I’ve mentioned having a ceremony where he would vow only to ejaculate when given permission by me.  But he really seems to be dragging his feet on this issue, so I decided to go ahead and make it easy on him and set the Terms of Entry to my vagina.  He may be uncertain about that kind of commitment, but I’m not.  And I feel certain that at this point in my life that I will not be in a relationship with a man that is not retaining and on an ejaculation schedule.  I think any woman that has tried this would feel the same way.

As a woman, I have the right to decide on the terms and conditions that I will participate in a relationship with a man, and the man of course has the right to choose a different path with a different woman.  But if my husband wants to enter my vagina, these are the terms that he must abide by:

• He must practice semen retention.
• He must abide by the ejaculation schedule I  set.
• He will submit to the agreed upon consequences for unauthorized ejaculation.

I don’t set these terms lightly, but the trial period is over.  There is no question our relationship is better in every respect under this system.  I’ll relate the experience of coming to this obvious realization that I have rights too. This is a two way street.

During one of our sessions where he’s half out of his mind and begging to take maybe a 30 day break from this which will certainly never happen, I thought what would Lady Elizabeth Bathory do?  The answer in my head was she would probably hang him upside down, cut his throat, drain his blood and bathe in it.  Okay, wrong person to ask.  Note to self, don’t ever ask Liz for advice.  So, in the throws of excruciating pleasure as he’s asking this, I slap him in the face and state firmly, “As long as your under this roof, this is your life.  You’ll be retaining with a schedule.  Don’t ask about it again.  Now, pump!”  I call that setting the Terms of Entry.  It’s been over a year.  He should be used to this by now, and he is,  but during the throws of passion, he can drift to being a little goal oriented toward ejaculation, and it helps to (if I can borrow a term form my college behaviorism days) helicopter the dog.  And I do this by periodically setting the terms of entry to remind him of the terms and conditions of being in a relationship with me especially when he starts yearning to be a free ejaculator again.  In the throws of passion with the crying and begging, he needs something to refocus him occasionally on what his primary task is.  And that’s to “pump” and hit that A-spot.  Setting the Terms of Entry help remind him why I allow him in there in the first place, and it’s not for him to ejaculate except for about once a quarter.  The rest of the time is about the pleasure of intercourse for both of us.

It’s up to the women to be strong and have resolve about the ejaculation schedule in the height of passion.  If not, spills will be inevitable.  Is this cruel?  When you set the Terms of Entry, pay attention to his penis that’s pulsing inside you.  Does it get even harder than it was before or seem like it gets softer?  I find the firmer and sterner I am setting the Terms of Entry on a regular basis the more he responds to it.  I only have to look at and feel his penis to know how he feels about things that he may be too ashamed to admit.