The threat of bumping my husband’s ejaculation day has a huge impact on his behavior.

-Also, for an infraction of the schedule (if you stimulated your self without her permission for instance), she could implement an 8:30 bedtime for a week or whatever time and length she chooses that would be averse. The threat of a bedtime terrifies my husband so it works. An 8:00 bedtime is averse in that it removes all stimulus, and gives you time to reflect what you’ve done and how committed you are to following her wishes. Before she goes to bed, she should check in with you and ask you to explain why you now have a bedtime.

-Corner time can also be effective. Turn a chair facing the corner and sit there for an hour. She should check with you periodically during this time out and have you explain why you have a time out.

– Nose against the wall. She can have you stand with your nose against the wall with a quarter between your nose and the wall for fifteen minutes. If the quarter falls, the time is increased. It’s pretty averse.

-Putting a man on a allowance for spending money for a period of time is also averse. If his behavior is compliant, spending limits go up. If he’s not, spending limits get tighter.

-If he’s a sports fan, there is no game watching. I personally feel that sports should be eliminated anyway, but the wife should determine what games are to be viewed.

-Whether he has permission to go out with friends should be determined by compliance with the ejaculation schedule.

My husband, and I have been doing this for a close to a year, and we still kinda consider it a trial. At some point though, I expect to have a special moment where he commits to this for life. It’s already pretty cemented into the relationship, but a formal ceremony would be nice.

After we have discussed of the consequences, my wife finally choose an early bedtime for a whole week and have me bought a baby cam. During this time we will have separate bedrooms. We have a discussion about the difference between an accident during intercourse or ejaculation through masturbation. She thinks that in the second case it should be two weeks…

I think she’s right. Intentional masturbation should be dealt with more harshly. Pick the bedtime and amount of days that is right for both of you. My husband finds one day with an early bedtime akin to Chinese water torture and is very aversive. It keeps him very alert during intercourse about warning me about any spill that may arise. He actually would prefer a whipping with a leather strap than an early bedtime. Accidents happen, but I really don’t like them as it wrecks all the work we’ve done in retaining. I can probably count on one hand the number of accidents he’s had in the past year.

I think you’ll find the possibility that your wife may be watching for any unwanted touching very controlling and serve your desire to be under her thumb. The best thing about this aversive stimuli, is that you’ll actually get the rest you need which is so important in addition to helping with retention.

I just adore your confidence and the way you rule your household and the way your husband does the housework and cedes to you all the privileges the old patriarchal male used to have–and all this simply through following his sexual urges as shaped by semen retention. This is the best meaning of dominant-submissive, leader-follower as the template for female-male relationships. To me, your world is perfect world.

Or you can live on my planet where I can turn his brain to mush with a touch, and he profoundly thanks me for the opportunity to enter me, and begs for a chance to just give me 9 more orgasms to make his intercourse session last a little longer.  And if the kitchen is spotless, I might reward him by letting him give me 9 more before we put his penis away until tomorrow.  But really, 27 orgasms is usually my limit no matter how clean the kitchen is.

I don’t have any philosophy other than promoting semen retention. Everything we do flows from that. Our FLR flows from that. I observe that when he retains, it seems to produce a change in his biology where this once dominate male requires a severe female controlling authority. I’m happy to provide it and quite enjoy it. His submissiveness elicits my dominance.

I’ve asked my husband if he would like to be cut off entirely from intercourse to help him with retention for his health and forego the intercourse because of the frustration of not finishing, and that suggestion was met with a resounding, NO.  He would rather have daily intercourse without ejaculation than no intercourse at all.  Apparently, he’s still getting a positive experience from it.  Indeed, he says it’s the best sex he’s ever had and thanks me for my resolve.