The other day I came across a file on my computer that showed it is now more than 10 years since I introduced my wife to chastity and orgasm denial. We started with a cb3K which neither she nor I liked much because of being so enclosed. We changed to metal devices, a Gerecke Twister 2 (which she chose), followed by two increasingly small MM JailBird’s. There is now no room at all for any erection and as many have said, that makes for great comfort. At the beginning my wife had me wear a large silicone dildo in a harness above my cage to provide her with penetrative sex. I remember getting a text from her saying to wear it when I got back from work, and await her arrival home! Probably monthly I was allowed inside and to ejaculate. As time has gone on she has dispensed with penetration and switched completely to oral pussy worship, which she loves. I haven’t been allowed inside her in the last two years and can honestly say I’ve forgotten what it feels like. She has no idea how long I’ve been denied (currently 6 weeks) and makes every effort to not bring me to orgasm but inevitably after months pass, some touch will set things off. She sometimes milks me with an Njoy pure wand, but it’s more successful – and provides more relief – if I do it myself. My orgasms have been replaced by intense feelings as she has her multiple orgasms: I finish up out of breath, tingling all over, my penis goes limp, and I’m sensitive as I used to be after coming. Everything apart from the ejaculation. My wife says that the most important part to her is the orgasm denial, but I’ve never been able to find out exactly why, she refuses to elaborate. So things have progressed slowly but surely over a decade to the point where my chastity is part of our relationship, unquestioned but always present. Who would have guessed 10 years ago that what I thought would make a fun variation to our sex life would have become such a permanent fixture.

I will also reach my tenth year of chastity lifestyle next September.
It seems as if it was yesterday that I ordered my CB 3000 and asked her to keep the keys.

Our dynamics also developed in a solar way to yours – I rarely come and I retrieve a lot of pleasure from orally pleasing her. She has also learned that she doesn’t need to worry about my pleasure as it derives directly from hers.

Your story is very similar to mine. We started 12 years ago and really did not “grow” in the lifestyle until just over 4 years ago. I spent the first 8 topping from the bottom incessantly. We had many stops ans starts because I would lose my temper about how things were (or were not) progressing. I did have fairly frequent orgasms as well…but the whole concept seemed to escape her. We had a huge argument about it all 4 years back and our entire sex life went on hiatus.  We had a talk to clear the air and she said she would like it if I would re-lock and give her back the keys as long as I promised not to unlock myself with the emergency key or ask her for the key back because I was unhappy about something sexually. I obliged and that was over 4 years and a mere 2 orgasms ago. We have had our bumps in the road in that time but I have kept to my word and now find myself locked in a new, very snug HolyTrainerV2S. It seems like a lifetime ago that I presented myself to her in the CB3K! …and so it goes. I DO miss being able to masturbate….especially in the Spring when all the skimpy, clingy clothing comes out or when I see a couple where the female is all dolled up and you just know her guy is likely to be buried balls deep inside her later that night. That said, like you those intimate moments on my back where I am holding my Wife/Mistress/Keyholder while she bucks and shudders through a wave of orgasms are priceless….I FEEL her climax run through my body like an electric charge…it never felt that way before chastity. Anyway, I can identify with you wholly and totally. Thank you for sharing your 10 year anniversary thoughts!

I recall one woman describing how difficult it was to convince her husband to let her lock him up, as they are not a kinky couple, but she just liked the idea of keeping him chaste and thus more attentive after stumbling across the device online. She ended up liking it so much that she said she intends to upgrade the device to something more secure and make this a permanent part of their relationship, despite his hesitations. She said the beginning was the hardest because he wasn’t used to having his relief delayed and wanted out of the device, but that she was glad she stood firm and got through that initial rough period.

I think masturbation has always been about the same for men, but that it’s practiced by significantly more women now than before. It would also seem that more and more women are discovering male chastity by way of other women’s testimonials on the positive effect it’s had on their relationship. All of this is occurring at a time where more and more women are assuming leadership roles at home and work and more and more men are are assuming subservient roles that had been traditionally held by women. It’s all a sign of a societal shift in power that is rapidly occurring. I for one have come to accept and even embrace this inevitable change, but I still need to learn how to assume the role properly.