Once a male has adequately adapted to being locked up
in a chastity device on a more-or-less permanent basis, his female keyholder will experience a total rush of power and control over her submissive.

Even though deep down he desperately wants to be locked-up in a chastity device and controlled by a strong and powerful woman, the typical male has been brain-washed by society that he should be the one who is in control.

His well conditioned ego will rebel against a woman who has decided that it’s time for Her to take charge of things, including how, when, where and if he will be permitted an orgasm.

He will begin to beg for a release, state that this male chastity thing is not what he really wanted after all, complain of discomfort and needing more orgasms and even attempt to top-from-the-bottom.

Only a firm, consistent and tenacious stand by his keyholder will thwart these annoying but persistent rants of discontent. If he really wants to be locked up and denied, then it will be on Her terms…. period!

This is the only way a male chastity lifestyle can really work to everyone’s satisfaction. And initially, it can take quite a bit of time and effort on her part to get him to this stage of acceptance.

But it’s all worth it because once this level of dominance has been firmly established, Her life changes forever.

While every woman is different, one of the issues that may be of concern for Her will be the lack of penetrative sex.

After all, his dick is not available anymore. Even if she occasionally
allows him out of his male chastity device to enter Her (which she probably shouldn’t), the experience of sexual intercourse will be foreign enough to completely overwhelm him causing a hair-trigger orgasm.

His sexual incompetence will be so disgustingly unsatisfactory to Her that she will eventually find it necessary to resort to a penis-gag/combination dildo so he can fuck her orally or even a strap-on dildo for him to use while still being locked up in his chastity cage.

Deciding on where a male chastity lifestyle will eventually lead to is a question that couples should talk about before actually locking him up.

More often than not, male chastity fits in perfectly with a D/s, Femdom or a FLR (Female Led Relationship). Orgasm denial, in conjunction with a chastity device, is just a natural extension of a Femdom relationship.

On the other end of the spectrum, there are females who keep their
husbands or boyfriends locked up 24/7, practice long term orgasm denial along with other Femdom activities such as whippings, verbal and public humiliation, feminization, frequent tease and denial sessions.

Sometimes things progress to the point where she eventually turns him into a permanent male chastity slave, with his concerned consent of course.

In reality, most couples never take things quite this far. Once he agrees to become her full time chastity slave, a big, bold line is drawn; if he decides to step over that line into slave territory, it’s difficult for him to ever go back.

When this happens, the woman becomes intoxicated with the power rush that goes along with owning her own slave that she has complete control over, including his ability to orgasm. There are not too many females that would ever feel compelled to relinquish this control.

At this point, a true male chastity slave has, for all intents and purposes, abdicated his rights as a husband or boyfriend. His keyholder may now feel compelled to ignore his penis completely and forbid any penetrative sexual needs that he has to focus exclusively on her pleasure.

Her chastity slave has now been relegated to mere servant status. He will typically be cut off from any form of sexual intimacy and will usually be forbidden any orgasms what-so-ever.

If she decides to forgo the cuckolding route, then a male strap-on dildo, worn over his male chastity device, becomes one of her favorite sources of pleasure.

She now keeps him around for three reasons only….

1. He takes complete care of all the home upkeep and housework, something she would never consider going back to.
2. His outside job provides her with money for clothes, shoes, lingerie, make-up and hair/manicure expenses which are substantial.
3. She is addicted to the power rush she gets knowing that she has her own slave locked-up and denied while she can experience as much pleasure as she wants.

Why would a male chastity slave decide to stick around and put up with this demeaning, humiliating not to mention frustrating lifestyle.

That’s a question that he asks himself frequently, and one that only he can answer by a deep understanding of the powerful emotions he feels while enduring long term orgasm denial by way of a male chastity device.

I am not allowed to touch myself in front of Linda. Now that I am no longer able to get it up she permits me to be naked in her presence.But at his point her rules remain firm no masturbation allowed. She told me it would be a shame to ruin a perfect situation so leave it alone and the urge will over time will disappear.

I have often thought about asking my wife to put me into chastity, as we have now reached the stage in her Female Supremacy lifestyle where she regards me as sexually irrelevant (she has not so much as touched my penis in over 5 years). But I don’t have the courage to ask as I think it would end badly. She would probably think I’m a fucking pervert as she is not at all in to BDSM. Either that or she would take to the idea as it would symbolize my sexless status, but in that case I don’t think she would ever let me out. I can’t imagine her unlocking me afterwards and certainly she wouldn’t go to the effort of milking me. So it is too dangerous a subject for me to mention.

You told your wife haven’t touch your penis for years. Well I was in the same situation. Last time I penetrated my wife was almost 7 years ago. I used to masturbated a lot, but now its over. She doesn’t allow it and she is very strict.

Don’t worry about how long you will be locked up. I get locked up for months and it doesn’t bother me anymore. I’ve been locked up since the day I proposed to her. That’s another story.

Is anybody here who is locked in permanent chastity like me?  So far I’ve been locked for 1,5 years. I haven’t had a single orgasm in this whole time and my wife already told me this isn’t going to change. She makes me wear a butt plug everyday to keep me horny.

Sometimes, she removes my chastity cage and lets me fuck her for a while. Of course I have to fuck her with a condom and go back to the cage without cumming or having an orgasm. She only allows me vaginal sex once or twice a year if I have been perfectly obedient and submissive toward her.

I’ve been locked in chastity for over 5 years. I love it. In fact I don’t like being out of chastity. I don’t get to fuck my wife very often maybe 2 to 3 times a year. I do give her lots of oral.

On august 30 i have been in chastity for a year. Since my wife Gabby thinks i have been such a good servant for her this year, she has allowed me to masturbate once. That will be on Saturday, under her supervision.

i think you should honor her offer to you. i think it would give her joy to feel like she has bestowed this honor upon you and it would be impolite of you to refuse just to feel content in your chastity.

Long-term devices can be worn for days, weeks, or even months at a time (so long as they are removed at regular intervals for short periods of time to allow for hygiene and inspection). The use of such a device produces amazing, incredible, and fantastic results. Mere words cannot express the state of near perfection in my husband produced by long-term chastity. We had been into Domestic Discipline for over a year before I used such a device. I had begun to believe that my husband’s behavior was as close to perfect as one can attain on this earth. Long-term chastity brought his behavior to a higher level altogether.

The magic of a long-term device is that it not only prevents ejaculation, it prevents him from even stimulating himself. Even when you have his ejaculations under control, most men will still touch themselves in order to give themselves some pleasure. These devices will not allow that, and therefore dramatically increase his sexual dependence on you. His compliance and behavioral improvements multiply exponentially with the use of long-term chastity.

Some women I’ve read on the subject advocate never allowing their man an orgasm or allowing orgasm at very long intervals such as every 6 months or every year.

I am a natural for Domestic Discipline because I enjoy having and using sexual power. I get a thrill from sexually dominating my husband. I enjoy forcing his face into my crotch for oral sex. I enjoy being on top during intercourse, talking to him, warning him about what will happen if he cums before I’ve said he may. When we roll over, I enjoy the way he winces and whines when I use my riding crop to reinforce my directions that he speed up or slow down. My husband, of course, enjoys these things too. I also enjoy punishing him when he has not performed to my standards. We are a perfect fit in this regard.

As the male becomes more accustomed to being locked up for extended periods of time and accepts his status of male chastity, a natural move toward permanent male chastity will take place.

When this threshold is reached, it may be time for male chastity piercing. Having his dick pierced will take the the concept of permanent male chastity from fantasy to reality.

When a female keyholder finds that unsupervised and unauthorized ejaculations are taking place, despite being under lock-and-key, it’s time for HER to get him a male chastity piercing.

However, times are a changin’ and as male chastity becomes more popular, some couples are turning to permanent male chastity to not only enhance but to actually resurrect and sometimes even save their relationship.

Permanent male chastity is certainly not for every couple and is a decision that should never be taken lightly. After all, it’s permanent!

Preparing him for permanent male chastity is a process. It’s something that needs to be thoroughly discussed and planned out in order for it to work out.

The first step, once you have a well-fitting and reasonably comfortable chastity device locked in place, is to have him go 30 days of continuous chastity; absolutely no removal of the chastity device and obviously, no orgasms.

The next milestone is to have him get a Prince Albert or PA piercing that will work with his current chastity cage. This would also be the perfect time to get a new chastity device, one that is suitable for very long term wear.

After his piercing is completely healed, it is now time to stretch his time in chastity out to 60 days. If he can physically and emotionally handle two straight months of continuous chastity wear coupled with orgasm denial, he is ready to be locked up into permanent male chastity.

Some women will allow him 1 (one) orgasm per year, preferably on the anniversary of his permanent lock up, but always performed in a humiliating fashion.

Once he agrees to this, his surrender and devotion to you becomes complete. You now have your very own chastity slave.

With this control comes a power rush that is extremely erotic, from both his and her perspective.

He will always be horny, frustrated and ready to please, in any way that you want.

His libido can be kept at a high level by implementing intense weekly teasing sessions, with the chastity device always securely locked and in place of course.

You will want to start a collection of strap-on dildos for when you desire penetrative sex. Many women find that they actually prefer a nice sized, vibrating dildo over the ‘real’ thing.

Nothing is more erotic than to be fucked good and hard, for as long as you want, all the while knowing that he will never be achieving a release. His frustration level, and your state of arousal, will both be at a 12 (on a scale of 1-10).

Experiencing this inequitable power dynamic will soon have you reaching ‘earthquake level’ types of orgasms.

As far as his prostrate health goes, his body will naturally produce a spontaneous discharge, usually in the form of a wet dream, every 60 to 90 days. There will be no need for you to perform any messy and time consuming milkings.

Permanent male chastity has been known to save an otherwise ‘hopeless’ relationship. It can effectively replace a disdainful and disrespectful attitude on his part with one of adoration and appreciation.

Of course an adequate chastity device is an absolute requirement as a firm foundation for permanent chastity.

Last night my wife returned from a 2 days trip to the beach with her girlfriends. I was given her a pedicure when she brought the subject of keep me in permanent chastity.

My first reaction was to say “no”. I really did not want that. It is hard enough to live with 1 orgasm every 3 or 4 months.

But I love her and she knows how to convince me. She said: “Darling, I am not forcing you. I am just say I will be very happy if you accept to live in permanent chastity. I will be so happy that I will give you many more milkings and I will allow you to participate more when i am having sex, and you will have one last orgasm…Just think about it ok? We can talk again in a week. Now keep doing my feet”

Well, what to say? I just said “Yes sweetheart” and returned to work on her feet.

Are you ready to completely surrender to her? To give up your conjugal rights and privileges? To surrender to her authority? To be placed in a situation where your marital love making will consist of giving her pleasure without the physical connection of intercourse? To receive sexual relief only through a ‘milking’ that will leave you drained but unfulfilled?

If you can answer yes to all the above….

I’m curious, how will this permanent chastity be achieved? I assume that you are already in a chastity device. Will you now be pierced? Let answer you question. Yes I am in chastity but for periods of 3 or 4 months.

We are not thinking, at least I am not about piercing. The ideia is to cancel my releases and instead I would receive more frequently milkings.

Yes, I am afraid that I will go crazy, but I think my wife is not worried about that.

At the same moment I know it is gonna be hard, I also want to do everything she wants.

Another thing that excites me is that we talked a little more about it and she told me she probably would have to find another ways to make me suffer, after that.

Even though it might be frustrating at times to be in chastity, i don’t think it will make you crazy. I have been more or less locked up since autumn 2007.

This last year my wife Gabby has let me stay out of teh chastity decvice for a week now and then. I have had every chance to cum those times, but never done so without her approval. The few orgasms i’ve had haven’t really been that great (but the humiliation has)

My wife wants me in permanent chastity as well. She views me as essentially a eunuch because my penis and testicles are so tiny. I have not had an orgasm for about 6 months now. My wife has many orgasms each week. Mostly from her lovers, sometimes with her toys (which I am required to clean after work), and now and then with my tongue. Most every day, I am allowed to worship her ass.

When we met, we agreed to a permanently chaste relationship because she had no sexual interest in me but did greatly enjoy my companionship. She also enjoys my worship and adoration of her. She is not a “fetish” style Domme. But, she understands she can dominate me completely. Pussy whip me. On our first couple of dates I spent hours worshiping her ass. My tongue also brought her to several good orgasms.

She wants me in permanent chastity. I have resisted even though I rarely cum. She wants me to live like the eunuch I was supposed to be. My penis is pierced and there are several chastity cages that could be locked on to me using the piercings. She wants me to finally give in to her and live as her faithful eunuch.

We are probably as close as we will ever be to this final act of surrender to her. There is nothing “fantasy” about it. Instead, we would live as Queen and eunuch. I would be there for her always.Well after think for a while I decided to accept my faith.

I analyzed these factors:

1 – My last intercourse was in 2005, so it was 4 years ago, almost five

2 – I do not want to have sex with another woman and I will never have the oportunity to have sex again with my wife.

3 – I am more submissive when I am in chastity

4 – Milking really helps so I think I can handle it

5 – My wife is really happy. She dropped a tear when I told her that I accepted.

My wife was happy but as I delayed to much my decision she told that I will not receive my last orgasm as planned

My Lady does not use my penis for intercourse…we have been together now for appox 40 months..all of which I have been locked in a device . She removes it rarely ..maybe twice a year on average and it is mostly to whip my junk.

Being in chastity for 24/7, and with my KH starting to insist or enforcing “permanent” chastity was what I wished for, even orgasm denial or restriction to once a month etc was on my wish list. Now that my “wishes” have come true, fantasy has become reality, and even a daily lifestyle… I find myself in deeper that “wished”, with any way out becoming less and less… not that I want out, but my KH dominance over my sexuality is becoming stronger than I ever imaged with:

1. My orgasms have to be earned, and criteria for earning release is ever increasing.
2. No more planned orgasms i.e. on a date… now becoming “as I wish” or ..”for my (her) pleasure or entertainment”.
3. Being told very clearly she does not want to go back to my “old” self, with the benefits of chastity in my attitude, attentiveness etc being her motivation for permanent enforced chastity.
4. PIV as much as she wants, but I am not allowed to orgasm without her permission.
5. Moving towards a genuine FLR/WLM, obedience, submission, domestic discipline, anal, etc at a much faster pace.

While I welcome all the changes and her enthusiasm for chastity, the future of potentially very few orgasms, permanent chastity 24/7 and a Wife Led Marriage, is somewhat daunting. We do talk about it, but her mind is set on moving forward. I find her confidence as a dominant woman very sexy and appealing, but the thought that I am entering a very different life, brought upon in parts by chastity, and the wonderful changes it brought to our marriage, remains a huge change.

She is deciding on my orgasms, when and even where… which is a bit scary, but she has already expressed it will not be before mid August, with her already pushing it out because of me displeasuring her on the weekend…
Reality I must say is harder than I imagined, permanent denial is tough, i am desperately horney, last night she edged me to near orgasm, and then having to cage “it” again is hard… I wished for this, in many ways for her to take control, now that she has I feel I cannot go back without loosing what we have and where our relationship is…
We talk alot about it, but it definately appears she is becoming very comfortable with her control, and denying me an orgasm she sees as pefectly normal in our FLR/D/s relationship, plus keeping me in permanent chastity, with the brief exception when she wishes to use me (PIV)… the rest is pleasure only for her, and yes she no longer feels guilty about it either, she happily enjoys multiple orgasms, which I am more than happy to provide, or even watch as she pleasures herself in front of me.

My wife and I completed a year of chastity with orgasms anywhere from 3 to 6 weeks. We learned that the first 3 weeks are the hardest for me. After that I could care less and enjoy edging over an orgasm. The year trial period ended in November 2014 and we sat down to decide if this would become our lifestyle. I was in favor or it as was my wife but she had one stipulation; permanent chastity and by that she meant getting a custom device and wearing it 24/7 to only be removed for health, hygiene and other valid reasons like fitting a new device. She says that she does not want to deny me orgasms but they will only be ruined orgasms.

I was not willing to commit to that right now and told her so. She said we can do another trial year. If I demand a full orgasm she will hand the keys back to me and give me an orgasm but will not do chastity anymore because she thinks it is a lot of extra work for her and she only enjoys it when I have gone at least 4 weeks. That is when I stop asking for an orgasm and get very pliable to her will. So I agreed to a full year without a regular orgasm. I am on month two since we made our new arrangement in early November. So far so good and I think I can do it as I really enjoy the constant arousal and long edging sessions. I do not even like me after I orgasm. I get depressed and cranky for almost a week. My wife avoids being in the same room as me and walks on egg shells.

So this is my new life. I am not worried because my wife is my Mistress, she is my loving wife and I know that if she senses I am in mental or physical duress she will make me cum but if not, she is dead set against full orgasms for me. However, even if I do the full year, I do not know that I would agree with her no more for life full orgasms.

I asked her “If I wanted to have this off right now and end this, what would you think”? She replied “I guess it would depend on why? If it’s because of medical reasons or due to your age it was becoming uncomfortable but you still would honor me, love me and treat me the same, then maybe yes I would agree to removing it. But if you wanted it off just because you were tired of it and wanted to go back to your old ways and jerking off, then no, it’s not coming off”.

Unless it’s for medical or ‘work” related reasons… The cage stays on. There have been times I wanted it off, it was uncomfortable I was irritable an I wanted out… She was stedfast. -….”NO, there is no way you are going back to your old ways – you committed to chastity and I’m holding you to it…

I feigned “injury” – she promptly inspected me, and then she savored the 3 strokes of the cane she administered for wasting her time (the cage stayed on)..

After nearly a year of experimentation with wearing a device, my wife and I are discussing a more permanent, consistent arrangement. We both agree that our marriage has been greatly enriched, in and out of the bedroom, since I asked her to be my key holder. And while I don’t wear the device all of the time, I am expected to stay chaste (i.e., not indulge in acts of self-gratification).

My wife has recently taken a “course” in FLR, the moderator of which believes that the male orgasm is a selfish, pointless act, one which should be consistently denied. My wife loves how I act when I am denied (I couldn’t be a better, more attentive husband when I haven’t had release in a few weeks), and hates how moody and selfish I become, post-release.

So, other than an infrequent ruined orgasm, and nocturnal emissions, my wife is leaning toward permanent denial. I wonder if anyone else here has experience with this–is it realistic to live one’s life this way, or will I become a basket case in short order?

My wife is set on chastity being a “permanent”, or for the foreseeable future, part of our life, meaning I stay chaste 100% of the time (if practically possible off course). She insists on and therefore enforces chastity, like this morning I was allowed out (cage off only – base ring on) to stroke my cock to near orgasm, then calm down and back into the cage.

The second form of denial this year, is her decision to make 2016 a orgasm-free year, to counter the post-orgasm moodiness. It’s an experiment she want to try out to improve my behavior “permanently”, and hence a year’s worth of denial, is in my book fairly permanent.

A further aspect is milking, if my KH can get me milked (once a month) she may lean to complete orgasm denial, or use orgasm as a special treat I have to earn, again improving my behavior but with a potential reward in the making.

I have no problem with chastity 24/7, and love being chaste for her, and she loves the obvious behavioral improvement plus me being chaste for her. The orgasm denial part of it is still something I need to work with, it’s hard at times and constantly horny for her – which is what she wants, so it plays towards her vision of things and the way forward in our FLR – but honestly I would prefer to orgasm every few months atleast with the caveat that if my behavior changes she extends the time frame – BUT for now, I am on day 28 of 366 of a orgasm free year – which she, as your wife feels, may just be permanently denied… Maybe being milked will help

I am on day 47 no orgasm and only 1 erection. Locked in a jailbird. She says maybe she will make me cum sometime in March, as I am not allowed to touch it or cum without her hand in it.

I am getting close to that. Something like 2 months since i’ve been uncaged and have only been milked and had runied orgasms in the cage so no etections at all and no release for anything. MsM has the extra security option for the Contender on its way and that has a seal that has to be cut off with side-cutters do it won’t be comming off often after that . She has decided to change me over to the old HT2 while travelling overseas but still totally locked.

Last cage removal was August 2015. Last orgasm was March 2015. When I ask the wife when next cage removal is, she uses the word “years”. So i guess this is pretty close to permanent. Locks are checked every couple weeks, but the cage is not removed. Because of the open cage design, cleaning is not a problem.

I’ve been released for climax twice in the past year about 3 years ago I went two years locked with no release basically one release a year now for the rest of my life so yes I’m basically permanently locked I love it and she loves me very much

We had the agreement, that she should reduce my orgasms more and more. Last year in November I got my fourth orgasm in 2015 one day before our holiday. Next day after arriving at our holiday apartment my wife asked me, if I could imagine to live one year totally chaste. Let me explain, she said. According to our agreement you have to expect two orgasms next year and your last orgasm in 2017 . I believe that you would think a lot of your last three ones,especially when there will be only one left and become perhaps sad and disappointed, when they wouldn’t be like an earthquake. I am afraid, that may be too hard for you. So, why not take your orgasm of yesterday as your last one? I know this surprises you and it’s very sudden but I think it’s not as painful as our agreement. And if it doesn’t work, we have to think over our agreement anyway and have to look with how less orgasms you can live with.

Once John gave me his keys, I would unlock him weekly and remove the cage on the pretense of inspecting “my property”. I also noted each time how much of the cage was filled with his flaccid member. Over many months, I had the cage length shortened once and John has progressed down 2 ring sizes in the cuff ring so, even without a PA piercing, his cage is very secure and even if he could pull out the back, it grips his scrotum so firmly that he would derive little pleasure from stroking. I wanted even the slightest erection attempt to be immediately stifled by the cage. He was to be completely dependant on me for an erection and any release.

Initially, I started him out at one week in his device, followed by a release. At each new lockup, I added another week. When we reached a month, we had a long talk and I decided to extend it to two months. The time locked is not really important in this discussion, but what I did in between is what really gave us meaningful progress towards my final goal of permanency. John’s releases were always given in the same manner. I would unlock his device and remove the cage. The base, or cuff ring, behind his scrotum always stayed on. I viewed this ring as somewhat of a chastity wedding band never to be removed plus it served the purpose of a cockring making for quick and very sensitive erections. I would stimulate John with my hand and with the Wand vibrator, taking him to the edge many times. Often I would stop his ministrations and masturbate myself while he watched, all the while telling him how hot locking and denying him made me. As I worked him up to the finale, when he was delirious with lust, I would deliberately slow the pace and tell him; “John, one day soon I’m going to lock you permanently. I want you to give your permanent chastity to me as a gift. You will let me know when you are ready, won’t you?”. Then, I would take him over the edge and allow a release. It was always so intense, he could hardly withstand it. We went on this way for almost a year. Later on, after John had been locked for a 3 month period, I told him it was time for another release. As I took my key and reached for his lock, he put his hand over the lock and looked at me. No words needed to be exchanged. I knew what he meant and smiled back at him. I thanked him for such a wonderful gift and put away the key.

Although John hasn’t had an orgasm in over a year, I still enjoy removing his cage and edging him. He enjoys it even though he knows it will end short of a release for him. We both know that he will probably not be released for the purpose of an ejaculation ever again.

Claire is a loving Keyholder, but also a very strict one. There are times when I am simply desperate to get out of this device. The cage is so small that I fill it completely when I’m flaccid and the cuff ring is sufficiently snug that it is uncomfortable at times. When I plead with her, she will hold me, rub my shoulders, reason with me and help me relax, but she will absolutely not unlock me. Case in point, the other night I lay in bed beside my beautiful wife. As I pressed up against her, my cock was rock hard and throbbing in the small cage keeping me awake as it does many nights. She felt my fidgeting and asked what the matter was. When I told her, she lay there for a minute and then said, “That’s good baby, let it throb for me”. A minute or so later I felt her hand go between her legs followed shortly by the familiar sigh of her arousal. Shortly, she rolled on her back, spread her legs and said, “lick me”. Down I went to that heavenly, now very wet, place that I love so much. It wasn’t long until she had a very vocal orgasm. As she came down, she pulled me up to her chest, hugged me and told me how lucky she was to have me and how I turned her on so much. I just melted in her arms and could have stayed there forever. How could intimacy between us be any better?

Ladies, let talk some truths. There is absolutely no reason whatsoever why your man should ever receive permission for a full orgasm. EVER! There is nothing to be gained from it because his constant need to ejaculate is what keeps him alert, submissive, and ready to serve. Even the most obedient men display a drop in submissiveness and servitude after a full orgasm. Besides, to ruin or deny the male orgasm is one of the most delightful things in a (FLR)female led relationship. The slow dribble of sperm from his penis is emasculating for him, and empowering for you. Also I find his libido actually increases after a ruined orgasm, adding to his desperation to please. That leads us to the next truth.

Believe it or not, wearing my chastity device has been a positive. It is a constant physical reminder of my predicament and of her control. It also removes any temptation to self-pleasure and pretty much insures my compliance with her wishes. I really do feel she keeps me locked because she loves me and wants to make our marriage stronger. Contrary to my expectations, the physical aspect of orgasm denial hasn’t been as difficult as I expected. We don’t do prostate massages or milking anymore. Claire is convinced they are unnecessary. My body seems to deal with the denial with a nighttime emission usually once a month while I am sleeping. I receive no pleasure from it nor any discomfort, it just happens. What happens in my mind much of the time is quite another matter.

I desperately miss full erections that much. I have only been having one per month (except for a couple of weeks at the end of November). I’ve been locked 24/7 for several months now, only unlocked for daily cleaning and monthly intercourse. I think I will miss the feeling of her vagina a lot more.

In order to be indefinitely locked, that means no unlocking period so you want to consider another device out a to wear before going this route. You also have to figure out a way to keep clean without unlocking. And of course intercourse is gone forever. Not for the faint of heart.

You may have had an orgasm in your device while fooling around with your wife but the longer you stay locked, the more unlikely that will continue. We started long term lockups without unlock that averaged around 3-4 months. When let out for a teasing session after one of these lockups, I was either edged with no orgasm or ruined then locked back up for another 3-4 months. No full orgasms allowed. Plenty of sex with me locked though that kept my arousal going.

We then decided to go indefinite like you are thinking about. We were averaging 6 months with sometimes a little longer. Same routine when unlocked with edging only or ruined, then locked back up again.

As far as time locked is concerned, It’s whatever she wants. I am not allowed to question when. It’s sometimes a week or up to 4 months. The guessing keeps me highly aroused all the time and she loves it that way.

Oh yeah, it’s good to feel her vagina which you will never have again, but I’ll never know how it feels to orgasm in her any more. The ache is something special.

The change to my chastity that my wife is proposing would change my experience pretty substantially. I would no longer be able to thrust or rub against anything to have an orgasm. I would be in a totally submissive position sexually. If my wife can’t or won’t bring me to climax, I will be powerless to do anything to “help” her.

As an example, the few times my wife gave me handjobs, she was terrible at it, but I could thrust and stimulate myself against her hands even if she didn’t know what she was doing. If my wife moves forward with this, I will not be able to do anything like that. I will be completely submitted to her desire and ability to trigger an orgasm.

We discussed it some more last night. She told me that she would really like to never have me unlocked during sex. However, she realizes that training me to cum in my cage might be really hard, so she said that she will let me have a PIV orgasm in July if I’m struggling to reach orgasm in the cage.

The wife told me last night that she wants me locked during lovemaking permanently. She says we’re done using my penis. The only purpose it will serve now is for her to enjoy seeing it locked up.

She got me to a small orgasm and that convinced her that she wants that to be my release method. Once per month she will make an effort to get me there. We found it helps if she has an orgasm while I’m really close. That seems to push me over the edge into orgasm.

I do have to say that it is quite different. Orgasming in the cage feels good, but not as intense. It’s slower and just kind of a slow leak rather than spurting. And I stayed way horny afterward. My arousal didn’t disappear like it does after a regular orgasm.

Well, that’s good that your penis has been set aside for sex. But… you are still getting orgasms, be they small. Should that be allowed–the orgasms, I mean?

My chastity is not truly permanent, I’m due for an orgasm in a couple years. But the cage will not be removed except for a medical emergency. Last real orgasm was March. Last cage removal was August. Wife said that would be last removal until orgasm time. It was only removed because the locks and lock cavities had to be cleaned after beach vacation. Regular cleaning is not an issue because it is a Steelworxx Looker. Stimulation by hand is impossible because we had extra bars added to the cage. It’s almost like wearing a solid tube. In desperation, I have tried using a vibrator to orgasm, but that was not enjoyable and just makes me even more horny. I am stuffed into a very small cage so erections can’t even start. Things just get more snug and then after a few seconds just subside.

There are certain decisions that I do own and his input matters very little.  The first is chores and house rules.  I decide what chores he will do and how they are to be done.  He does the bulk of the chores in our house and he does them to my expectations.  I decide the rules of the house, which are things like how he serves me, whether or not he can go out with friends, what behaviors are acceptable and not acceptable, etc.  If rules are disobeyed or chores are neglected, he is punished.  The second area of decision making that I have complete control over is sex/bedroom activity. I control his orgasms and decide when and how he can have them. I control when we have sex, foreplay, fun time, etc.  If I am in the mood for foreplay or sex, then we have it.  If I want an orgasm, I get an orgasm. If he is in the mood for sexual activity, he can try to initiate it, but I will determine whether or not it will happen and if it does happen it is on my terms.  That is just the way it is in my relationship and this approach is common in most FLRs. It is one of the perks for the woman. Call it our reward for taking on the leadership role.

While it is a perk for women, I find that it is also what submissive men want.  They desire a woman to have this control over them.  They enjoy being held accountable for their responsibilities.  There are nights where Thomas is busy doing chores from the time he comes home from work, until the time he goes to bed.  Some nights he is hustling to get them done so he can get to bed at a decent hour.  He has told me that he enjoys this as he feels like he is truly serving me almost like a slave and he enjoys that. He also indicated that he enjoys doing these things for me so that I feel like a Goddess or Princess. It gives him a sense of fulfillment. I can’t argue with that.

Another difference in a FLR compared to a traditional relationship is how we discuss things when making a decision.  Usually he is naked and kneeling before me.  Most of the time this occurs at night before bed. This just happens to be the time when we are together the most and part of our nightly routine is having him kneel before me.  However, there are also times where I want to discuss something with him and I will call him up to the room and have him kneel naked before me for the discussion.  I find that this position sets the tone of my authority over him and reduces the potential for an argumentative situation.  It also ensures his attention is focused 100% on the discussion.  His opinions are heard and taken into consideration but I am the ultimate decision maker.  I highly recommend incorporating the kneeling position into your normal routine for the reasons stated above.  Additionally, most submissive guys actually prefer this position when talking to their wife.  Thomas has admitted that he enjoys kneeling for me when we discuss things.  It may seem awkward to you at first, but trust me, he will love it and it does not take long before it feels normal to you.

Some of our discussions around decisions may also occur as part of our discipline sessions, while he is across my lap.  This is another position I enjoy because it reinforces my authority over him and he is smart enough to not argue when he is vulnerable and I have a spanking instrument in my hand :).  I want to point out that these positions are not meant to intimidate him into a decision but rather to ensure there is proper attitude and respect during discussion so that there is not arguing.  This technique has been extremely effective in our marriage.

I’ve discussed what I feel are the key differences in decision making in a FLR compared to a relationship.  These include:

1. The female has the final say on all decisions
2. The male is often kneeling before the female during discussions related to decisions
3. The female decides on chores/house rules and sex/bedroom play.

Yes, of course he is still whipped regularly – if not by me then by our delightful and increasingly dominant maid Mady; but the fact is that a combination of earlier training, strict chastity and a more or less permanent cock cage had really improved elliot’s behaviour.

Which leads me to the question: are men actually better behaved whan they have very little hope of sexual activity? I’ve read various accounts of men who are in chastity worshiping their wives in the hope of being allowed some sexual relief. But that seems very instrumental. What happens to men when you take that hope away almost entirely?

Men are, as I often point out, funny creatures. They spend far too much of their time thinking about sex. If you, as a strict and loving wife, take sex largely out of the equation – save your own pleasure of course – my sense is that, after a period of adjustment, they will rechannel all that sexual energy into more productive uses.

Which is not to say that you want to remove sexual excitement. But, by keeping a man in a constant state of hopeless sexual frustration and by removing any sexual agency, I think many wives might find that their husbands are far more ready to accept the direction they so desperately need without the necessity of frequent whippings.

As my darling elliot relates on his blog, today was the first day he has been locked into a scrotum stretcher.

I have to admit I was more than a little sceptical when I first came across these chunks of heavy stainless steel on Amazon. But their shiny finish and uncompromising humbling of the precious male equipment struck me as just the thing for my sweetie.

Keeping elliot in his little cock cage 24/7 has its appeal but, of course, the novelty has worn off a bit. But the idea of stretching his silly ball sack seems to promise a bit of fun, and mild discomfort, for the cold winter months. The trade name of the device is “Ball Stretcher” but that is incorrect. The device fits snugly above the little orbs and, I gather, the weight stretches the skin.

We’re starting with the smallest, 10mm with a weight of 4.3 ounces. You can buy them up to 50mm and nearly 2 pounds…Yikes! In fact, because of elliot’s cage I doubt we will be able to go much more than 30mm. Look at how well elliot adjusted to having his cock permanently caged. Men are odd but they are also very stoic.