A guy is in chastity (a 0 guage PA fitting) and his KH wishes him to be locked permanently. For him to never use his penis again sexually.

If this is a FLR and he has given up leadership to her and is committed to the relationship, then he has no say. If she wants him locked then he is locked end of discussion.
If she wants something sexually, then he gives it, whether it be his chastity, sissification, or whatever. If he loves her and has truley given the control of their sexual life to her then it is up to her.

I am into my seventh month of chastity, prior to this I had no experience beyond simply being denied sex. At about the two and half month I started having real doubts and wanted out of chastity. However my wonderful Miss coached me through this time, reminding me it was my desire to please her and at my request she had purchased the cage to further this. Miss also provided me with distraction when she saw it was required and encouraged me to keep going. I am now thankful of her help, assurance and positive mind frame and would not have it any way else.

About three a week I remove my husbands chastity device for his shower so that he can get a thorough cleaning there and do a bit of grooming.  Yesterday, as he got out of the shower, I noticed that he had a little boner.

I was really upset with him!  First of all, it’s just ridiculous and pointless and a waste of my time as I have to wait for it to subside before putting the cage back on him, and that is time that I could be doing… anything else.  More importantly, it’s just something that he is not supposed to be doing.  I don’t think it’s good for him.  I think it undermines what we have been working towards.  I think it plants the insidious seeds of masculinity.  I think it is disrespectful to me and to Tony, and it is something that I simply don’t want him to do.

I think most folks who have begun to use chastity on a regular or extended basis, recognize that some shrinkage does occur. In my case, I’ve lost an inch plus in about 16 months of pretty much daily, 24/7, chastity. You and your chaste guy must have noticed this as well. I was wondering how a Mistress feels having not only physical control of her subbies dickie, by way of the cage, but also the ability to actually shrink it and make it more unworthy than it was before?

She recognized that his true and innate sexuality was in his butt-hole and successfully trained it to be fully functional and orgasmic pussy.
Looking through the archive, it looks like she allows him a “real orgasm” about ever 70ish days.  She has achieved such a high degree of emasculation though that these orgasms are a gift, and in no way necessary.  She has successfully negated his little penis as a necessity for a fulfilling sex life and re-purposed it more appropriately as more of a useless but interesting sideline attraction.
I reposted one of their videos this morning in which I commented of how amused I was when she slapped his little balls. This is what I’m talking about.  I have talked to her a little bit so I know that she has started fisting training on him and the video is about the new plug inflatable they bought.  His otherwise useless male parts play no roll what-so-ever in this new journey, yet by slapping them like that she found a sideline way to include them that was amusing.

Financial control is a good place to start in a loving female-led relationship, and I did this with my husband before we were even married. The sooner this is done, the better, in my opinion. We have a joint account into which our salaries are paid. George has no access to this account though, as I keep the cards and passwords. I provide him with a weekly allowance, the amount of which is determined each week at the Sunday family meeting

It is important that a man knows his spending can be scrutinized by his wife at any time. By having his allowance limited, George is unlikely to make frivolous purchases. If he wants to do so for some reason, he must ask me first. I decide whether or not his request is reasonable. In this way George’s thoughts are continually focused on me, every time he opens his wallet.

Next is control of the household chores. Quite simply, George does them all! Vacuuming, dusting, cooking, washing and ironing, everything! He only works part time, as my salary is sufficient to keep us in our current lifestyle. Therefore he has plenty of time to do these chores.

After we have all greeted and kissed, I make my way to one of the sofas, George knows this is his cue to bring me a glass of wine. He then sits next to me on the sofa and what follows is a ritual that we have been doing for many years. I will turn and put my feet up on George’s lap. He carefully removes my shoes and then gently massages my feet until I tell him to stop. Their father is worshiping their mother by performing this simple, caring task for her.

After returning from my recent business trip, I told George that in future I would require him to sit on the floor, rather than the sofa, when massaging my feet. I could tell by his expression that he was a little surprised at the request, but I simply raised my eyebrows and he did not complain. The following day when I arrived home from the office, he followed me as usual into the living room and handed me a glass of wine, but then he paused and looked inquiringly at me. I saw his eyes briefly flit between my feet, resting on the floor, and the vacant seat next to me on the sofa. I looked at him sternly and dipped my finger, pointing to the floor. Only he and I saw the gesture, but he understood immediately and sat down at my feet.

“Okay, that’s enough, let’s go and eat.” Before he got up, George asked me which shoes I would be wearing the following day, so that he could polish them and have them ready for me.

Having recently read a lot of email correspondence from other dominant women, I can’t help feeling that I have been going a little too easy on George. That will be changing from now on. I have big plans for George and one of them is for him to be spending a lot more time on the floor at my feet!

All it took was a raised eyebrow and finger pointed to the floor for your husband to get on the floor and obey without question. He must be so well trained! Your household is really an amazing model for all female led marriages. I am quite excited to learn about the rest of your rituals and how you were able to train your husband to make your relationship the way it is now.

We have similar rules in our house and my children and there friends are very used to my wife relaxing while I am cooking or cleaning , like yourself Ms Liza has a well paid job in a high position , I am just a plumber so it was decided that even though I work full time as Ms Lizas job is stressful and when She comes home She doesn’t want to have to worry about menial tasks , She is better at organizing . Also my wages are paid into Her account and I also live on an allowance while Ms Liza socializes and buys clothes and gets pampered etc so it’s for the best George never had any authority.

I made this clear to him at the start of our relationship. My husband is indeed well trained. He has painted my finger and toe nails in the past, but did not really do a good enough job. I believe it may be time to reintroduce George to this service. A man painting his wife’s toenails is certainly appropriate behavior for the children to see. I am very pleased to read that you do to these chores in order to serve your wife. Your practical skills help to make her life easier. You are doing what a well trained husband should do, but always remember that you can do more. Ask your wife every day if there is something else you can do for her.

Sloppy work on her mani-pedi is something my wife won’t tolerate. She sent me to the local cosmetology school and arranged with the director for me to have a mani-pedi from one of their advanced students who instructed me in each step of the process. My wife uses the money she saves from trips to the salon to host her ladies’ TGIF parties at our house. And for me, I got a new cocktail serving tray and cheese board.

What peaked my interest was your comment of desiring to become more firm/strict with George after interacting with the Netherlands’ Mistress. Why push a man further if you already enjoy all that you have now? Is it to work him harder or to move from a more subtle male submission to one that is much more overt? One question, if your hubette already massages your feet every day, what is the purpose of him doing so from the floor instead of setting on the couch with your feet in his lap? I understand that there is a strong symbolism in this of your complete authority, but you already exercise complete authority within a matriarchal home.

How lovely it must be to have established such control in your household and to have found a husband who supports you in your career. Yes I am becoming a little stricter with George in front of the children. This is because I am preparing him for changes that are about to take place. Do you remember that I said I had big plans for George? Well I have already spoken to him about some of these. By having him show me a little more deference in front of the children, I am simply making him more receptive to these plans.

Regardless of your husband’s job, I have found that most men value one thing above all others; the need to please their wives. Just because a man is the CEO of a company, does not mean that he cannot be trained by his wife at home. Start by giving him small tasks and chores. If he does not comply, then start withholding certain privileges. If I am not actually doing something around the house – when we are both at rest, so to speak – she likes me to be at her feet, whether kneeling or sitting. Talking, drinking a glass of wine, reading – she feels that I am better attuned to her when I am below her in the physical sense. As I am a good nine inches or so taller than her, it also helps to reinforce her household supremacy for the roles to be reversed as a general rule. She also believes that I am less likely to miss a signal that she wishes something to be done.

To me, it seems humiliating and demeaning for the man to be forced to sit on the floor while massaging your feet. Instead, it seems that if the goal is a matriarchal family, as long as you and your daughters make the rules and he obeys, then this is being accomplished. Why the need for humiliation?

George sitting on the floor is not a humiliation for him; it is a show of deference to me. I only requested this of George for the time he spent massaging my feet upon my return home from the office. However, over the last few days, he has started sitting on the floor next to me when he wasn’t doing his chores. I do not want to go into too much detail, but George has also been telling me how much he loves me recently. By the way, I have now given him his own cushion! My training of George intensifies exponentially. I am very demanding of him and his worship of me is far greater than I have previously alluded to in my posts.

David – As your wife progresses with her control over you, so her dominance will expand to other areas of life. This happens at a slower pace for some women, so please tell her not to be concerned. We all sit down in the living room while I speak. For the last couple of weeks I have required George to sit on the floor by my feet.

Of course I will always continue to serve and obey my wife. This is something that will never change…It’s been twelve years now since I first realized that I should always do as she said, and that she was the rightful ‘leader’ of our family. (We have been married 18 years). I have always expressed my obvious submission to my wife, for example: Treating her soles with lotions and creams to keep them soft and sexy; When watching TV, in the evening, my wife and children sit on the sofa as I sit on the floor near her feet caressing her sexy soles(even if casually); Doing all house chores, laundry, running errands, and scrubbing the floors while at the same time she goes out shopping sexy outfits or having her hair made up, or out enjoying herself spending my income; Kneeling before her while putting on the anklet on her ankle, sliding the toe ring in her toe and polishing and putting on her sexy sandals (Italian heels); Putting the nail polish on her sexy toes etc.

My lover sent me links to Loving Female Authority and to this blog in May, and since we have been practicing a Female Led Relationship. I love it – I love him, how he has changed, and he seems really happy. If we continue the relationship and it turns into marriage I would like to have a family, and he said he would prefer the wife-led family to be part of our family life, similar to how it is portrayed here. This gives me more incentive to continue the relationship, and I wanted to hear from anyone about the feelings of both parties during pregnancy – how did you demonstrate obedience and worship your wife during this time, and how did women show their dominance and guide their men?

Also, the chastity requirements seem to conflict with getting pregnant. Is he allowed penetration only until you get pregnant and then no more sex? I regard a wife-led marriage and female leadership in a family not only as normal, but quite natural, firmly based on the natural fact of female superiority.

My recent trip to Crete, I’m glad to report, was a resounding success with regards to my servitude to my wonderful girlfriend, Sarah, and her Matriarchal Family—Jennifer (Sarah’s sister) and Linda (their mother). I thoroughly enjoyed two weeks of waiting hand and foot on my superiors—just as the Ladies enjoyed having their faithful male servant working 24/7 for their benefit and comfort.

My wonderfully Pro-Female family thoroughly enjoyed this display of male subservience and commented on how natural and right it looks—and how natural it is—for males to work for, serve and obey Females. Linda, the supreme Matriarch of our clan, suggested that “the only thing missing is a whip in each Woman’s hand!” I replied, with some trepidation, “I don’t think they need whips; they have their males fully trained.”

I must apologize for the brevity of this posting. Since our return from Crete, my life has been even more hectic. Not only is Linda making the most of her position as Matriarch and keeping her male servant hard at work “The First Rule of Our Relationship: We discuss; I decide; he obeys. In cases where my mind is already made up, or I feel strongly about a particular issue, the need for discussion is obviated and Patrick is simply informed. This eliminates the need for discussion in about seventy percent of all cases, allows Patrick to concentrate on his engineering career and leaves other issues in my far more capable hands. “The Second Rule of Our Relationship: We have Absolutes; I have absolute freedom; he accepts and lives under my absolute control; this applies to all aspects; there are no exceptions.”

But now all we see are women in charge, so we males feel powerless. The power of feminism and matriarchal rule is having a powerful effect on society. This new generation of women expect their males to be attentive, obedient, submissive and well groomed !! I am learning to accept my new role as male in a ever changing female dominate society. Women are re-establishing male identity and their roles in life as supporters to women, househusbands, second class citizens, domestics and the weaker sex. The catchphrase “battle of the sexes” is over, and we males had better get use to kissing female butt, to please them and to survive !

Lynda talks about this quite frequently. It would be nice to live in a neighborhood of career women with househusbands who acknowledge the woman’s leadership in the outside world and family. Have you ever had any problems proclaiming your matriarchal family structure?

I had a male teacher whose wife was a judge. He was also a househusband. I know several students made fun of him, but I told him how much I admired him. He is now a full-time househusband because his wife is a state Supreme Court judge and he wants to spend time with her. I have also heard of several female doctors who have househusbands. Several major female CEOs have househusbands. This teacher was one of the first to say that he felt women were superior to men and that women were taking over the workplace.

I do not think a man who opts for a matriarchal life intends to sit on his behind. As a woman, I will gladly support my husband in return for his active support of my career, including giving dinner parties, creating a beautiful home and serene atmospheres, his deference to me as head of the household, allowing me to get in touch with my assertive side which will make me happy, his love and respect which I will return to him, always aware that I have a certain pre-eminence in the family and relationship.

You couldn’t be more correct. I am constantly busy because my wife, like most career minded women, is very demanding and particular about how she wants things done. You couldn’t be lazy and please Lisa. I would say I work as much and probably more hours per week than most men who have outside careers.

It is awesome to think about the power exchange when the women go to the living room to discuss business while the men are dismissed to do the dishes and prepare the coffee and tea to serve to the women. I also hope you took one moment to introduce yourself in terms of Ms. Lisa being the head of your family. “Welcome to the home of Ms. and Mr. Lisa Smith.”

What I did do, however, was when I greeted them at the door, I introduced myself only as “Lisa’s husband”, not saying my first name. The first woman, Cathy, did not pick up on this, and asked me my name. The second woman, Terri, had a little bit of fun with me. She said, “Nice to meet you Lisa’s husband, I’m Terri. So do you have a name of your own or shall I call you ‘Lisa’s husband’ all evening?” I replied, half jokingly, “Yes, it’s Charles, but I answer to ‘Lisa’s husband,’ ‘Hey you with the apron,’ or even ‘Mr. Lisa.’” Terri laughed and said “Well, I see this is going to be fun.” The three women sat down, I took their drink orders, got their drinks, and then went back to the kitchen to finish dinner. I made Maryland crab cakes with honey mustard sauce, a spinach salad, and herb roasted potatoes.

How did I serve? Like a waiter, with an exceptionally servile attitude. The women absolutely loved it, and when Lisa explained our household arrangement, they loved it even more. They had lots of questions for Lisa and me over dinner which I happily answered. After dinner, I made coffee for them, they went into the living room and talked business for a while, while I cleaned up. After cleaning up, I went in and politely asked “Will there be anything else, ladies?” Lisa’s guests thanked me and replied no.

Lisa said “No, that’ll be all, but before you go to bed, Charles, go through my closet and see if you can find that orange print skirt, you know, the flowered one that I bought in St Croix last year? It’ll probably need to be ironed but you can do that in the morning, just see if you can find it tonight, I want to wear it tomorrow.” “Yes” I replied and left the room, I could hear them talking, “Wow, he does your ironing too!”

What kind of apron do you wear? My boyfriend got several as graduation presents. I gave him one that says “I belong to Her”, his mother gave him one that says, “A Man’s Place Is In The Kitchen”, and one of our professors gave him, “Househusband”.

I find myself imagining that with the right encouragement and with habit, I could be denied sexual release indefinitely. i love serving You and getting You off and taking care of the house and washing your clothes and functioning as Your wife. i enjoy the control that You’ve established and living within whatever Rules You decide to enforce.

Imagine that everything about Your partner is a turn-on–her shape, how her clothes fit her, even her demands. Imagine that when You begin thinking about anything sexual, that larger than life clitoris begins swelling just a little, but enough to press against the metal encasement and cause incessant frustration. And since the device has everything to do with your partner, every sexual thought returns You to thoughts of your partner and making love in a manner that isn’t allowed, that She stymies.

To make matters stranger, imagine no sexual relief at all, just gradual diminution of the feeling and the pressure in the tube as focus happens to turn to something else, although motivation is there, always ready to return to that which is sexually frustrating.

Mistress is usually on top riding me. On occasion she will allow slave to be on top with strict orders not to mess or punishment will be quick and severe. I am also not allowed to look at Mistress and must follow her orders on how fast, how hard, etc.

Occasionally she will allow slave to kneel between her spread legs and stroke her cock until slave leaks pre cum on her pussy and then slave is ordered to clean her up.

the only position I am allowed is my head between her legs

Oh the twice yearly occasions when i am out, it’s always on the bottom.

I worried at first it may not be real. I love your approach to male chastity and could not agree more that orgasms for men are highly over rated. Once a man impregnates a woman with as many children as she desires there is no need for him to ejaculate….too bad we have so much sperm as it is totally not needed. My wife often plays with me, gets me hard and gives me no orgasm…I love her for it…I always use my mouth or hands on her to bring her to climax and love it when she feels no need to reciprocate…If I could only convince her to never again allow me to penetrate her or to cum I think I would be close to heaven……The longest period of caged chastity for me has been two weeks…I would love to make it permanent or at the very least just have her tell me cumming is no longer allowed….I don’t mean once or twice a year I mean permanent…..like in never

my wife also keeps me locked in chastity and we both feel oral sex for her is our sex life, we both know my 30 second mess isn’t worth the clean up or attitude for a week so she has recently decided to keep me locked for a year with no orgasm

On a couple of occasions when my husband has spoken up or attempted to assert something without being asked I have simply given a gentle “Uh oh” – he now understands that to mean that there will be a commensurate “satisfaction reduction” in his immediate future. Because I keep him pretty limited there to begin with – this matters to him a ton! I get a very quick silence and “I’m sorry”.

But what woman wouldn’t want to have a marriage where what she said was final, where her husband would obey her and desire her? What wife wouldn’t want a home where the housework, cleaning, laundry, washing dishes, scrubbing the bathroom, were her husband’s job, where she would be free to pursue more fulfilling interests? What wife wouldn’t love to have control of his paycheck and manage all the finances? What female wouldn’t love to be worshiped as a goddess?

A few years ago, my husband and I sat down and I told him if I was going to make the decisions, I demanded he obey me without question. Do I make mistakes? More than I wish. But my husband takes the blame for them and the punishment; this is his worship of his goddess!

Housework: He does almost all of it. It is his job, to be expected of him. I do not micromanage him, or stand over him telling him what to do. He knows his chores and does them well.

My husband now deposits his paycheck into my account. He is to keep $10 on him at all times and let me know if he spends any so I can give him more. He gets no allowance. After closing the one account I have started paying bills and managing all finances. We use MS Money so he still doesn’t have access to any money himself.

Now I guess it is all turned around as my wife and I have a great WLM. I obey, worship, pamper and adore her. She does like orgasm control for me, allowing me an orgasm about 7 or 8 times a year. Next year she wants to bring it down to 6 times.

When we arrive home late afternoons and weekends, I do everything possible for my wife. All housework, washing, ironing, most cooking as well as take her shopping where she buys whatever she wants. Massages and orgasms for her at night, some teasing for me, then we fall asleep holding eachother. It just couldn’t get any better.

My husband is a researcher in a business founded by my father. I am now the CEO. I am his boss at work and at home. We have few problems. If I fire him, he can stay at home and do his other work. It is great!

He is now at her beck and call. As so many of you have suggested, she is the head of the family. She is the boss. He is her submissive househusband. While he does work as a teacher, he is always home to greet her, has her meals cooked, the house clean, and eagerly awaits his queen’s command.

I am extremely happy to acknowledge her as head of our household. She does wear the pants in our relationship. She is the boss. I am extremely pleased to announce her leadership in public and private. I guess that makes me very intelligent. May She rule for a long time.

He named his wife CEO. The company has an all female executive team. Men, including some of these women’s husbands, are hired in more menial positions. They make a good profit; no one is complaining. However in that town, more men acknowledge the wife as head of the household, leave work early to go home where they clean and cook for their women, and where all women are respected.

Stay home and be her househusband. It also puts her firmly in control. As for working for her, I hope this continues for the rest of my life. She is very generous with her other employees, but I get minimum wage or less. I also get the honor of being bossed around by her in front of others. For me, that is a great experience.Without being sadistic, she loves to show her power over me. She can wilt me with one of her looks of disfavor; she snaps her fingers and I grovel before her. That is how I feel relationships should be.

I recently married one very powerful woman; she is the leader in all things. She always has a warm meal ready for her when she comes home, I gladly fetch her slippers and bring the paper. And sex is done her way at her command. I enjoy waiting on her hand and foot, and I also enjoy using my creative mind to serve her in new ways.

From the beginning my wife has been the head of the household, and her judgments, opinions and priorities rule. She has complete control of the family finances. All earnings from my main employment are deposited into her account, and from this she provides me with an allowance. There is absolutely no need for Diane to explain anything whatsoever about the family finances to me. She is free to spend as she alone sees fit whether, in her judgment, for the benefit of the family or merely for her own enjoyment. Recently, for example, she purchased a new Mini Cooper convertible, and this was her decision alone.

Like many other wife-worshiping husbands who have posted or commented on this blog, I do all the household chores—laundry, running errands, scrubbing the floors, etc. Often while I’m doing my chores, Diane goes out shopping for sexy outfits or getting her hair done, or simply out enjoying herself, spending as she sees fit. As mentioned, she need not, and usually does not, tell me where she is going or what she will be doing.

Just do remember that an occasion of letting him loose help reinforce what he is giving up. I think though in those moments if you do allow release you have to wrap it in a way where he has no choice about the device, and you ramp up the “work” post-happiness to ensure idle minds and hands don’t happen …

The biological elements of the lasting and enduring nature of a woman’s orgasm compared to the short lived and depressing results of a male climax are best kept in mind with “him” sharing in “her” climax and limiting his for both their pleasure and good.

Do I dare to ask a question.you state that you still have intercourse with your husband. Do you intend to stop having intercourse with him as it seems to be the case in your second post?

My husband and I are also on the point of stopping having intercourse and all help would be appreciated.

Practicing male chastity has brought me in profound alignment to meeting my wife’s needs. Chastity has rewired my brain and oriented it toward service to her.

I do believe placing my wife and her pleasure first is the right way to live. For the husband to sacrifice is really no sacrifice at all in the end. It has given me the wife of my dreams!

The paradigm shift of putting her pleasure as the ONLY goal of our lovemaking, not just the FIRST goal, has made a remarkable difference in how we treat each other. Now that my wife is free of the burden of worrying about my pleasure, she seems so much more confident, joyful and playful. I pursue her with love and intense desire and she is having a blast teasing and denying me.

In the past couple of months pet has increasingly become a “househusband” through default. he is doing all the weekly menus, shopping for them and then cooking every day. he is also doing most of the laundry, cleaning and other household chores.

When we were struggling to maintain D/s roles in our earlier months I would have said this was how I wanted him to be… my housepet. But apparently it’s not that simple.

Through no failings on pet’s part at ALL, I have discovered that what I ACTUALLY want is to feel like a Princess. Spoiled with affection, attention, sexual services, etc, etc.

Some wives require their husband to stand when she, or another woman, enter the room in which he is seated. I know of a few that require their husband to be at the door to greet them when she arrives home. I am expected to follow certain protocols of deference like – never asking if we may leave a social function – that is her call, I don’t tell her where we will be going next – she tells me, I open doors

But you might allow him as few as a couple orgasms a month while you enjoy a quickie in the morning, another after work, and a more intimate and prolonged encounter in the evening. That is a ratio approaching 50:1.

These ratios, while interesting, are irrelevant. Once you pass beyond 5:1 there is really no longer any meaningful connection between your orgasms and his, they become entirely different matters: his are a strict matter of discipline, the exact frequency that brings about optimal adoration and obedience while you can enjoy as many as you wish. In fact, the more sexual intimacy, the better for the marriage.

Asymmetric sex has been one of the aspects of our marriage that has been most surprising to me in its development. Don’t get me wrong – I have always been the dominant and leading one in both the relationship and in sex but i have been amazed at how “far” this has gone. I am a bit embarrassed to confess this here but my own satisfaction has become “on demand” and my husband understands that his satisfaction in that way is not a given nor is it “tied” to my own. He is expected to give a great deal of oral and almost whenever I am in that mood. What I think is most unbelievable to me is how this has become a “treat” just for him to do so and that he is so accepting of the fact that it is “just” me who is getting satisfied in that way.

I am not a believer in “eliminating” my husbands satisfaction. I am surprised (hugely) by how motivated he is to “just” satisfy me. I don’t want to “detail it” here but he has accepted a (very) submissive position in the bedroom and it seems to work well for us. I would expect that by some wives standards the ratio of orgasm I allow him is quite low. I have not counted precisely but essentially his are rare mine are frequent. His are based on behavior and compliance. Mine are based on when I want them. I “demand” (that sounds harsher than I usually am but it is required). He is expected not to request but I will provide something when I feel it is warranted and he has shown me he is deserving.

However, even if he is “deserving” it is not by any means guaranteed. Frankly my general mood is always a factor. I do toy with him quite a bit though – to keep him engaged. Lastly, this is not something I would have even believed in my earlier life. I find it immensely satisfying both personally and sexually. I know my husband does too. Is there a degree of frustration for him – absolutely but that is actually a part of what works – I have come to believe.

>My wife does not have the high libido you describe – I have to give her plenty of foreplay to get her in the mood. But her pleasure always comes first, and I no longer expect or really ask for pleasure any more. Sometimes she simply falls asleep after she climaxes. Other times she will tease me and then simply say, “OK, time for bed”.

The “public question” was apparent to me last weekend when I had my husband prep, serve and clean up after a small group of professional women I had over for a “business-social” type gathering.  Again, the “dynamic” did not go unnoticed.  The two single women chided “where can I get one of those”.  At one point there was what I would call some “gentle teasing”.  My husband is sensitive and can be prone to blushing easily and did so then.  I think he knows though that I won’t let the ladies get too rough!

Nancy suggested that Dennis also participate in marches and other public forums in support of women’s issues. He took her suggestions (quite properly) as orders and complied, another good sign. It’s no secret that we women love manipulating men, especially when it results in our getting control of some of man’s ill-gained money. Nancy did this with great aplomb!

In her second year she convinced Dennis that she deserved more than the dormitories and belonged in an upscale downtown apartment. Thinking he was going to move in with Nancy silly boy!—he arranged a very nice apartment. But Nancy had no intention of his moving in with her. She arranged the lease to be in his name only with a sublet to her for $1 a year! This meant that Dennis paid for the year, yet still couldn’t move her from the apartment. In fact, Dennis never moved in, though he did visit on Thursdays to clean the place—that was his responsibility. Dennis was, in effect, my daughter’s sugar daddy, renting the apartment for her for three years. Now that’s a man worth looking at—money and obedience, two very important criteria. (As for that third essential attribute a woman requires in a man, well, let’s just skip over that one for now.

Our matriarchal circle is a small but growing. Many of the couples who join seem to be like your wife and you, Mark. We’re seeing so many educated women who want as much on their terms as they can get—and they deserve it all! You’d be surprised how many men are turning over paychecks, doing housework, and not standing in the way when their wives want regular nights out with the girls—or, more and more frequently, with the “boys.”

Life in our family homes is fairly routine. It’s not some kind of femdom scene, just a well-organized situation with well-established rules to make sure everyone knows their responsibilities. Much of the real lifestyle work we do is outside the home. For example, Dennis has jobs outside of his regular career where he works for women-owned businesses. He also spends a lot of time working at the women’s center, a feminist group that is into a lot of activities, workshops, demonstrations and so on.

My wife/keyholder has recently decided that I am to have a “milestone” chastity period. Specifically: 90 days, no milkings (she has never done them), and NO unlocking. I am admittedly a bit scared.

My previous best was 37 days but that allowed for occasional releases from the device for hygienic reasons and convenience. There was no cumming, but I was able to get fully erect once in a while during those 37 days.

I heard of one Mistress who would have her chaste male place his penis in a bowl of ice while she milked him from behind, to be sure that the result was more healthful than it was sexual for him.

i have noticed that during the two years work of monthly chastity play, i already have shrunk a bit. I was nearly 6 inches when chastity training began, and now i can only must about 4.5. Of course, this is not much of a concern as my days as a “stud” are long gone.

the longest Mistress Michelle has commanded that Her cock slave cks(j) remain locked is 153 days straight with out any release, from chastity device, or successful self induced and commanded prostrate milking, approximately 5 plus months.

four of them were punishment beads so ive felt the belt, the cane , nipple clamps and my mistress strap on.
Saturday we were out with friends and because i have been good and taken my punishment well , i was allowed release for the night, …. big mistake.
on our return we were both drunk and while in bed i made a move on my mistress she didnt reject so i had a great fuck [its been ten day since i last felt pussy around my worm] and i came inside her [something im never allowed to do ]
I was imediately locked up and made to clean my mess. Mistress then informed me that i had taken advantage of her and would be punished severely soon.

1.) you are to call Me Mistress or Maam when you are wearing your collar. (this has evolved to whenever we are private with or without the collar…also when we are IMing or emailing)
2.) Kneel when I am putting on your collar.
3.) I will find you a collar to My liking for you to wear everyday, you are never to take it off. (for a long time this was a leather cock ring, now it’s my CB3000…i also wear a leather and chain bracelet…if anyone asks me what it is i must tell them that i am a slave)
4.) Never say No to Me
5.) Never pass Me in longitude or latitude without kissing Me.
6.) you shave every morning and every evening, whether we are together or not.
7.) Talk with servants to order for Me, My drinks, My Meals, and My wishes. Restaurants, flight attendants, everyone. If I have to answer or speak to them, you have failed.
80.) Always pull My chair out for Me. I will stand until you do, but if you make Me wait, you have failed. If the servants do it before you, you failed.
9.) You are never to start eating before Me and never finish before Me.
10.) Shave My pussy everyday we are together. (shaving always ends with pussy worship. Mistress is multi-orgasmic and comes many times! this is by far my favorite activity and i would spend my entire life with my face between Her legs if i could))
11.) Always walk, sit (or across from Me), & sleep on My left, to protect Me from what I can not see.
12.) You are to protect Me from other Men. I want no contact unless I choose it. I will tell you if I do.
13.) My glass should never be empty unless I tell you no more, regardless of what I am drinking.
14.) Hold My hand while we walk in public. If the walkway is too narrow, you are too follow Me with you hand on My shoulder
15.) Earl grey tea every morning,
16.) Prepare all our Meals.
17.) Erotic email and / or text Message every day.
18.) you drive when we are together
19.) you are responsible for all our wash and dry cleaning
20.) Keep Me warm, especially at night
21.) Never Cum without My permission
22.) Open My car door every time and must assist Me in exiting the car. you must escort Me to the car door and assist Me in entering the car.

Can do without Permission
Prepare our Meals
you can call Me terms of endearment

Must ask Permission to
Put on or take off you collar without Me. I will always put it on and take it off.
Touch My nipples, My pussy, or My feet. you can touch everywhere else on My body.

Punishments

1. Spanking, hairbrush, paddle, riding crop, leather flogger, leather, paddle,
a. Depending on the severity and as we grow in Ds & comfort, may be public.
2. Whipping Leather whip, Leather flog, rope
3. Denial of pleasure Not related to your orgasms, but denial of service to Me and My wishes
4. Orgasm Control & Teasing When we are separate you must beg and ask permission to cum
5. Chastity belt
6. Humiliation & Reprimand
7. Gagged, forced nudity, & bound, and watch your Mistress and smell My pussy

Mistress always cums first. also, since i moved to FL i keep the house organized, run all the errands and do all of the shopping.

i am always rock hard during punishment sessions but during intense moments i will go soft due to the intensity of the pain. i can take the flog for a long time but crop and paddle can be excruciating and the cane is just pure pain. after punishment sex is out of the question for me.

She is still silent the whole time. now, however, when i am finished with Her shave i beg, “please Mistress, it would be a great honor for me if you would grant me the privilege of worshiping Your Pussy.” then Mistress will say, “you may worship Me, slave.”

i am collared and spend lots of time on my knees massaging Mistresses feet and worshiping them. i also shave Mistress every weekend and then bring Her to several orgasms with my mouth and tongue. at that time i am also punished for my transgressions from the week which i am required to record in my “Book of Transgressions”. Mistress has flogs, canes, whips and paddles. i am tied to the bed with leather restraints and chains and i am frequently punished for an hour or more until Mistress and i am exhausted. Mistress loves to watch me squirm and listen to my cries. She comes frequently during O/our sessions. W/we both love checking my ass for bruises and watching the colors change.

i am hardly ever unlocked for sex anymore, & it’s been a very long time since i have been, too. My wife enjoys back rubs & body massages while she sits at the computer, which i like doing as well. What has become routine for this is that i am locked in my leather deprivation hood, blindfold, posture collar & gag. It forces me to concentrate fully on what i am doing without any distractions.

This sometime leads to some play time, but more so for her than me. i am always hoping to be unlocked, but i don’t expect it nor do i ever ask to be. i will massage her breasts while she uses one of her vibrators, or i wear the locking dildo gag that gets put into service. i perform whatever she is in the mood for & can only picture it in my head & rely on my imagination since i cannot see or speak. She will guide my hands or tell me what she wants.

When & if i am unlocked it’s for teasing & edging only & orgasms are extremely rare. i get totally surprised when i do have permission to cum so when she gets me closer & closer to making me & says, “I WANT YOU TO CUM!” i get extremely excited. The fantasy i had of remaining locked for her while she is pleasured has become a reality that i am sometimes so frustrated from i want to cut the chastity off & bring myself to orgasm

Since she is not at present into strap on sex ( me having the strap on over my device) she likes sometimes to have some level of real penetrative sex, before I go down on her, or in-between – lol, – but of course Im not allowed to cum during this. Period! With this practice she can hold me in denial for months I think…

I’m usually locked for a month or so at a time, and not unlocked at all for sex (twice a week typically) during that time. She’s not bothered about PIV, but likes receiving oral, so as you say, no need to let me out. She loves to tease by repeatedly bringing one hand down my back and one my front to meet around the cage ring, absolutely drives me crazy! During the month a good milking will reduce the frustration. I’ve grown to love her flushing and grimacing as she comes: it has replaced my own orgasm for feeling satisfied and relaxed after sex.

I know your situation because in the past my wife has told me that I would not be released for a long time but then let me have an orgasm after two weeks. She was feeding my fantasy of long term lockup by her words but then letting me have an orgasm much sooner. However, over time both she and I have learned that I can go longer so this time I think it is for real. Especially because I made it a point to be extra specially ‘bitchy’ after my last orgasm and when she complained, I told her that it was her fault because I warned her or the consequences and did not ask for an orgasm. I think she is finally ready to go long term. She keeps saying that she prefers me without an orgasm and if she had her way, she would never let me have one. The residual guilt or belief that I will explode or something, seems to have faded.

I don’t see any need for unlocking unless I’m in need of penetrative sex. My orgasms aren’t reliant on Penetration but to be honest I like it once in a while. There’s nothing else that feels quite the same.
For a lot of men, penetrative sex leading to their own orgasm is the be all and end all of sex.

You chaps here all have a very different view of that I’m sure. You also know that sex without penetration and orgasm can be so much more erotic, tender, beautiful, imaginative and sustained.
No one falls asleep on top of anyone or gets to skulk in the male emotional cave after orgasm.

Men remaining in chastity during sex are always in prime condition and always ready to go, as is a dog when you put your coat on and fetch his leash.

My wife could not be the ONLY one craving penetrative sex once in a while – even though she has taken total control over our sexlife, -and more… ( everything else as well , actually – LOL) She could just close that chapter if she wanted to, -but once in a while she wants her cock inside her. And even on rare occasions passionate tender sex…
And the concept of penetrative sex even if I most of the times are not allowed to cum during penetrative sex, – is a much more appealing solution to her urges

I’m only fully released for PIV but not allowed to cum in her, she only really masturbates me when no penetration is required. She use to love feeling me inside her when having an orgasm, but now my tongue and fingers seems to be favoured.

Hence why I’m locked in a cage which never has to be fully removed

My Wife/Mistress/Keyholder has evolved to desire PIV intercourse less and less as time has passed (only twice in over 2 years). She is much happier with massages, pampering, grinding and her vibrator. My story mirrors Barbara D’s in many ways as far as service to our Lady. I am rarely unlocked anymore excluding doctor appointments and a certain physical athletic endeavor I am involved in year round. Otherwise, I remain locked.

We have PIV sex once or twice a week, if she demands. During the entire foreplay I’m not released. When the actual time comes to penetrate, she ties both my hands to bed in such a way that I can’t touch my cock. Then she unlocks me. I penetrate. We both have orgasm. Then she immediately locks my cock and only then releases my hands. I’m not allowed to touch / handle my cock. She says, “just don’t touch my personal belongings”.

Whilst I accept that chastity isnt ALL about being locked up, I do believe it is about not achieving climax very often, for example, my sub hasnt cum since last December

I am “denied” because I don’t have the freedom to decide when to have sex / orgasm. When we enter our bedroom & she takes out chains & locks, I understand that we may have sex. Many times it has happened that she chained my hands / legs / neck, and then she either watches TV or even goes to sleep. And I complain, I stay chained the whole night. The frequency of our sex is ‘her desire’, not mine.
Secondly, she never never never unlocks me when she does not want sex. I think this very much is “being denied”

Then we also have the DENIAL: The NO GO! to sexual release for the sub. It is based upon the control and ownership of subs genitals, and as a result of those two elements we see a significant change in the subs mindset, -towards becoming a totally devoted, serving, pleasing sub, where everything is about her…
This is where my wife – (and I guess many other females) sees the true pros of MALE CHASTITY… ( And because many females easily gets addicted to unconditional oral service- Lol…

She owns me & my cock
I’ branded – I have her name tattooed on my forearm
She uses both of us whenever & however she wants; and if she wants
Her only statement is “We’ll stay together only till I hold the key to your cage & you follow my commands”

I’ve spoken on other threads about my one year of complete chastity. The year was up today (3 March) and my KH gave me 30 seconds to have a ruined orgasm. I figured it would be easy.

It wasn’t.

She told me I’d have to wait another year to try again.

i am needing to use it because i cannot perform as well as i used to & do not want to disappoint. We tried a hollow one that fit to the base ring but the mounting system was terrible & she didn’t like the size & feel. Another hollow one was a size she liked, was very snug on me but was difficult to set up & not done quickly. Solid ones felt best in her opinion, but i need a better harness to allow for my chastity.

What seems to be the best combination for us so far is for me to remain in my device, wear a tight panty over it, then the harness with the new dildo we just got. She can get very loud vocally during an orgasm at times & she did just that with the new one. That’s a great feeling for me because i have not been able to make her do that in a long time.

We have been thinking of numbing cream and several condoms maybe an option, my wife is keen Not to let me feel the warm silky smooth skin for a very long time.

i agree, i love being penetrated by my partner, either his cock or his fingers, I let him out, use my toy and then lock him back up again. The critical things are that he isnt allowed to touch his own cock and that he doesnt cum the permanency of locking him up isnt always the be all and end all

I get no PIV sex at all. It has been about 8 years, 10 if you do not count her girlfriend. No dildo or finger either. Mostly she uses BOB (Battery Operated Buddy) and sometimes lets me manually get her off. She will let me perform oral as a special treat even though she likes it and always has an orgasm.

My particular game is to be in total control of my subs cock and sex life, he is not allowed any solo play. I love his cock inside me so Id be stupid to stop that! Plus I love edging him, so I have to have him out of his cage in order to do that.

Penetration? Of course! Along with nipple stimulation, the penetration of a plug while wearing my harness or manual use of dildo or my p-spot vibe are the only physical pleasures I get! Seriously, I am so ready for this for my Wife/Mistress/Keyholder and I. I have the harness already (a “Doc Johnson For Him”) and a dildo to snap into it that is just about the size I was. I have a black satiny Spanx body shaper that I put on which covers my locked up goods. I then can feed the dildo out of the crotch opening of the shaper and you only see one “penis”. For whatever reason I have not been able to convince my Wife/Mistress/Keyholder to allow me to have my way with her with it. She says she is working up to it…she has stroked it, kissed it, allowed me to rub it in her labia, but never penetrate her. I have been dying to give it a go, even BEGGING, but no luck yet. I guess I am crazy because I KNOW once this happens and she likes it that I will have in essence “trained my replacement” and be spending my future having “sex” in a leather harness which will be holding a big butt plug in my ass and have an unyielding “cock” snapped in place for her pleasure. Heaven help me when she is ready…I feel mentally prepared to let go, but yet proceed knowing all to well to remember that this is what I wished for.

Numbing gel and a condom have worked well for us. CH gets to enjoy the feeling of being filled with a real live hard cock, and I get to feel… nothing.

Ever since she’s been holding the key to my cage, she’s become the dictator! And I love it! Why I was nervous is because I don’t know how will adjust staying locked for weeks and then months!

Whenever we talk about me introducing chastity to her, all she says is “you should have been careful what you wished for! Now that you have handed over the control to me, there is no going back

At the moment we too are at PIV at once a month but its up to her if she wants me inside but after a recent talk i don’t think she seems to want me inside any time soon.

Last time it was over in 30 seconds and today my KH said her goals are to shorten that time even more and another is to have me Cum while locked in my device.

My KH also has goals of a month lock in and then to extend that until there is a real reason to remove the device other than teasing/denial but we will cross that bridge when we get there.

KH thought it was funny that I had to admit I was not as big as I thought I was. At first she refused to let me out saying I should be careful what I wish for. KH also hinted when it does arrive I may locked for sometime.

KH believes I should be in the smallest ring with the shortest spacer as it his her property and she can lock it as tight as she wishes. Is she correct or is she going to damage the goods by doing so?

Some of the topics talk about how long some of us remain locked, how long we go between orgasms, or how we are unable to get an erection due to being in a restrictive device. This made me realize that, aside from knowing that i have not cum or have had an erection in a very long time, i have not seen myself erect for an even much longer time. i actually can’t recall when i saw it last because the few times i am unlocked by my wife i am always in bondage with my eyes covered.

This thought excites me tremendously because it means that i have absolutely no control over that part of my anatomy any more. i have been locked since January 15th this year & was last given permission to have an orgasm in November of last year. When that happened i was bound in a standing position tied to a column in the basement. My legs were apart & kept that way with a spreader bar, my arms were behind the pole with my wrists locked together, my head was locked in a leather hood with a blindfold, posture collar & gag.

My wife had teased me for a while after removing the chastity making me harder than i could imagine. She had finally granted me permission to cum & used a cup to catch it, removed my gag & told me to keep my mouth open as she poured it all in & made me swallow. Before the blindfold was undone i was locked back in & never saw anything. This has been one of a few ways i have been teased & permitted to orgasm. The time prior to that was while laying on my back, but also with the hood, collar, blindfold & gag. Last year i was not permitted to have penetrative sex & last did so in 2012.

I am almost sure i would have seen my erection last summer when i was unlocked for an extended time period, but i just don’t remember what it looked like…..LOL

No change in shape here and I don’t get out of my device much and orgasms for me are rare. Yes, my skin is super soft and hypersensitive now and when unlocked aousal is far from robust unless my Wife/Mistress/Keyholder pushes just the right buttons, which is also very rare…she is not much into unlocked edging but when she does choose to do so the skin takes on a shiny appearance. Fit properly, the 6000s is very secure, unforgiving and definitely very “taming”.

As & when I’m unlocked for just a few minutes, my cock instantly erects at its maximum. While erect, it is straight. However, when it is flaccid, it takes the exact shape of the cage, as if removed out of the mould. But by then, my KH wife locks me again!
I have not removed my base ring in the last one year, so don’t know how it looks when it is removed.

I used to feel sexually satisfied when we had sex when I was unlocked. Now it just seems to be all for her benefit. Then again, I guess that is what it is all about though. I read posts about guys being locked up from anywhere from a few days to a few months or longer. I am wondering if that means being locked during sex or not? I imagine if the KH likes PIV sex, she would unlock you but from her point of view, why unlock your penis if she does not need it?

I agree… my selfish desire for an orgasm, which is always followed by a period of indifference toward mistress, goes away. I become completely focused on doing only what she wants, and when she wants it. That’s why it’s important for mistress to get her man locked up quickly after he gets his little free time, so she can get him under control again.

I’m locked in spiral steel cage (my avatar). We have PIV sex about once ot twice a week. During sex, when my KH wife unlocks me, my dick erects instantly, and I cannot remove the base ring. So I have to turn the locking post downwards & penetrate. Immediately after sex, she locks me. So I have not removed my base ring in the last many months.
We leave in on. We have a MM QK and the base ring we turn around, so the point is under the sack when she wants PIV sex. And it is only happen twice this year by the way.

My ring stays on, but i have not been allowed to penetrate in a very long time, maybe 2012 i think.

Firstly, my wife unlocks me only after foreplay & actually when I insert in her. That time my cock is maximum hard. The moment our sex (penetration & orgasm) is over, she locks me instantly by literally shoving my cock in the cage, so she does not give me even few minutes to get my cock flaccid. I have not removed my base ring in the last many months.

I have not had penetration in my wife for over 20 years, To small. I cant get in. Two inchs hard. Or limp! LoL! When she strapon pegs me, And she yells at me to cum, I then flow and orgasm. I leave ring on. Her humiliation and Dildo is the only thing to make me cum anymore.

My husband hasn’t had his ring off in a year and a half. He is in a Lori tube and when I do unlock him, I just turn the ring like you guys do so that the part that attaches to the cage doesn’t irritate my sensitive parts. It serves two purposes: 1) Keeps him hard, and 2) Makes it easy for quick lock up when I’m done using him.

My wife now has me locked in it for who knows how long. She has caught me a few times just admiring her cock locked in the Jailbird. I cant help it. She just laughs and walks away. On a few occasions she has said I was right all along. I am meant to be locked in chastity. Forever controlled and dominated by a woman.

Exactly 2 years ago I started my journey into chastity.
My KH wife greeted me for total transformation of my personality & also for being a loving, caring husband.
In the last 2 years we have been having PIV sex at least once a week.
Last night, she declared that today onwards the frequency of PIV sex will gradually reduce to once a month, then once in 2 months and finally 3-4 times a year.
However that will not restrict her from having sexual pleasure. I’ll have to give her an oral sex at least once a week or whenever she demands.
This announcement was so unexpected, that I don’t know how to react!
All I know is that I dare not oppose what she’s proposed.