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Erection control

I have two cages. one allows no erection and the other allows for me to get fairly hard. My wife loved me wearing the one that allowed for some sort of boner. She would tease me while I wore it, and since it allowed for a small erection it left me unbelievably turned on. She would have me make her cum and then start teasing about letting me out to jack off. Of course rarely letting me do that. She would literally have me begging and crying for release. I would not get like that wearing the cage that prevented any kind of erection.

No “training” here but my Wife/Mistress/Keyholder does seem to get some twisted satisfaction out of knowing my device is small enough that it keeps me from getting nothing more than a small swell that melts and goes soft upon the resistance of the tube portion of my Lori #2c,  at which point I am then usually limp and leaking…and anal penetration…the thought of it makes me swell right beforehand BUT as soon as the invasion begins I shrivel and go limp and leak as well without any type of penile stimulation. Even before I was locked perpetually I would shrink and go limp upon commencement of slipping in a dildo or plug without any kind of stimulation to my penis. Even at that with stimulation I would still only be able to maintain a weak erection until only moments before orgasm when I would then get very hard and spasm on the anal toy as I ejaculated but VERY quickly go VERY limp.

My Mistress makes me wear a spiked ring attachment to device when I’m not with her to ensure I don’t have any unauthorized thoughts. The spikes bring me to tears if I get hard with the ring in place.

She takes it off when I’m with her if she wants massages etc

We also have a few cages. normally he is kept in the Attica 3. its pretty small. about an inch and a half long, not very wide. just enough room for his little thing. this is his normal cage, so if he gets excited for any reason, its an instant reminder who he belongs to. one of the others i like, i don’t know the name, but i use it when i feel like giving a little torture, or spankings sometimes. he can grow to about 3 inches, that’s it. hes barely over 4 when erect anyway, so that’s almost all the way. i love seeing a full cage and hearing the moans. i swear i could almost cum from that. i normally will let him in the bigger cage when he is servicing. its fun to sometimes give the little blue pill when hes in the cages too!

We are a couple with me in the late 40 and my kh/wife is with 10 years younger. Few years ago, with small steps, we turn to FLR. Soon involved chastity and she was very pleased by consequence, so start to increase continuous wearing of cage, with shortening the range of freedom days, but we are still beginners. She is increasingly stricter but loving and caring and i am allowed to orgasm, but not as often as I would have liked.

Last week i begged my wife for the permission to orgasm. Slight irritated by my insistence she said: „you had 24 orgasms until now on 2016. for many this are more than enough for a entire year and many are not so lucky.” She wrote to a friend, about, and soon replied this: “”24 in a year overall is at least 12 too many. 24 in 6 months!!! Never should happen. At most he should be at between 5-7 this time of year.“” I tried to argue that is a single opinion, but then she insisted no more orgasms the rest of the year.

She clicks the lock shut on my cage and gives me a tug to symbolize and to reinforce her control of me – eve while She is at work. If I have my daily chore list completed by the time She gets home,I then get released from my cage and am required to tie my balls in a pink ribbon to symbolize my status during the evening.

Within the framework that the whole chastity lifestyle is consensual, she has total control. A couple of months ago she decided I would get between 0 and 6 orgasms in the next year. (No ruined either). I had the feeling that it would be zero because she’d asked me if I could handle zero and I said yes, I thought I could. Then yesterday she announced after pussy worship that the cage could come off and she’d give me a handjob (penetration or her giving me oral not on the cards ever). So I was taken by complete surprise. And she added that next time — whenever that was — the cage would probably stay on.

My wife give me a reward last night for all my hard work over the weekend and the last 7 weeks of denial.

We went up to bed and she ordered me to lick her toes, i nelt on the floor and licked her toes for about 5 minutes whilst i could hear groans coming from the bed. I was getting very excited.

I was then order to satisfy her with my mouth and afterwards she produced the key.

“You are going to be allowed sex but dont you dare cum”

It felt absolutely amazing, cudnt believe my luck. Nearly came but managed to hold it off. After about 10 mins i was ordered back into the lock.

Needless to say, im struggling to concentrate today!!

Cant wait for my next release!

She is really happy with my progress. Im finding it alot easier now knowing i simply dont get to have satisying orgasms. She said to just accept it and it would be easier.The way my Wife was before is that I would get to cum around once per week with full satisfying orgasms, but i was constantly begging her for them. Now i only get ruined around once per month.
I find that as PIV becomes more of a rare reward, I become more emotional when I am aloud to enter her. Truly an amazing experience thing when it happens. Are you allowed to have intercourse with your wife often or is it reserved for more special occasions?
I’m allowed around 3-4 times per year when I’m been going the extra mile with my chores etc (no cum though). The rest of the time i hold her vibrator to my groin as if its a cock and she loves it! We’ve been looking at getting a life like strap-on i can use to make it more practical.
This past Saturday my Mistress/Wife finally agreed to allow me to try penetrative sex with her using the vac u lock system. Given I have been caged for almost 4 months now and with no hope for release any time soon, I guess it makes sense she decided to try. I am happy to report she absolutely loved it! So much so she told me we are doing it again tonight. She said it was getting the best of both worlds. She could be with me sorta and know I was being totally frustrated and tortured. (The things she says makes me behave best) Anyway it was really weird for me but in a good way.

No erection rule

Of course, I defer to all other Mistresses about what they want to do with the penises they own.

But in my posts, I have expressed the opinion that penises of slaves, sissies and chaste guys need to stay small. This is why.

What is the purpose of an erection? There are two.

Men who are about to fuck clearly need erections. My boyfriends have beautiful ones and use them to pleasure me. They are men. They are entitled.

Erections are also acceptable for boys who masturbate. Let them have fun with their cocks.

But slaves like my husband are not allowed to fuck or masturbate, making an erection not only unnecessary but inappropriate.

So if you are not fucking or masturbating, why should your penis be allowed to grow?

When one of my boyfriends comes over, shouldn’t his be the only erection in the room? If my husband had one too, how disrespectful would that be?

An erection could also indicate that my husband sees his penis as a sex organ, which is of course ridiculous. his mouth and his asshole are his sex organs and he knows this.

When I first forbade erections, my husband had trouble obeying this. So I did him a favor and put him in chastity. he was grateful because it helped him obey my rule.

The only time he showed any lack of gratitude was his first day in a KTB. After his first erection attempt in that device, he asked me to take it off. I refused. he never asked again.

I adore the way you are with your slave husband. I am in a similar situation. My penis is never used for sex, not even jacking off. Instead, I prepare my wife for sex with real men. I also get to worship her ass frequently. Over the years, watching and listening to her have great sex with her lovers, I have learned just how truly inadequate I am providing my wife with sexual pleasure. I have learned to accept my role as her “eunuch” helper. She too finds my erections and especially my cum as offensive and demeaning to her. When I sniff her asshole, I do get aroused and leak some precum, but I never ever erect.

I am so happy for you. Not only is your penis never used for sex. But you also get to have your face near Her wonderful asshole. What a lucky slave you are.

Although I do not allow my husband to have erections, I do have use for his cum. About once a month, I perform a prostate milking so that his cum dribbles from his limp penis with no orgasm. Then he licks it up.

Submissive males who choose to live with a dominant woman may find themselves pleasuring her as a submissive with his tongue and not as a lover with his undesired penis. He will forgo erections, ejaculations and fucking all for the pleasure of worshiping his female partner. I really struggled early on in my relationship as my wife found great pleasure with her lover. On those nights, she was so worn out sexually afterwards that she had absolutely no energy, let alone desire, to play with me. It was never “my turn.”

I accept it now. No erections. No orgasm. No sex (except worshiping her feet or asshole).

My wife loves sexual pleasure. Her lover, and occasionally a female for a threesome, join with her in a night of sexual bliss. I am never invited to participate. I never erect. My penis appears to them as a “button” between my legs, dripping pre-cum to show my arousal. But, I am addicted to all of it. I can’t imagine life without this. I prepare her for sex.  She will have me sniff and lick her asshole in between rounds of sex. Her feet get sweaty and I adore the smell and taste as I lick them clean.

I accept it now. No erections. No orgasm. No sex (except worshiping her feet or asshole).

The current status of my Mistress’s penis is “Purely decorative”. Mistress hasn’t told me yet if I will ever get another erection or use if for anything.

In most devices, your penis will try to expand but not have enough room to. It will press against the device and eventually give up.

The KTB is different. With that, spikes will dig into your penis as it tries to erect. As you can imagine, this quickly ends your erection attempt.

If you are permitted to pee without asking permission, the need-to-pee erection is not a problem. your penis will not be able to erect but you will be able to sit on the toilet and relieve yourself with the device on.

My husband wore a KTB pretty much 24/7 for two years.Every time his penis would try to erect, the pins would dig in, stopping the erection attempt. After that, there would be slight indentations on his penis which would fade in a few minutes.he suffered no damage. he never bled.

It kept his penis nice and soft as it should be.

My wife is the one who decides on whether i may have one or not, and i have not had one in a very long time. (Locked since January 15th) The device i am locked in is just a couple of millimeters larger than my flaccid size. The waist chain that is locked in place pulls the device in very close to my body so when i start to get aroused the cage & base ring don’t move outward at all.

I obey her rules now. I don’t have to wear a chastity belt, but I’m not permitted to touch myself. She wants her word to be stronger than any restraint. Once a week she allows me relief and her feminine hands rarely need more than a minute to make me come. I’m punished only for my shortcomings and accept it since she is taking on the responsibility to make me a better man. When I’m released from the hand-cuffs (maybe one day I’ll be able to welcome her administration so that they won’t be necessary anymore) I’m allowed to serve her orally. I love this very much even when she looses control and I receive her golden nectar. It makes me very proud that my tongue is making her climax. I’m doing my best to please her and we will marry this fall.

Last fall she announced a different regime to reinforce my chastity and our bonds. Instead of being corrected when I fail to fulfill her expectations she now punishes me regularly. I dread the weekends because the caning is severe now. She hits me until I don’t have an erection any more. This can take up to two dozen strokes because she stimulates me after some strokes before resuming the punishment. Only when she is certain that I won’t stiffen anymore, I’m freed and allowed to serve her orally. Despite the pain, I’m often turned on to no end but she is usually very exhausted afterwards and sends me to bed without giving me relief.

FLR with feminist

“The term female-led relationship (or “FLR”) refers to a model for romantic heterosexual relationship in which both partners agree that the woman will act as the leader and ultimate authority. If the participants are married, the arrangement may be termed a female-led marriage (FLM) or wife-led marriage (WLM).

This type of relationship may involve various kinds of dominant behavior by the female partner. It can include control over finances and free time of both people by the woman, determination of where the couple lives, works, or how they live on a daily basis in every aspect of the relationship.

As a part of a FLR, punishment and/or rewards are sometimes used to control or train the male partner.

Sexual activity may be completely controlled by the woman who determines how and when sex is practiced. Often the man may be placed in chastity and limited to orally satisfying the wife and may often be teased and denied in return.

In some cases, the female-led relationship may involve freedom for the woman to see other men, but total fidelity of the male partner (see Cuckolding).”

This form of relationship is really nothing new, it has been around for longer than I could figure out. However it is only recently that it has begun to become accepted in the mainstream of society. With this level of male humiliation and control again doesn’t surprise me that feminists would absolutely love it to have there cake and eat it too. After all, what feminist woman wouldn’t want to have control over every aspect of her man’s life, including his ability to even masturbate.

It’s also referred to as “loving wives”. Many men & women who desire this lifestyle, blog quite a bit about it, and share their experiences and “training” techniques.

Supposedly, the dominance training comes through sexual “tease and denial”. Wherein the male is put in his “headspace” by extended times of being forced to pleasure his mate, at the expense of denying his release, wherein he becomes very submissive, and becomes basically a willing slave, capitulating to her every desire. Many say that once they receive “permission” for.a orgasm, they basically turn back into a man, and become “lazy” & defiant toward their mate, until their body desires another release.

Seems like a complete gender reversal role, as the man winds up doing all the housework, has absolutely no hobbies of his own, no money to spend on himself. I akin it to a complete gender flip of the Duluth model of abuse. But these men somehow desire being controlled like this.

 

Semen retention rules

You’ll find that once you’ve set an ejaculation schedule for your husband, his behavior will start to transform.

It’s been my experience that when a male is retaining, and you’re applying daily sexual stimulation without release for him, that he wants to give far more service in the bedroom and household than you might feel comfortable taking.  It was impossible for me to demand too much from him, and he even gets disappointed if I don’t take enough.  It won’t make any sense to you until you see it for yourself, but he is experiencing a fundamental truth of his nature.  He’ll want you to take everything from him, and still try to top you from the bottom to get you to take more.  If it gets too much for you, simply relieve the pressure with ejaculation.
It was a learning process. For instance,  I found that sleeping in the same bed with a semen retaining male isn’t conducive to sleep.  He needs his own sleeping quarters, and I need mine.  You’ll have to see how that works for you, but I don’t need to be woken up in the middle of the night by a raging hard on.  I need my sleep.  My master bedroom is off limits after 10pm.  Your husband may have his own quirks that you may need to work through.
You’ll also need to decide what kind of relationship you want.  His ejaculation schedule will regulate that.  Do you want to function like two equal adults, or would you like him worshiping you, groveling at your feet.  From my experience, either one is possible.  At first, I took and took pushing him to exhaustion.  He was on such a tight leash, I think I broke him.  Since, I backed off the dial, he’s still submissive, but the relationship sails on a more even keel.
Then tell him what chores need to be completed before ejaculation.  My husband may be on a 5-7 day schedule, but that is contingent upon his behavior, and certain things getting done.  If he’s had an instance of poor behavior, his 7 day schedule just became 8 or 9 days.  Would you like to try for 10?  It corrects bad behavior instantly.   I’m so proud of him.  He now asks me me what my plans are for ejaculation day.  It’s a given that his release now comes through me.
My reading suggested that lovemaking should be thirty minute sessions.  He should thrust if he can, and then stop short of ejaculation, rest and then start again.  If he can’t thrust, he should remain motionless, but still inside only thrusting when he can to maintain an erection.  Even if it’s just you as a couple just kissing with his penis inside you motionless, that will be sufficient.  It should be a very bonding time between the couple.  The woman should pursue as many orgasms as possible during this period.  You could have him lie on his side with you on your back forming a “T”, putting his penis inside you without moving while you stimulate your clitoris.  This position also allows me to put my foot in his face as he services me which my husband loves.
I believe in daily intercourse between the yoni (vagina) and lingam (penis), but no ejaculation for the man, and all the orgasms for the woman that she can handle.  A man is free to orgasm, but there must not be ejaculation.  Unfortunately orgasm and ejaculation are so closely bound together for the man, he must experience orgasm through his wife’s orgasm until his special day.  I’ve read it’s possible for a man to orgasm without ejaculation.  If he can, more power to him.  It’s certainly beyond my husband’s capability.  If a man is ready for it, it may happen for him in time, probably a very long time.  Until then he has the pleasure of intercourse, and the orgasm he creates for his wife which she should be able to channel to him between the union of the lingam and yoni.