Masturbation disrespectful of women

The way my wife explained it to me is by saying this: I am not allowed to look at any pornographic images because she felt it was disrespectful to her and demanded I stop, so I did.
She said because sexy and provocative images and women were all around us anyway that I needed to learn how to be around them while horny and still be able to admire them. She said she found the act of masturbating to those images disrespectful to those women because they’re not pornographic images and it’s not their intended purpose. I have since come to understand and agree with her viewpoint on this.

My wife doesn’t allow it either. The few times she does, I’m required to be in front of her, looking at her with my eyes open, and describing her physical attributes, as she wants to be absolutely sure that my mind is on her the entire time, from erection to ejaculation.
She does not allow me to view porn, says it’s disrespectful of her. She does allow me admire images of women in clothing, swimsuit, or lingerie ads, but I’m not allowed to sexually fantasize and become erect or masturbate to them. She says it’s disrespectful to those women because those images were not intended for that purpose. I know masturbation is natural, but she says she doesn’t want me doing it to any other woman and because I’m more well behaved and more respectful of her and other women when I’m chaste.
I characterized masturbation as “self-abuse” and “morally disordered.” This came from the perspective of a particular woman with “special agenda” to develop and train her malesub.

Rules, codes, morals, consequences, punishments, strict expectations, self-discipline, denial, desperation, etc. are all sexy angles to approach male submission and femdom authority. I don’t see any particular element as universal, but they can be important binders in a specific female led relationship.

Looking forward to next year, Miss has decided I will now go 2 months before release, meaning I will have to wait until the 1st of every second month (with no guarantee Miss will be available). I have to admit the possibility of going 4 or even 6 months without sex is very real and will be a challenge.

As Miss will be away for the 1st of January, 1st March will be the first opportunity for me which will be three whole months from last time 1st December. As always though Miss has promised our nights of intimacy which can include anything other than release.

My g/f doesn’t want me humping her during spooning either. She can feel me straining in my cage as it presses against her butt, but when I begin to slowly hump she warns me that I will get an extra week if I don’t stop. I can’t help it, she is so soft and I just want to touch her all the time.
My wife likes me to spoon her but gets annoyed if she gets poked (!) by the cage, so I have to slide down far enough so this doesn’t happen. If it does happen she pushes me away in no uncertain terms. After this happened yesterday I asked her if she missed penetration because of me being in chastity. “No” was the reply. “Really ?” I said, expecting perhaps a sympathetic reply. She replied “Definitely no. I just need your tongue to help me get off.”