Once you are fully sure that FLR is what you want, the only way to live it properly is to fully control your sub. Not partially, but fully. You are becoming a ruler, he is becoming an obedient pet servant. So, just as with the ownership, control starts best by controlling his sexual urges. Apparently my husband was much kinkier then me, it is he who introduced the idea of chastity. He introduced it, I embraced it after a while. Simple…it turns him on to be locked up, it turns me on to have him locked up and under control. After he became my submissive, he started to admit all kinds of thing I never knew before. For example, he admitted that he loves to masturbate, regardless of the fact that we always had great sex. It did surprise me for a moment but I realized and understood why…he never before had a chance to explore and fulfill his kinky desires, so he did that by fantasizing about it and masturbating, while we were not together. That had to stop so now, my hubby is locked in his CB 6000 chastity device, unlocked only when I see fit…CONTROL.

I keep all the keys but still, when we are not together, he has to oblige whenever I ask and send me a photo of his locked penis. This is control, even from a distance. Feels good and, after his chastity life began, I introduced slowly more and more control over all aspects of our life. His chastity didn’t begin with full-time wearing of his device. I slowly increased the time I kept his penis locked up to the point where now it is rare for him to be unlocked for more than a few minutes a month. Likewise, his day is very structured with chores and serving my needs, with very little free time available to him. It is what I think works best for our relationship and we couldn’t be happier.

It is esential to control subs orgasms for a simple reason…a horny and frustrated male is a better servant. Men tend to lose interest in their partners needs, once they are allowed to orgasm. Once you establish this, path to full ownership becomes very short. Control a penis, control a man. In all aspects of FLR, verbal part is very important. Constat verbal repeating of Dom’s and subs’s status in a relationship, definately makes a sub more submissive. This also can easily be tested, the same way I described testing of fetishes, previously. “Yes” is a word you want to hear all the time, so make sure you repeat whatever you see fit, until sub’s replies are only yeses.

Cunnilingus is the best example to decribe devotional sex, but of course do not limit yourself to only cunnilingus.

What is devotional sex? So your sub claims that he will do anything to please yout. This of course is not limited to sex, but lets start with it. From the point at which both of you agree to have a FLR, it practiclly means that your subs attention and focus will be you, your desires, your pleasure, your needs. Yes it is selfish, but in order for FLR to function the way it should, selfish is a must.

So devotional sex in short, would be your sexual pleasure first, your subs second,,,if any at all, but we will come to that later.

Back to cunnilingus, you will be in position to have it any place, any time, any way you want it. If your partner is submissive, then by default he loves going down on you. If you love cunnilingus, now is your oportunity to really enjoy it sensless. And remember, repetition is a tool for obedience and quality training.

I love being able to do the chores so that she can relax and appreciate my efforts. Down on my hands and knees cleaning the kitchen floor, cleaning the bathroom. I do 90% of the shopping always being careful to have the items she likes around the house. i have become a very good cook adapting my meals to the things that she enjoys most. My favorite gifts are when she buys me something for my work in the kitchen. These include cooking lessons with a local chef, a high quality knife set, a fresh pasta maker, a set of mixing bowls, feminine aprons, and others.