Men full orgasm is absolutely harmful. Its role is only for procreation. Ruined orgasm is much better for a man. Is good on the end of denial. Long denial and 3 to 6 ruined orgasm per year is absolutely enough. Less is better. A year ago, I abolish his full orgasm. After that, he had incredible improvement in his behavior. Long term denial still improve his behavior. His denial period is three months. I am very happy with his behavior, which does not mean it can not still be improved.
Although my Mistress Wife has not abolished full orgasms for me, they are very few and far between. Like 7 over the last two years. It’s funny, I’ll sometimes that guys have gone1 week or 2 weeks without orgasm, and they are going “crazy”. If they only knew what they are missing. I suspect that only submissive men in true loving FLR/FLM can understand the benefit of loooong term denial.
We honestly can’t recall if he has gone longer than 117 days in the past, it is actually beyond 117 now, but we continue to push the envelope by increasing the times between orgasms for him. I am amazed and impressed with how well he has adjusted.
To help to change his mindset on that I have already instructed him that when he is having his next orgasm, which will be in nine months, he will be looking directly into my eyes and apologizing for the orgasm while it is happening so as to connect his personal responsibility to the occasion. Hopefully, this will end his feeling like I am somehow to blame for it.
He should be giving you massages way better then the one you paid for and foot massages every day your the goddess, so just snap your finger and kick of your shoes and your husband will jump to obey you. I have my submissive husband waiting on me hand and foot all of the time.
My Wife slowly took away any reason I had for her to unlock me and she finally settled on a set reply, “Dear There simply is no reason for a married man to have a free penis! I used to unlock you to go to the doctor. After I found out she does not check you down there anymore that’s not a reason, so the only reason I can think of for you to have free penis and be unlocked is if you are going to have sex, well are you?”
I always meekly said, “no dear” and soon I stopped asking knowing that her answer would always be the same!
She has kept me locked pretty much all the time the past 9 years and this from very vanilla woman that I thought would never embrace male chastity, boy did she prove me wrong. She has become very demanding about me always being locked!
It certainly sounds to me that your wife has embraced her role of helping you not only become the man you are supposed to be but also she is helping prevent you from falling into danger. Every act of adultery, every affair starts first in the mind. If a man is masturbating behind his wife’s back while thinking of another woman he is not only breaking his vows he is setting himself up to have an affair. Thus the need for the device to be kept on 24/7 until these nasty habits are broken which typically takes years. Besides, why should he be off pleasuring himself when there is dishes that need done and floors needing swept?
I am in control of the lock and locking and find it a moving moment when he presents himself to me with his cage on waiting to be locked. This is a touchstone moment for us because it says so much. When he has the cage installed he comes to me to be locked. I am usually fully clothed while he is wearing only the cage. That moment is charged with excitement as we both know that when it gets locked it will be quite a spell before he is let out again. Sometimes I have him go into our bedroom and wait for a few minutes while I take my time getting there. What must go through his mind as he stands there waiting for me to arrive to seal the deal. I like to think this is also a teaching moment as he has often been impatient with me when I am running behind at other times and needs to practice patience. When I arrive I usually find a very respectful husband as I sit before him. I intentionally exam him to make sure it is properly installed making sure to capitalize on his vulnerability at that moment. I then retrieve the lock from my purse if I have remembered to bring my purse with me. Sometimes I have “forgotten” my purse just to have the enjoyment of having him go get it for me. My husband refuses to hold my purse when in public if even for a moment so there is a bit of irony that he goes to get it knowing it holds the key that wil lock him up. When I have the lock and key I usually test it to make certain it is working before slowly installing it while making eye contact when clicking it shut. That few moments after I have locked his cage and now heft his package in my hand while looking at his face is a very intimate moment for us. But after reading what you said, I may just like to try slipping on the penis part of the cage, could be fun as it waves goodbye to freedom. Frankly, because of our beliefs we have moved away from regular intercourse.
Because we are too old for children, there is no real need for regular intercourse. We feel that my orgasms were given to us for our pleasure so that is what we pursue. Occasionally Ken will have his orgasm via intercourse but that is limited to 2 or 3 times a year. The rest of his orgasms are allowed to happen by him rubbing himself on the bed sheets while orally pleasuring me. I like the connection that creates to his orgasm and further supports the thinking that without my pleasure he can have no pleasure. That also is preffered because it is easy to clean up and reduces the chance of my getting an infection. I do not allow him to masturbate . . . ever.
Getting used to a chastity belt overnight is difficult, but all the men adapt sooner or later. At the beginning, my husband complained that not sleeping well and I’m tied his hands handcuffed to the bed and removed the chastity belt. I woke up in the middle of the night, he lay on his stomach and rubbed his erect penis against the bed. He got a cold shower. His penis I locked in a chastity belt.
This issue has been resolved for all time. 24/7 is the best. After 10 days he wanted to give up. I told him that I am very proud of him, that is becoming a better lover and husband, and to I love him very much. It helped. At the beginning week of denial was a problem. After that he had a crisis when denial period was three weeks, next crisis was when his period of denial was 6 weeks. His cycle is about 130 days now.
My recommendation is to wife abolish his full orgasm and to his denial period is greater than two months.