured me.  I simply enjoyed the pleasure.  He thanked me afterward and told me that he loved me.   This was not an unusual or special day in our house.  Ladies – these are just some of the benefits of FLR and of a well-trained man.  A little training, maintenance teasing and spanking go a long way.  It is a fantastic lifestyle!

I enjoy teasing Thomas with his eternal statements.  These are statements the remind him that his submission to me is never ending.  Some examples that I have used are:

1. You will never orgasm without my permission
2. You are never allowed on top (during sex).  Your proper position in life is beneath me
3. You will always be my slave
4. Starting now and lasting forever…..
5. This is your life now
6. You exist to serve me.

I will often whisper these things in his ear while I am teasing him.  Sometimes they are bold statements that I make when I am giving him orders, disciplining him, or reprimanding him.  Sometimes they are loving and teasing statements meant to drive his mind wild. For example, I may be teasing him and whisper, “It’s so fun to tease you like this.  I love that you are my slave and can not orgasm without my permission. You will never have an orgasm without my permission slave.”

When I am on top of Thomas, either during sex or when I am queening him, I like to remind him that he is never allowed on top and I tell him how sexy and hot he looks beneath me.  On occasion, he will end up on top of me or will be moving in that direction and I will simply laugh and ask him what he thinks he’s doing and remind him of his place.  I may order him off me or I may forcefully roll him over and get on top of him with my full weight.  This puts him in his place immediately (and I get a bit of a power rush from this). I have been guilty of baiting him into this situation just so I can roll him over and show my dominance.

I had never expected it, but my KH made me eat her, then penetrate her ….. as I was about to cum, she said to stop…..it was too late ! I had a ruined orgasm inside of her, I was then ordered (for the first time in my ife) to “clean it all up orally” ! humbling very very humbling !

the other morning in the tub, she was “washing” her toy, I was edging over and over !, I came real real close to orgasm and she said (for the 2nd time) “if yu mess you clean up”, this while she was edging me !

well it came to a stage where I begged her to stop !, she just added the extra jam acting as if she didn’t hear me……….well guess what RUINED ORGASM again, but in my hand !, she made me swallow it while it was still hot !!!

the following day I asked why ?, her reply “it turns me on, and you can call it sweet revenge if you like” !

either way, trust me when I tell you………it humbles you, and shows your KH absolute dedication !

In fact, my FLM is the very reason that I am not subject to this phenomenon for one very simple, convenient reason …. I don’t control my penis.  The second Mistress K. accepted my submission, I gladly offered and she happily accepted the responsibility and control of my penis.  As a covenant to our relationship (and as of a year ago our renewed marriage vows), my penis is completely and utterly controlled by Mistress K.  Access to it, it’s use for ANYTHING other than it’s cleaning or for urination, is absolutely prohibited without permission and supervision.

Controlling the male penis is essential in any FLR. It’s the essence of discipline. If a woman can’t control what a man does or doesn’t do with his penis she really isn’t in charge no matter how often she spanks him. Discovering Jay’s out of control masturbation was a turning point for us. That evolved into complete orgasm control. He cums when and if I give him explicit permission and masturbation is strictly forbidden ( and severely punished ) Getting control of Jay’s bottom with spanking allowed me to get control of his cock as well. I still do plenty of spanking but my control of his cock is the key to the success of our FLR.

Control of access, use and pleasure of the cock is absolutely essential in a FLR/FLM. There have been some posts and comments on other blogs debating as to whether not a submale should have his orgasms controlled. I can’t imagine how a successful FLR/FLM could exist if I were to be allowed to masturbate and orgasm whenever I wanted. I believe it explicitly defines the control of the relationship being in the “subs” hands. Literally. Since beginning our FLM, I have had so very few orgasms, and most of those are of the ruined variety. I can tell though, our marriage has never been better, and the sex that I have had since then has been soooo much better than any sex I have had prior to giving up control of my cock and orgasms. The overwhelming majority of the sex we have is Mistress having an orgasm, and me having the honoring of either participating or just watching. Either way, it is a beautiful, almost spiritual thing to witness my Mistress having an orgasms. I once was able to have an orgasm (permission was granted) simply by viewing Mistress having one. There was zero stimulation to my penis.

I allow Jay to cum about twice monthly.Some wives might think that’s too often.  Equally important,I believe it is not the number of times he cums that matter but that he has thoroughly internalized the message that he is forbidden to cum without my explicit permission and he is never to masturbate or ask to masturbate. As long as we are clear on that I am comfortable letting him cum when he is behaving and the moment is right.

I agree, it isn’t important how many times a sub male ejaculates. What is important is the knowledge that we are forbidden to cum. For me … I am forbidden from orgasm and touching myself sexually (anywhere, not just my penis). That being said, i do masturbate a lot because Mistress K. enjoys watching me edge myself for her. There are times where I am required to self edge during the day every 30 or 60 minutes. yes, all day! My balls just ache on those days but you know what, I have learned to yearn for that ache. She also enjoys watching me masturbate, but almost never will she allow me to orgasm that way. And god help me if I should have an accident.

This Sunday it will have been 42 days for me and the first opportunity for my Wife Mz. C to unlock me. God am I ready! Mz. C does not have me orally please her during my long lock ups, but I wish she would. I really yearn for it. If she were to have me orally please her it would not only remind me that she is my superior and owns me, but it would double my desire.
The longest she has kept me locked is 59 days and ironically that’s how old I am. I can’t help but wonder if next year she will set me a new record of 60 days?
I love her so much more now that she has complete control of my little penis and exploits it. If she had not taken control of it away from me it probably would have gotten me into trouble by now. I don’t think she’ll ever allow it to be free.

I will tell you that I was involved in the most beautiful, sensual and loving sex I have ever had in my life. It was almost spiritual.

AND

I was milked immediately after.  After Mistress and I made the most incredible love I can ever remember, she reminded me that I still needed to be milked.  I was not allowed to orgasm during our sex and after I told I could’ve literally had an orgasm just from witnessing her during our lovemaking, she told me to straddle her naked body on the bed.  She told me that my milking would happen only if i were able to produce an ejaculation with only the visual stimulation before me (naked her), and her gently massaging my balls.  It took less than a minute.  Not once was my penis touched.

Monthly objective complete.  Mistresses devoted pet-husband was ritualistically drained of his semen.

Sex was what Mistress wanted, and so that is what she got. I wanted it too of course, but that is never enough of a reason for Mistress to allow sex.

Then it occurred to me that Mistress was milking me.  She would occasionally rub the head of my cock with her slippery hand to speed up the process, but concentrated on the massaging of my balls.

Mistress was looking me directly in the eyes, without any expression on her face.  She was methodical and determined to coax the semen from deep within my balls.  At that moment, and because of the expression on her face, that Mistress intended to give me my spanking punishment immediately following my milking.  I begged Mistress not to spank me after extracting the cum from my balls, knowing that receiving a spanking after ejaculation is so much worse.  I begged her with everything I had to give me my spanking first and then milk me after.

Mistress would have none of it.  She continued to massage my balls knowing that it would be stimulation enough to produce my ejaculate.  She remained expressionless and continued in a clinical fashion rubbing my aching balls.  After several minutes of begging and pleading, I resigned myself to the fact that my spanking would come AFTER my milking and not the other way around.  Standing naked with my arms at the top f the doorway, Mistress silently held her palm in front of my cock.  It was her silent instruction that it was time for me to produce my mess into her.  As if on cue and from only the stimulation of Mistress squeezing and massaging my balls in her hand, my ejaculate oozed from the head of my cock and into her hand.  She continued to squeeze my balls and coax out as much as she could.  When the cum stopped oozing in her hand, she abruptly let go of my now-slippery ball sack, she paused and looked into my eyes for what seemed like a long time.  For a moment there, I thought she was going to feed me my cum because seemed to be in the mood of making me do something that neither of us want to do.  Instead, she walked past me and into the bathroom to wash her hands.

She returned from the bathroom quickly, grabbed my outstretched arm and led me to the bed.  Pointing to it she instructed me to stand next to it and bend over the side.  I begged her some more not to give me my punishment right then but I’m afraid that only caused her to be more determined.  I bent over the bed, offering my bare, sweat covered ass to her for my spanking.  She had me stand for an adjustment and that’s when she noticed that I had dribbled some of my cum on the freshly washed sheets.  Trust me, that didn’t help my situation.

For what seemed like an eternity, Mistress spanked me the gruesome wooden spoon with the rounded back.  It was awful.

A big part of your job as the leader will be redirecting his attention to serving you and focusing on your needs and not his desires.  It is primarily a paradigm shift in thinking.  He needs to embrace his submission and focus on serving and worshiping you.

So today, a week or so after I’ve been denied and locked up in a silicone CB6000s style device, my KH allowed me to massage her legs. I was super horny, and every little touch was making me seconds away from exploding (it really was) and I told her so…

So she turned around to me, and said I had 30 seconds to cum. I was still wearing my device. She started massaging my balls. I was incredibly, incredibly turned on.

30 seconds later.. nada. With a disappointed sigh, she said we’ll try again a week or so later.

I have revoked his rights to anything sexual with me. I will not allow him to see me undressed, nor will he be allowed to touch me during this period of chastity. With his new cage, one that is real, I want to take our relationship to a deeper level. One where he fully understands his place as a submissive man. I am not doing this to be mean to him but rather to reset him so to speak.

I love my husband and how submissive he is but I want to get him to a point where even touching me is precious and not taken for granted. I want him to feel overwhelmed with just grabbing my ass or licking me. I want that for him to feel like having sex.

As of right now I have no idea when I will begin to allow him to touch me, see me undressed, or lick me, but it will be a fairly long time of abstinence before that happens. A while longer still before the cage comes off to reward him for being good. And by being good, I mean he doesn’t ask, doesn’t hint period. It means leaving everything regarding sex to be completely up to me. He has been locked now since Valentines day and I think it will be at least two more months. We will see.

The purpose of this is to establish my position and his. It is a reset. I want to be courted properly and work forward from there. So there is the goal. He expressed that he wanted me to have total control. And I explained to him what that would look like if I was the one driving. He agreed, and so now we are headed down the road.

Now all that said, we still kiss. I hold his hand when we go for our evening walk in the neighborhood. We talk. We laugh. But of his hand wanders then it gets stopped. But again it isn’t permanent. It’s just for a time. And he knows that. He just doesn’t know how much time.

Dear MsKeyholderWife, my Mistress started me in a similar fashion but with an exception: I am trained not to gaze on Her when She removed Her outer clothes, and wear a blindfold when pleasing Her. I’ve not seen Her in any compromising way for a long time.

Although I was never allowed to ask for release (of either kind, from lockup or denial), I would often be grabby, or drop comments… or in general, ‘pressure’ her.

It is obvious why – denial breeds libido, and direct proximity to our beautiful, perfect, nigh-divine goddesses makes every individual hormone molecule stand up and say “that one, now”.

My wife found it annoying, irritating, but worst of all felt that when I was grabby and pushy that any action she took soon after that felt less as though it was her own, and more as though it was in response to my actions – which is directly antithetical to the D/S relationship. It is highly similar to ‘topping from the bottom’ to borrow from another part of the kink constellation.

Such a policy was extremely difficult for me to follow, and I still have lapses. It is un-learning an entire lifetime of arousal responses, and it isn’t easy.

Her decision in this regard was undoubtedly an excellent one, and was very good for our relationship.

Again this is what you want as a man. I don’t want him teased right now. I want him focused on my needs, my wants, not his own. It is interesting that a lot of guys here want denial yet when they get it in a way that does not suit them then all of the sudden the wife or keyholder is doing it wrong. Chastity for us is about my control not his. If I choose not to give him sexual stimulation in any way for a time, as a keyholder don’t I have that right? Of course I know what he wants but I want him to know the difference between want and need. And since I never said that his total abstinence is permanent, I think my requests for it for a time is reasonable.

I obviously want him to adore me. But more than that I don’t want games. I love reality. This is what I want in this relationship and he told me that it was mine for the taking. Not that it isn’t hard for him, I know it is. But the point of all this is to see how true he is to his promise of being totally submissive to me. It is my job to know how he is doing and to gently but firmly guide him in fulfilling his promise to me.

You most definitely should hold your husband to his promises. After all he also agreed to them. In our relationship I may voice my concerns but ultimately my wife decides if there is to be compromise.

We found the exercise of conception actually a bit enjoyable this time as I became nothing more than a stud or sperm donor unlocked to produce my seed when needed…unlocked before heading to the clinic wearing pantyhose or thigh highs provided by her to go produce my seed carrying a pair of her sexy day worn panties in a little silk bag for me to inhale their sweet aroma while mastutbating into the sample cup. Our restart began here. This is where it became “allaboutHer”. Rubbing her swollen, aching feet and back daily during her pregnancy, keeping her toes and feet looking perfect…and me locked with nothing in return except for the privelage of touching her and serving her…and it has pretty much stayed that way ever since. She now happily wears a key charm around her neck and has embraced this. It is not what I planned or expected. I never expected only 2 orgasms in the last 3 years. I did not expect to be sleeping in pantyhose and night shirts 2-3 nights a week. I did not expect to be a supplement to a vibrator and I did not expect to find myself craving my anal plug harness while we ” have sex” (pubic bone to pubic bone grinding like lesbians where she has quaking orgasms and I hold her closely and merely leak and clench on the plug harnessed inside me). It is all very different than I planned….but SHE is happy, and that makes ME happy.

I keep him denied from the beginning of our relationship. He had started to wear chastity device few months later and last two years he is locked 24/7. I have never allowed sex with me nor any masturbation. He is technically still virgin. I know it may sounds odd to someone. But it doesn’t mean I ignore him. It doesn’t mean I do not share intimacy with him. Quite contrary. I think it deepens our relationship. Even if there is no sex in the narrow sense of word there is a lot of intimacy, love and passion.

A btw I want to keep his virginity till our wedding night and it would be first time I will allow him experience orgasm with me.

Whole point is that the focus has to be that it’s now not want he wants out of it but what you want out of it. As he said he wanted you to take control this has to go with the territory. If you want complete abstinence for him, then you are entitled to get it. And he needs the mindset to accept it. And anything else you decide for that matter.

I’m in permanent chastity now, so I won’t be cumming any time soon. I’m told it will be only one time in 2016, so I might get as far as 16 months without a cum. After that, I’ll be counting in years.

Supervised and restricted there is no real come down from denial – Thank goodness for chastity cages

Simultaneous orgasms, when we climax together-traditional sex (for us traditional sex is us is me kneeling in front of her keeping her cock hard while she takes herself over the edge where at that point I am then permitted to enter her and cum, although I am not always granted permission) ….

Ruined orgasms, a whole new spectrum within orgasms for a man –

The anal orgasm during strap-on sex, mistress has informed me that I will learn to cum this way with the cage on. Orgasm this was is very intense and leaves one exhausted, So far while I get very hard and aroused I have cum with minimal stimulation Thank you mistress

One spurt : Where a man is driven to the very point of orgasm, but never quite gets over the edge but a muscle contraction results in one single spurt of cum, any more than one spurt and it’s a normal ruined orgasm. Result is very slight relief but continued stimulation is still possible – Thank you Mistress.

Edging followed by a squirt of cum without any associated feeling at all, usually following some anal stimulation. – Thank you Mistress

Sometimes if I am very lucky mistress well let me inside her to remind me what it feels like – Thank you Mistress

My wife just informed me that I’m never going to be released because she says I eat her best when she has me locked up and that the dick is not going inside of her.

I find physical affection and sexual stimulation relaxing. so when I get home from.work, I like to have my S/O come kneel down beside out bed. Then I take my boots off and he kisses/sucks my toes. I pet his head and back and tell him I love him, make lots of eye contact etc. Then I gently pull him up and have him give me oral, both up front and around back (I LOVE that) until I climax.

Hot Sex for my lovely wife is when I get home for work and make dinner and clean up. Then she will invite me to the bed room afterwards and I will be ordered to strip down completely naked and kneel in front of her suck her toes. From there I’m told to work my way up to please her orally. Afterwards I may use my strap on if she desires penetration. I’m very rarely am allowed to have penetration sex. Her desire is for me to perform orally.

But my wife has definitely assumed control of our 5 Food Groups and knows that she is the Head of the Household! I am on an allowance, look to her for decisions and approvals or all kinds, have sex when she chooses, have learned not to climax nor masturbate, and have a growing list of delegated tasks I am responsible for that free her time for more important things.

First, I don’t allow my hubby to touch himself unless I say. I, on the other hand, can touch anytime I please and without any warning. Secondly, I find that periods of denial helps to keep his focus. Denial can be me undressed, teasing and deny orgasms, assignments with an erotic intention etc. I keep him nude. This allows for unplanned and exciting couple time. I supply him with eye candy sightings of me. Direct orders works wonders in getting and keeping his attention. For example, me requiring him to give me oral service during one of his favorite shows.

I hate punishment and being punished, but my Wife enjoys venting her anger out on me, It is very unusual if I am not sobbing uncontrollable at the end of a very severe punishment session. The problem for me is that over the years I have become more immune to the cane, so my wife has steadily increased the strokes to make them effective. I have to thank her after every session. I also find that when she has had a bad day at the office I can expect to be Punished. Afterwards she is no longer bitchy. 3 years ago she was going through an aggressive take over of a rival company, I was punished every night for 3 months to ensure she was relaxed for the next day. I certainly worked for her as she got promoted shortly afterwards.

My wife disciplines me to correct poor behavior and enforce her authority in our marriage. Punishment spankings are typical and loss of privileges, especially intercourse are also effective means of building my character to her satisfaction and keeping my focus on her as head of our household. Because I have flirtatious tendencies and an unruly temper when frustrated, I am held to account 24/7. My wife does not let me get away with anything.

Henpecked: dominated, subjugated, browbeaten, subject, bullied, timid, cringing, meek, treated like dirt, led by the nose, tied to someone’s apron strings, pussy-whipped (taboo slang) The henpecked husband yielded to her demands.

I am relegated to continual denial while only being allowed to service my keyholder’s ass, as a form of degradation or breaking me.  They invite friends over and I am used to service their asses, never their pussies.  Femdom fantasies can follow the same theme.  I am used only for pleasuring asses.  It is the only part of her body that I am allowed to touch.  The act is meant to serve to break me, demean me, humiliate me…as I am not worthy of more.

my wife has decided to be dedicated to making me a slave using chastity. She won’t let me out no matter what until April. At that point, if I have been obedient, I will get to fuck her without me getting an orgasm. In May, I get to orgasm. Until then, nothing. I have to wear my Queen’s Keep.

Now about two weeks into it, I am going crazy, but she is clear about this. No cum. For me. She had her orgasm today with a toy while I touched her all over, straining in my cage, then I organized the entire garage like an obedient boy. I like it, but reality is far more difficult than fantasy.