It’s been my experience that when a male is retaining, and you’re applying daily sexual stimulation without release for him, that he wants to give far more service in the bedroom and household than you might feel comfortable taking.  It was impossible for me to demand too much from him, and he even gets disappointed if I don’t take enough.  It won’t make any sense to you until you see it for yourself, but he is experiencing a fundamental truth of his nature.  He’ll want you to take everything from him, and still try to top you from the bottom to get you to take more.  If it gets too much for you, simply relieve the pressure with ejaculation.

It was a learning process. For instance,  I found that sleeping in the same bed with a semen retaining male isn’t conducive to sleep.  He needs his own sleeping quarters, and I need mine.  You’ll have to see how that works for you, but I don’t need to be woken up in the middle of the night by a raging hard on.  I need my sleep.  My master bedroom is off limits after 10pm.  Your husband may have his own quirks that you may need to work through.

You’ll also need to decide what kind of relationship you want.  His ejaculation schedule will regulate that.  Do you want to function like two equal adults, or would you like him worshiping you, groveling at your feet.  From my experience, either one is possible.  At first, I took and took pushing him to exhaustion.  He was on such a tight leash, I think I broke him.  Since, I backed off the dial, he’s still submissive, but the relationship sails on a more even keel.

Then tell him what chores need to be completed before ejaculation.  My husband may be on a 5-7 day schedule, but that is contingent upon his behavior, and certain things getting done.  If he’s had an instance of poor behavior, his 7 day schedule just became 8 or 9 days.  Would you like to try for 10?  It corrects bad behavior instantly.   I’m so proud of him.  He now asks me me what my plans are for ejaculation day.  It’s a given that his release now comes through me.

My reading suggested that lovemaking should be thirty minute sessions.  He should thrust if he can, and then stop short of ejaculation, rest and then start again.  If he can’t thrust, he should remain motionless, but still inside only thrusting when he can to maintain an erection.  Even if it’s just you as a couple just kissing with his penis inside you motionless, that will be sufficient.  It should be a very bonding time between the couple.  The woman should pursue as many orgasms as possible during this period.  You could have him lie on his side with you on your back forming a “T”, putting his penis inside you without moving while you stimulate your clitoris.  This position also allows me to put my foot in his face as he services me which my husband loves.

I believe in daily intercourse between the yoni (vagina) and lingam (penis), but no ejaculation for the man, and all the orgasms for the woman that she can handle.  A man is free to orgasm, but there must not be ejaculation.  Unfortunately orgasm and ejaculation are so closely bound together for the man, he must experience orgasm through his wife’s orgasm until his special day.  I’ve read it’s possible for a man to orgasm without ejaculation.  If he can, more power to him.  It’s certainly beyond my husband’s capability.  If a man is ready for it, it may happen for him in time, probably a very long time.  Until then he has the pleasure of intercourse, and the orgasm he creates for his wife which she should be able to channel to him between the union of the lingam and yoni.