After nearly a year of experimentation with wearing a device, my wife and I are discussing a more permanent, consistent arrangement. We both agree that our marriage has been greatly enriched, in and out of the bedroom, since I asked her to be my key holder. And while I don’t wear the device all of the time, I am expected to stay chaste (i.e., not indulge in acts of self-gratification).

My wife has recently taken a “course” in FLR, the moderator of which believes that the male orgasm is a selfish, pointless act, one which should be consistently denied. My wife loves how I act when I am denied (I couldn’t be a better, more attentive husband when I haven’t had release in a few weeks), and hates how moody and selfish I become, post-release.

So, other than an infrequent ruined orgasm, and nocturnal emissions, my wife is leaning toward permanent denial. I wonder if anyone else here has experience with this–is it realistic to live one’s life this way, or will I become a basket case in short order?

My wife is set on chastity being a “permanent”, or for the foreseeable future, part of our life, meaning I stay chaste 100% of the time (if practically possible off course). She insists on and therefore enforces chastity, like this morning I was allowed out (cage off only – base ring on) to stroke my cock to near orgasm, then calm down and back into the cage.

The second form of denial this year, is her decision to make 2016 a orgasm-free year, to counter the post-orgasm moodiness. It’s an experiment she want to try out to improve my behavior “permanently”, and hence a year’s worth of denial, is in my book fairly permanent.

A further aspect is milking, if my KH can get me milked (once a month) she may lean to complete orgasm denial, or use orgasm as a special treat I have to earn, again improving my behavior but with a potential reward in the making.

I have no problem with chastity 24/7, and love being chaste for her, and she loves the obvious behavioral improvement plus me being chaste for her. The orgasm denial part of it is still something I need to work with, it’s hard at times and constantly horny for her – which is what she wants, so it plays towards her vision of things and the way forward in our FLR – but honestly I would prefer to orgasm every few months atleast with the caveat that if my behavior changes she extends the time frame – BUT for now, I am on day 28 of 366 of a orgasm free year – which she, as your wife feels, may just be permanently denied… Maybe being milked will help

I am on day 47 no orgasm and only 1 erection. Locked in a jailbird. She says maybe she will make me cum sometime in March, as I am not allowed to touch it or cum without her hand in it.

I am getting close to that. Something like 2 months since i’ve been uncaged and have only been milked and had runied orgasms in the cage so no etections at all and no release for anything. MsM has the extra security option for the Contender on its way and that has a seal that has to be cut off with side-cutters do it won’t be comming off often after that . She has decided to change me over to the old HT2 while travelling overseas but still totally locked.

Last cage removal was August 2015. Last orgasm was March 2015. When I ask the wife when next cage removal is, she uses the word “years”. So i guess this is pretty close to permanent. Locks are checked every couple weeks, but the cage is not removed. Because of the open cage design, cleaning is not a problem.

I’ve been released for climax twice in the past year about 3 years ago I went two years locked with no release basically one release a year now for the rest of my life so yes I’m basically permanently locked I love it and she loves me very much

We had the agreement, that she should reduce my orgasms more and more. Last year in November I got my fourth orgasm in 2015 one day before our holiday. Next day after arriving at our holiday apartment my wife asked me, if I could imagine to live one year totally chaste. Let me explain, she said. According to our agreement you have to expect two orgasms next year and your last orgasm in 2017 . I believe that you would think a lot of your last three ones,especially when there will be only one left and become perhaps sad and disappointed, when they wouldn’t be like an earthquake. I am afraid, that may be too hard for you. So, why not take your orgasm of yesterday as your last one? I know this surprises you and it’s very sudden but I think it’s not as painful as our agreement. And if it doesn’t work, we have to think over our agreement anyway and have to look with how less orgasms you can live with.

Once John gave me his keys, I would unlock him weekly and remove the cage on the pretense of inspecting “my property”. I also noted each time how much of the cage was filled with his flaccid member. Over many months, I had the cage length shortened once and John has progressed down 2 ring sizes in the cuff ring so, even without a PA piercing, his cage is very secure and even if he could pull out the back, it grips his scrotum so firmly that he would derive little pleasure from stroking. I wanted even the slightest erection attempt to be immediately stifled by the cage. He was to be completely dependant on me for an erection and any release.

Initially, I started him out at one week in his device, followed by a release. At each new lockup, I added another week. When we reached a month, we had a long talk and I decided to extend it to two months. The time locked is not really important in this discussion, but what I did in between is what really gave us meaningful progress towards my final goal of permanency. John’s releases were always given in the same manner. I would unlock his device and remove the cage. The base, or cuff ring, behind his scrotum always stayed on. I viewed this ring as somewhat of a chastity wedding band never to be removed plus it served the purpose of a cockring making for quick and very sensitive erections. I would stimulate John with my hand and with the Wand vibrator, taking him to the edge many times. Often I would stop his ministrations and masturbate myself while he watched, all the while telling him how hot locking and denying him made me. As I worked him up to the finale, when he was delirious with lust, I would deliberately slow the pace and tell him; “John, one day soon I’m going to lock you permanently. I want you to give your permanent chastity to me as a gift. You will let me know when you are ready, won’t you?”. Then, I would take him over the edge and allow a release. It was always so intense, he could hardly withstand it. We went on this way for almost a year. Later on, after John had been locked for a 3 month period, I told him it was time for another release. As I took my key and reached for his lock, he put his hand over the lock and looked at me. No words needed to be exchanged. I knew what he meant and smiled back at him. I thanked him for such a wonderful gift and put away the key.

Although John hasn’t had an orgasm in over a year, I still enjoy removing his cage and edging him. He enjoys it even though he knows it will end short of a release for him. We both know that he will probably not be released for the purpose of an ejaculation ever again.

Claire is a loving Keyholder, but also a very strict one. There are times when I am simply desperate to get out of this device. The cage is so small that I fill it completely when I’m flaccid and the cuff ring is sufficiently snug that it is uncomfortable at times. When I plead with her, she will hold me, rub my shoulders, reason with me and help me relax, but she will absolutely not unlock me. Case in point, the other night I lay in bed beside my beautiful wife. As I pressed up against her, my cock was rock hard and throbbing in the small cage keeping me awake as it does many nights. She felt my fidgeting and asked what the matter was. When I told her, she lay there for a minute and then said, “That’s good baby, let it throb for me”. A minute or so later I felt her hand go between her legs followed shortly by the familiar sigh of her arousal. Shortly, she rolled on her back, spread her legs and said, “lick me”. Down I went to that heavenly, now very wet, place that I love so much. It wasn’t long until she had a very vocal orgasm. As she came down, she pulled me up to her chest, hugged me and told me how lucky she was to have me and how I turned her on so much. I just melted in her arms and could have stayed there forever. How could intimacy between us be any better?

Ladies, let talk some truths. There is absolutely no reason whatsoever why your man should ever receive permission for a full orgasm. EVER! There is nothing to be gained from it because his constant need to ejaculate is what keeps him alert, submissive, and ready to serve. Even the most obedient men display a drop in submissiveness and servitude after a full orgasm. Besides, to ruin or deny the male orgasm is one of the most delightful things in a (FLR)female led relationship. The slow dribble of sperm from his penis is emasculating for him, and empowering for you. Also I find his libido actually increases after a ruined orgasm, adding to his desperation to please. That leads us to the next truth.

Believe it or not, wearing my chastity device has been a positive. It is a constant physical reminder of my predicament and of her control. It also removes any temptation to self-pleasure and pretty much insures my compliance with her wishes. I really do feel she keeps me locked because she loves me and wants to make our marriage stronger. Contrary to my expectations, the physical aspect of orgasm denial hasn’t been as difficult as I expected. We don’t do prostate massages or milking anymore. Claire is convinced they are unnecessary. My body seems to deal with the denial with a nighttime emission usually once a month while I am sleeping. I receive no pleasure from it nor any discomfort, it just happens. What happens in my mind much of the time is quite another matter.

I desperately miss full erections that much. I have only been having one per month (except for a couple of weeks at the end of November). I’ve been locked 24/7 for several months now, only unlocked for daily cleaning and monthly intercourse. I think I will miss the feeling of her vagina a lot more.

In order to be indefinitely locked, that means no unlocking period so you want to consider another device out a to wear before going this route. You also have to figure out a way to keep clean without unlocking. And of course intercourse is gone forever. Not for the faint of heart.

You may have had an orgasm in your device while fooling around with your wife but the longer you stay locked, the more unlikely that will continue. We started long term lockups without unlock that averaged around 3-4 months. When let out for a teasing session after one of these lockups, I was either edged with no orgasm or ruined then locked back up for another 3-4 months. No full orgasms allowed. Plenty of sex with me locked though that kept my arousal going.

We then decided to go indefinite like you are thinking about. We were averaging 6 months with sometimes a little longer. Same routine when unlocked with edging only or ruined, then locked back up again.

As far as time locked is concerned, It’s whatever she wants. I am not allowed to question when. It’s sometimes a week or up to 4 months. The guessing keeps me highly aroused all the time and she loves it that way.

Oh yeah, it’s good to feel her vagina which you will never have again, but I’ll never know how it feels to orgasm in her any more. The ache is something special.

The change to my chastity that my wife is proposing would change my experience pretty substantially. I would no longer be able to thrust or rub against anything to have an orgasm. I would be in a totally submissive position sexually. If my wife can’t or won’t bring me to climax, I will be powerless to do anything to “help” her.

As an example, the few times my wife gave me handjobs, she was terrible at it, but I could thrust and stimulate myself against her hands even if she didn’t know what she was doing. If my wife moves forward with this, I will not be able to do anything like that. I will be completely submitted to her desire and ability to trigger an orgasm.

We discussed it some more last night. She told me that she would really like to never have me unlocked during sex. However, she realizes that training me to cum in my cage might be really hard, so she said that she will let me have a PIV orgasm in July if I’m struggling to reach orgasm in the cage.

The wife told me last night that she wants me locked during lovemaking permanently. She says we’re done using my penis. The only purpose it will serve now is for her to enjoy seeing it locked up.

She got me to a small orgasm and that convinced her that she wants that to be my release method. Once per month she will make an effort to get me there. We found it helps if she has an orgasm while I’m really close. That seems to push me over the edge into orgasm.

I do have to say that it is quite different. Orgasming in the cage feels good, but not as intense. It’s slower and just kind of a slow leak rather than spurting. And I stayed way horny afterward. My arousal didn’t disappear like it does after a regular orgasm.

Well, that’s good that your penis has been set aside for sex. But… you are still getting orgasms, be they small. Should that be allowed–the orgasms, I mean?

My chastity is not truly permanent, I’m due for an orgasm in a couple years. But the cage will not be removed except for a medical emergency. Last real orgasm was March. Last cage removal was August. Wife said that would be last removal until orgasm time. It was only removed because the locks and lock cavities had to be cleaned after beach vacation. Regular cleaning is not an issue because it is a Steelworxx Looker. Stimulation by hand is impossible because we had extra bars added to the cage. It’s almost like wearing a solid tube. In desperation, I have tried using a vibrator to orgasm, but that was not enjoyable and just makes me even more horny. I am stuffed into a very small cage so erections can’t even start. Things just get more snug and then after a few seconds just subside.