One thing we both enjoy a great deal is spooning/cuddling in the morning, mixed in with me rubbing her back. However, after I have been locked for awhile I have a habit of…humping her. I can’t help it. Her skin is so firm and soft, and when my hip are pressed up against her tush, and I have been locked and feeling very horny, its just happens.

Well, my wife says its disrespectful and she wants it to stop, and if it doesnt stop my lock up will be extended beyond the three month lockup I am currently in. Although she still wants me to spoon her. And I just dont know if I can. Sometimes it almost feels like I am doing it involuntarily.

Anyone else having to control themselves this way? I am finding it very, very difficult.

I’ve not tried stopping them completely, but I do consciously try and prevent them taking over and getting too big out of a fear of your situation occurring. The spasms are incredibly erotic sensations, and are one of teh few physically erotic sensations I have on a regular basis, so I wouldn’t want to be told to banish them. In the light of that – I feel for you.

Sounds like your wife is having a lot of fun teasing you while you are locked up! Surely she knows that is next to impossible for you to control yourself in a situation like that and is probably laughing to herself inside. If I were you, I would prepare myself for extended lock up.

I sympathize completely, but unfortunately that is part and parcel of the tease & denial aspect of female-dominated male chastity. Curious if physical punishments, such as spikes added before spooning/massages or whippings afterwards, would be more effective than the less immediately tangible adding on of days.

My wife immediately wanted to have me as a 24/7 slave as soon as my retirement was settled. I knew she would continue to work, so again I resisted. She convinced me I would enjoy full time slavery. The date was set—Jan.1, 2002, the date my life would change. I kept asking questions but was told not to worry and that she would take care of everything. On Dec.31st we dressed up and began making our rounds at several New Years Eve parties. At midnight, my Wife gave me a long sexy kiss and took me by surprise when she told me to enjoy it, for it would be my last kiss.

We immediately went home. She took my wallet, cut up each credit card along with my driver’s license. I was ordered to strip and kneel. She took a long chain and locked it around my left ankle. She grabbed my hair and pulled me into the garage, took the other end of the chain and locked it to the bar holding the door in place. It was impossible to remove the chain. I was in this position before during some of our playtimes but this time, there was no escape.

My wife then shocked me by giving me a couple of backhands across my face. I became terrified. My wife had a look of determination that I had never seen in her before. She had wanted to do this to me for a long time and now her fantasy was becoming a reality, and her enthusiasm and excitement were obvious. I was told to stand and not to move until she returned.

She told me that she was going back out for more partying but this time by herself, as a single woman. I think two or three hours passed when the door opened. She appeared looking sexy and as desirable as I had ever seen her. She also had a riding crop in her hand. I knew I was in for it. She began to whip me harder than at any time during our previous D/s play. This time her whipping was not erotic, this time it was not play. This time it was real and she was breaking me and I was quickly submitting to her dominance.

Over the weeks and months to follow, my wife continued to break me and transform me from being her husband into being her slave. I loved her as much as ever but I now also feared her. I now clean, cook, do the laundry, iron, answer my Mistress’s mail and e-mail. I work a 12 to 18 hour day every day of my life. Do I enjoy it? Yes! I am disciplined daily and punished when necessary. I have lost 35 needed pounds and increased my muscle structure. I follow these simple rules:
1-Obey at once.
2-Mind your business.
3-Stay on your knees with your eyes down.
4-Answer Yes Ma’am or No Ma’am.
5-Speak only when spoken to.
6-Never ever expect sex.
7-There are rewards and punishments-so never complain.

I am now only allowed to kiss her feet as a sign of respect. Anytime she enters or leaves a room in which I am working, I must kneel and wait. She may approach and place her feet under my bowed head, this is a signal to kiss her feet. At times when I’ve worked extremely hard, she might kiss my head. We are no longer intimate. Yet, I have never been more attracted to her. I see her in a new light, with a fresh adoration and a new respect. In my eyes, she is the sexiest woman alive.

To those who wish for a 24/7 life, it is hard work. You must love your Mistress as well as have lust for her. Lust is all you can have and deserve. Once you are there, there is no getting out. I have no money, no credit cards, no car and have very little clothing. My hair is cut by my Mistress when it’s necessary. This lifestyle is hard, frustrating, and at times, painful, but I love it. I get to live what many men only fantasize about. I am truly the slave of a beautiful woman. My wife loves me like this and I love pleasing her.”

Darren is her husband in legality but not in reality. He has surrendered everything over to his wife and she comes and goes as she pleases. His life is not one of leisure. He does not spend his retirement on the golf course. No, his life is about the serving of his Mistress. He must do chores for her, to tend to her house, to spend hours being bound while he reflects on what she may be doing with her liberation.

I find all of this to be fascinating. By being her slave and working for her, Darren actually has a sense of self-worth. He has found contentment and this life is a challenge for him and this life is fulfilling for him. His wife knew the kind of structured life he needed to be content and fulfilled. He is freed from mental responsibility and can focus his energy on pleasing his Mistress. Darren’s sexuality is now in worshiping his Mistress and serving her. No more intimacy but his sexual fulfillment comes in submitting to her. His is a life of giving and not getting, yet it is fulfilling because he loves giving of himself in such a pure manner to a woman. Most men fantasize about being a true 24/7 slave of a woman but the reality is that few men could live it.

Jessica likes for her husband to view her as his Queen. They view their roles as not only Wife and husband but also Queen and servant. Jessica uses her creativity to make the most mundane tasks fresh and exciting within their marriage.

“My husband and I recently have come to a unique arrangement regarding our finances. The underlying thesis of our plan is that all of our marital assets belong to me. First, we have a joint checking account (with my name appearing first, as in the phone book) and my husband is responsible for making sure all bills are paid. The trick is that he prepares all the checks, but I am the only one who signs them. My husband is not allowed access to our checkbook except when he does bills and I take it after he’s finished with check preparation and balancing, and lock it in a lock box, of which I hold the only key. I also keep the only credit card, which also has his name on it and he’s only allowed to carry it when supervised or traveling alone and then for emergency purposes only.

My husband is allowed only $20.00 per week cash allowance, which I give him each Friday at the bank, and this also allows for some delightfully subtle public domination (my new hobby). On the Fridays he gets paid, I take him to the bank, have him sign the check in front of the teller, and then he hands me the check for deposit. I take out one twenty and hand it to him and several more for myself, which I put in my purse.

On the Fridays he doesn’t get paid I take him to the bank, withdraw only a twenty from the teller and hand it to him. The point is that he is not allowed to take money directly from the teller (even in the drive-thru I make him hand the cylinder to me first), and he’s never allowed to go to the bank alone. I always try and go to female tellers and I’m sure they’ve caught on. Many of the female tellers are young and I like to think I’m educating them as to how men should treat women.

In addition to paying bills he has to prepare a “Queen’s Yearly Budget” which is on hardcopy and different pages examine Her Majesty’s Assets, Liabilities, and Monthly Expenses. I will review each bank statement as it comes in to monitor hubby’s work, and he is to give me a quarterly report in which we will discuss the condition of the Queen’s Treasury and Her long-term financial goals. I like this arrangement because it leaves the burden of managing for our future on him but leaves all the power with me.

If hubby wants more than his allowance, I allow him to have a special
hearing before the Queen, which is held in our bedroom. I wear a long black satin robe, and black garter belt with stockings, and nothing else and sit on the bed. He will knock at the door and after I say “Enter” he will come in and kneel before me totally nude. I then say “Yes” and he bends down and kisses the top of each foot and says, “My Mistress, I have come to petition your Highness to allow me to have additional funds from Her Majesty’s Treasury.” I will then listen to his request and grant or deny it. If I deny it he is stood in the corner and whipped with a riding crop for wasting my time, and then made to kneel in a corner for thirty minutes to think about why he was punished. If I grant it he is required to kiss the top and bottom of each of my feet, and say “Thank you my Queen.” Sometimes I’ll condition my grant upon his putting his head between Her Majesty’s legs and licking her to orgasm within fifteen minutes, and failure will be punished as mentioned above.

The finances are usually the hardest area for a man to surrender over to his wife. Finances represent a man’s time and talents. When the wife takes over the finances, she is indeed taking over the last area of resistance. A man works at his occupation and earns a paycheck and that paycheck represents much to a man. For him to surrender total control over to his wife and allow her to make the financial decisions, it is true female domination and male submission. A woman who owns a man’s paycheck, owns that man’s time, talents and career. From here on out, Jessica’s husband works for her. He will now experience more and more dependence on her and he will become more and more submissive toward her.

Fast forward to the present. I am now required to sleep naked, except for a newer and thicker collar secured snugly around my neck. I am forbidden to touch it. Only my Mistress can remove it. She often comments how she hates to take my collar off in the morning. In addition to the household chores I must perform, I am also required to be my Mistress’ personal servant. I give her regular foot massages and put lotion on her feet. When she wants me to, I serve her as her footstool. I also kneel at her feet in our tub and shave her legs every other night. I am required to caress her whenever she demands it, and of course, I sexually serve her on command. When my Mistress allows my penis inside her vagina, it must be with me lying on my back with my legs spread wide apart for her in submissive invitation to her to take me. I love the feel of her naked thighs pressing the back of my own thighs when she rides me. Mistress says that as her slave, my place is underneath her, therefore I am forbidden to climax inside of her in any other position.”

Karl is a twenty-three year old male with a very worshipful and
respectful attitude toward women. He met Andrea, a thirty-nine year old Female Supremacist.  Andrea was born within a Female Supremacist marriage and she was herself a Pro Dom during college. Now Andrea has a boutique and Karl is her shop-assistant and her house husband. She chose Karl because of his worshipful attitude toward the female gender. Andrea saw in Karl a pure heart and an eagerness to serve. Karl describes their untraditional but pure FemDom relationship.

“Our marriage is a female supremacist one. We married eighteen months ago and from our wedding night, I wear a chastity device and the only form of sex for us is with me tonguing Andrea, usually twice a day. She is dead set against vanilla intercourse and she says the tongue is the real sex organ of males. Nothing wrong in this, she is a woman and knows the facts of life better than me. On the other side, I empty myself once a week, on  Sunday night if I’m a very good boy during week. This happens almost every weekend because I do my very best to pamper her.

The way this is done is a routine and a ritual. Before bedtime she emerges dressed in only her panties, bra and high heel shoes. Believe me, her feminine power is unbelievable. I drop to my knees at once and hurry to kiss her feet. Andrea is so beautiful and powerful I can’t resist from dropping to my knees. If she’s in a good mood, Andrea lets me kiss and lick her feet for a while and then she blindfolds me before taking off her panties. I’m always blindfolded when I worship Andrea because we’ve learned from the early time of our marriage that the sight of her naked body is enough for me to have a wet accident.

Next, she ties my legs together and my arms firmly in place behind my back. Of course I’m always naked for this ritual. When my hands are secured, she unlocks the chastity device and I get an erection ready to be used for sex. Andrea lightly slaps my balls to get rid of my swelling and to cool me down to avoid wet accidents. Two or three painful slaps are usually enough to soften me down. At this point, Andrea slips my penis inside one of her shoes still warm from her foot. Then, she fixes it firmly in place with one of her stockings. This done, she has me lay on her bed, on my belly, while my penis grows erect, filling her shoe. Then she begins to spank me. She uses a large belt or her slipper as her spanking instruments.

A belt is a lethal weapon in her hands. She doesn’t like to use her hands and she’s very experienced as a spanker. To tell you the truth she doesn’t call these “spankings”, but instead: “lessons in humility and respect”. During the spanking I have to hump her warm shoe, pumping it as quickly as it rests on her bed. A few hits from her on my ass are enough to make me beg her for mercy. She spanks me without fury or anger, but with method and regularity like she’s doing some fitness exercise. I’m in tears in seconds but believe me, I cry like a baby not for pain but for the joy to be spanked by Andrea.

I don’t know how to explain what I feel. I’m very proud of her, and I feel a deep happiness to be her husband. These feelings are rising in me week by week. Since we’ve been married, her shoes are as close to making love to her as she has permitted. In the beginning, I wanted to make love with Andrea, but I’ve learned to accept her rule. I learned quickly to thank her with all my heart for the opportunity to make love to her shoes. In spite of the sexual pleasure rising from my member encased inside her warm shoe, the spanking is hard enough to reduce my sexual pleasure and so I can go on like this for a long time.

It’s hard to explain my feelings during those moments. I’m both in heaven and hell. The spanking ends when I come in her shoe and during the entire spanking she scolds me. After coming she lets me cool down for a few minutes, during which she goes on lecturing me about respect for females. Then I have to thank her politely and if I’m not respectful enough she gives me another round of blows. As you can imagine, to avoid it I’m very submissive and very respectful.

When she’s ok about my behavior, she releases my penis and I have to lick her shoe clean. Ended this task, she cleans me using a wet and cold towel before locking my chastity device in place again. Once I’m safe, Andrea unties my arms and legs and lets me kiss and lick her feet as reward. Then, it’s my duty to tongue her vagina urgently until she obtains two or three orgasms.

With a few laps of my tongue, I lose myself. The world is cut away from my mind and I only exist to worship Andrea. Blindfolded and on my knees, smelling her scent and tasting her, my thoughts run miles away and I am lost in my mind, in subspace. If she doesn’t stop me by patting my head with her hand saying “it’s enough, boy!”, I’m able to lick her for hours and I am in heaven. How can the female sex be so powerful? A wave of profound happiness rises in me when I worship my Goddess.”

Queening is a form of trampling only the man is under the woman’s ass, instead of her feet. Queening is basically where the dominant female sits her ass on the face of a submissive male and has him orally service her bottom. This is an erotic and pleasurable experience for the woman, and a very humiliating and submissive act for the male. Most submissive men are extremely turned on by the female bottom, its shape, appearance and softness. To a submissive man, the female tush also represents power to him. Not only does the submissive man crave to kiss and orally worship the feminine bottom but he also desires to be crushed by it. He desires to be held captive and helpless through the act of face sitting so that he is conquered and at the mercy of his female captor.

The next piece of furniture I want is a Queening bed. I saw a picture on the Internet of a woman lying on a large bed and there was a man’s face trapped in the middle of her bed. You could only see his face, as the rest of his body must have been bound under the bed. In the next picture on this site, the woman straddled his face and had a look of ecstasy on her face. I have challenged my husband to make us such a bed. I tease him that I really only need his face for sex, so why allow the rest of his body on my bed?”

Some men get excited about golden showers because to them it is the ultimate in servitude and the depths of submission. To them, there is nothing so degrading and humiliating, yet exciting. To some submissive men, it is the moment right before the golden shower that is the most exciting. To have his Queen positioned over his body, perhaps seated on a Queening stool with him bound below her, awaiting to be degraded. It is that moment of anticipation that submissive men have confessed that they felt unbelievably submissive, as if they had indeed been conquered by their Queen. Then as they felt the warmth of the woman’s urine against their body they knew there was no doubt that they could never be her equal.

I fit in by having her meals ready according to her schedule; helping her pack and unpack and ensuring her gym kit is clean and ready for when she needs it. Though I know my wife loves only me, nevertheless, I feel vulnerable knowing that I am a spent force if it ever became a competition with another man for her favors. At least this keeps me on my toes and vigilant in my efforts to please her and maintain her approval and well-being. My wife has me under her thumb, just where she wants me, loving and adoring her and striving ever more to please her as her servant.”

Her subtle domination stirs his submission to the place where it gives him the energy and motivation to do all those chores for her. While he is serving her by being her house slave, this gives him submissive fulfillment and to him that is as good (if not better) than sex. The brain is the greatest sex organ and even if it is unable to send the necessary signals to his penis, the mind is still stimulated by her dominance and his submissive nature reacts to her dominance, and thus it sends off pleasurable sensations and that takes him to a place of both sexual arousal and inner peace and harmony. Charles’ penis may not be able to receive the message but his soul receives the message and this is pleasurable to him on an emotional level.

Objectification is another form of Humiliation Play. Nancy’s husband Greg has the submissive desire that revolves around him wanting her to use him as a piece of furniture. He likes to be her footstool, or her chair or her rug, or even her clothes rack.

She incorporates this activity within their play sessions and even some within their everyday life. Nancy enjoys Objectification because it gives her a powerful feeling of control over her husband and this satisfies a part of her dominant nature. She also enjoys the fact that this activity takes very little effort on her part. Treating a man like an inanimate object has been known to do wonders in fulfilling submissive desires within some men. Plus this activity is a great way to dominate a man when the woman is not in the mood or does not have the energy to engage in a D&S session with her submissive man. She can just order him to be her coffee table, footstool or clothes rack while she relaxes and reads or watches television. In doing this, the woman is dominating the man’s psyche without too much effort on her part.

To the submissive male, this image makes the statement that women are so far superior to men, that a man is only worthy to be used by a woman in such a humiliating and degrading manner. It elevates the woman to Royalty and even to Goddess status in the mind of the submissive male. How can he ever be the equal of a woman who treats him this way? This causes him to feel humble and subservient. The psychological effect stays with him for a period of time after the objectification so he is primed to serve his Goddess in more practical ways. The submissive male likes to just lie there under her feet and bask in his weakness as she flaunts her superiority over him.

Another form of Humiliation play is Trampling. Beth’s husband Trey enjoys this form of being dominated. Trey slips into subspace when he is helpless under Beth’s feet as she uses him as her rug, doormat, bathmat or footstool. Whenever Beth wants to dominate her husband, she will order Trey to lay prostrate on the floor as she stands and walks on his backside. Beth’s favorite method of trampling Trey is to stand on his naked backside with her bare feet.

“I love the feeling of Trey’s naked skin against my bare feet. He tightens up at first but then I can feel him relaxing as he loses himself in submission. I will walk back and forth over his backside, from his upper back to his firm ass cheeks to the back of his upper legs. Sometimes I will add a different sensation for him by wearing a pair of shoes or boots. I’ve been known to trample him in high-heel shoes. He really has to focus as my sharp heels dig into his flesh.  Trey must use mind over matter to overcome the pain in order to relax so he can slip into subspace.”

“In the beginning of our relationship, I though he was strange for wanting me to walk on him but once I began to do it, I found that it was erotic and fun. I feel powerful and sexy as I walk on my husband. It makes me want to dominate him in other ways. The trampling is usually our foreplay to other D&S activities. Once he slips into subspace from the trampling, I am able to do just about anything I want to him and he eagerly obeys my every command.”

“Sometimes as part of a romantic evening, Trey bathes me and when I am finished with my bath, I use him as a bathmat when I get out of the tub. I stand on his back or his buttocks while I towel off. I might even make him roll over so I can trample his front side. I like to stare into his eyes when I stand on his chest or grind my heel into his groin”

An interesting aspect to the FemDom practice of male orgasm denial is the sexual impact it has on women. Few things rival the sexual intensity that a woman will experience when she denies her husband sexual orgasms while she enjoys as much pleasure as she desires. It is a psychological power exchange that releases more of a woman’s
dominant nature and sexual desires. Women begin to not only enjoy the benefits of male orgasm denial outside of the bedroom but also the benefits inside of the bedroom. Male orgasm denial is all about control and the woman who controls her man’s orgasms ultimately controls her man.

A man being kept denied while pleasuring a woman is an incredible experience. The intensity of sex for a woman that is being orally serviced by a denied and passionate man will surpass most sexual experiences for the female. Likewise, few things rival the mental pleasure that the denied man experiences when he is being denied while required to sexually satisfy his Mistress.

There are women who deny their men longer and limit them to only one orgasm every ten days to two weeks. Then there are women who think one or two orgasms a month is sufficient.

I have always been allowed to worship her body and have occasional intercourse with my wife. However, I have now been cut off from intercourse. Once again, this adds to my submission to her and her power over me. I must say that so far, I am enjoying these new power
dynamics. I am more motivated to submit to her and I cannot get enough of my wife. I long to be in her presence and to serve her in some capacity. I actually ache to touch her but I am no longer allowed the freedom of a husband to touch her whenever I want. I am only allowed to touch her if she gives me permission, and that is rare. Touching her is now a privilege and a reward for obedient behavior.

She now wields enormous power over me and she is able to take me to subspace with ease, sometimes with only a few spoken and teasing words

It is frustrating to live with such a sexual woman but be denied access to her body. Yet, on those occasions that she allows me the privilege to worship her body or orally service her body, it is so intense and special. I feel like I have just been granted permission to touch and pleasure a supermodel or a movie starlet. Think about it? How many husbands take their wives and sex with their wives for granted? I never do because it is now rare that I get to touch my Goddess and each time is like the first time I have ever been with her. That is what cuckolding has done for our relationship.

I dominated my husband with an energy and a dominance that I had never known. I was extra bitchy and forceful with him. I had such a power surging through my body. He was a little upset but he quickly yielded to my power and I took him deep into subspace. We had a marathon strap-on session that night. I broke him to a new level of submission.

When a woman humiliates her husband to this degree, it actually becomes a form of mental sex between her and her husband. Her abusive and cruel ways might excite him and touch his submissive nature in ways that most would not understand.

When I humiliate my husband about being an inferior male or about the inadequacy of his penis, I am attacking his male ego. I am wounding his male pride, which causes his submissive nature to come forth. I find I can get my husband to perform better outside the bedroom by complimenting him and showing him genuine love, respect and affection. But inside the bedroom, that is a different story. I like to humiliate him about being of the male gender and thus inferior to me. My goal with humiliation play is to shatter his male ego and the best way I’ve found to do this, is to attack his manhood (especially the ultimate symbol of his manhood, the penis). He gets excited about this kind of humiliation play and this transports him to subspace.

Without ever condoning my failures, or pretending she is not insulted by them and displeased with me, my wife has graciously conceded that there are some benefits in my impotence for her. That is, provided it makes me more aware of the gulf between her superiority and my inferiority and provided this awareness drives me yet more diligently to seek to serve her better in other ways so that I compensate by becoming the best house slave I can be. I must admit to feeling completely inadequate as a man, but so grateful to my wife for so generously taking advantage of this fact and exploiting it to her advantage.

It makes me feel so much better about my impotence knowing that at least my wife enjoys having me trying to compensate her by more diligent service in other ways, especially doing all the household chores. I am so grateful to her and pleased to be married to such a wonderful, superior and considerate woman. Indeed, because of my wife’s wonderfully generous response to my impotence, I feel I have fallen in love with her all over again, but this time I am totally in debt to her.

Of course my wife has quite explicitly made it crystal clear that she can quite happily live without my feeble efforts to make love to her, but just occasionally, when she is in the mood, she is gracious enough still to let me try to please her, when I have earned enough points to deserve a treat. Almost always this ends in failure and humiliation for me. The frustration of sexual denial is probably far greater than that of any chastity device as there is no chance of ultimate relief. My wife is very subtle as she leaves me to make all the running, asking for opportunities for intimacy; she then strings me along, sometimes from one week to the next, never knowing when she will oblige. When I then fail as a man, I guess I end up feeling even worse about letting my wife down, as it was I that asked to try and give her pleasure, only to fail yet again.

My wife is actually using my impotence to manipulate me to her advantage. Perhaps this is why she has always implied I should just accept my lot in life and that I am making a mountain out of a molehill by seeking medical treatment for my impotence. The idea of any sort of medical consultation together is something she has firmly rejected; it is my problem as an inferior male and that is the end of it. It is not worth spending money on treatment for something so trivial in her eyes, “think of all the real illnesses other people have to put up with.” My wife really does welcome my impotence as a weapon she can use to make me behave towards her, as she wants.

8 long weeks later I had a chastity on my pierced member and was setting in the cafe where we first met. She walked in and was more beautiful than the first time I seen her. She didn’t say anything , she just held out her hand and I knew I was supposed to put the keys in her hand. I want you to know this is the most scared I have ever been. She then took me by the hand and lead me to her car and wordlessly, we went to her apartment. As soon as we got in the door she said lets see it. I was so embarrassed, but I did as I was told. She took my pants and told me to finish undressing. She then went into her bedroom and after a short while she called me to come in she was on the bed and she was in a black see through gown with nothing on underneath it. She was the prettiest woman I had ever seen even in magazines. She called me over to the bed and asked me if I was ready to be a woman for her. I said I don’t know, she got angry and said dammit you have wasted my time again and to get my clothes and get out, I stammered I am ready, ready to what? She said. I am ready to be your woman! I am ready to be anything you want me to be.

So it began, I gave her oral sex and made love to her like a woman would, and she told me that I was chastised and therefore my dickie didn’t matter, that sex was for her, and I should be happy to give it to her. She was right, all I needed was her, and to be turned on like I have never been turned on before.

Lori explained to me that she had tried sex with a male before and did not like it. I told her that I had never been with a woman and allowed to put my penis in her, and Lori liked that very much.

We dated every week-end with her getting all the sex she needed and me nothing other than being teased to the max. I finally told her I needed some kind of release after about 6 weeks of this. This seemed to disappoint her but she told me to lay down as she tied my hands above my head, took my chastity off. She brought me to a climax like I have never felt before with her hand. After about 3 months of dating she said the time had come to start making me a woman, and she gave me some hormones to take and told me to move out of my apartment and to quit my job.

Mistress Lori was waiting for me she said lift your dress, and she pulled my panties down and she had me hold my chastity out so she could fill the keyway of my lock with the solder. This act somehow turned me on I was all swollen in my chastity. I don’t understand it, but somehow it seemed so final. It was if I was reborn. I didn’t have to worry about my little dickie ever releasing again. It was like someone had lifted the whole world off my shoulders. I was all swollen up in my chastity device and I looked at Mistress Lori and she is obliviously flushed and very excited. She pushed me to my knees and pulled my head under her skirt and I took care of her needs as I had be taught to do, but somehow it seamed different this time, I felt it was better than releasing, I felt so right, I felt I could stay there forever.

I am now permanently chastised with break-off screws and a full cover hooded chastity device, I live with Mistress Lori and another chastised she male named Barbie. We all have a lot of fun together and we have a relationship that cannot be equaled by anything else. I have never had a woman sexually by entering her, so I guess I would be considered to be a virgin, Although Mistress Lori often straps a small dildo on me and has me use it on her as she bounces down on my chastised dickie with her buttocks. I have offered to tie it back or tape it out of the way, but I think she like doing it, she said NO!!

Last night I gave Thomas a ruined orgasm.  A ruined orgasm is when you stop providing stimulation to you man’s cock when he starts to cum or right before he starts to cum, thereby ruining his orgasm.

The man may feel a brief moment of pleasure but then it immediately vanishes leaving him frustrated.  I have to admit that I get a thrill from seeing his desperation and it is even more thrilling that he thanks me afterward.  He is like a puppy dog that is always happy…always wagging his tail no matter what I do.  Some may consider this cruel, but even Thomas enjoys when I ruin his orgasms because it is another form of control that he gets to experience.  To him a full blown orgasm is a very special privilege that he only experiences on a rare occasions. Denying his orgasm keeps him feeling submissive and controlled.  He craves this feeling and enjoys the mental game.

The thrill and arousal that I experience from his ruined orgasm is only a part of the reason I do it.  I also consider the ruined orgasm a powerful tool for controlling Thomas and keeping him obedient.  The biggest advantage of a ruined orgasm is that it allows the man some release but avoids the post orgasm “slump” that most men experience after an full orgasm.  The slump I am referring to is when the man loses all energy and loses interest in sex and pleasing the woman.  After a ruined orgasm, many men do not experience the slump or it is very brief.  Thomas will often remain hard after the ruined orgasm.  His level of horniness remains high as well.

One final benefit that I would like to point out is that it can be used as a punishment.  If your man has been naughty or simply not meeting your expectations, you can announce that the next orgasm (or next 2, 3, etc.) will be ruined.

I prefer to tell him to try not to orgasm.  I enjoy seeing him struggle.  He eventually gets to a point where he can’t hold back.  The fun part with this is that I can do a stroke or two and then watch his cock as he struggles to prevent his orgasms.  There have been times when I have stroked his cock and then watched him struggle for 20 or 30 seconds and then he spurted without me touching him.  That is art!  It is beauty to see him struggle and work so hard to please and obey me.  It is also a power rush to know that I control him so much and that no matter how hard he tries he can not stop me from giving him an orgasm.  What a mind fuck for him!  In these situations I don’t feel that it is fair to punish him for having an orgasm without permission.  However,  I usually give him the disappointed look and tell him how weak he is.

• “…Go get your chastity device.  I know how much you love being locked up for me and giving me complete control of your cock.  For being such a good boy, you can wear your chastity device until I decide otherwise.
• “For your reward, you can kneel before me and worship my feet with your tongue.
• “For being so good you may hand wash my panties and delicates this week.  I know how much you enjoy touching them and looking at them.

This particular memory was about Thomas kneeling before me naked and reading back to me rules of the house. What I do remember is seeing a beautiful mistress sitting comfortably across a plush chair.  She was sideways with her back resting against the back corner of the chair and her stocking covered legs dangling over the edge of the chair.  She wore a short black silk night gown.  In one hand was a glass of red wine and in the other was a thick chain leash.  At the other end of the leash was her husband.  He was kneeling on the side of the chair where her feet dangled. He was naked except for the thick chain leash around his neck.

In front of him was a book that he was reading rules from. The Mistress sat comfortably and sipped wine while she listened to her husband read how he would obey her.  Occasionally she would respond in a firm authorities tone, “Yes..Good boy”. Often she would tug his leash hard and command “Repeat” or Again!”.  The slave would repeat the rule.

I absolutely loved this scene.  She looked majestic, powerful, and queen like, while he looked submissive and needy.  I re-created the scene in our house.  I had Thomas type up a list of all the rules that he was already following.  Then I took his list and added a few new ones. One of my favorite rules that came from the video clip was “In our house the word husband means slave.”  I made that rule #1.  I had Thomas fetch me a glass of wine and then put a leash on him and had him kneel at my feet.  It was a thrill to tug on the leash and tease him a bit while he read back the rules.  We both enjoyed the situation immensely.