My husband and I have been in the chastity lifestyle more than 5 years. If you are asking how long has he been in the cage presently, I really don’t know. I no longer keep track.

He is ALWAYS locked during sex. Because he is usually on the edge if you know what I mean, it is not safe for his manhood to be rubbing on the sheets when he is pleasuring me. On the rare occasions when I want to involve his penis, I replace his cage with desensitizing cream and a condom.

We use a Jailbird. We use the chastity device as a tool to reprogram his thinking that all his passions are directed toward me. I then utilize those passions to get things done, increase my leisure, or to have them released byhim pleasuring me.

We both have seen a change in his mindset towards sex. He doesn’t want to ruin our sex life by having an orgasm. I agree with him.
He has orgasm via night emissions about every 5-6 weeks which seem to have little impact on his pursuing me. These night emissions tell me he has been faithful. We will never permanently lock him up. But his having an orgasm will soon permanently be a thing of the past.

Chastity belt keep him on track. No more porn and compulsive masturbation. He focused on my satisfaction. He has a strong mental orgasm when I have an orgasm. He simply enjoys to give me pleasure.

Man in female-centric relationship needs stability. Long term orgasm denial it always ensures maximum stability. Frequent ejaculation affects badly his behavior, even when they are without an orgasm.

I love intercourse once or several times a month (depending on my mode for it). Emla cream and condom are required. I like chin dildo. He did not need much preparation as for his penis. Put on his head and he can begin. With such intercourse he can licking my clitoris too. Penis in this case remains in the chastity belt.

Positive reinforcement is what I always do. I tell him: “Good boy or You were fantastic” , kiss him. It is equally important as a chastity belt.

His last orgasm? Oh my, this is going to sound so bad of me, but I honestly don’t remember. Is there a reason that should be important to me?

In the context of a female led relationship where masturbation is forbidden, like mine, masturbating is akin to infidelity. Before I entered into my FLM with my Mistress Wife, I masturbated A LOT. Because I could! For us, it was something we identified together as being harmful to our marriage and as such, Mistress K. strictly forbade it. Once that particular new context of our relationship was established, it was (for me) a matter of my commitment to my Mistress Wife, and whether I felt it was important enough to adhere to that rule.  I am lucky enough to be able to adhere to the rules my Mistress has placed upon me in our marriage.

Just because I insist that my husband remain in chastity does not make me a bitch.

And knowing that I have the authority to deny him permanently (if I wanted to), makes me even wetter. Keeping a man under my long, manicured thumbnail by securely locking his dick up, is the ultimate power trip.

I also happen to be a crazy control freak. I like to have things just the way I want them. My locked up man enables me to keep my life in perfect order.

• He makes sure that the house is kept spotless, both inside and out
• He works six days a week bringing his BIG paycheck home to me
• He keeps my car detailed, washed and waxed so it always shines
• He polishes my large high heel collection so I always look my best
• His tongue is always ready and willing for my pussy or asshole
• He meekly takes my hard slaps to his face when I’m in a bitchy mood

Yeah, all I have to do is snap my sexy fingers and he’ll do ANYTHING for me! And in return, all I have to do is humiliate the hell out of him.

The truth is that he loves being with a cunt like me. If I asked him to leave tomorrow, he would instantly drop to his knees and BEG me to let him stay. But I’m not the total bitch since I do allow him a supervised orgasm once every so often.

How often? Just once a year at most. That sounds cruel I admit, but insisting that your husband be locked in chastity does require you to have, or develop, some sort of mean streak. Nothing quite matches the power dynamic of keeping your husband permanently
denied (more or less) and locked in chastity.

All you ask in return is that he wear a chastity device to assure you that he isn’t masturbating behind your back and to come to the realization that he can still make love to you without the need for penetration and ejaculation, that the romantic benefits from this are worth the sacrifice.

Tears and drama are normal, chastity is not easy for a man. What he needs is exactly what you’ve given him, a firm, disciplined yet loving hand. If you choose to go the route of permanent chastity, that is absolutely your prerogative and I respect that.  I like working hard to prove to my wife that I deserve an orgasm every month, it gives me something to look forward to and makes it go a little easier on me. This is just my opinion and it may not work for your desires or the direction you wish to take, so I totally understand and respect that and your husband is just going to have to accept it.

I’m of the opinion that looking at photos of women, be it a lingerie or swimsuit ad, the Victoria’s Secret show on tv, or even online porn, while masturbating is extremely disrespectful of women. Even masturbating to the thought of a woman you saw down the street or at work is disrespectful. It’s not only disrespectful of the man’s significant other, but it is also disrespectful of women in general.

It’s almost as if because I know that masturbation is no longer an option and it’s something my wife greatly disapproves of, I’m forced to look beyond a woman’s appearance or clothing, no matter how she’s dressed and how sexually aroused I am. No longer is it a woman’s responsibility to dress in a way that doesn’t arouse me, rather, it’s my responsibility to control my urges and treat her with respect.

My wife thinks the act of me ejaculating to the thought or image of another woman is disrespectful to her, to the woman I’m imagining or viewing while doing it, and to women in general, which I agree with. I find that my view and treatment of women completely changes for the better when I’m not allowed to masturbate to them.

It was always our intention that Ken wear the chastity device the rest of his life. The focus was to reprogram his mind to accept that an orgasm for him was not needed for us to enjoy a fulfilling sex life. And even more, that his orgasm is actually a hindrance and since we no longer had a desire for more children, we had no need for his orgasm.

As I have shared in previous posts we have been at male chastity for years, always with the goal that we could move to the place that I could trust him to do the right thing with his penis and quit acting like a child. I have the right to know that just because he sees a pretty woman he is not going to start down the road that ends with him masturbating. I mean seriously, don’t I deserve his affections? Don’t I deserve to know that his passion is mine alone? The problem was all his and I needed to help him get free of it. Love is about giving and he had done far too little of it, especially in our sex life. I didn’t want just great sex, I wanted a man who would put my wants above his needs. A man who would know the sacrifice and joy of giving. Until Ken became that man we would be using a male chastity device until all of his selfish desires were gone.

I had to say no to his desires and yes to mine, always! I wanted to get to the place that I knew to my core that I had my husbands heart, all of it. I wanted a husband who knew that intimacy was about more than sex, it could be cuddling, touching, kissing, or me getting a massage.

And if I wanted an orgasm, he was not only a capable but an eager partner. Always and whenever.  I wanted the satisfaction of knowing that when we were intimate I would be satisfied, he would not simply put my desires first, they would be the singular goal. He pursues, I get captured, pleasured, loved and cared for. His pursuit of me never ends.

I never feel more beautiful and loved than when I am pursued. Why should that be ruined by his having an orgasm?

He has learned to pursue and pleasure me without messing things up (pun intended) by having an orgasm. Even when we are having intercourse we have developed techniques where he can experience my orgasm through my eyes without his having to ejaculate.

We will usually play for a while, then he will perform oral sex on me through two or three orgasms. But I still love the intimacy of looking into his eyes as I come so we try to finish with having me on top intercourse. Because that Ken has a hair trigger we have gone to using desensitizing cream and a condom. There is something wickedly fun about applying a cream to my husbands penis to decrease his pleasure so he can increase mine.

But he willingly allows me to as it puts my hands in touch with his manhood. The sacrifice he is making is never lost on me and I tell him how much I love him.

There needs to be a delay as the cream works it’s magic and I will usually busy him keeping my motor running. One time I got lost in the pleasure of him doing so and he had lost his erection.

Try as I might I could not get him hard. The next time we made sure not to play too long before I mounted up and soon that transitioned into me riding him to my orgasm trying to time it to the very last moment before he goes soft. It is actually fun as I stare into his eyes and feeling me get closer and closer to orgasm as he loses sensation and begins to shrink. If I time it just right he “pops” out of me on my last orgasmic shudder.

it is as if you are living in our house and reviewing the very things that have occurred in our FLM. Mistress K. has long since stopped wanting to worry about whether or not I would obey my rules of not masturbating, not touching myself sexually, unless it with her permission and under her supervision. She has no desire to even consider allowing me to remain completely chaste without the need of a chastity cage. We determined some time ago that a steel chastity cage was needed, and then sealed it permanently. The vows we exchanged in our collaring ceremony on our 15th wedding anniversary, that unauthorized masturbation or self inflicted sexual pleasure is no different than infidelity in our marriage. I am simply not allowed to do it.

Mistress K. even threatened divorce. Breaking these rules would be the same as infidelity. Yikes! For me, it was problem solved and as a result, our marriage couldn’t be stronger. I naturally now live in a constant state of desire because of this one thing you said …. “I wanted the satisfaction of knowing that when we were intimate I would be satisfied, he would not simply put my desires first, they would be the singular goal” Sex is only for my wife’s pleasure and I am never allowed to ejaculate.